Tablets by post?

[StormGrey]

Hello - has anyone got experience please of taking the tablets by post? I just found out I’m pregnant, which is a totally shock. I don’t want to go through my GP and I don’t want to have a face to face appointment or scan. I think it would break my heart to see a baby on a scan, so I think the tablets by post make more sense. I’ve previously taken the MAP, so I’m trying to think of it similarly.

I’ve only had chance to Google Marie Stopes so far and that’s where I saw it as an option. Are there any other private clinics I should contact? Thank you

That sounds like a plan ... remember to plan when you will take the Mifepristone to allow the anything from 24-48 hrs later for Misoprostol and then the bleeding cramping etc will start

So for example .. if you wanted to get this done over the weekend it would be ... Mifepristone Thursday night before bed and then Miso when up Saturday morning ... something like that ?

That should allow you to pass the pregnancy over the weekend making you feel more able to manage the school run/ work / face anyone who doesn't know by the Monday again

@sam433 I did it vaginally as didn't fancy anymore sickness than I already had. Honestly though it was fine, don't think the positioning matters too much as long as they're in! Just relax and you'll be ok. No extra sickness for me doing it that way. My advice was a bit conflicting as the second box of misoprostol said only to take last 2 if no bleeding/light bleeding after the first 4 tablets, but the booklet said take them anyway. I called the helpline and they confirmed to use the last 2 tablets (so have 6 in total) as it gives you the best chance of it being successful without any further interventions needed. Thought I'd mention just in case your box with the last 2 says the same

Morning - I cried most of last night. I don't know why I'm procrastinating. It's like a torture thinking keep, don't, keep, don't.

@sam433 I was told that orally may be quicker reaction. Thinking of you x

You are not running out of time
Please don't do anything that's not right for you
You need to sit down and be honest with yourself ... can you manage and do you want another ?
Separate heart from head

Be kind to yourself

I know in my case, my head says "don't be so ridiculous, why would you complicate life with a new baby?"... then my heart just feels pregnant and like it's my job to keep my tiny baby safe.

Such a hear fuck.

@66babe Do you recommend maternity pads for the heavy bleeding? Or would Always night time ones be ok, do you think?

I wonder if the surgical route might actually be less traumatic. I had a MMC years ago and the D&C under general was quick and over.

It feels like a form of punishment to have to swallow the tablet and then wait and then take more tablets and then go through a physical prolonged and painful experience.

Although I'm not even sure if there's the option of surgical on covid times and also, I assume the wait would be longer.

No you should have maternity pads - maybe just 2 packs
That's how we ask you to monitor the bleeding .. 2 of those filled in an hr then things settle is ok
Continue on into the next hr is too much bleeding

A surgical option is available although a LA or a sedation appt would be offered quicker than a GA
We don't routinely put anyone to sleep less than 14 weeks
It is an option but would need reconsent , cervical prep and antibiotics prior
Not impossible though

No @sam433
Whilst you are bleeding .. at any point in this episode ... you shouldn't be filling more than 4 big old mat pads in 2 hrs

You may fill 2 in an hour at some point - but then it should settle

You can of course use other pads but you need to remember they will hold less
So you wouldn't go to AE if you filled 2 panty liners .. is what I mean ?

Absolutely @Zebra13
No one should even contemplate starting this treatment if they have any doubts at all
We will give anyone counselling until they come to terms with whatever they decide

It really is a horrible situation to be in
I'll say it again - separate heart from head

Thinking about you all.

Take another bit of time as you all sound so conflicted. Don’t act out of fear re running out of time.
Sickness will hopefully settle.

Take care. Be kind to yourselves .xx

Hi @sam433 - how are you doing this morning?

I'm feeling quite nauseous and bloated. My jeans already feel tight. The could be me just eating more as a consolation over the past couple of weeks... or this is my 4th pregnancy though (1st was a MMC at 12 weeks), so I wonder if my body just has a memory of expanding. I don't feel comfortable.

We're off to stay with PIL this evening. I won't be able to take the tablets till Monday now. SIL is staying too. She's 3 months pregnant. I'm not sure how I'll feel when I see her. It's her 2nd DC. I don't think I'll ever be able to touch/talk/hold their baby in future. It is just too close in dates.

Thinking of you xx

@StormGrey. Seeing your SIL might be a challenge. I know I certainly feel odd around pregnant women now. It’s very unfortunate. But also being away might be a welcome distraction.

And like I keep saying, please take time to make this choice.
Think also about how you will feel afterwards & not just about the hear and now.xx

Thanks @ED81 for your kind words

@sam433 I just feel horrid today....bloated and nauseous. I don't want to feel like this! Just popped to supermarket at lunch time and bought big pack of maternity pads. I need to be brave about next steps! The unknown is pretty scary, especially inflicting pain on myself.

Just saw a woman with a newborn in the carpark next to me and my first thought watching her load the baby, pram and shopping in the car was "I just can't be arsed with that".

When I had the D&C after my MMC, I remember all pregnancy symptoms stopped immediately. Hopefully once the this passes my body will feel like mine again and I won't have this awful mental dilemma to battle with.

Xx

Seriously ladies, I echo @Zebra13. If you're not completely sure then wait. There's no undo and I know too many people who regret it horribly and it's literally years before they are ever the same again. Thinking of you guys. Xx