Medical abortion

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Has anyone taken the abortion pill and could give me some details on how it went for you ? I have an appointment booked in and am scared of the pain /what I will go through and see and how long the whole process could take also they said I have an all day appointment including consultation scan etc , I will be about 7/8 weeks when I go for appointment, thanks x

Hi, just went through it last night after a lot of hoops. Here is my story. I am not in a termination friendly country and I had to pay out of pocket and happy to actually get the pills from a doctor. It is not forbidden, it is just not covered by insurance and really frowned upon so many doctors will refuse as they have the right to. I was diagnosed at the first appointment with a blighted ovum and told that it would come out on its own. At the second appointment in about two weeks (was 7 weeks 6 day by then as opposed to 6 weeks at the first where they couldn't see an embryo or find a heart beat) there it was all, but my desicion did not change. I am 42, suffer with a host of medical issues including epilepsy and had my only at 29 weeks due to severe preeclampsia. This was my reasoning and also I didn't feel I could go on as I couldn't have coped with a baby and a special needs child and my issues. Finally got the pills with little instruction and told to call if anything is wrong.
Took the first tablet on Tuesday evening, nothing really happened went on with my day on Wednesday. I was all over the place throwing up and feeling weak on Thursday. I have gotten two extra pills to take that evening . Kept the misoprostol between my gum and cheek for half an hour, although was not told to, I was terrified I would throw up and they told me to come back in case I needed more. After about three hours the bleeding started, went every 10 to 15 minutes to the toilet and always had blood gushing out. And read this thread, really managed to keep myself together. Although they have given me an entire box of tramadol, I was pretty scared to take a new dose in the evening, as I have taken one in the morning and spent Tuesday throwing up, not knowing if it was the first pill or the tramadol. Managed pain with paracetamol, I hated the warmth from the heating pad. Honestly I am worried about it, as I don't remember clots coming out, only very little more like a thik blood. Today I managed to send the little one to kindergarten (a bus picks her up, small favors) and slept a couple of hours as I slept very little though the night. So, no more sore breasts, slight bleeding and cramps, last night I didn't even fill the pad because I kept going to the toilet and most of the blood gushed out there. No clots, only some stringy blood and some thick bloody stuff. I was mostly flushing immediately, just peaked in. In your experience could it be only this or wasn't the procedure completely done and need to take a new dose? I will be calling the doctor on Monday, decided to wait for some time see what happens in the weekend. I am in this state as about 7 years back I had a misscariege and had huge clots until I called the ambulance and they came.

Hi,

So I had a termination exactly 9 days ago today at 7 weeks, 6 days. This was my first pregnancy and with a lot of stigma around abortion, I feel like I still have to justify myself but abortion, for whatever reason is okay and no one has to explain their reasons.

I was very worried about my decision but came to the realisation that at 19, with no job and a very new relationship, it was the best decision for myself. A big thing was taking my partner out of my decision, he didn’t want the child so I had to prepare myself to be a single mother. Utmost respect to everyone that is because it is a job but physically and mentally, I don’t think I could’ve done it.

So I took the first tablet on the Saturday and I was okay. I had a headache but otherwise I felt okay. I did feel like I could’ve done my day to day things but because I am very anxious about medication, I took it easy.

24 hours after, I took the second lot of tablets and did this vaginally as I was told it would have the least side effects. The pain came on very quick and I was in agony. I don’t like taking tablets but after 5 hours, I took a codeine. I was scared about feeling dizzy or fainting before I started the termination but with the second set of tablets, I was in too much pain to be scared of that. Don’t let this put you off if you feel a medical termination is best for you, this is my experience and everyone’s body is different.

I was bleeding but no blood clots and no fetus so my Mum got worried. The agony lasted for about 7 hours before it went to pain, which scared me because I had been told it would only be 4 hours. The pain lasted 13 hours and some blood clots but still no fetus. 2 days later, I bled a big clot and thought it was the fetus so I got on with life. I was still bleeding but was told that was normal.

Last night, exactly 8 days after taking the second lot of tablets, I started bleeding very very heavily. I went through 3 pads in 15 minutes so called the nurse from where I was given my termination tablets and she told me to go to A&E. I was having sharp rectum pains too for a week and I don’t know why I was having those.

2 hours after being in A&E, I went to the toilet and felt the urge to push. I then passed my little girl and after, the bleeding eased up.

The whole experience for me was traumatic. It was something I wouldn’t want to go through again but I know it was the best decision for myself. During the termination, I felt regret. For anyone that feels this, it is okay. I can say that my little girl up there, we’ll meet when the time is ready but the time wasn’t in 7 months and that’s okay.

In the same way though, no one should ever feel guilt for feeling relieved. When the fetus passed, I felt relief. It had been a long termination and it was exhausting and confusing on my head and body.

Feel free to ask any questions, on message or on here, it can be really scary but I’m the biggest stresshead and I got through it. I’m pretty sure my name is a new record for how many times I rang up before the termination panicking about side effects.

I really hope this helps someone because I can’t thank the people on here enough that helped me ❤️

Sorry to write this on someone else post but I'm pretty desperate right now and so lost. TERMINATION BOOKED FOR TOMORROW MORNING.
I'm 11 weeks pregnant and my husband is over the moon to say the least. We had an eptopic pregnancy previously where I lost my tube so since then we have been told conception would be difficult if not impossible.
I love my life, we travel all over the world alot with stil alot more of the world I want to see and accomplish more things in my life.
I have a great career based job and so does my husband but I have recently been made redundant due to covid with a new job lined up in January (covering maternity how ironic) so my job situation isn't great right now.
I have a termination booked in for tomorrow. I already feel guilty not for my own sake but my husbands. He supports me no matter what but he's said a few times how can you go through with the termination knowing we could potentially not conceive again.
I feel like its not the right time with my job and so much more I want to do in life. I'm being selfish I know but feel like my life would be over if we keep it and I would only be doing it to please our family and my husband.
Help! Am I doing the right thing?????

@Mummyto3GBG how are you now? This is exactly how I'm feeling struggling emotionally, had mine in December X

Are you ok x

@nowaymanamana it's nice to have this thread to hear other ladies been through it its hard x

I know I've just had my first anniversary of having mine ( it was my post) and I was a bit emotional around the time of it coming up still even though it doesn't play on my mind often , so was nice to be able to re read all the comforting replies and know I wasn't alone x hope your ok x

Ah and how are you doing? When was yours if you don't mind me asking x mine was in December and the emotions are still all over the place especially when I look at my two dc but it does help to talk to everyone on this thread and see we're not alone Xx

I'm ok thank you , it was a year last week mine, I have days I'm thinking about what could have been but at the same time I'm telling myself that there is no way I'd have been able to cope as I have a young dc already and was so soon after dc was born , I just tucked myself up with a teddy and a hot water bottle to grieve a bit last week, but yes your right definitely helps knowing we aren't alone x gosh yours was December still really raw for you at the moment but it does get easier as time goes on but it's such a big thing to go through especially if we were conflicted on making the decision , sending you lots of hugs x

Ah I know that must have been very hard for you x take time to grieve and allow yourself to feel whatever your feeling ❤️ it is very hard even though we done it to put our dc first, thank you it helps to hear you that it does get easier Xx

Hi I know this was posted a while ago but I’m experiencing this now, I’m due to take first tablet at home today obviously because of Covid. I’m about 6 weeks 4 days please can someone just advise me on what to do I feel so scared .. x

@Roberts99 you can msg me if I can help at all, you are very early so if you've already had your scan then it should be straightforward like a heavy period and you will pass the pregnancy x

I wasn’t offered a scan or anything I’ve just received my tablets by post, I’ve just taken my first one about 15 minutes ago and so far I feel ok. I’m just so scared to take the others on Saturday x

Hi don't be scared we're all here to handhold , my personal experience was fine , I was terrified too but I didn't have any pain , just the blood after a few hours , I lied in bed with a towel under and some big nappy pants and when I felt the blood about to come I sat on the loo , get yourself ready with some painkillers and hot water bottle maybe a book or a film and just message on here and I'm sure there will be someone around to talk to you x

Thank you that’s the reassurance I needed. I feel fine after the first tablet, taken about an hour ago just feel slightly sick but nothing major. Have been told to take the second lot of oral tablets on Saturday and that is what I’m dreading. I think I’m just scared of doing it all at home 😩 the instructions just aren’t that clear in regards to how the tablets need to go up there etc but I’m hoping I’ll be lucky and it’ll go smooth as I know I’m 100% making the right decision. Thank you so much xx

It may just be your preg sickness? Mine disappeared once I'd passed the most of it after second pills , are you doing pills internally ? They were always done at home before COVID for most people I think , That's how I did mine (I just took first pill at the clinic that you did yest at home ), you just use finger and push as far up as you can then I lied down , and I think there is spare pills in case nothing works after certain amount of time , and also if your worried about anything too much just cal the helpline , plus if you scroll back up and read this thread there are lots of other helpful stories and answers that might help too xxx

Yes I’m feeling completely normal now just felt a little sick for a few hours after the first tablet. Yeah I’ve got the second lot to do on Saturday, from my understanding it’s 4 to start with and if nothing has passed within 3 hours the other 2 after that? Or do I have to put the other 2 anyway? I will ring BPAS again tomorrow to make sure. Thank you so much this thread has been reassuring in comparison to some of the stories I’ve read online I worked myself up so much thinking about it xxx

Yeah I think the extra ones you only take if nothing happens , I'm sure I was just about to do them and it started anyway , yeah double check with them if ur unsure tho , and I too had seen a lot of horror stories but mine was as smooth going as it could have been x

Hope your ok, let us know how you get on ❤️ try and set a quiet comfy space maybe in bed or in the evening give yourself the night to rest X

Thank you both so much, I’m scared I’ve felt so uneasy today and pretty much slept the whole day. So scared of the unknown I just pray it all goes smoothly and it’s not like some of the stories I’ve read. Will update tomorrow going to start the process when my boyfriend finishes work around 12/1. Fingers crossed xxx

Hello me again🙈 so I inserted the 4 tablets about 2 hours ago, I’ve got light cramping and had a bit of blood so far but nothing major. Is this normal considering I’m about 6 weeks 5 days? Will it get worse in a few hours do you think? I rang the clinic which disposed me the medication and they’ve told me to insert the other 2 tablets at around 3/4pm regardless of how much blood so maybe that will make it more intense xxx

Hey , how is it going ? Has it got any heavier? I had a fair few clots and heavy bleeding a couple of times going to sit on the loo x hope your ok

Yes I’ve had about 3 big clothes overall now, the pain got really bad but was bearable with pain killers. I’m hoping that’s the worst of it done now, thank you x

How are you doing now? I had a lot of heavy bleeding for a couple of weeks as I was 8 weeks but I took the tablets orally, hope your ok ❤️ keep topped up with painkillers x

Just seems to be when I go to the toilet it will gush out, the pains aren’t as bad anymore though. Just hoping the blood slows down , feel emotionally drained more than anything. Thank you so much for all your help x