Medical abortion

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Has anyone taken the abortion pill and could give me some details on how it went for you ? I have an appointment booked in and am scared of the pain /what I will go through and see and how long the whole process could take also they said I have an all day appointment including consultation scan etc , I will be about 7/8 weeks when I go for appointment, thanks x

@Kneller I'm here to talk if you need. Sorry you are going through it alone especially as you'd usually talk to friends etc. FWIW I told a couple of people who I really wish I hadn't told - I received judgement from them that I would NEVER have predicted, so this may not be a bad thing. That said, my two best friends have been amazing support. Just choose wisely would be my advice there.

I probably would have kept my pregnancy (I'm 40 and married with a two year old) although I did call Marie Stopes the day after finding out about it (like you it was totally unplanned and I was so shocked and upset when I found out) - it was when I was told at the scan that it was twins I knew I couldn't continue. I'm feeling okay now (did medical treatment on Monday) and convinced I made the right choice.

Happy to be part of your virtual support network - MN was a godsend for me tbh x

Hi... so a little help from someone would be nice please. I have had very little bleeding since taking my tablets although I have had cramps since I took my first oral tablet on Wednesday night. After taking my first tablet I bled & had clots. I took 6 tablets and have very light bleeding, mainly when I pee.... is this normal? Has anyone else had this? Just scared and I can’t google no more!

@Lsssss I have heard if cases where the pregnancy passes after the first tablet (Mife) and as you mention clots I would wonder whether that's what's happened. However it can also take up to 72 hours for the Miso tablets to work (which I only found out after having my first 4!!) so you may need to be patient 🙏🏼

Try not to worry as this isn't a physically dangerous process, just one hell of an emotional rollercoaster (with a few cramps thrown in) - in my opinion!! Here for a hand hold x

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So just an update... hey to everyone reading! I have been posting my journey, more so for people with mental health issues like myself. As you all know I took my last set of 6 Thursday night.... I’ve finally started bleeding, not heavy at all, very light Infact I’m using a panty liner as it is that light. I’m still have slight cramps, these are now a little sharper than before but no need for any painkillers. Constant hot water bottle literally everywhere I go has been a major help. I have had the most support from my partner which has really helped me from getting into that depressive stage. I thought I’d feel more guilt and regret but I can honestly say I don’t. I was more worked up before I took the tablets, I suppose because I had visioned it was going to be horrendous. I know what I have done was for the best. Emotionally I have cried whilst watching voice kids but my hormones need to just settle I suppose. I have tried to keep as active as possible, I have done quiet a bit on binge eating (couldn’t be asked to stand at oven cooking) but other than that, my journey has been very ‘easy’. I hope my posts/story can help reassure someone who has been put off potentially through other stories they may have read... my heart goes out to all of you.

Thought I'd share my experience so far with this as like so many i had googled the shit out of what happens and honestly thought i was going to end up dying - the stories had frightened me into a crazy psycho mess.

So i found out i was pregnant on 10th August. My first initial reaction was that I wasnt ready for a child and I didnt want to keep it - theres so many reasons why but i dont need to divulge into them.
Anyway I contacted my GP (I'm UK based so the procedures can be different) and he referred me to our local hospitals gynaecology unit. I went in a few days later to have my first scan. Now I have personal issues with putting things into my female region and opted for an abdominal scan. The doctor couldnt see anything and told me it could be because of 3 things - too early, naturally lost the pregnancy or an ectopic. I was booked in for a weeks time to have another scan!
I went for my second scan and there it was. Not very big but they could see it.
I was then booked in for the following week to come in and take my tablets.
Fast forward to this week - on Tuesday I went back to the hospital for what I had been told was to take my first tablet. Long story short they had to scan me again and found out I had actually had a failed pregnancy that hadnt come away and rather than wait for it to they decided to give me the medication to help it come away.
I went home with all my medication and took my first tablet (mifepristone). I felt fine afterwards, a little nauseous and had some cramps that evening but was fine and didnt need any pain relief or anything.
I woke up Weds (yesterday) and all day I felt sick and had cramps that got more painful as the day progressed. At 4pm I began bleeding and had quite strong cramps. They were literally like extremely strong period pains and in all honesty i couldnt do anything that eased them other than walking but each time I stood up to walk I felt a gush of blood. This sensation happened 3 times and when I made it to the toilet I passed 3 medium sized clots. They didnt hurt or anything but it did feel wierd it passing through. I couldnt see anything in the clots as there was quite alot of blood but I just flushed the toilet and cleaned myself up. After these clots passed i started to bleed less and thankfully the pain eased right off. I even managed a pretty decent nights sleep!
Today is the day I have to insert my 4 other tablets (misoprostol) and I'm a little apprehensive about whats gonna happen but I just keep telling myself - I was able to get through yesterday so I can definitely get through today. And according to my nurse, for the women who do pass their clots after the first medication, the second is usually a breeze. So I'm feeling a little more positive. I've got mum coming round to sit and keep me company, however yesterday I did it all pretty much by myself and it honestly wasnt as bad as I had imagined it to be.
This post has offered me so much support - thank you to the women I've spoken to.for anyone who has questions or anything please feel free to message me xx

Hey guys so I'm nearly 8 weeks pregnant
I have had 3 kids already so decided we dont want another 1 although I have read up so many horror stories that now I cant bring myself to take the tablets :-( I've had 3 kids labours no pain relief altho I've been told abortion is 2 times worse then labour !! I'm absolutely petrified x

Yes I had to for medical reasons. In that, I would've had to stay in hospital for 8 months of my pregnancy and I was a single parent with zero friends, family or help from child's father. As unbelievable as that may sound, I genuinely would've had to put my current child into care for 8 months in order to keep the baby. So I had no choice. I couldn't do that to my child.

I think about it every day and it still hurts. It always will. I wish I'd given myself more time to think and prepare.

I didn't have any pain whatsoever, but bled like I did post-birth with my daughter and for 8 weeks after. Had to wear Always nappies.
I was 9 weeks.

Honestly I was told it was painful and read all these horrific stories. Whilst I'm sure they unfortunately do happen to some women, my experience was nowhere near what I'd prepared myself for. I'm 4 weeks post procedure and I'm fine. I made it. And I have severe health anxiety, PTSD and many other issues- if I can get through it then so can you! Plus this site is a god send, I met two women in particular who messaged me every day and got me through it. So should you need anything feel free to message me privately and I'll try my best to help!

Sounds really promising I'm just scared because I'm 8 weeks today I'm taking the mifepristone today and then rest tomorrow.. I hope mines like yours :-) xx

How will I no if it's worked or working as I was told my syptoms would go but I dont have any symptoms... i did with my other 3 boys this I've had nothing:-s thanks xx

Hi ladies just wondering how painful a medical abortion is I’ve got to take my second lot of tablets in a couple of hours and I’m freaking out

I can only comment based on my experience as I'm sure some women experience different levels of pain, but in all honesty it was alot less painful than I expected.
I took my first tablet on the tuesday, the next day I experienced very strong period pains and thats when I passed my pregnancy. The Thursday I inserted my 4 tablets vaginally as instructed and the pain was strong but nothing I hadnt already experienced and my heat pad helped so much! I just kept topped up with paracetamol and ibuprofen and kept my heat pad on. Honestly the pain only lasted for around 2-3 hours and it came and went during that time, it wasnt always as strong.
I had worked myself up to expect horrendous pain and bleeding and I just didnt have that.

You're welcome to PM me if you need any more info or advice or just someone to talk to. This thread seriously helped me through it and ive met some lovely helpful ladies from it xx

Thankyou I didn’t find it painful atall just some mild contraction type pains and passed the pregnancy after 2 hours... it’s been five days now and still bleeding a significant amount is this normal ? Xx

Yes hunny, I bled for about a week in total - it was alot at first but after I passed the pregnancy it began to slow down and was like a period. If you think its alot then maybe call the helpline and see what they advise xxx

@Kneller Hi there. I'm sorry for jumping on your post late and I hope you're keeping okay. I wanted to say I'm literally in the exact same position right now.

I feel more guilty for falling pregnant than I actually do about the termination. My boyfriend has been so supportive and I'm lucky with that as I don't feel in a position to tell my family and friends. I'm sure they won't be happy or support my choice and I feel so ashamed.

I have taken the first part of the medical abortion and am feeling apprehensive about the second part tomorrow. Seeing other people's stories on here have made me feel a bit better.

I had a nightmare trying to get in touch with the clinic and my GP to get an appointment so it's been over 2 weeks since I found out and I'm now 7 and a half weeks. I've been having awful symptoms and feel nauseated constantly. I just pray tomorrow goes straightforward and I can get back to as normal as possible next week.

It's just been so hard not being able to speak to people about it and tell them whats going on. I just want to stop feeling sick 24/7 and just feel like I have control of my own body again.

I'm sorry for bringing you back to this but this is the first place I've felt at home, for the want of a better word, in a few weeks.
Thanks.

Hi, im currently going through the process of a medical abortion im 8 weeks 2 days and im absolutely terrified. Is the pain manageable? I have taken the first tablet and due to take the next one in around an hour. It scares me I have to do it at home alone

Your not alone x I didn't have any pain just bleeding xx I was all prepared with a towel on bed , big nappy pants and hot water bottle also tablets but mine took a few hours to start after the second lot of pills I think was at least 3/4 hours x

@lilbie20189

Hi everyone

I have 2 children after IVF and fell pregnant 6 weeks after my son was born NATURALLY. I feel terrible however I know Iv made the right decision as I work full time and my son is quite poorly.

Due to the virus the only way your able to have an abortion at the moment is via the pill

I was petrified I took the first pill yesturday. And the next set today! About an hour ago.

So far I’m okay. Iv heard the negative reviews are from anti abortion groups. Stay clear!!!

I scared the crap out of myself even this morning I was worried about it all just because of google...

Il keep everyone updated

But THANK YOU to all the girls that share as positive experiances as it can be! You shed light at dark times. I hope I can do the same shortly...

Ohhh wow what a shock for you! It must be a difficult time for you.

How far along was you, I have taken the second lot of tablets, at 12pm and aside from some mild manageable back ache and period pains and a little spotting, there doesn't seem to be much happening is this normal as I would have expected to be bleeding more by now

@Yellow212 hope you are ok, don’t worry you needn’t be scared of the actual process, I found it very manageable. Take the painkillers and get a hot water bottle, be prepared for some mild cramping like period pain for a couple of hours, I then had some more moderate cramping for about 20 mins and lots of clots and bleeding. Then the pain subsided. I never had any severe pain and wouldn’t describe it as physically traumatic at all. Xx

Thank you for your advice. Im just terrified that something will go wrong. I took the first set of second tablets about 4 hours ago and nothing seems to have happened. I also can also feel what feels to be a round ball the size of a gold ball in the lower left part of my belly its really hard and doesn't seem to move. Will this be my uterus? Its terrifying me xx

Golf ball rather