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Totally's Grads Part Deux - Let's handhold through pregnancy after MC

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LeeWT · 19/03/2010 08:19

So many threads by so many names but this thread is a place to come after TTC after MC..

Deposit your worries in the box by the door and grab a cuppa! :-)

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emmielou81 · 29/03/2010 09:03

cheepz I am so very, very sorry to hear your sad news, we're here for you whenever you need us, anytime. Take good care of yourself, sending love and hugs to you

Hope all you other ladies have had a restful weekend, and welcome to the newcomers! Grab yourselfs a cuppa and a hobnob Will attempt to update the list now, apologies in advance to anyone whose dates I get wrong!

Amy - BOY - 38 wks+4 - ELCS scheduled for 30 March
Hoops - BOY - 38 wks+4 - due 02 April - IN VERY SLOW LABOUR!!!!!!!
Memorylapse - GIRL 35 wks - due 4th May, induction scheduled for 37/38 weeks
Jacanne - GIRL - 34+4 wks - due 29th April/6 May
Becky78 - baby#1 - ??? - 33+6 wks, due 12th May
Meita - baby#1 - ??? - 20 wks, due 17th August - 2nd scan 1st April
Boodleboot - baby#3 - 1DD {10} 1DS {5} - 16+2 wks - due 16th Sept 20wk scan - 4th May
TFLS - baby#1 - 14+4 wks, due 29 Sept
LeeWT - baby#2 (DD1 2yrs) 13+5 wks, due 30th Sept - 20 week scan 24th May
Louisesh - baby#1, 13+4 wks, due 1st Oct
MrsRigby - baby#2 (DS 15 months), 12+6 wks, EDD 7th October
Effilump - baby#5 (ds 22,15,16mnths. dd13) 11 wks EDD 18th Oct
SamanthaB123 baby#3(2x DD's 11 & 9 yrs) 10+6 wks, EDD 20th October, dating scan & nuchal test 13.04.10, 20 week scan 07.06.10
Freezing - baby#2 (DD 18 months) 10+4 wks, EDD 21st Oct
Sarahlou8 - baby#3 (DD 11, DS 9) 10+2 wks, EDD 23rd October
emmielou81 - baby#5 (DS 6, DD 3) - 9+4 wks, EDD 28th October

We share the pain and mourn the loss with:
Jollster - one DC, two babies lost, recent MMC w9/@11, 26th Feb
Cheepz - one DS, recent MMC w9, 26th March

The babies are arriving! Huge congratulations to:
Totally with daughter Faith Juliet, 9lb5oz born Tuesday 16th February 2010

boodleboot · 29/03/2010 10:39

MONDAY 29th MARCH LIST

Amy - BOY - 38 wks+4 - ELCS scheduled for 30 March
Hoops - BOY - 38 wks+4 - due 02 April - IN VERY SLOW LABOUR!!!!!!!
Memorylapse - GIRL 35 wks - due 4th May, induction scheduled for 37/38 weeks
Jacanne - GIRL - 34+4 wks - due 29th April/6 May
Becky78 - baby#1 - ??? - 33+6 wks, due 12th May
Meita - baby#1 - ??? - 20 wks, due 17th August - 2nd scan 1st April
Boodleboot - baby#3 - 1DD {10} 1DS {5} - 16wks - due 16th Sept 20wk scan - 4th May
TFLS - baby#1 - 14+4 wks, due 29 Sept
LeeWT - baby#2 (DD1 2yrs) 13+5 wks, due 30th Sept - 20 week scan 24th May
Louisesh - baby#1, 13+4 wks, due 1st Oct
MrsRigby - baby#2 (DS 15 months), 12+6 wks, EDD 7th October
Effilump - baby#5 (ds 22,15,16mnths. dd13) 11 wks EDD 18th Oct
SamanthaB123 baby#3(2x DD's 11 & 9 yrs) 10+6 wks, EDD 20th October, dating scan & nuchal test 13.04.10, 20 week scan 07.06.10
Freezing - baby#2 (DD 18 months) 10+4 wks, EDD 21st Oct
Sarahlou8 - baby#3 (DD 11, DS 9) 10+2 wks, EDD 23rd October
emmielou81 - baby#5 (DS 6, DD 3) - 9+4 wks, EDD 28th October

We share the pain and mourn the loss with:
Jollster - one DC, two babies lost, recent MMC w9/@11, 26th Feb
Cheepz - one DS, recent MMC w9, 26th March

The babies are arriving! Huge congratulations to:
Totally with daughter Faith Juliet, 9lb5oz born Tuesday 16th February 2010

just took a couple of days of mine emmielou as im only 16wks

sorry you aren't enjoying the pregnancy mrsr....i had a pretty rubbish birth with my son in hospital which is why i have opted for a different hospital this time and am trying to have a different mindset about this one....can't hold on to the past, gotta let it go and see what this new experience brings. I just want a healthy baby so feel the whole homebirth/hospital birth pretty irrelevant - its about whats best for baby in the end. Heres hoping for healthy babies for us all.

welcome unbuffy....i know how are feeling, well we all do on this thread actually....a BFP is so precious and we feel like we need to guard it with our life but we are just totally powerless overwhat will happen....feel free to vent.

Unbuffy · 29/03/2010 12:42

Last time I lend you my knickers, Jolls...

Unbuffy · 29/03/2010 12:47

Hello everybody else! Will let you have my stats as soon as I know them for sure...

Am currently a nervous, knackered wreck!

Meita · 29/03/2010 14:17

MrsRigby Good to hear from you, though sorry to hear you are not enjoying your pregnancy. I didn't much enjoy the beginning of mine either, but it's much better now. I think to some extent we put additional pressure on ourselves when we expect (and are expected) to enjoy pregnancy. What's to enjoy about being worried all the time? What's so fun about puking our guts out? About insomnia? Sure, we wanted to become preggers, and we signed up for the good and the bad bits - but we DIDN'T sign up for "enjoying" the bad bits.
Re homebirth in your situation: I have a vague idea that every woman should be able to choose how she wants to give birth. Maybe I'm wrong, but I've heard that for example if your baby is breech, you will be strongly "encouraged" to go to hospital/have a c-section, BUT you can put up a fight and they have to respect your opinion.
If I were you, I would do some good research on your specific situation with the PE and the medication. Is there a life-threatening risk to you? Should YOU be worried? Is their concern really about your health, or rather about them ticking all the boxes?
If YOU are not worried, then insist.
If you are feeling lonely and unsupported, perhaps a Doula would help you fight your corner? Or do you have a close friend you could ask for a favour, to help you through this?

I've got to go... just realised I'm going to be late for the dentists...

HoopsAndBelly · 29/03/2010 14:29

amyboo can't believe mini-boo will be here tomorrow, my thoughts are very much with you and will be watching out for the announcement........hopefully his kidney will have sorted itself out too

How is everyone else? Welcome to all you new ladies, hope that your feeling ok and not too worried

Just updating the list.....

Amy - BOY - 39 wks+3 - ELCS scheduled for 30 March
Hoops - BOY - 39 wks+3 - due 02 April - Induction booked 31st March
Memorylapse - GIRL 35 wks - due 4th May, induction scheduled for 37/38 weeks
Jacanne - GIRL - 34+4 wks - due 29th April/6 May
Becky78 - baby#1 - ??? - 33+6 wks, due 12th May
Meita - baby#1 - ??? - 20 wks, due 17th August - 2nd scan 1st April
Boodleboot - baby#3 - 1DD {10} 1DS {5} - 16wks - due 16th Sept 20wk scan - 4th May
TFLS - baby#1 - 14+4 wks, due 29 Sept
LeeWT - baby#2 (DD1 2yrs) 13+5 wks, due 30th Sept - 20 week scan 24th May
Louisesh - baby#1, 13+4 wks, due 1st Oct
MrsRigby - baby#2 (DS 15 months), 12+6 wks, EDD 7th October
Effilump - baby#5 (ds 22,15,16mnths. dd13) 11 wks EDD 18th Oct
SamanthaB123 baby#3(2x DD's 11 & 9 yrs) 10+6 wks, EDD 20th October, dating scan & nuchal test 13.04.10, 20 week scan 07.06.10
Freezing - baby#2 (DD 18 months) 10+4 wks, EDD 21st Oct
Sarahlou8 - baby#3 (DD 11, DS 9) 10+2 wks, EDD 23rd October
emmielou81 - baby#5 (DS 6, DD 3) - 9+4 wks, EDD 28th October

We share the pain and mourn the loss with:
Jollster - one DC, two babies lost, recent MMC w9/@11, 26th Feb
Cheepz - one DS, recent MMC w9, 26th March

The babies are arriving! Huge congratulations to:
Totally with daughter Faith Juliet, 9lb5oz born Tuesday 16th February 2010

randomimposter · 29/03/2010 15:11

upduffyunbuffy how did you guess I had a mahoosive arse? ...

Hope everyone else ok x

randomimposter · 29/03/2010 15:12

as in that's why your elastic is stretched, not that you have a mahoosive arse.... ooo, blimey I better stop digging, I smell koala shit...

boodleboot · 29/03/2010 15:23

jolls my love.....is one utterly pisht or summit??

randomimposter · 29/03/2010 15:42

boodle not pisht, just barking cuckoo... it's all about unbuffy's new-girl gym knickers...

Sarahlou8 · 29/03/2010 17:31

Hi all,

Good luck Hoops and Amy at the top of the list, for the next couple of days. Did I miss something? What happened to the slow labour? Did it stop?

Louisesh I've not been offered a Nuchal, we don't get them here unless paid for privately, but i have made the decision not to have the triple test. I'm 37 and have been told that makes me 'high' risk regardless of anything else. I too, know that I would refuse a CVS or an amnio, partly because of the risks of mc (having been on the receiving end of a 1% chance,) and also because it wouldn't make a difference either way for me. I can completely understand people wanting to know, but for me, the worry of a piece of paper with the word 'high' on it outweighs the worry I am already feeling. Basically I'm just a worrier by nature but nature it is, and what will be will be.

Hi to the new people, and congratulations! I still pop into the other thread from time to time to see how you've been getting on, but then I get jealous of all the free flowing wine and choccies!

Nothing new to report here. House sale gone v. quiet, all gone to solicitors now. I tried to tidy the garden yesterday and clean all the tubs and pots and severely hurt my back (I was really careful too) so I've had to be even more careful today.

Hope everyone else is well xx

HoopsAndBelly · 29/03/2010 19:16

yes it stopped much to my disappointment......it has been a very frustrating 2/3 weeks, lots of stops and starts!!!!!

louisesh · 29/03/2010 19:24

Again, thanks for all your thoughts and input.Soke with epu staff today who agreed with my reasoning.Cancelled same with ante-natal co-ordinater so just got my consultant appt on Wed .Won t be having the triple blood test either.

Hope everyone well.Good luck AMY and HOOPS soo knackered loads of sht at work all caused by 1 little gremlin [sorry a health care assistant] whos basically accused 5 of us of bullying her!!! [Very long story stretching back over the last 3 yrs bacically we all have to rotate between 3 sites and shes never wanted to and used every excuse in the book to not, she complained about 1 of our colleagues last year and Hates all us staff} excuse me; but fat faced fucer!!!! I have to vent!!!!

I need to chill out and look after my baby.Penultimate injection today then got in to work and had my swine flu jab soo both arms sore now!!!!

Only tomorrow at work YEH1!!! then some a.l......... Last injection on Thurs.

DomesticG0ddess · 30/03/2010 09:37

Hello all
I had a private scan yesterday which dated me at 10+3 and saw little arms and legs this time so was v happy. Made up for the extreme digestive problems I have been having! Current EDD is 22/10

MrsR, I agree with pp that a Doula might be a good thing for you to consider?

Effilump · 30/03/2010 10:09

Good morning, and welcome to the new ladies.
Good news on your private scan domesticgoddess Its lovely to see the little beans on screen!
Im due for a nuchal scan in 8 days, and reading through the posts, im getting quite worried now, i had the triple test with my last preg, as we didnt have nuchal scans here then, and that was low risk, I was 38 at the time. I think depending on the risk factor im given, i'll judge it from there, im not sure i'd want cvs or amnio though, so im a bit muddled up with it all at the moment.

Meita · 30/03/2010 11:11

Arrgh I sooo wanted to wish all the best for Amyboo... too late now I suppose! Internet was down last night and I couldn't come back on
Anyway, I really hope it's all going well and you will soon be holding a healthy mini-amyboo in your arms!

Louise I'm glad you came to a decision that feels right to you, and that the health people respected it! Are you going anywhere exciting for your leave?

Memory sorry you are feeling so awful. Re the iron problem... do you like pomegranates? When my mum was pregnant with me, she was travelling around India/Pakistan/Afghanistan/Persia, and when she was not too well a local midwife advised her to eat a pomegranate a day. Turns out they are very high in iron and given that they also contain vitamin C, it makes your body be able to "digest" all the iron properly, too. Maybe it would help for you too?

Unbuffy welcome! And congratulations! Am right now officially transferring all the sticky vibes that Hoops has been hoarding to her own frustration, over to you and everybody else who needs them. Jollster don't worry, we'll take good care of her, regardless of her knickers .

sarahlou you are officially not supposed to do that kind of work! (That's what I tell DP anyway, whenever he asks me to do something I don't feel like doing ). No seriously, DO take care of yourself. Some things can wait until later.

DomesticGOddess you must be very relieved! Good news! Ah, I think the second half of October is going to be very busy here, with five due dates within a week!

Effilump I know what you mean about getting confused! Most people don't waste much thought on the question of having/not having the nuchal scan. It's just one of those things you do when you're pregnant. But some of us spend ages weighing up the pro's and con's... Yet, just because some of us do, doesn't mean YOU have to. As I said, my main reason for having the NT scan was that I figured that way I'd get to see my baby for longer. I personally think that is a perfectly valid reason .

My 20 week scan is coming up... I can't believe I'm half way already! I haven't been experiencing any stretching pains anymore recently, and guess what - I started worrying . I even dreamt that I had a bath, the bath water turned all pink, and when I stood up I realised I was bleeding heavily, and just knew I was miscarrying. We're a strange lot, we crazy bunch... we worry and moan when we experience perfectly normal pregnancy symptoms, and we moan and worry when we don't. You can't win, can you?

Effilump · 30/03/2010 14:03

Thats very true meita I like that reason too.

Cheepz · 30/03/2010 16:58

hi ladies
i am doing pretty good actually better than i thought i would and not just putting a brave face on, I think after the initial shock, I have accepted its going to have to be another cycle of ttc for me.

Now I have had 3 in a row I will be eligible for tests, so NHS will do all those, I work for a healthcare company and have good private medical so can get a referral to a specialist recurrent mc clinic for support, consultation, treatment, advice etc. And have found out that even with 3 mc in my pocket given I have a child already my chances of having another are very good and for any subsequent pregnancy my chances are around 70% - which is better than I originally thought as alot of sites say 50% after 3 - but thats if you don't have any children

I also read that for women with rec mc antenatal support and counselling and early scans for reassurance can improve the odds of a sucessful pregnancy to 86%. I have decided since my maternity savings fund is now so big - I have been saving longer than I thought! - as soon as I am pregnant again (later this year I hope!) I will be hiring a private midwife and getting private scans. It will be abit expensive but I would rather have the support, someone I can talk to and scans when I need them. I wasn't able to get a mw appointment at my surgery until week 14 - never saw one, and I can't face the EPU for scans next time around - too many times for bad news and they make me sit and wait for 3 hours to find out. Can't be doing it.

I may get some cover from my private medical on that but am willing to pay if its has been proven to increase odds so much and I feel like it is something that could definitely help me be more positive and feel more supportive.

Bravo for your good scan domesticgoddes that is wonderful

Glad you found your way here unbuffy some people don't come here after the TTC thread but these girls are the business in terms of support

mrsr sounds like you are doing the hard miles, I hope it comes good for you

meita - halfway already - I am so excited for you, and all you ladies here are giving me hope that maybe next time, or the time after that but at least sometime I will have another baby

erpc tomorrow, looking like I will need it as although lots of bleeding now no 'products' seem to be coming out! will see what they say when i get there. did a monster run today to try and speed things up

right off to get Ted from nursery bless his happy smiling little face as he runs across the floor going 'mummmmmmmeeeeeeeee' landing in my arms with a thump for an uber cuddle

thefatladyscreams · 30/03/2010 17:07

Oh Cheepz

I'm so terribly gutted for you. I've been offline for a few days so just seen your news. It's just so unfair and shit at times. Sweetie - you are one brave and inspiring lady. So glad to see that you're already bouncing back but you know we are all here for you whatever. I really am sure you'll get that stickie BFP soon. Will be thinking of you tomorrow xxx

Will catch up with the thread properly later (meant to be working). Just wanted to catch Cheepz before she ran - hope Ted gives you one massive cuddle!

Unbuffy · 30/03/2010 18:53

You're a stronger woman than most I know, Cheepz, and with more to deal with too. I wish I could be as saintly as you. The very very best wishes for a speedy and safe tomorrow, and have a large drink to go with it.

Hope everyone else is well, dying to know if there are more babies to be added to the list yet! Hope all went well today Amyboo, although obviously not expecting to hear straight away...

For me, I am knackered, hormonal and pissed off at everything for no good reason; keep sniping at dh and generally making a nuisance of myself. Oh, and constant indigestion, and that feeling of not-quite-nausea-but-might-be. The joys of being up the spout.

Question. Not planning on telling ANYONE until/unless I find out everything's okay - last time too many people knew and it got quite tough. Suggestions as to when to break the news / how to avoid 'what no drinking' questions and dealing with that knackered and emotional first few weeks? Without bringing up the 'rabid pmt' excuse as I'm too embarrassed to mention that in front of my brothers.

ps so don't tell anyone, ok? It's our secret.

louisesh · 30/03/2010 22:21

CHEEPZ good luck tomorrow.I actualy found the ERPC not too bad last year [certainly preferrable to the medical management]

Yeh DOMESTICGODESS great news about your scan

WOW MEITA doesn t time fly?

Hi to everyone else.

On my AL trying to rest a bit then off to Edinburgh on friday for the weekend looking foreward to it.Never been before.My arm is KILLING had my swine flu jab yesterday bloody hell it hurts!!!!!

Chucked my guts up twice today!!!!! NICE!!!!

HoopsAndBelly · 31/03/2010 07:03

cheepz you are in my thoughts today.......good luck xx

HoopsAndBelly · 31/03/2010 07:06

meita yes, everyone please help yourself to my sticky vibes, I don't need them anymore!! Going in today to be induced so hopefully by this friday mini-hoops should be here.......

any news amyboo am dying to hear about your little boy

Hope everyone else is feeling ok.......

boodleboot · 31/03/2010 07:53

good luck hoops...how exciting!!!

boodleboot · 31/03/2010 08:19

cheepzy....hope it all goes smoothly and you are home with Ted in your arms before you know it....your time will come sweets....i know it will.

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