Is there a thread for the old birds who are pregnant and over 40?

[hippychick66]

I'm on a fab thread on the ttc section but am now 7 wks preg .

I know it's early days but I wondered if there was a thread on here for the older pregnant woman who might be experiencing all the same things as me.

God, I hope I'm not tempting fate by coming over from the ttc side!!!!!

mellifluous and nottslass - just overdue and imminent - good luck to both of you - I spent yesterday afternoon with a friend who's a few days over now, brought it all flooding back to me - she's remarkably relaxed about it all, I don't seem to remember being quite so sanguine at that stage... wishing you both easy, straightforward labours

August ladies, keen for news from you all, glad to hear all still well with you hippychick I've not been feeling too good this weekend (early pregnancy symptoms - feeling rough and tired, but kind of happy because I'd be more worried if they went away ) but having some time with my feet up meant I've been catching up on watching the August thread too, which usually goes too fast for me lots of recent very news, huge sympathy to Liaghen and SmileyMylee -- I can't begin to imagine what you're going through now, hoping we'll see you back posting on this thread with some happy news and later due dates in due course.

I'm trying not to get too nervous now in the run up to 12 week scan, we saw a heartbeat at 7 weeks, so that makes the odds a whole lot better, isn't that right? Trying to enjoy the sickness & tiredness! And hoping my pregnant forgetful brain doesn't lead to me slipping up and letting the cat out of the bag at work in the next 3 weeks...

This is the downside of MN last pregnancy I had no idea of the risks, and sailed through the first 3 months in the full expectation that all would be fine (apart from a wobble just before the scan along the lines of 'what if there's nothing there, and it's all been a figment of my imagination??' ), this time the risks seem so much more more real, reading the stories from so many ladies going through early losses.

Hoping that no news is good news from the rest of our August and September ladies...

I too am wondering how the overdue ladies are going, or if they have popped and are enjoying those first days with a tiny baby.

Chickbean - hope your little one is being the bundle of joy and you are enjoying every minute.

I have an early scan tomorrow morning, I am very anxious as I have had 5 early m/c in the last year and really want to see some good news on the screen tomorrow.

Sorry to hear that there has been some bad news for some of the august ladies.

lots of positive thoughts for you, for a lovely picture of a healthy little bean with a nice strong heartbeat tomorrow morning, rainbowdays

Oh no what happened with liaghen and smiley. I don't know about the august thread - what's it called?

So sorry to hear there's been bad news.

Found the august thread and read about Liaghen. If you are checking in here at all please know that I'm so sorry for you and your awful news. MMC at 9 weeks (i think).

I wish we could feel the babies moving right from the word go. I just keep thinking - are you ok in there?? By the time I get to my nuchal scan in about 2 weeks I will be convinced that something awful has happened. There just seems to be so much bad news around .

Sorry to be so negative.

On the positive front - one of the ladies on the 40+ttc thread just got a BFP so she'll be joining us as soon as she feels confident enough - whoop whoop. Cheer for TFLS.

Just to let you all know that little Louis (7lb) came as ordered on 21st Jan ( so far no complications with the elective c-section and to be honest, I feel virtually back to normal today). Despite my age and decrepitude, I could probably manage a cartwheel right now!

mellifluouscauliflower Congratulations! X

Congratulations mellifluous
Sound like you're having a lovely time with little Louis... wonderfully timed happy news for those of us still nervously in our first trimesters too.

Hope your scan gave you some welcome good news rainbowdays

About to fall asleep -- the end of one day at work and I feel like I've put in a full week already...

Melli - congratulations on the birth of little Louis. So good to get fanastic news like a happy mummy!

Thank you for asking after my scan, unfortunately I am still in limbo land with this pregnancy. The scan showed that the gestational sac had grown but not as much as would have been expected. A yolk sac has appeared but no fetal pole evident yet. So I have to go back next Tuesday, for yet another scan. I do have some hope as with my dd I had a scan at the same time and it showed growth two weeks behind, yet when I went 11 days later it had caught up and was exactly to dates. So I just hope this one does the same. And that next week I get to see the heartbeat.

Hello ladies
I'm bowing out of this thread as today had a missed miscarriage confirmed.
I do hope I might meet you all again further down the line, we're going to try again once this is all over.

Congratulations to mellifluous, some happy news is very welcome at the moment.

Rainbow, I truly hope everything works out well for you.

I'll be lurking and maybe checking in from time to time, just to give me a bit of hope.

Bye for now
x

shinysideup - so sorry to hear your about your m/c. Take care of yourself over the next while. And I hope that we see you back here soon with happy news. Will be thinking of you.

oh dear I don't know whether to congratulate melli or commiserate with shinyside first.

Also the other ladies hippychick mentions on the August thread. Always very sad to hear about early losses. We had a few on the May thread too and the strength of the women involved was awesome. At least one of them is back on another antenatal thread already. All the best of luck to you Shinyside!

I have my fingers crossed for all of you in first trimester. I couldn't believe how slowly it went.

anyway, very pleased to hear you got through to the other side mellifluouscauliflower. Well done to you and Louis!

hello... rather quiet on here...

so sorry to read your news shinysideup, all the very best and here's hoping you're back on here before very long.

Nottslass, hopefully good news soon, no doubt you're too busy by now with your little one to be on here giving us details just yet??

Best of luck for your next scan rainbowdays - it must have been a very, very long week for you, fingers crossed all is well and you get to see your little bean's heartbeat this week.

Time is really really dragging waiting for 12 weeks to come around, still tired and nauseous most of the time, and worried when I'm not, and I'm not sure which is worse... though I'm not the grumpy old mrscrabby that I was when I was trying to think of a name and everything seemed to be taken -- so I've changed to something a bit more me just now...

Feeling a bit cross at a few people who have put my wiped out tiredness down to my age... just because I breezed through this stage 3 years ago doesn't mean the tiredness this time is just because I'm old... does it???

Hi all. Sorry to all of you who have had bad news recently, I can't begin to imagine how you must be feeling.

Maybe it's quiet on here cos were all in the early stages still and just sitting at home with our legs crossed - too scared to post anything.

Congrats to Melli. Give your baby a hug from us all. xx

I am in a dilemma having turned 40 and had a recent MC. New opportunities arise to make changes in our lives such as move house, but I feel if I commit to this then I will lose the chance to have any more children. I am ambivalent about it, and this isn't helping. I would love to hear some advice from others on this thread about how you made the decision to try again... It really feels like time is not on my side! thanks x

PS Shiney Side Up, so sorry to hear your sad news. Take care. Rainbowdays - how did the scan go, I hope it's good news? take care x

tigercub, why can't you move house and have a baby ? (please don't give an answer because that's just exactly what I'm doing - moving exactly because of the baby in fact )

Can I join? I'm 42 with number one. Needing all the jammy dodgers I can lay my hands on ...

misseadith - congratulations, and here are a box full of jammy dodgers for you. When is your due date?

tigercub - I made the decision to try again because I had always wanted more children. It was just the feeling that I was not yet finished. However having said that I think that if this pregnancy does not work out then I am going to quit trying, as I can't take any more miscarriages. I did not have miscarriages when I was younger, only since I have hit the 40+ mark. I think that only you can answer the question of: is your family complete and how would you feel about not having any more children in the long term? I hope you find your answer soon.

Nottslass - hope you are not still waiting, and that you can update us soon.

Updated list
nottslass 41, #3 due 26 Jan (DS1 23 & DS2 7)
ChunkyChick 42, #2 due 10 Feb (DD 2.3)
extremelychocolateymilkro... 42, #DD2 due in February (DD1 2.5)
Pumagirl 42, #1 due 31 March
HelishAngel 39, #4 due 1st April
Chynah 40, # 2 due 4 April (DS will be 15 months when she arrives)
varmit 42, #2 due 20 April (DS 2.6)
stinkypinky 41, #2 due April 23rd (DD age 3)
karney 41, #2 due 2 May (DS 17 mo)
Jen6jen 36, #4 due 15 May
schipo 40, #1 due in 16 May
ande 40, #4 due 31st May (17year old twins and 11 year old)
justbeme 41, #3 due 2nd June (DD 14 & DD 2.6.)
Hazeyjane 41, #3 due ? July (DD's 3.10 & 2.8)
negrilbaby 43, #2 due early July (DS 23 months)
bluebell6, 42,#2 due 13th July (DS1 2.4)
CoCoCakey 41, #4 due 16th July (DS1 22,DD 18, DS2 - 3)
HelishAngel 39, #4 due 1st August (other LO are 18, 13, 12)
chegirlsgotheartburn #5 due in August (16, 6 & 2. I had a beautiful DD who wouldve been 18 next week but we lost her in 2006)
Mrs Mopple 40, #2 and #3 due August 28th
HeighHo 42, #4 and #5 due end August
Hippy 43, #3 due end of August (2 DS's are 9 & 6)
MrsCrabby 41, #2 due end of August (DS 2)
asquashandasqeeeze 40, #6 due end of August
Curlylox 43, #3 due 8th September (DS 20 & DD 5)
rainbowdays 42, #4 due 11th September (DS 6, DD 5 & DS(2) is 1)
Pacificdogwood 43, #4 due ?????
Missedith01 - 42, #1 due ?????

Born:
18 Jan - to chickbean 41 (DS1 3.4 & DS2 16 mo) - DD (name tbc) 8lbs 6 oz
21 Jan - to mellifluouscauliflower 42,(DS 5)- DS - Louis (7lb)

Not forgotten:
shinysideup SmileyMylee,Liahgen

Just wanted to say hello and add my name to the list. I'm 42 and currently 28+1 with my first, due on 28th April. Certainly NOT feeling old and from what I've read on MN am doing better so far than some a lot younger! Good luck to all.

tiger

We decided to have 'just one more baby' because our older boys are now 6 & 9 and we felt that they could be more of a help this time around. When my second boy was born my first was just under 3 and together they were bloody hard work. I don't feel that this one will be so hard.

My eldest will be 10 and thus although you can't expect them to actually help look after the baby I think a ten year old can be trusted to watch the baby whilst you go to get something or go to the loo etc. When I used to leave my 3 year old in the room with my new born he would poke the poor baby in the eye!!!

We are hoping to move but not because we need to get a bigger house just cos we want a change of location.

I would say that ultimately the reason we decided to haver another one was cos we felt it would be lovely to have another child in our family, we loved the idea of another little one and we felt we could offer a baby a happy family to join.

I am very very lucky in that I have (so far) had no MC's and so I was fairly confident that it would all be ok. I can't say how I would feel if I had been unfortunate enough to have suffered an MC - it may have put me off. But I honestly can't be sure.

Hope that helps.

rainbowdays what's the latest with you???

rainbowdays - Hi! I'm due 24/3/10

Hi everyone,

Can I join? I was on the TTC at 40+ thread with Hippy. I'm 41 and 6 weeks pregnant with my first. Had a missed miscarriage last year at 10 weeks so feeling very wobbly. Could definitely do with some jammy dodgers [hopeful face]

Nice to read of some positive outcomes (as well as the sader ones of course).

Shinysideup - so sorry for your loss. It's really hard. Hope you're doing OK.

Hello - can I join? New to MN, though have been lurking for a while... 43 and expecting #1 on 12 June. Just had the 20 week scan and everything seems fine. Good luck to us all!!
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