Fantastic 40's Pregnant And Popped !

[johnworf]

Fabulous 40 and over ladies.

If you're pregnant or already popped, come and join our merry band. All welcome for chat, gossip, rants, and top tips!

I think the flies ate to do with my neighbors, they have 4 (at the last count dogs), they do clean up but not immediately, so you can imagine how much poo is in their back garden, I'm sure that's the source of some of these flies uggg!

I'm going back MrsB, I kind of what to but I'm not sure how it will work with 2 LOs. At the moment I work 5 day 8;30 to 2:45 so I can get B, but I would like to do 4 days so I have a day with O. I have found a very nice CM who could collect B from school a couple of days a week so I could work 2 normal length days and then 2 shorter days. I spoke to the Boss Lady on Monday and she seemed very keen with this proposal, in fact she may even have accepted 4 short days, but I feel I need to do some decent hrs to get my teeth into things. So I think that is what I will do I'm even thinking if the CM works out with B that I may move O to her rather than nursery, but we will see how we get on.

I think boss lady will accept anything that means you come back and stick around for a while. Sounds like you have a couple of options there which is always good.

morning, O slept 'til 6
I did get that impression from her MrsB, it's nice to be wanted

morning I think that N slept from 12-6 last night!!!!! unless I'm so sleep deprived that I sleep fed her and just didn't wake up - either way I feel decidedly brighter today which is good news (especially for DH)

off to break my stir craziness by going food shopping in a minute (woohoo! - the fun life I lead eh )

jw - hope K had a better night (we use piles of books under the cot feet to wedge it up - sorry if that's an egg sucking comment)

tee - hope you're feeling a bit brighter today too

bonzo - lovely recipe (makes mental note to print off) hope you're resting loads ready for next week and that you've got the arnica at the ready!

best get her ladyship ready for the off...

Oooo Food shopping what a thrill Iris , glad you had a good night.

Waves to everyone.

DP this morning at 0400 says that's great a full 6 hours sleep. I then had to inform him that I'd been up since 0200. Sam got 6 hours mommy didn't!

BIG GRRRRRRR face!

GoingToGetHerHairCutIt'sOnly12WeeksOverdueTiggaxx

Moaning all.

Had a very early night last night. We were both shattered. Like iris, feel much better for a bit of R&R although I did get up with a coughing child around 3am but it was a quick glug and back to sleep - her, not me.

Enjoy the shopping expedition iris. Going anywhere when you've been housebound is an adventure! One of the reasons I'm not looking forward to the self imposed hibernation. Seriously. I'm buying myself a few jigsaws today to help allieviate the cabin fever (how bleeding optimistic am I?).

hedgepig sounds like you have a cunning plan there with the arrangements. One less worry you have. I do remember back to the olden days when I worked in a more formal arrangement. It can be a real fag getting the LO's sorted out AND getting to work. Pleased it's coming together for you

Btw, where is your DH? Sorry, you don't have to answer that...I'm just being nosey

I have had a kind of lightbulb moment this morning. Let me explain why....

....K isn't too bad with the coughing during the night but when she wakes up, then it all starts again. Now, this could just be incidental, but I'm starting to think about allergies. Wouldn't they show all the same symptoms? Coughing, sneezing, running nose, red eyes??? We have a dog too so a prime allergy suspect. I am going to ask the pharmacist this morning if there is some antihistamine that a child of her age can take and if so, give it a whirl.

Does that all make sense?

DT I just think it is the way of being a mum vs a dad, DH quite often says O didn't wake up when he has . Have a lovely hair cut.

iris thanks for book suggestion but already got that one covered.

I would like to buy her a pillow today but I'm mindful that she is 10 months corrected so I'm not sure what to do. I'm sure she'd be ok if I did??

FWIW dawntigga my DH didn't hear a thing at 3am this morning

Sings "you're not alone"

Enjoy hair cut

Hi all
Sorry no posts but I haven't been well. Thankfully not swine flu. I am now really starting to feel the strain- 6 weeks and 4 days till blast off! I can't imagine lasting another week let alone six. I am now on iron tablets as I am anemic (my spell thing says e but my Oxbridge English says ae?)I am losing the plot......I have had heart palpitations and swelling combined with no sleep and violent sickness (no morning sickness for entire pregnancy). They monitored me on the ECG and the babies separately for an hour- I got to hear a train heart sound and a horse galloping heart sound which has now finally convinced me they have the sexes correct (though still bought lemon cot sheets in case!) I feel very sorry for myself indeed!
I will try the scones- but may not be able to eat them- I have got some Ranitaden tablets now so hopefully I won't be sick again.
Hope everyone stays safe from Swine Flu (don't worry more people die from normal flu than you would imagine but it doesn't make good news- they are normally very old or weak from something else..chill)
JW my partner says the best way to stay safe from infections is to use those hand cleansers they have in hospitals (and now in supermarkets) he spends all day doing that because he is in different hospitals all the time- he would be permanently ill otherwise- I expect you already have them but it's worth a mention. Hope K is feeling better soon.

Awwww neddie I really feel for you dear. But not long now and you'll probably not go the full 6 weeks I do hope you're feeling a little bit more chipper very soon though. You need someone to run around for you whilst you relax on a chaise longue type affair. Get a little bell to complete the farcical situation

Btw, I also spell it 'anaemic'.

We have the alcohol hand wash in a pump (one in house, one in car), plus usual anti-bac hand washes and we're Howard Hughes like in our hygiene. I don't blame your DP for doing the same. It's all you can do really.

Ah, another day stretches before me. More golf/cricket I expect

Morning all.

Another one here with a sleepy baby and a wide awake mummy. What is up with that?

iris glad you are feeling better. Sleep does help. So does eating well. The Inuits say 'food equals sleep' meaning if you are not sleeping, make sure you eat a well balanced diet. Or just a lot of chocolate.

neddie sorry things are getting rough. I would agree with JW though, I doubt you'll have to wait the whole 6 weeks. I had no idea that the sound of the heartbeat indicates gender?!?

JW It does sound a bit allergy like. Not sure about the pillow. I think its contraindicated for under 1, but who knows if that would include K's actual age as opposed to adjusted?

I hope everyone has a lovely day.

neddie don't get me started on spellings Samual Baily (don't ask!)

jw take it from one who has allergies, yes, yes, yes and yes! Check for an itchy chin as well. Hope it isn't the pooch!

1 hour to hair cut - god I'm so rock and roll aren't I. Me, who toured with a rock band!

FeelingMyAgeButThenIHadAWellMisSpentYoofTiggaxx

Nah, no sub-editing sub-plot. I just wanted to post something random on the shiny new thread so I didn't lose it. The thread I mean. I lost the plot ages ago. Also wasn't sure about the spelling of shiney/shiny at the time. I think shiny is right.

jw- could you prop one end of her cot up on bricks or bibles or something? Then you wouldn't need to worry about the pillow thing.

Lemonade Scones - urrg forgot to add - I usually forget to put the sugar in but I always add a large handful of sultanas or raisins so they make up for the sweetness. Don?t think it really needs the sugar. I think sour cream would work just as well - for the fat. Don?t think cheese would work as the lemonade is sweet - unless you used fizzy water and a pinch of salt ?. hmmm ? sounds nice actually. They are always lovely and light and fluffy and visitors always comment on them.

Hedgepig ? flies ? god I?m with you on that one ?. I hates them!! Where do they come from? 6 round the light shade twizzing and twisting and catching your eye all the bleeding time and unswattable. And even if you shoo them out another 6 come in. I think I?m going insane.

Awww Neddie sorry you feel so rough. (Just washed my Ranitidine tablets down with Gaviscon advance ? the joys of pregnancy eh!)

jw - I was thinking it could be allergies with K if she already has eczma. Is she rubbing her eyes and nose a lot? I think you can take Piraton from quite young but the pharmacist will advise. Also - I wouldn?t use a pillow under her yet but you put them under the mattress and it tilts her up.

Dawn enjoy your fab outing for a haircut. And iris your shopping trip (and 6 hours is great! ? if it happened).

Wondering why I feel like shte this morning then remembered ? we HAD to watch the last three Torchwood episodes in one sitting despite not starting til 10:30 .. so ummmm that makes it about 2am before we got to bed. Bad Bonzo It was fab though! Couldn't wait to see what happened. ZZZZZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz. Poor Mr Bonzo was on early the morning duty today so had the kick at 7:15. Poor man must be shattered.

jw or Florida if you're about... I've been thinking it's our last weekend as a 3 and I thought we should take M out somewhere special. Do you know of any good farms or such like in the Manchester area we could go to? (Or DawnT ... anywhere near you? I know Tatton Park has a farm ... is it any good for a nearly 2 year old?)

bonzo Heaton Park has a little farm. Also horse/ponies and the like in the fields. Nice walk around too if the rain keeps away.

Otherwise you can try Moss Bank Park in Bolton which is lovely and has a butterfly house.

Ok, well I've been and got her a pillow from Mothercare. I know it says not to give under 12 months but I'm not sure where I am with her on her actual and her corrected age. If I go with the mean of the two, then it's 12 months. Not sure if that is the correct logic but I shall only use if she's really coughing.

The cot is already propped up on a Thesaurus (extra thick tomb) and part of a set of encyclopaedias. It makes no difference anyway as she gets herself to the bottom of the cot, upside down

dawn it's very hard to tell what the itching is as she's being treated for eczema although I suppose in hindsight, the itching could in fact be an allergy. I'm off to nearby Sainsbogs after lunch as they have a GP instore that I will ask to speak to. See if he/she can recommend something. tee see the jigsaw puzzle-like clues that us mums have to piece together? Talking of which....

....I've been to Toys R Us and got myself a 1,000 piece jigsaw. Myself and DH starting it this afternoon if we get the chance

Oh aren't we so bloody exciting?!

Sorry, that should be tome and not 'tomb'. We don't have her resting on someones grave

Rock 'n'Roll jw

how about some fab box sets for your incarceration? try Mad Men.

Speaking of the Telly - is anyone watching The Street? third series - its absolutely brilliant and a fab cast too.

jw when D sleeps in bed with us he sleeps on a pillow and when he has a cold and does that coughing on waking thing I usually take him into bed and let him sleep propped up.

I thought D might be allergic to the cat too at one stage and he has eczema but it seems it was just another cold. The eczema is kept at bay by Aveeno.

As if I am not struggling enough with my depression/anxiety saw a guy come thisclose to getting run down by a bus today. And a Mini almost get smashed by one as well. What is with people not obeying walk signs/looking before the cross the street/running red lights?!?!

In other, bizarre news...Adam got a gift today. From my mother's stock broker?!?!? Very odd!!

back from Tesco cafe where N and I did nothing whilst DH took the boys round I'd forgotten what the outside world looked like!

jj - did you ever find anything that got sudocreme off you soft furnishings? DS2 found a mini pot earlier and lapsed it all over himself and the carpet before DH spotted him

jw DS1 has really bad eczema and it took us ages to get to the bottom of the various causes (loads of food intolerances & allergies to start with!)it transpired (through skin prick test) that dustmites were the main culprit for his nighttime itchiness/red eyes etc. We've had piriton since he was 2 for emergencies but it gave him hideous night terrors (common side effect apparently)so he now has neoclarityn which is a long lasting one and seems to work. Silk duvet, freezing then boiling toys & bedding and loads of vaccuuming keep things under control now. HTH

eeek tee

what was the gift?

jw can I ask you how easy/difficult it was for you and DH to get custody of his DS? A friend is in a similar position in that her partner's ex seems increasingly unwilling to provide even basic care. When they were together he did the lion's share and now since the split she is neglecting them (only interesting in finding a new bloke to bankroll her, unfortunately) He spoke to the kids' headteacher this week and she said they are on the brink of calling in ss because the children are sent to school dirty, hungry and depressed (except when they have been with him for the weekend) and are failing to keep up.

He wants to go for custody but doesn't know whether it will go his way given she is not a danger to them (yet)

tee VERY nice little prezzie there for young A.

iris many thanks for the top tips on dustmites. I knew the one about freezing teddies. DSS already has asthma so I do that for him. His floor is wooden in his bedroom and he has anti-allergy bedding. Didn't know about the silk bedding thought...eek. That sounds a dear do. K has carpet in her room so praps we need to get rid of it (shame, it's less than a year old). Curtains could come down as she has a blind. I'll make sure I'm extra dutiful on the cleaning up there though.

I went through the process of allergy testing many years ago with DS#1 and back then, it was a case of making you feel it was all in your (neurotic) mind. Has it changed in the intervening years? If so, then I would be thinking of getting it looked into. If the dog has to go, then so be it. It's a no brainer.

mrsb what happened with DSS and DH was his mother was evicted from her house when he was 2 and asked DH (who was living with his mother) to 'mind him while she got sorted'. However, DH grasped this opportunity to take her to court and apply for a residency order. They don't call it custody anymore. The non-resident parent still has parental rights which is a 'say' in certain things pertaining to the childs upbringing but not on education, religion etc.

Anyway, he sought legal advice, listing all the things that she was; negligent, had all 3 children on the at risk register, had been on witness protection as former partner was violent etc etc. This was applied to court via solicitor. They set a date, then CAFCASS visit both parents and do an interview and a report which is submitted to court. Another hearing date is then set and both parents will attend and the judge will make decision. It doesn't always go in the mother's favour as in our case. It is always what is best for the child...which is how it should be.

As for the easy aspect. Not sure any of it is easy on any of the people involved. I guess, the younger the child then the easier the transition. The logistics were fairly straightforward in his case though as it was 2 court dates and an interview but I'm not sure if this is the case for everyone. He might find that social services become involved but that would, in my view, strengthen his case.

I hope this helps. If he is on benefits, he should still be able to apply for legal aid. If not, then I really would advise a solicitor to help as it can involve (legal) paperwork for applications etc.