If you found you were pregnant at 43 would you keep the baby?

[cruisemum1]

Not sure yet but worried... I have an 11 yo and 2 yo

yes

gosh, maybe it wouldn't be that simple.

If your age were the only concern, then definately. Hope everything is ok for you

without a doubt. Yes.

Age wouldn't be a factor in deciding something like that! Why on earth would you not keep the baby just because you are 43 and fertile?

I had DS when I was 43.

Are there other factors that are making you think you don't want this baby?

For sure (regardless of age actually) but especially with a 2 year old...

Is there something else that is making you wonder/worry?

(I think that I would be delighted to be pg at any age but then I am foolish and broody most of the time.)

Absolutely yes.

In your case, you would still have a small age gap between the last two.

Are your concerns about your age/age gap with the baby, the possibility of the baby having additional needs, or something else.

Can we help you to think it through?

Yes. What is worrying you?

Is it the risk of genetic abnormalities that are worrying you? Or something else?

i am worried because i am constantly tired anyway, i have bouts of terrible insomnia, my ds is wonderous but 'lively' , I was planning on getting back into work once he started school but now I would be 49 before I could work again. I dunno. Maybe I am not anyway

Yes! I am going to be 43 on Thursday and would gladly have a baby before my next birthday!

Yes basically without question but then I would at any age/

what's troubling you OP?

Riven

Hey Cruise remember you from SIFLW thread.

Yes. In answer to your question, I think I would. But its hard to say with any certainty as I am not 43 with 2 children already. What does your DP think, if anything, on the subject?

I did and I did

I also had a 2 yr old at the time.

They are now 6 and 3, fantastic mates most of the time and fill my life with joy (and worry, and sleepless nights, and all sorts of other things but mainly JOY)

Well, I would definitely keep the baby. I'd think it was a lovely surprise and meant to be.

But I'm not you, Cruisemum1. I hope whatever the result is, you are really happy! Good luck.

thanks all. I think if I didnt feel so exhausted from insomnia all the time I would be more positive. It also worries me that I lost my dad last year, my mum is 75, my inlaws are mid 80's. I dunno, I would be 44 on d day. oh bum and bum and bum! . I'll keep you posted. x

oh and HI Pavlov

My mum had her last baby when she was 46. I honestly don't think she's regretted it for a moment. She had a 22 year old, a 21 year old and a six year old at the time, btw, and two of those were 'mistakes'.

yes, im 41 now whith a 2 year old i have two older kids 16/19

ilovesprouts. I am 43 with a 2yo so you sound young to me! . Just concerned as dh is 10years older than me. Haven't told him i suspect yet. It took 7 years to conceive ds2 so I didn;t think for a min that we would get caught out. Not done a test yet, am giving it a couple more days. Jsut worrying in case..........

littlefish - i would have lots of worries. Mainly 'coping' worries. I am alreayd shattered beyond belief as I do not sleep well.

yes i am 7 months pregnant and 42 will be 43 a month after baby is born. This is my 5th baby was'nt planned my eldest is 25 with 2 kids of his own and my youngest 14 but im really excited and looking forward to being a mum again.

I'm 43 and expecting my 5th in 6 weeks so i'd say 'yes' definitely! who wants to grow old gracefully when the can be splattered with baby sick and leaking milk?!