The "4 weeks and bricking it" lounge.

[Thandeka]

Hello,
Me and Wasabipeanut thought a specific thread for people in our boat may be nice- as lovely as the knicker checkers thread is and great support but a lot of the lovely knicker checkers are past the evil first trimester and for those of us that have just found out we are pregnant again post MC we thought it might be nice for us to have a sub lounge to huddle in and support each other in these very early stages where in a way we are still in denial about this pregnancy!

We don't have to post due dates or anything scary like that, just more a place to wobble with people going through it at same time.

So I will be only 4 weeks tommorrow and 40 days ago tommorrow I had an MMC at 10 weeks but emby died at 6/7 weeks. So am going to be petrified basically for at least the next 8 weeks and would love some handholding- especially as this time I am not telling anybody except DH and best mate. Parents need not know.

mynameis- try not to panic- at least you found this before the scan not after.
Fingers crossed for you.

Westlondongirl - so sorry to hear you're having a difficult time. I think Thandeka is right though and nausea is generally considered to be a 'good' thing. (I got very excited over the weekend when I started to feel a bit queasy but it's possible I was just car sick...) And as for dates, agree with what others have said about v early scans being quite unreliable. I had one when pregnant with DD where they said it wasn't a viable pregnancy cos there was no hearbeat but it turned out I was out by a week or so and when I was scanned 10 days later there was a heartbeat. Very best of luck for the repeat scan and keep us posted.

Have booked myself in for a scan next Wed at what I make to be 8+3 but will probably be slightly less because I have a 31 day cycle. Am moody as hell, I don't remember being like this last time but I'm so grumpy and fed up with the world. And completely knackered. Can't work out if it's really the pregnancy or I'm just a lazy grumpy old cow. I suspect I know what my husband thinks though... Still haven't told anyone but DH. How about everyone else? Are you keeping it under wraps or telling family/friends?

Sorry myname is - missed your post. Really hope all goes well at scan - will be thinking of you. Small amounts of bleeding v common, hopefully all will be well.

Thandeka just to say i am now 13+6 weeks and i got the same heavy/dragging feeling in my womb area around the 9-10 week mark (which i didnt get in my previous mc and mmc) i went on the knickercheckers thread and they said that this is normal as its all the bits moving around to make space for the bean.
It has now mainly stopped but i do still feel it occasionally.

mynameis like the others said at least you found it now and the scan is this afternoon, try not to panic and just see what they say, but fingers crossed all is ok, it can be quite normal to bleed in early pregnancy.

Good luck with your sticky beans everyone.

hi all,

Londongirl - try some exercise. I find that when im feeling bad i try to go for a brisk 30 min walk and that usually sorts the bnausea right out. I know thats hard when you are at work but i find sitting around doing nothing makes it far worse.

Hi ladies thanks for your posts.

Didn't go well today, baby's heartbeat is too slow and doctor has given me 50/50 for this pregnancy's chances

Have to go back in two weeks x

mynameis - So sorry to hear that. I'm going to try to be optomistic for you and say 50/50 is better than no chance, there's just as much it will be fine as not. Hoping that in 2 weeks it is better news. You must be feelnig worried, wish there was something I could say that would help but I doubt it. Please accept this non mn ((hug))

mynameis keeping my fingers crossed for you. I think 50/50 just means they don't really know which is not very helpful, but as dalrymps says at least they are not totally pessimistic.

Hi Thandeka- thanks for your reassurance. My turn to do it for you - those dragging pains are completely normal (I have a dd and ds to show for mine) and I have it this time too.

No idea why I don't remember the discharge bit (blocked out the tmi!) LOL

I know totally what you mean about sooner rather than later - my mcs have been so early and the only thing that kept my head above water is feeling it would have been so much worse further on - i only got 5 days of 'being' pregnant each time.

All the love and luck in the world for tomorrow's scan.

Mynameis - I hope your scan went well too and your discharge was a normal as mine!

so sorry mynameis - for some reason the later posts didn't show until after I posted.

I hope the next 2 weeks fly by and all is well x

Hi all,
Mynameis fingers crossed for you and thinking of you. Hope you are signed off work and taking it easy.

Thankyou Ciara and ILBAM for reassuring me about the "pains" they are keeping me awake at night now- am just so aware of something there! I also threw up this morning before the scan which made me feel hopeful- and to the scan...

My emby is now 28mm (thats like 4times the size it was two and a half weeks ago and 7 times the size my lost emby was!) the heart is beating and sonographer dated me at 9 and a half weeks (my dates are 9weeks 5 days so quite happy with that). I think my miscarriage risk is now about 1% so not that I will entirely relax but I feel so much better now. I am going back to work tommorrow sickness permitting. Can I just do a muted yipeeeeeee!

That's fabulous news thandeka, am so pleased for you. My 12 week scan can't come quick enough! (Like you I'm 9w 5d).

mynameis sorry your scan didn't give you the reassurance you need. 50/50 chance means all is not lost... fingers crossed for you over the next couple of weeks.

As for me, my sickness has all but disappeared in the last couple of days so I'm a little concerned. But there's nothing I can do about it- I find the EPU so stressful that without bleeding/cramps, I'm staying away- so it's a case of roll on 12w!

Just wanted to say congratulations to Thandeka - that's great news about the scan! I'm delighted for you .

Hope everyone else gets good news at their scans too.

OK, now back to lurking on this thread (am 6 weeks today and have my first scan next Tuesday).

Hi All

Welcome caitni
Thandeka congrats on scan- full steam ahead!
mynameis - sorry scan did not go as well as hoped. My thoughts are with you and hope your bean is a sticky little mite!

I am 8+5 today and having lots of pokey pains. anyone else experiencing this?
My ms has only been very mild and some days not at all. Some women just dont have it right?

Congratulations Thandenka x I am 11 weeks now and my 12 week scan is not actually till 13 and a half weeks and it feels so long away. I am worrying that i am further on but what if emby has died inside, arrrrrrrrghh wish i could get these thoughts out of my head. Does anyone else feel totally wiped out i am shattered all the time and cant be bothered to do anything x

Thanks for all your kind words.

Thandeka I'm delighted for you

Dr said to that emby is a little small at 6.4mm. What is the average for 7 weeks?

ack your Dr can sod off- my emby was 5.6mm at 7weeks so smaller than yours (which admittedly caused panic at the time) but it has quadrupled in size 2.5 weeks later.

This site: www.visembryo.com/baby/14.html may reassure you as 35days post ov is 7 weeks (5weeks emby old plus the 2weeks pre ov)

Am keeping fingers crossed for you.

ack your Dr can sod off- my emby was 5.6mm at 7weeks so smaller than yours (which admittedly caused panic at the time) but it has quadrupled in size 2.5 weeks later.

This site: www.visembryo.com/baby/14.html may reassure you as 35days post ov is 7 weeks (5weeks emby old plus the 2weeks pre ov)

Am keeping fingers crossed for you.

That site is great! That has reassured me at least about size, now just the heartbeat to worry about! Aarrgghh fed up with living in limbo

Hi Everyone. Still having a nightmare with morning sickness. Was sent home from work today as I couldn't stop being sick. Haven't kept down anything for a couple of days now. Went to the doctor & he has told me i'm going to have to take a few days off to rehydrate & try & feel better (otherwise will have to go into hospital). The thing is i'm around 5/6 weeks & all the articles say this sickness could last at least another 6 weeks. I know I should be really pleased that I have it but I feel dreadful & if I can't work i will be in deep financial trouble which is stressing me so much. I have tried all remedies for this sickness medical & alternative & just can't get a handle on it. I feel like i must be really weak because everyone else just seems to be able to find a way of coping.

Oh westlondongirl it sounds awful, certainly reassuring as a symptom but a nightmare to live with.

Think you are going to have to take some time off, rest definately should help.

Has Dr given you any medication?

I meant MORE medication.

Hi Myanmeis. He has said to keep going with the cyclizine but it is doing nothing!! I keep dry heaving all the time especially if I have to go in a car or stand up. When I woke up this morning I though I was ok. I slowly stood up & instantly threw up bile. My stomach is so sore. I have about 2 hours a day in the afternoon where the nausea subsides when I try to eat but other than that I am constantly nauseous. It keeps me awake at night. :-(

westlondon - So sorry you're suffering. I thin you should see the doc again and try a different medication. You can't keep on like this, demand some further help from them, you deserve it.

Thandeka - Congratualtions on the scan!

Feeling a tiny bit sick today and very pleased about it, was begining to think I imagined being pg!

Oh westlondongirl you poor thing, I get ms badly but not as badly as that I've never had medication for it. I think you should go back, possibly see a different doctor and see if they can give you something else. I am 12wks (scan on fri) and am still being sick, I think in the first pg I was sick until about 16wks so I would definitely see what else you can take, perhaps search another thread on hyperemisis (severe ms).

Congratulations Thandeka on your scan!