The "4 weeks and bricking it" lounge.

[Thandeka]

Hello,
Me and Wasabipeanut thought a specific thread for people in our boat may be nice- as lovely as the knicker checkers thread is and great support but a lot of the lovely knicker checkers are past the evil first trimester and for those of us that have just found out we are pregnant again post MC we thought it might be nice for us to have a sub lounge to huddle in and support each other in these very early stages where in a way we are still in denial about this pregnancy!

We don't have to post due dates or anything scary like that, just more a place to wobble with people going through it at same time.

So I will be only 4 weeks tommorrow and 40 days ago tommorrow I had an MMC at 10 weeks but emby died at 6/7 weeks. So am going to be petrified basically for at least the next 8 weeks and would love some handholding- especially as this time I am not telling anybody except DH and best mate. Parents need not know.

Nope still didn't work - must learn to preview....

Congrats Ilovebeingamummy. Hope this bean sticks- the signs are good!

I have a longer cycle, though wasn't sure when I ov'd. I discovered at an early scan (due to bleeding, not a planned scan) that my LMP date was a whole week out. So I think you're right to delay things slightly to avoid anxiety, and also disappointment! That extra week draggggged for me. And you never know, by erring on the side of caution you might discover that you are in fact further on than you thought- how good would that be?!
Best of luck.

How is everyone today? I had my second fully fledged vomit this morning. Er, hurrah? Unfortunately pastries seem to be my ms cure at the moment- had a pain au raisin for brekkie after chucking up healthy fruit. Oink.
(Sorry for the sick talk...)

I just vomited out my nose! (I see your vomit talk and raise you!)

It really burns! It was in between meals too- unusual- normally I throw up during or immediately after eating- was only melon and orange juice but grim grim grim on way back up.

my poor snozz! The crunchy nut cornflakes i had after have helped me feel human again though- have a massage booked tonight which am looking forward too and asked my accupuncturist to take away the nausea/vomming so hopefully it will start to ease off soon.

ILBAM maybe consider changing your LMP date to be 14 days before you ov'ed? (who would know!) Thats what the midwife did with me- (but thats because I didnt have a period after my miscarriage on 19th April- but ov'ed on 14th May so they took my LMP to be 1st May even though it wasn't! In fact last time i got pregnant I ovulated on day 24 and this time I ovulated on day 26- think my eggs only like to be fertilised if they have had plenty of boiling time!

Melon! That was the culprit for me too!
I had been led to believe it was wonderful for morning sickness.
Down (up?) with melon!

Your poor nose....

Can't do melon here either, or strawberries or orange juice. Nasty heartburn after it's come up too. Can do apples again now, though.

Hello to Ilovebeingamummy the stronger +ve sounds good. I had mc last year and had a dodgy +ve with it.

Hi Ladies x Sorry havent been around for a while, have been sweltering in 90 degrees heat for a week in the Lake District in our caravan, and had a brill time.

Hope everyone is well, i am just going to read through what i have missed over the last week.

My nauseua has ceased a bit, seems to be more on night now rather than all day, seem to have a bit of a lova affair with creamy soups - mushroom, chicken, cauliflower, am craving broccoli and stilton soup - Do we think this will be ok to eat?

mummytopebs I think blue cheese is ok if cooked as risk is listeria and presumably would kill bacteria but would check this. Glad you had a lovely time. Funny what your body wants to eat isn't it?

Hi ladies...

I have got through the day. My bfp is still there at 5+5/4+6.....

I thought I would feel better...but I am still bricking it and hoping I am not going to feel like this for the next 9 months....

forgot the important bit - my last 3 bfps were lost on this day

Congratulations ILBAM! I had my mc around the same time and know it was such a relief to get past that point!

Well done for getting through today Ilovrbeingamummy! You deserve a break, sure this is it!

Hi Ladies, Had my scan yesterday & it was "unclear & Inconclusive". She thinks maybe I am 4/5 weeks pregnant as opposed to 6/7 which is weird because I was positive about the dates. Have to go back in two weeks to see if it is viable as it was too small to tell. That's kind of stressed me out as I still get cramping & am convinced that something is wrong. The thing which is really getting to me is the morning sickness. It kicked in with a vengeance 3 days ago. I was prescribed cyclizine as I can't keep water down....turns out I can't keep cyclizine down either & it makes me feel super drowsy & have a dry mouth. I have tried ginger, mints, pre natal vitamins, bland food, preggie pops (waste of money for essentially boiled sweets). I went for acupuncture yesterday too. I am at a total loss as to what to try now & feel miserable. I start a job tomorrow & am so worried of being sick at work. Really don't want to tell people yet but what choice will I have? The sickness is causing me to feel so so anxious & panicky as i've had bad stomach problems before. Does anyone have any suggestions as to something else that could help. SOS. By the way I had my scan at the london ultrasound centre & they were very good - expensive but worth it.

westlondon - Hope everything is ok when you go back in a few weeks. Sure the morning sickness is a good sign. Only thing I can think of to try is sea bands, they're accupressure wrist bands. You can get them in boots. Hope you feel better soon.

hi westlondon girl,

sorry that you are feeling so rubbish. sometimes nothing will help but try but rest whenever you can.

I had a similar thing when i went for early scan. they thought i was 5-6 weeks when i thought i was 6+1. They made me go back in two weeks and everything was fine and measuring up for 7+6 (so was 5+6 for first scan). Anyway my point being that early scans are quite unreliable as there is a fine line between seeing a baby (and hb) and not. All i can say is try not to worry too much and just take one day at a time. For my next pregnancy i will not be opting for an early scan!!!!

Thanks Dalrymps & Lovely monster. I have been wearing my sea bands constantly & they aren't working for me. I checked with my acupuncturist that I had them positioned correctly. I am trying to eat little & often but everything I put in my mouth makes me gag. I can't bear any more ginger....

Aw westlondon, I know how you feel. With my last pg I tried allsorts and nothing seemed to work. Well, drinking lots of sparkling water helped but only cause I could keep it down, hard if even water is coming back up. Sea bands didn't work for me either but thought i'd suggest them cause they work for some people...

Eating little and often is good. I used to eat a digestive on waking which helped a bit. I liked bland things at first like pitta bread with homous and jacket potatos with cottage cheese.

I think sometimes it's just a case of finding somehing specific to you that helps. I think the best thing is to try and rest as much as poss.

I know you're starting a new job but if it's no better in a few weeks the doc could sign you off for a weeks or so to rest. They can't penalise you for it if it's pregnancy related...

westlondongirl ms is so miserable isn't it? Perhaps you need to go back to the gp and get something else for the sickness. I find different things work for a while. If you can't bear ginger, what about peppermint or lemon? You can get a cd that's supposed to help but I've no idea how good it is.

Good luck with your next scan, if it was too early they probably couldn't see anything. Might they offer you blood tests to check your hcg levels, can indicate that the pg is progressing well.

westlondongirl, (apologies to all those who've heard this before...)
I had a scan at what I thought was dead on 6 weeks and I was totally sure of my dates (only had bd twice that month) the scan showed absolutely nothing - just a small gestation sac.
Was told to not come back for 10 days but was also told it wasn't looking very good and to get some pain relief in! Ended up going to EPAU 6 days later and there was baby, yolk sac and hb! They told me my dates were 4-5 days out and that made all the difference.
I've since had a couple more scans and I've been dated back to my original dates.
I know it's not exactly the same but I suppose my point is it's very, very small at the moment and I think I've read enough stories to convince me that some little ones need more time than others to really get going.
I wish you lots of luck for your next scan x

Hi all

Well now I'm past the point I lost my last 3 pregnancies I am panicking about other things. predictably!

Just wondering (sorry for the tmi) whether anyone else feels constantly 'sticky' down there. I keep convincing myself it must be blood and when I check it is just cm - but it seems more than usual - ovulation sort of amounts I suppose but now EWCM and more yellowy.

Again apologies for the tmi but I can find the next thing to worry about if you have this too!

Ilovebeingamummy this is perfectly normal! Congratulations on reaching further than previous mcs.

thankyou Feeling sick as a parrot today so that makes me feel better....... lol

ILBAM- Yup I posted previously on my "follow the yellow brick road disharge" I'll go with normal! Hurrah for getting past the evil point.

Westlondongirl you poor thing you are going through it. Good luck for your next scan. I find lying down and keeping as still as possible helps me and also accupuncture helps a little bit. Maybe try and visit one if you can. I am also constantly sipping a little bit of water throughout the day at the min and that helps. BTW I post this sentence from Wikipedia to cheer you up: Nausea and vomiting of pregnancy (NVP, or morning sickness) are associated with a decreased risk of miscarriage. Several mechanisms have been proposed for this relationship, but none are widely agreed on.[24] en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Miscarriage
So the fact you are feeling so grim is a good thing and hopefully your next scan will be fine.

Friday is my milestone for me- 10 weeks 1 day- thats the day I miscarried last time. I know this sounds wrong but If I am going to lose this one I would much much rather it be sooner rather than later. The longer you have to get used to the idea of being pregnant/feel pregnant- the crueller it is when it doesn't work out! Well I have my scan at 9am tommorrow so I will know by then. Me and DH have already decided that if its another MMC I will try and stay in hospital and have it sorted that day- I don't want to miscarry at home ever again. Trouble is DH has a course tommorrow straight after the scan so if it is bad news I may have to be on my own. but fingers crossed its not bad news.

BTW anyone who has had a sucessful pregnancy before- can I ask if feeling kind of heavy dragging sensations in the womb area is "normal" as for the last week or so I have really been feeling them. They aren't like anything I have experienced before (not period or anything) its a bit achy but not painful (but kind of feels like something has become detached- which I hope not!) Am hoping its a good sign as I didnt have them last pregnancy at all.

How is everyone else doing?
x

Hi everyone, hope you are feeling well today.

I am 7 weeks today and have my scan this afternoon. Just been to the loo and a slight bit of bloodstained discharge!

Can't believe it, I feel absolutely sick with worry now and i was just starting to look forward to this afternoon

Oh mynameis, try not to worry (I know a lot easier said than done). Bleeding can happen for many many reasons during pg and it doesn't always mean anything bad. At least you have the scan so you can find out how things are. Got my fingers crossed for you that everything is just fine.