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The "4 weeks and bricking it" lounge.

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Thandeka · 27/05/2009 20:41

Hello,
Me and Wasabipeanut thought a specific thread for people in our boat may be nice- as lovely as the knicker checkers thread is and great support but a lot of the lovely knicker checkers are past the evil first trimester and for those of us that have just found out we are pregnant again post MC we thought it might be nice for us to have a sub lounge to huddle in and support each other in these very early stages where in a way we are still in denial about this pregnancy!

We don't have to post due dates or anything scary like that, just more a place to wobble with people going through it at same time.

So I will be only 4 weeks tommorrow and 40 days ago tommorrow I had an MMC at 10 weeks but emby died at 6/7 weeks. So am going to be petrified basically for at least the next 8 weeks and would love some handholding- especially as this time I am not telling anybody except DH and best mate. Parents need not know.

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LovelyMonster · 08/07/2009 20:05

Anyone heard from Jardins??????

Thandeka · 08/07/2009 21:49

Westlondongirl- MS is evilness and you shouldn't feel weak or that everyone else copes. Seriously my MS is a fraction of what you have and I am a wailing mess lying on the sofa so I am very in awe of you even being able to type! Hope it eases soon (not enough to cause worry but enough to enable you to function!)

I went back to work today for the first time in 4.5 weeks and everyone was lovely- told a few people including my boss and everyone was very happy for me. Have worked out that if this one works out I will have been pregnant for a whole year (10weeks then MMC then 2 week gap then pregnant again!)- lucky me!

Oh and best bit of my day? The powercut at 2pm that meant all the kids got sent home
Have 6 lessons tommorrow though- that will be grim. Am also 10 weeks tommorrow and friday is the day I MC in my last pregnancy but am hopeful that wont be happening this time since emby is 7 times the size of last emby.

How is everyone?
Jardins? Happybump? haven't heard from in a while. Hope all is ok.
xxx

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wasabipeanut · 09/07/2009 08:48

Hi everyone,
I have been really slack with posting lately as it has been crazy busy at Chez Peanut. I have been so desperately tired that my usual MN times when Ds is napping have been given over to sleep. I haven?t been able to keep my eyes open. We have also had an offer accepted on a house and sold ours so fingers crossed no more house hunting.

And.......I had another scan yesterday at 10+2 and all is well with the little peanut. Measuring 4cm and had a heartbeat of 168bpm. It looked so peaceful, just snoozing in its womb. I managed to wake it up by laughing and it gave a few little wiggles, rubbed its forehead and settled back down to sleep! So cute.

mynameis I?m so sorry that your scan was inconclusive. Try to hold on to the fact that 50/50 isn?t actually a bad set of odds. There are lots of stories on MN where this was the scenario early on and all proved to be well. x

Welcome Ilovebeingamummy and congrats! You have had a horrid time of it and I really hope that this little bean turns out to be a keeper. It seems that so far the omens are good although I think all of us on this thread can sympathise with the intense feelings of worry, distress and general paranoia. I am now 10+3 and still knicker check every time I go to the loo.
BTW, as the recipient of a botched induction which led to an emergency c section after 18 pretty agonizing hours I whole heartedly agree with your views on induction. One thing is for sure ? nobody is coming near me with a synto drip ever again.

West London Oh you poor thing you sound like you are having a nightmare. The misery of ms truly knows no bounds. I?m afraid that if it doesn?t ease then you will have to take some time off work. I know the timing sucks but there isn?t much alternative unless you can be prescribed an anti emetic that you can keep down. Try not to worry too much about dates and what have you ? there seem to be lots of explanations for dates coming in later than thought and it would be unusual to be this sick if nothing was cooking in there! There is a margin of error in scans of around a week which in t he early days can make a hell of a difference.

Thandeka that is great news about your scan and that you are starting to relax. Seeing little emby?s is just the best feeling isn?t it? Actually, isn?t it now a foetus? I also second that these draggy feelings are all quite normal. I am sure when I was pg with ds that I would know when he had a growth spurt as the same thing would occur and I would get really painful stitches when walking to work. Then it would go away for a couple of weeks, reappear etc. All good and a sign of a growing bambino!

Caitni Welcome and good luck with the scan!

Hi to everyone else I have missed x

Olga1 · 09/07/2009 09:25

Hi-nice to see you all here and happy to join you if that's ok. It is all about wishing time away which I know isn't an ideal way to live life but this is such a precious time for us all. I'll be 6 weeks on Sat and have already been for blood work following some spotting and have an early scan booked for next week. I'm trying to stay relaxed and positive. I have a gorgeous 26 year old girl but after having her we unfortunately had 2 miscarriages and 1 ectopic in December where I lost a tube. I'm so happy we are pregnant again, and like a lot of you am keeping it very very quiet this time. I am having low cramps on my right side (the side my tube was removed, started last night and are still there this a.m., am hoping for the best. If I'm still unsure I may go in Sat rather than wait for my appt Wed next week. Happy to be sitting in this lounge ladies!

itsalwaysthequietones · 09/07/2009 13:57

Welcome to Olga and v sorry to hear about your MCs and ectopic. Keep us posted about your scan.

Hello to all you other ladies. I'm now 7.4 but have had some spotting in the past couple of days so GP has referred me for a scan tomorrow. I'm feeling positive about it and really hoping it shows that all is well.

westlondongirl · 09/07/2009 18:34

Good luck with your scan itsalwaysthequietones, let us know how you get on. After a week of being horribly sick I have been diagnosed with hyperemisis & told that I won't be able to go back to work for a while. Due to the kind of work that I do it means I have now lost the job. I have booked in for my repeat scan on Monday. Feel very stressed - money is going to be a real worry now. Just wish I could have more than an hour a day without feeling nauseous....... Tried Phenergan this morning but it seemed to make me feel worse. Going for acupuncture again tomorrow.

quirkychick · 09/07/2009 20:47

westlondongirl you poor thing, is there any chance that your employers are in the wrong? I didn't think you could dismiss someone when pg, but obviously I don't know the details, is it worth checking where you stand legally? Tricky when you feel so rotten. You have my complete sympathy Thandeka is right, ms is a real evil! I hope things get a little better for you.

itsalwaysthequietones I also have a scan tomorrow, my dating scan (had an early one at 7.5 too due to bleeding). So will be thinking of you too. I have had some vague brown smears (?) but as scan tomorrow have left it, feeling slightly apprehensive too.

LovelyMonster · 09/07/2009 21:48

Sorry that you are having such a nightmare time westlondongirl. I hope you are feeling better soon!

Good luck for the scans tomorrow.

My friend is a midwife and she came around tonight. She could pick up the heartbeat on her dopplar!! so exciting! Im 9+1!

Dalrymps · 09/07/2009 21:54

Hi ladies,

Thandeka - Glad going back to work went ok and everyone was so nice

Wasabi - So pleased your scan went ok! Must have really put your mind at rest. Bet it was great to see the lo on the screen!

Olga1 - Welcome! Sorry to hear about your mc's eptopic . I'm sure everything will work out just fine this time. Good luck with the scan

itsalwaysthequietones - Spotting can be quite common, sure everything will be ok. Hope the scan goes ok.

Westlondongirl - Glad the docs are taking your sickness seriously but sorry you've lost your job . Could you do something like ironing from home? Cheap to set up and you can do it when it suits you? (i'm just suggesting this cause i'm thinking of doing it myself)

Quirkychic - Hope the scan goes ok

Well, I have actually felt sick most of today, not enough to be sick but enough to put me off certain foods. I'm actually pleased as was beinging to think I was imagining being pg! I am exhausted too, slept from 10.45pm till 7am last night, had a nap from 9.20 till 11 this morning (whilst ds had his nap) and i'm still tired now! 6 weeks pg tomorrow

Dalrymps · 09/07/2009 21:56

Lovelymonster - x posted. How exciting you heard the heartbeat!!!

quirkychick · 10/07/2009 14:04

Thank you for the lovely messages. Well, I had the scan today and I am now 12+1 rather than 12+5 which puts me back to my original dates. The little one was very wriggly and it took the sonographer a while to measure up. He/she waved too! So all's well.

What's not so great is that due to a dvt last time I am now on daily heparin injections and have had scan, nurse, doctor, blood test and collected syringes which all took 3 hours! I'm not sure how morning sickness and injecting myself will go...still better than dvt again.

I guess I'm pretty much past the 4wks and bricking it stage now, although I have nuchal scan next wk. Will lurk a bit to see how you are all getting on. Good luck anybody else with scans today.

Dalrymps · 10/07/2009 14:45

quirkychic - So happy for you that the scan went well you're well on the way to holding that lo in your arms aww!

itsalwaysthequietones · 10/07/2009 15:00

hi ladies,

westlondongirl - really sorry about your job and I really hope the acupuncture has some impact.

scan was all fine. Suggested I'm 7+2 rather than 7+5 which fits with my cycle length but was really, really reassuring to see the little heartbeat thumping away. So sweet and I think DH was even more relieved than me, he's been really worried this pregnancy. Does anyone know to what extent the m/c risk drops once you've seen a heartbeat at 7 weeks?

Quirkychick - great news that you are successfully past the 12-week mark and had a good scan.

Dalrymps · 10/07/2009 15:31

itsalwaysthequietones - So glad your scan went well, mut have been amazing to see

quirkychick · 10/07/2009 18:36

itsalwaysthequietones glad all went well for you today, was thinking about you - it's so reassuring to see that little heartbeat. I think Thandeka has the info on extent mc rate drops but think it must be quite low.

Thandeka · 11/07/2009 09:41

Hurrah for quirkychick and itsalwaysthequietones!

Today I am 10 weeks plus 2- yesterday was the day I miscarried the last pregnancy so I was a bit on edge. But since I vomited up my tea then promptly burst into tears because DH couldn't hear me and I needed him to get me a glass of water am going to assume am still pregnant and past my last pregnancy milestone. So now is just a wait til 31st for my next scan.

Hope everyone is well.

Hope mummytopebs is able to get on here to post later- apparently poor love has been excluded from this thread for some techy reason.
xxx

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Olga1 · 11/07/2009 14:39

Thandeka-I'm sure you will be fine-especially with those symptoms! I've reached 6 weeks today and oh my word- I forgot about this constant overwhelming feeling of nausea-am going for aome acupuncture tomorrow.
We're doing well ladies hang in there!
Will let you know how my scan goes Wed-thank you all your your supprt and kind words!x

JasHook · 11/07/2009 20:13

Good afternoon ladies

I don't know if you'll be happy with me sitting in your lounge as I haven't gone through MC....but I got my BFP on Monday, am 5w+4 and absolutely. Bloody. Terrified.

By everything.

Reading this thread made me realise that I'm not alone in having turned into someone who's now terrified beyond reason every time she has to visit the bathroom. Thankyou all for posting and being so open about what you've been feeling.

quirkychick · 11/07/2009 21:19

Welcome JasHook congratulations on your bfp.

Dalrymps · 12/07/2009 11:34

Morning ladies,

I feel so sick today, felt sick most of yesterday too. Am actually pleased in a way as I didn't 'feel' pg, well I do now

Thandeka - I'm sure everyhthing is going to be just fine now you have reached this point. You certianly are displaying all the signs of a hormonal pg lady!

Olga1 - Good luck for the scan on wed

JasHook - Welcome and congratualtions on tour BFP! . I haven't had a mc either but am suitably terrified also so you'll fit in just fine here. This will make you laugh, yesterday I had a huge cramp in my tummy, I thought 'oh no whats happening', a few mintues later I realised it had just been 'wind' . The silliest things are freaking me out!

JasHook · 12/07/2009 18:10

Thankyou quirkychick and Dalrymps

Dalrymps I am giggling hysterically! but I'm obsessing over sillier things - I'd almost welcome a digestive cramp in case it meant MS starting!! My symptoms, such as they are, seem to be fading today. I am mortified that I have so far not thrown up. Have convinced myself that there is a) no embryo and b) that if there is something horrible has happened to it.

Is this normal?! Not even 6 weeks and I'm convinced the world is going to end. How am I supposed to last 12 weeks?

Thandeka · 12/07/2009 18:54

Welcome Jashook!

Right ladies- we discussed this earlier in the thread but just wanted to ressurect it -

How are ladies going with ahem marital relations now . I know a lot of us were avoiding it for ages because of MC. But erm ahem my sex drive has absolutely skyrocketed in last couple of weeks of pregnancy am only 10 weeks now so a bit worried about whether jumping on DH is going to do any harm- but heck I have been doing. Twice yesterday in fact [Grin]

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jardins · 13/07/2009 09:56

Jardins is back after a successful move to our little rented house amongst the vineyards of Vouvray (near Tours). We've just got internet so here I am back in touch with you all. I have read your posts and will answer in more detail soon.

The great news is that I had my 12 week scan this morning (at 8 am, blimey!) and all went brilliantly. All the measurements are spot on and I am particularly proud of my nuchal skin fold measurement which is perfect. The doctor plugged all the fetal measurments into his softwear PLUS my age (40) to calculate the risks of abnormalities, etc. My age alone would have put me at 1 in 52 but with scan results puts me at 1 in 354! He explained that 1 fetus in 200 are lost during the amiocentisis. So we need to decide between the 1 in 200 and my risk factor of 1 in 354. Am I being clear? He was, thank goodness!

I feel enormously relieved. Apart from that the nausea continues with general stomach upset (yep, I've still got the runs most days). Yukkkkkkkkkk

itsalwaysthequietones · 13/07/2009 10:24

Welcome to Jashook and congrats to Thandeka on getting past that milestone - the 31st will be here before you know it.

Have a nice day ladies.

mummytopebs · 13/07/2009 21:46

Yey 12 weeks today hip hip hooray x Just wish i had my scan quicker cos its not till next wed and i am still worrying that emby is not alive in there. My nauseua has now passed but am still absolutly knackered and absolutly massive - yes ladies i am now in maternity jeans - suppose i will have to tell work this week they must have already guessed.