Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part VI....Share your worries and knicker checking stories here...

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Will this do?

ds's head will be the only one around that way for a good few months now, methinks!!

and there was me thinking I was being smutty the other night. Tsk tsk .

Am much better thanks Sparky - sorry all for the ongoing moaning !!

Aquababe - sounds like you've got a good MW there - even my lentil weaving 'any birth is possible' yoga teacher told me I wouldn't stand a hope in hell of getting in the birthing pool for a VBAC. Can't decide whether to try and push the consultant/reg for it or not when I see them on Friday.

Scotlass - Oh god don't tell me they move on to wanting limo's - how old is your dd ? (i.e. how long do I have to think up excuses...).

Hi everyone! I'm still around - 20+ weeks now, anomaly scan on Friday (21 weeks). Still freaking out (a lot) about movement/lack of movement e.g. yesterday kicks were strong enough to feel on the outside, today I've felt very little. Doppler is getting used an awful lot.

This is my third 20+ week pregnancy & I can't for the life of me remember what is normal at this stage - I still feel a bit sick, am a bit tired (blame the non sleeping 2yo) but apart from that would easily pass for not pregnant. I still feel very detached from the whole process.

Just had a whopping great kick ... I'm going to have major mental health issues by the end of this pregnancy!

Hi all

Having a lot of abdominal and back pain today so really freaking out. I think I'm about 6 weeks now so it was about this stage last time that things started to go wrong.

I'm not sure whether going for a scan would reassure me or not. I'm worried it is still too early and they might not be abel to see a heartbeat which would just freak me out even more.

Worst thing is I feel guilty because I am stressing myself out about it so much which won't help.

Sorry, just needed to get it off my chest.

Off to see my GP tomorrow so we'll see what she says.

PS - no pregnancy symptoms at all yet either. I felt sick as a dog by this stage with DS. I know it doesn't mean anything but I can't help wondering.

Morning ladies

Hope everyone is feeling well.

Off to the hospital for a consultant appointment at 9 this morning. Have remembered my wee pot not easy the way my brain is at the moment.

Didn't sleep very well last night - just can't seem to get comfortable at the moment.

ready see what the GP says...you might be right about a scan not helping at this stage. But bear in mind too that all pg's are different and so the lack of symptoms can be a red herring. I was sick as a dog with the one I lost and only vaguely dizzy with this one.

Let us know how you get on at the GP. I really feel for you its a horrid time, esp if this is the time it went wrong last time. Just think safe, healthy and sticky thoughts!

Was very proud of dh last night (a rare occurrence as regulars on here will know!!) as he was talking to a friend who was sceptical about HB and asked lots of 'but what if there is something wrong with the baby when it comes out' type questions, DH responded with text book accuracy re rsiks and timings and practical stuff! Its a miracle - the brainwashing has worked!! He also really enjoyed feeling the mad movements of the baby for 10 or 15 mins last night - I put his hand on when she was really active, something he doesn't really initiate for some reason, and you should have seen his face!! So I will be doing that again cos I think it makes it real for him.

Right off for hot choc and muffins for breakfast now. I wonder if I have any choc spread?

hi ready have you an appointment booked for a few days time? my last scan the doc measured the sac was 6+5 and they could detect the heartbeat so maybe by end of this week they maybe able to detect yours!

Ive had a lot of lower back pain this 3/4 days, havent had any bleeding or discahrge, is back pain normal?

Hi everyone.

I just phoned the EPAU to try to get them to scan me again. (I had a scan at 7wks, but that was 10 days ago, and the reassurance has pretty much faded.) They refused, on the grounds that I'll be having my 10wk scan soon. Thing is, my booking in appointment isn't for another week - I'll be 9+3. Can't see my 10wk scan actually being at 10 weeks. I guess I'll have to wait and see what date I get, and if it isn't for ages, I'll try pleading with the EPAU.

Feeling quite upset now. Although the bacon sandwich I just had is helping me feel a bit better.

I?m feeling all in need of ressurance, too. At that awkward stage of 16 weeks, and after all my early scans, and the 12-week one, there?s now nothing until 20-week scan. Because of my GP being a disorganised arse, I?m not even seeing a midwife for the first time until next week, so haven?t had the reassurance of a Doppler, or anything. If it weren?t for the fact I can?t get into any of my clothes, and my nipples have gone mad, I wouldn?t believe I was pregnant at all.

I was at choir last night, and my friend was so excited for me she told loads of people, which made me feel all weird. My main thought was ?oh god, now I?m going to have to tell them, too, when it all goes wrong?.

I wish I could feel him move. I could hire a Doppler, I suppose, but I?m afraid that I won?t be able to hear the heartbeat, and it would just make me more panicked than before?

Thanks Dan and Valz.

Just back from the GP who wasn't really much help. She said the pain may be something or nothing but there is no point worrying as there is nothing anyone can do this early on - the pregnancy is either OK or not .

Anyway, she said I shouldn't go for a scan until I'm sure I'm 7 weeks as they can't always see the heartbeat until then. Oddly though, she then said I should go next week (when I think I'll only be 6) on the basis that ovulation is possible as early as 2 weeks after a mc in which case I'd be about 6.5 weeks now. I don't really agree as I've done loads of those conception indicator tests and it has only started saying 3+ weeks last week.

So confused now. Still have back ache too and now symptoms yet.

Anyway at least I can stop worrying about when to have a scan. The Dr wants to see me again on 22 Jan and I have to take scan report with me so have to get it done within the next 9 days!

Just had a scary moment at the midwifes,She couldn't find a heartbeat for ages.Am 14+3.She kept saying it was still early?I thought those dopplers could pick it up from about 12wks.Anyway she said she found it after what seemed like forever.
Probably being paranoid but she didn't sound convincing and left space in notes blank for heartbeat heard!
Luckily i am sure i have felt tiny movements but few & far between.Looking forward to next flutter now.

mumface - I think that is the reason some mw don't try to use the doppler till 16 weeks. I think it can be quite tricky to find at 14 weeks.

herb - 16 weeks! wow! The symptoms are good, I know how difficult that stage is but you have to believe.

joyfuleyes - I was wondering how you were? 20 weeks I wasn't really showing and now at 22 weeks I think I am much more so hold in there.

I have been for my 22 week anomoly scan this morning and all is as it should be so I might start to relax ! Ha remind me of that when I panic again! DH is now away till the weekend so we will tell our children about the baby then, quite excited about it! BTW we saw it yawn which was very cute!

Thats brilliant!,It must be very tiring floating around in there!

maz32 I went and saw my ob/gyn, she said there is no way that i could feel movement.
She told me to lie down so she can check everything, and bam! Baby kicked, just to show her she was wrong. After having a scan and her confirming all is okay, i feel much better.
Baby is lazy and prefers to sleep, but he/she has moments of extream energy bursts. I always look forward to those
All seems to be going well, and I am going to try my best to relax and stop worrying!

I'm back from the consultant. Got to hear baby's heartbeat again - bliss!
But I've got glucose in my wee and they want to monitor it so it's back to the midwife in 2 weeks then back to consultant in 4 weeks to assess the growth of the baby (cos of the pills I take to control high BP) the good news is I get another scan in 4 weeks too so I get to see baby again.

Hi all, I am new on this thread.. I have read a fair few pages of it though and you are all so supportive etc... okay my story.. I have had 1 miscarriage.. fell pregnant month after the first period after the miscarriage. I am now 8 weeks to the day! Booked in for private early scan last saturday (7+4) everything looked great apparently - measured 1.1cm and had heartbeat of 139 which was magical!! But it doesnt stop me worrying!! I have had brown spotting since the scan.. it was internal so i am keeping my fingers very firmly crossed that this is because of the probe and not because miscarriage number 2 is starting!! Congraulations to all who are already post 12 weeks and can sigh a very small sigh of relief.. I cannot wait for this day in four weeks time!! having another scan at 9 weeks 4 days just to make sure its all going to plan....

Herby - 16 weeks, wow ! It is a trying time isn't it. In a few weeks you should start to feel it move (and then a new paranoia starts ). Hang on in there.

Cece - glad all well at scan.

Mumface - I distinctly remember my MW saying she wouldn't even try to find dd's heartbeat when I was 14 weeks with her because it is so difficult to do at that stage. I've had MWs take ages to find it with this one - an hour after having a scan (thankfully so didn't panic !).

Ready - I know its hard but IME don't have a scan too early as its harder for it to be conclusive. I had one when I should have been 7 weeks exactly and it showed me to be 6+4 so they couldn't give me any reassurances that all was ok (as it was at 10 weeks, it was 9 +4 but then by 13 weeks it had caught up).

Cornflake - I had scans schedule without having my booking in appt. Could you go privately if you want the re-assurance (I know not always possible) ?

Waves to everyone else...

Bought dd a 'big sister' t-shirt today - wanted to wait a bit but was worried blooming marvellous would go bust before I got round to buying it. Also got a free huggies starter kit yesterday from Asda - a pack of nappies - yikes ! Have tucked it all away and pretending I haven't bought any of it (after all I am only almost 32 weeks.... think I might be saying it at 40 weeks....).

Sorry also meant to say welcome to Ashleigh. Glad all is going ok so far.

ashleigh welcome - same story as mine, mmc then one bleed then pg again..I am now 37 weeks and have only got here with the support of this thread. Stick around and congrats!

Looby good news despite the glucose, at least you get to see it again soon!

mumface I had the same thing with doppler at 14 weeks - She went off to look for batteries as she said she thought they were dead and I remember lying there trying not to cry....they can be tricky which is why I never got my own! (tho they are a godsend for some..)

herby good to see you - 16 weeks is brilliant! But it is a bit of a no man's land, try not to worry.... (as if?!)... sending you sticky thoughts. Midwife next week is something to focus on, and you will hear the heartbeat and everything!

My dentist crisis has deepened and I have to go back tomorrow...bollocks...

evening to all, hi! to ashleigh - I've only been here a week myself though.

I saw one of the docs at work today - the one who diagnosed my mmc and did my erpc and told him I was pg, he was really sweet and gave me a hug and said how pleased he was. He is going to scan me in EPU next Wed when I will be 7+5. He offered to scan me today but said he was unlikely to be able to find a hb only see a sac so it prob wouldn't make me feel any better which is true so I declined.

mumface (and anyone else whose worried!) I rarely listen to hb at 14 weeks as it often takes ages to find the baby. If a mum really wants it I will but always warn them it will prob take me 5-10 mins to find.

bye for now - got to go and make dinner

dan sadly there is a reason why dental treatment is free during pg and for 12 months after (but ?only for nhs dentists) - it's because having babies makes your teeth fall out. I had an abscess on top of a root filling 2 weeks after ds1 was born, didn't respond to Abs I was on for mastitis, drainage at dental hospital wasn't possible until following week, I was so desperate I nearly let dh pull it out during the night, only he said something about pushing it in before you pull it..., didn't like the sound of that so dentist pulled it out the next morning. Oh what a relief. My subsequent bridge fell out 4 years later (after eating cold choc from the fridge), dh now thinks I look like a could be selling lucky heather . Was just going to get a dental implant when got pg again.

Welcome to all new faces, would echo what has been said about early scans, wait until 7 weeks if poss otherwise you don't really know where you're up to if earlier scan shows no hb. Good luck

I am so happy to know that so many people are active on the forum so i know people are always around to reassure etc... well this morning woke up to a flash of red blood.. only 2 though once as soon as i woke up and then another just before when i went to the toilet.. am booked in for another private scan (I hate EPUs!!) at 12 so i will know by then whats going on!! please everyone keep everything crossed... I cant bare the thought of this being miscarriage number 2!!!!

I dont know how you all do it until the 12 weeks and beyond! i am one big nervous reck!

Mumface.. i am so sure that she wouldnt have said she heard anything at all if she didnt hear it! Although would be reassuring to know if you could read in your own notes! I am yet to experience all that.. i am sure i'll be extremely nervous though!

Napa are you a midwife/medical person! If so excellent Im sure we'll all be requiring your expertise, whilst of course listening to your fears etc.. GOOD LUCK with scan! I had 1st at 7+4 and was amazing!

ashleigh fingers crossed!

ashleighbeee All the best for your scan. Hope that all will be well and will be holding thumbs for you. lets us know how it goes...