pregnant with twins, considering termination. please help.

[moaninhore]

I have 3 wonderful children and a wonderful dh.
he didn't want any more children and now we are 10 weeks pregnant with twins. as time as gone on I realise how serious he is about not wanting them and I am now seriously thinking about aborting to save our marriage. I don't hate him as he is just being honest and I would not want to resent him forever.
I would really appreciate advice from anyone who has been in this position or who has known of anyone who has.
thanks.

hello,
it's so nice to be getting excited, thankyou so much for the lovely messages!
point very much taken re the snip...I will book the appointment myself!
dh is still a bit wobbly but is obviously letting it start to sink in now. we will have weekly counclling and it will be hard but for the first time today I have been starting to think about the babies being here and of all the fun, joys and mischief they will bring, it's absolutly lovely to be thinking about them!
I will def join the multples threads, thanks for the invite, just need a bit more time to play on the laptop!
I will keep this thread updated, or maybe start a new one with a nicer title. I find it hard to imagine what I was even thinking considering a termination
I'm so so greatful for the advice x x

(for those who asked, dh's childhood involved 2 siblings, 1 half sibling and 2 sets of step siblings -another 5.. lots of house moves, moving between his parents houses several times and lots of times with very little money. he was the eldest boy. although he was very loved and cared for, the councellor helped him to see that so many of his fears about these babies were related to how he felt as a child and that his children have a very different life to him as a child. there was more but it's hard to sum up really. she started to make him see that he might be giving too much of himself over to his work too and that she felt he was desperate to have more to give his children, time and energy really, and that his current work is not allowing him to be the person/father/husband he wants to be. -it's not like he is fullfilling any ambition or great career either, he feels quite trapped but she thought he was trapping himself!!
he took it well and agreed with her but is understandably a bit shakey now )

Moanin - yes please keep us in the loop. You are right about a new thread and I think it will make much better reading than a lot of other current threads. I had been away from MN for about a year and I'm glad to be back after reading your thread.

thankyou bienchen, welcome back

new thread here for those that wanted updates x