Partner sent me an eviction email

[Rhiannon1997]

My partner sent me an eviction email today at 07:30 I am 25 weeks pregnant living at his home. I straight away contact my local council on a Sunday morning for immediate help within an hour he sent round one of his family members to kick me out there and then. (He was out all night on a bender with his friends hasn't even come home) I've managed to booked myself a hotel for the night with the money I have left but completely broken and upset that my perfect happy family has been broken apart and now having to manage pregnancy on my own and no where to live. I don't have any family or friends around me and just feel completely abandoned. He does this all the time goes missing for days because he's gone on the sesh. I know I should want to walk away but the thought of doing pregnancy on my own kills.

What sort of father do you think this man would make? Doing it on your own is infinitely better than with some vile, abusive prick who doesn’t give a shit about you or your unborn child. Present yourself to the council tomorrow. Go to the Citizens advice bureau to find out what financial support you can get. You are worth more than a man who is such a coward he sends an (also vile) family member to do his dirty work. Do NOT put this man on your child’s birth certificate.

I'm so sorry 😞. Do you have a job you need to stay in the area for?. If not, can you go and stay with family?. Will they be supportive?. You will get through this🙏🏿🤗❤

You would be doing it alone regardless. Drink & drugs are more important to this man. He is a deadbeat.

He does this all the time goes missing for days because he's gone on the sesh. I know I should want to walk away but the thought of doing pregnancy on my own kills.

With a man like this, you qre better off doing it without him. It's better you move away from the area so his input will be minimal and rebuild a stable life for you are your baby.

Run for the hills. If I had my time again I would take the hardest days of motherhood alone rather than live with an abusive drinker again. If you stay you'll end up doing it alone anyway but with added complication of a unreliable selfish prick to manage as well as a baby. Good news is babies grow into glorious adults. The man child won't. Wishing you lots of luck.

This wasn’t a perfect happy family though really. It can’t have been if he can just turf you out on the street whilst pregnant. I suspect he has done you and your child a massive favour.

Its hard but you need to prioritise building a stable home for your child away from this idiot.

I have left but completely broken and upset that my perfect happy family has been broken apart … He does this all the time goes missing for days because he's gone on the sesh.

You never had a perfect happy family as your partner has always been an arsehole. You need to see your gp too and ask for a referral to therapy before you either go back to this arsehole once he has established that you understand he has complete control over you, or you move on to the next man who will likely be just as bad.

do you work full time? Will you have maternity leave?

I have a little part time job in the area but unfortunately don't qualify for maternity pay as only just started it. I don't have any family or anything :(

Do you have family elsewhere or none at all?

It was a perfect happy family but, also, he goes missing all the time and gets family members to personally evict you when you're pregnant?

Well done for seeing you need to leave him, he will be no good if he goes out drinking all the time anyway.

I bet folding money that he waited until you were after the abortion time limit in purpose before doing this.

Consult a family law solicitor now to find out how you can best protect yourself from this abuser.

What a prick! Are you sure you had to leave? If you’re married or on the tenancy he has no right to kick you out it’s your place as much as his

Are you still in hospital or did you return to his house when you were discharged, despite him saying he had changed the locks.

What advice did your midwife give you last week ? did you speak to the duty social worker as advised ? what advice did s/he give if so.

‘Perfect happy family’ is most certainly not the description I would use, after reading your first post. Sorry you’re going through this, though.

This you absolutely need to contact the midwife team

You can do this on your own, far better than staying with this lowlife who will continue to abuse you and disrupt your life. You need to put your energy into getting help from wherever you can. Build a support network, look for others in a similar situation. It'll be tough at first but I guarantee it will get easier and you won't regret it.

He has a drink problem.. Walk away as fast and far as you can. No dc needs a df like him.
Your surname and don't put him on the bc. He can convince a judge he gets PR and access.
Fill out a UC claim today.
Present at the local authority tomorrow..

Oh lovey you were on your own anyway.

You are saving your baby from living with an abusive alcoholic. It’s heartbreakingly hard to find a new home now, but it would be a hundred times harder with a newborn while recovering from birth.

Ask your midwife how you can access the help you need- emergency housing, access to food banks, benefits.

Do not allow this man to be present at the birth. He has no rights and his presence would be traumatic for you.

Do not allow him to register as the child’s father, as this will give him parental responsibility, and he will spend the baby’s entire childhood using his status to behave abusively towards you. He could go to court for PR, but there’s a good chance he won’t bother.

Give the baby your surname.

Breastfeed if you can- if he tries to enforce contact, breastfeeding is a factor which family services/ courts take into account.

Go through CMS to ensure he pays maintenance as soon as the baby is born.

Is there another thread. There's no mention of her being in hospital?

this is her 3rd thread.

one she posted from her hospital bed needing help.

Yes when I got discharged from hospital I stayed in a hotel for 2 nights stupidly went back to his house and everything was perfect once again and yes I know I was stupid for believing "I will change" it's gone another weekend and he has not actually sent me an eviction notice and got his cousin to move my stuff out. I know I'm an idiot for believing it and going back.

Why would he wait to after the abortion limit? Bizarre comment

What were you doing before this?

You say “in the area” so I’m wondering if you moved to be with this man/have been isolated by him?

Seek help fork your midwife, you should be a priority for services due to your pregnancy.

Yes I was in hospital last weekend due to stress and signs of early labour they kept me in for two days and then I spent 2 nights in a hotel my partner now ex came to visit and stayed with me and bought me back to his home and I believed all the lies once again (yes I know I'm silly and stupid) but all I want is the life he promised when he's sober.