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Partner sent me an eviction email

212 replies

Rhiannon1997 · 07/06/2026 13:21

My partner sent me an eviction email today at 07:30 I am 25 weeks pregnant living at his home. I straight away contact my local council on a Sunday morning for immediate help within an hour he sent round one of his family members to kick me out there and then. (He was out all night on a bender with his friends hasn't even come home) I've managed to booked myself a hotel for the night with the money I have left but completely broken and upset that my perfect happy family has been broken apart and now having to manage pregnancy on my own and no where to live. I don't have any family or friends around me and just feel completely abandoned. He does this all the time goes missing for days because he's gone on the sesh. I know I should want to walk away but the thought of doing pregnancy on my own kills.

OP posts:
Bigcat25 · 08/06/2026 11:19

0Thatsplenty0 · 08/06/2026 09:56

That's one of the shittiest comments I've ever read on here and I've been here for years. What is wrong with you?

Seriously.

Andouillette · 08/06/2026 14:43

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 07/06/2026 19:51

If he actually didn't want a child, he'd have turned the abuse up well before the time limit, to coerce her into having an abortion.

Yup, can confirm. My horrible first husband tried every day until the abortion limit to get me to abort. I did not, and I left him 2 years later, the day he started being vile to my DD.

ProperPaddy1 · 08/06/2026 15:41

RoseField1 · 08/06/2026 07:11

She doesn't actually understand or accept that she made mistakes and contributed to the situation she's in.

Where is your evidence for that statement?

ProperPaddy1 · 08/06/2026 15:46

TheABC · 08/06/2026 01:19

What is done, is done.
Yes, you've made unwise choices.
But you were not the bastard who promised the earth to their partner, then kicked them out when they were absolutely vulnerable.

OP, work on securing a home for you and your child. Ask for help from your midwife, council and GP. And make sure you never again believe a man without financial and legal backup.

This is rock bottom. Bu you've dodged a bullet - he was never going to give up his party life, and at best you would be raising a child with a resentful, disengaged alcoholic. It will get better.

Please go and do some reading on abuse before posting here again, please.

ProperPaddy1 · 08/06/2026 15:47

SnappyQuoter · 07/06/2026 22:34

Neither of you sound fit to be parents. All the drinking and partying (aka drug taking), with a guy you barely knew, get pregnant and think it’s a good idea to have a baby? If you would have aborted if he said so then why didn’t you abort for your own good? No one would choose that man as a partner for a child. Your good relationship was 4 months old and based on drinking and partying.

Poor kid. I hope you get your life in order and make better decisions going forward. Starting with leaving this guy and never going back.

Inappropriate.

RoseField1 · 08/06/2026 15:49

ProperPaddy1 · 08/06/2026 15:41

Where is your evidence for that statement?

The post where she said how have i made a mistake was my first clue

ForSnappySwan · 08/06/2026 17:25

ProperPaddy1 · 08/06/2026 15:41

Where is your evidence for that statement?

Everything she's posted?

VioIetMoon · 08/06/2026 17:42

This smells like bull.

" I lost my family way before he was in my life through a very toxic upbringing so cutting them off was the best for me "

" Ive always lived in my area but had a massive family argument and family issues due to being with this guy who is 11 years older and none of family will talk to me "

Which is it? Because it seems like you cant get your story straight

Avemariamacchesney · 08/06/2026 18:09

VioIetMoon · 08/06/2026 17:42

This smells like bull.

" I lost my family way before he was in my life through a very toxic upbringing so cutting them off was the best for me "

" Ive always lived in my area but had a massive family argument and family issues due to being with this guy who is 11 years older and none of family will talk to me "

Which is it? Because it seems like you cant get your story straight

Could the guy who is 11 years older be a different guy, and that rift was years ago? Didnt sound like it but would make more sense. An 11 year age gap at 28 isn't that huge. Could understand if she was in her teens.

LadyWhistledownsSocietyPapers · 08/06/2026 19:22

OP I feel for you, I know how easy it is to fall for an abusive man who promises you the world.

But while that was not your fault, you absolutely do need to learn from this. Now you know what people are capable of, you need to work on your self esteem and ensure you and your baby are never in this situation again. You now can see how this horrible man duped, so there are no excuses for you go down this route again.

Ask for help from SS. Only baby and you matter now. I really hope he hasn't changed his mind this morning and you've gone back, because this scenario will never change. Except it will also be your innocent child getting thrown out while he's on drugs.

I still cannot believe that not only does he think it's completely fine to throw a pregnant woman out, one who is carrying his own baby, but that his family are just as bad and quite happy to do the same. What if you didn't have the means to stay in a hotel? Doesn't sound like any one of them cared.

Seek help so you're never in this position again. And I say this as someone who also made similar choices due to low self esteem in my late teens. But I learned from them. What he's done is not your fault, but if you carry on while you've got a baby to protect then it is. Want better for this baby than the toxic family you had.

You can do it! And there are services to help and support on here. I know not all comments have been supportive, but those people are just worrying about the baby.

ProperPaddy1 · Yesterday 07:54

RoseField1 · 08/06/2026 15:49

The post where she said how have i made a mistake was my first clue

Please before posting again go and do some research on abuse. Please.

JellyBeanSpring25 · Yesterday 12:20

OP @Rhiannon1997- did you manage to see anyone from the council yesterday? Or get any advice/help elsewhere? I do hope so.

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