Fabulous 40+ and Proud: Mum and Mums to be Part 2

[Kaz1967]

Ok we have talked to the end of the topic so here is a new one

[hedgepig]

pwbird poor ds. can he keep anything down at all? diarolyte is blooming horrid, maybe some sugary (flatish )lemonade and crisps (for the salt) would do the same thing much more yummy . Just as well I'm not a medic I think.

[jeanjeannie]

Awwwww pwcbird poor little DS....projectile vomiting is no fun. i didn't believe it happened until I saw it with my own eyes....thankful not one of mine. Horrid, horrid....and all over the pram too....not what you need. Good luck getting the fluids down him.

johnworf I know you're gonna say 'NO'...but can i swap with you?? I've done the OK quiz and my perfect guy is Jake Gyllenhaal. Not that I'm ungreatful....but I don't want him..I want George. If it doesn't work out between you guys....could you send him onto High Wycomeb? Cheers chuck x

Gosh reading OK (which a mate bought round last night cos I'm not getting out much!) makes me feel so old. Who the hell are these 'celebs'..? Although have to say, Brad & Ang's little one is desperately gorgeous. But hey, those two were never going to have ugly kids were they!

[mrsboogie]

hedgepig - well, I have put 18 August down but I have warned them that it depends on the weather. I have to walk or cycle to work - so it depends on how long I can continue to heave myself onto a bike or whether my ankles and bladder will permit walking any distance in the later stages.

My boss told me that I should "go right to the wire" so that I can have all the time after with baby. He proudly said that his wife did this until she was carted off to hospital with high blood pressure.

Yeah - nice idea in principle but ehmm I might not risk it for the sake of a couple of weeks at the end.

[johnworf]

jeanjeannie I think I can manage a night with Jake but I'm afraid that George is for keeps He just WON'T take no for an answer. I'm knackered!

Poor pwcbird Really hope your DS is much better very soon It's awful when the LO's are poorly.(I go into worry overdrive when it happens). Sending him a hug anyway

mrsboogie how on earth do you manage to swing your leg over a bike to ride it? I could just about manage to hike my pants down to go to the loo before I had Katherine - bearing in mind I only got to 24 weeks too - without having to have a lie down afterwards. I think your boss needs publicly flogging for his crass comment btw.

I think the nurses on the neonatal unit are going to give me a tshirt with the words 'demanding pain in the arse' written across it. Hey, I deserve it. I pitch up with my long list of demands and I can see them tutting and rolling their eyes......don't care. Heck, I think I've found a new hobby....Nurse Worrying

[mrsboogie]

the bike is not a problem at the mo - I haven't actually got much of a bump at 27 weeks - only my flab is pushed out more than usual. I genuinely think that if I wasn't *cough (four stone overweight) ahem you wouldn't be able to tell I am pg yet. I can still even lie on my stomach (although that worries me a bit)I think that it is because I am 5ft 10 and have short legs and a long body - so there's lots of internal room for the little fella to fit into still.

When I had my son over 20 yrs ago I was very thin to start with and put on no weight over the pg and had a small bump. I remember lying in bed an hour after he was born and looking at my perfectly flat stomach thinking - oh good I didn't realise my stomach would go straight back to normal after the birth. Something tells me I won't be saying that this time :O

some days when he is being quiet in the morning I can wake up and lie there and forget that I am pregnant.

[disneystar]

just looked at your new pic JW

wow she is so beautifull !!!!

18 days to go

wish it would happen on its own driving me nuts here

[jeanjeannie]

johnworf just spied your new Katherine pix....Awwwwwww...little porker!!! SOoooooo cute ...kiss, kiss, kiss her fat little cheeks (face or bum I don't care!) for me

Riding a bike when pregnant....NO..wrong Oh I have NO sense of balance and that's when I'm not preggie. DP is a BIG, BIG cycling fan...mountain bike stuff and all that. I got a bike...so I could join him for a charity bike ride...and...Oh Dear...I got preggie YEAH, get out clause. And then I got preggie AGAIN! Oh, yes, anything to avoid that bicycle Shame I don't want any more kids....I could keep avoiding it for ages!

[hedgepig]

mrsB it must be all the cycling keeping you toned and there is nothing up with being 4 stones over weight................all the best people are (me too) . I'm actually getting some appetite back finally at 24 weeks although was sick again this morning boo.
Your boss needs a kick up the doo dar! Part of maternity leave is to rest before the birth,I'm planing on going a month before which I did last time and it worked fine. The only reason to stay longer as far as I can see is if it is a very hot summer and since the office has air con it will be more comfy there than at home.

JW Katherine looks huge in the new pic. Glad she is doing well.

[johnworf]

Actually ladies that camera shot is very misleading. She's still very tiny. She's weighing 1lb 14oz this morning. Dunno what length she is right now but it isn't much.

I shall take another pic over the weekend with something in the background to compare the size to Clue: the hat she's wearing is about 3inches across.

She is rather cute though but I am very biased!

[hedgepig]

but comparerd to 3 weeks ago she is so much bigger and looks more pink and healthy. How is DH? is he communicating any better?

[Emmsy1]

Hello girls, sorry haven't been on for a while!
I will be 22 completed weeks tomorrow, and for those who are interested my scan and family are on my profile page.
I like you Kaz have suffered from depression and anxiety, diagnosed when I was 16, and have been on many different medications over the years.(have managed to remain in paid employment for the last 20 years as a civil servant) but have had a career break for the last 5 years. I will return to work next June when my career break finishes. How the hell I have managed to stay in work for so long, when some people know you are occasional very vulnerable is beyond me, people can be so deliberately intimidating when they know you are at your lowest, Wish I could control my inabilities on my own, but can't!(what will be, will be!) Maybe, I am stronger than I know!
I have been very excited since my 20+ week scan last week! Have put a deposit down on a strawberry coloured 'Quinny buzz' pram/pushchair and a deep red maxi cosi car seat, also bought a moses basket,baby bath,baby changing mat and box,bottles and blanket set!

[mrsboogie]

Emmys1 - I am a civil servant also - I hope you find that things have improved in the time you have been away. I am the manager of a person who has serious long term mental and depressive problems. Not easy for other of us.

jw I don't care what you say Katherine looks like she has come on fabulously - she is looking pink and plumped up.

[johnworf]

Awww thanks ladies. Yeah her skin has now 'kerotinised' so it's much more like ours and not the skinned rabbit look anymore She's filling out as well now that's she's guzzling my milk.

Re my DH it's kinda resolved itself really. I don't have the energy to argue anymore but the crux of the arguing was my deep rooted fear that Katherine would be very ill or worse As the weeks progress this is easing now that she's off all the drips and down to the main hard core of help she needs.

I/we are trying to plan at least one occasion a week where we get some time together rather than it shared with any children. Great in theory, in reality it's just a Utopian dream

Meh

[rosebury]

Morning ladies glad you all apppear well especially Katherine.

Mrsboogie are you on the october thread? as there are afew of us myself Emmys1 and hedgepig is there anyone else here due around that time it does appear tha there was a lot of good sex happening back around the new year.

My new nursing chair arrived yesterday it is fab I spent a very comfortable evening in it wocking away watching tv.

[mrsboogie]

yeah - skinned rabbit - it sounds ok when you say it, but she does look a lot more like an actual baby now. so far she must have progressed about as well as she could have. Top of the class weee Katherine!

good stuff re the DH relations - you'd have to be a robot not to be affected in some way with all that going on! who else you going to take the stress out on? even if you don't manage the "you time" now at least you're keeping the idea alive until one of these days it becomes a reality :O

[rosebury]

sorry Emmsy1 I just copied your name from mrsboogie but she had made an error I thought it looked odd when I wrote it.

[FloriaTosca]

JW katherine looks fantastic! She is doing so well.And I'm so happy for you and Dh resolving your issues....that is at least one pressure off...and I'm sure the nurses can cope with a few demands, it won't be the first time and certainly not the last, it is probably a good sign that you are feeling more positive and confident...
...sorry not to respond to all of you...I've got to get ds ready for bounce&rhyme at the library this morning and baby massage this afternoon.."sir's" social calendar is considerably more full than mine!! (jw..you'll be doing all this with K. before you know it!!)

[Kaz1967]

johnworf your concerns over Katherine are only natural and people deal with them in different ways we had one Mum who came to the hospital popped in for 2 mins then would not come back even with her husband although she was still in the hospital. SO many nurses were making comments and some said she was lazy I had a quiet word with her husband and she was scared that she was going to start to love this baby then she was going to die and she would not cope (she was a 25 weeker too if I remember rightly she had an on-line blog I can find if you are interested). I remember Dad and I encoraging her Mum to have her out for her first cuddle and how when she was having that first kangaroo cuddle (time chosen very carefully so it was really quiet) seeing her smile for the very first time she was a different women when holding her baby. Abigail did not have the easiest of times with is but her Mum coped wonderfully and with some extra support she turned into the most wonderful and positively blooming Mum I have seen it was hard to believe it was the same woman as the first few weeks. Saw her when Abigail was 2 and they were both was amazing confident I was so proud to have had such a small part in that

As for getting some special time with DH got for it hun even if it only works out to be once a month in the end keeping that relationship going is important for you both, you are sharing something really special and really stressful it's a lot easier if you have someone who is doing that journey too

[hedgepig]

rosebury - nursing chair sounds great. They had them in the hospital when I had ds and they were so comfy as I sat ther in the middle of the night feeding. This time I am going to perfect the art of feeding lying down to night feed if it kills me!

[mrsboogie]

rosebury - no - I'm on the September thread - although I can only keep up with one thread at a time so I hardly post on there!

[jeanjeannie]

Morning all.....Zzzzzz Just caught up on beauty sleep...as Verity decided she'd have a nap....at last! I still look rough mind you

Off to breastfeeding clinic this afternoon. Not sure what to expect...or if they'll solve the problem of her relentless feeding and no sleeping. My norks are raw and if I sit down feeding much longer I'll have pressure sores. Tried a dummy.....she vomited And she's not liking being held....it's food she wants...WHAH! Could it be that I have the slowest let down in the world and sloths making the milk in record slow time? She's putting on 2oz a day.....!So it's not like the latch is bad

But good news is...DD1 decided yesterday - at the ripe old age of 19months....To WALK Usually she does about three steps and collapses crying...but no - she's off - waddling about....proud mrsboogie and Emmsy1* gosh your jobs sound so grown up and stressful. I don't know how you manage it all...my hat goes off to you both. I'd go into meltdown down in that sort of environment.

[johnworf]

Thanks once again ladies for your understanding comments.

With regard to what you said kaz1967 it must be quite a normal thing to not want to visit sick or ill (or even early) babies in SCBU. I too didn't want to get too close to loving Katherine as I thought that if she did die then it'd hurt much more.

I'm obviously over that period now but I can fully understand it coming from other mums. It's a natural defence mechanism I suppose.

jeanjeannie good luck with your baps clinic this afternoon. I must say I hated having mine manhandled by the nurses when they were squeezing the colostrum out. Now it's just my DH I have to stop pawing me Honestly, he's so after my milk...I think he's (whispers) strange.

Anyway, off to hospital now with DS#2 and I'm hoping for big cuddles. I'm taking just a couple of gallons of milk from the freezer today now that she's guzzling lots. I opened freezer yesterday to make the evening meal and I found half a bag of frozen chips, 2 fishfingers and 66 bottles of breast milk. Wonder what they'd make out of that lot on 'Ready, Steady, Cook'?

I didn't get around to buying a nursing chair although I did look at them. They do look fab. I perch on the bed with my double pumpers whilst trying to watch BBC news and elbowing DH in the eye fending him off. I'm a human octopus I think

Hats off to multi tasking !

[mrsboogie]

jw - "I must say I hated having mine manhandled by the nurses when they were squeezing the colostrum out." what? oh.my.god. you have just put the wind up me good and proper, that sounds horrendous. a breastfeeding clinic? a what? sweet feck.
maybe its just me but I soooo will not be having any of this. If I can't manage it myself he'll have to do with formula.

In other news my LO is having his weekly quiet day today. Every single week since week 16 he has gone very very quiet around weds - fri. Today he only gives a little twitch if I eat something.Rest of the time he is completely still. sigh. I hoped that by now this would have stopped. He has been constantly active every day his week until now. 'tis an embuggerance!!

[johnworf]

hehe mrsboogie. Sorry I frightened you by what I wrote. Twas not my intention. Think I must be very accepting of being poked/pinched/prodded by anyone wearing a uniform

I must say I'm very much enjoying giving Katherine my milk and can't wait until I can give it to her the proper way. It is really worth persevering with initial teething problems. I had a few but you soon get the hang of things. I thought it was magic today when the nurse told me they'd not got enough milk defrosted for katherine so I nipped into the private room and 10 minutes later, et voila! 60 mls for ya troubles! No probs.

Wouldn't worry about LO having quiet times...I remember Katherine had a definite pattern when she was on the 'inside'. Now she's out on parole she's developed an altogether different pattern, but a pattern none the less.

[johnworf]

I meant to ask you jeanjeannie do you smell of breast milk? I seem to. Mixed with those horrid fenugreek capsules

I'll be having cats following me soon.......