Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part IV------Welcome to Knicker Checker's Anonymous

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Ooops, the thread filling up sneaked up on us didn't it!

Can't see another one yet...so here we are

Tryingnotot...that is fantastic news . I hope you can enjoy your weekend in Barcelona. I heart Barcelona and am v

Hi All!

friday - thank goodness!

Jules - really sorry you're feeling so rubbish. I hope it goes away soon. You've been through such a lot

Littlesquirt congratulations on your pregnancy My next scan is at the beginning of July too - totally crossing off the days!

kd73 Huzah for tight clothes!!

I think all is well here (you never want to presume too much do you??) I'm sure I've felt stirrings - it seems to happen mostly during the evening and intermitantly during the day.

Had my first belly grabber yesterday. She put her hand on my tummy and said 'that's not the baby - that's just podge'
felt like a bit of a let down - like I'm a fake
Doesn't help when you're already worried about not having a (proper) bump.

Also, last night, woke up with the most intense horrendous pain, low down, where I've been feeling the flutters. I had to sit up, I thought it was all over. It was worse than period cramp. It eased off after a few mins and I've felt nothing since. Was it just a ligament thing? I thought that just happened when you moved quickly?

Sorry about this lengthy post.

Barbs xx

Sorry...
just one more thing...

iliketo sleep that's exactly how i feel at times too.. like it's only ever been the 2 of us and we're fine so we're going to suddenly have this little stranger about and life will never ever be the same and OMIGOD.

But then I just think of rosy cheeks and little red welly boots and Christmas and that usually does the trick...

But even that doesn't always work

Right. promise i've finished now!!

Hi Jules!

A Braxton

ahh... frog wellies

oh..

can definitley rule out number 3

Was pretty tired so maybe that's it!!

oh well. Gosh. What must labour feel like then? Good crikey!!

Hi Barbareeba
Ronshar and Jules - I really hope you feel better soon and I know that once you do get your little bundles of joy, you will feel the overwhelming love and wonder why you ever wondered how you could feel differently! Big hugs to both of you.

Update from me - I went to register with the GP today and she was really sweet, she seemed almost as excited for me as my Mum was when I told her! LOL
I was a bit naughty and didn't mention that I had had a private early scan already and as I had missed miscarriage last year, she asked if I'd like an early scan for reassurance? Well, how could I turn down the offer of another FREE scan?? . So I have to call the hospital on Monday to book it. DH is away until the following Monday so it probably won't happen until then. So girls, I might also have a scan on Monday 16th!!!
I also have my first Midwife appointment on Monday 16th so it feels like stuff is really starting to happen now and I feel so excited!!!

Hi Littlesquirt

sorry - just had to go and make tea!

Really excited for you - so glad that things have started moving forward for you

How many weeks are you?

Jules it is so fantastic to know that I am not alone with my less then positive thoughts.
Daisy, ILTS, Goingfor3 thank you for also understanding. I never realised just how much having 2 Mc's has changed the way I think about myself and my body. I just feel like I have lost confidence in myself.

Barbareebaa, my DD1 has been saying that to me, for weeks, about the grabbing of belly. Getting me down now!. Also you may find that you get sudden sharp pains more frequently. Could be anything from Braxton Hicks to your little one having a somersault and finding the odd Kidney or ovary with a foot or hand!! If that helps at all

Ronshar & Jules (((Hugs)))

Barbarella Life will never be the same again but it will be so enriched and rewarding

Littlesquirt I'm so pleased to hear of someone having a sympathetic/helpful GP as quite a few seem to just say congratulations now off you go. Fantastic to get an early scan

Hi all, glad to have found the new thread.
I am 5.4 weeks today and still no symptoms apart from 8 strong positive pregnancy tests. I am realy axious about my early scan on Thursday 12th. I think I would be fine if I did not have a mmc last year. I had a scan at 10 weeks and they said the baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks so I needed a D&C.
Littlesquirt, I am glad your scan went well and I will ask if I can have a scan at 8 weeks to make me feel better. xx

some good news for feedmenow but I think she could use a group hug.

see her post of 18:34

hey SS. It is soo hard not to worry, but try to relax. My MCs were spontaneous so I never had that shock element of finding out at a scan, but even then I found my scans with DD scary enough. Tell the sonographer when you go what happened before; I'm sure they will treat you with kindness and compassion. Sending a few virtual {{{{{hugs}}}} your way

Thank you for your nice message. I will infofm the sonographer when I go for my scan. x

hello, ladies,

i am not pg, so don't really "belong" on this thread, however feel compelled to send positive vibes in your direction. I am so sorry for all your losses and what some of you are going through currently. I hope that there will be lovely healthy babies for all of you at some point.

I had DS1 after 3 MMC, just when I thought I would have to make my peace with not being able to carry a pregnancy beyond 12 weeks as I had been diagnosed with genetic problem with my chromosomes. Then we were blessed with DS2 just 12 months later 9 weeks premature, but now healthy 4 year old . Had further MMC, and now 10 weeks postnatal after safe arrival of DS3. I am now 42 and have not given up hoping for No4... I appreciate, I may be greedy.

The point of this ramble is: don't give up hope, be kind to yourselves and amazing things CAN happen. Grieve as long as you need and then be strong for the next pregnancy when it happens.

Lots and lots of luck and good wishes to all of you.

Oh there you all are!!! I was wondering why the other thread had gone quiet, didn't occur to me it was full, d'oh (placenta brain).

Sorry I haven't been keeping up recently but welcome to all the new knicker-checkers and may you have peaceful and uneventful pregnancies!

I've had another hospital stay following another bleed, but the good news is that the placental clot that's been sitting there since my big haemorrhage at 18 weeks is now gone. A scary experience though, I had to have steroid injections in case the bleed triggered labour (now 27 weeks) but fortunately no contractions and the worst of the bleeding was over in about 12 hours. The baby is fine, growing spot-on for dates, and the scan showed that blood flow in the placenta and through the cord is all as it should be. Still something I could have done without though...

((jules and ronshar)) I think worrying about bonding is quite normal anyway, but after a stressful pg it makes it much worse. I'm sure that the second you have your babies in your arms though everything will be fine! I was very worried about bonding with DS when I was pg with him (normal uncomplicated pg before any m/cs, medicalised birth with lots of drugs (not through choice)) but once he arrived my reaction was "holy sh*t it's a baby!" (out loud ) followed a few seconds later by a wave of overwhelming love.

I'm rambling now, must be time for bed...

fmn (((hugs))) if you are reading this. I can't even begin to imagine what the last few months have been like for you but we are all here for you when you are ready. Thinking of you xxx

Hi all, I am very pleased to tell you all I finaly have sore bb. I am 5.5 weeks today and so glad to have symptoms at last. This is starting to feel real now. Not long till my 6 week scan. 4 days from today. I will be glad to see my little pea is doing well. I must think positive. xx

Thank you lovely ladies.

I so hope that one day soon I'll be able to come back on this thread properly and enjoy the support and maybe give some support.

But be patient with me. And please don't read ahead if you are easily upset/worried, etc. At the moment, a possible mc feels like the least of my worries. I mean, I have experienced mmc myself and remember all too well how devastating it is. But it doesn't compare to what I have now experienced (and I really don't mean or want that to sound to anyone that I am trying to lessen the devastation of a mc, I'm honestly not) But this is part of the problem. I won't ever get past the "stage" again that we all aspire to. You know, if you mc before at 9+3 then once you get to 9+4 you start to feel just that little bit better and safer. It's just another part of my innocence lost.

And I know how much support and encouragement I had here before, and I hate that I don't know if I'll be able to give that again, or receive it even. I even think that knowledge of my experience would not be at all good to all you other scared-shitless mums-to-be!

Anyway, I think what I'm saying is that I know you would all have me back with open arms and I really, really appreciate that. I will come by, but slowly, slowly and I'll see how I go. xx

hi fmn......of course we understand what you are saying. We're here for you when and if you need us

Take care and wishing you all the strength in the world. {{{{hugs}}}} daisy xx

Wow CONGRATULATIONS Tjuice!!! And welcome baby Elodie! Come and tell us all about it in person when you get a chance!

Congratulations to T-juice and welcome to the world Elodie...what a lovely name

jules......how are you feeling today? I never got your e-mail