Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part IV------Welcome to Knicker Checker's Anonymous

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Ooops, the thread filling up sneaked up on us didn't it!

Can't see another one yet...so here we are

Tryingnotot...that is fantastic news . I hope you can enjoy your weekend in Barcelona. I heart Barcelona and am v

Hi, guys. Unfortunately my worries were well founded and I'm heading back to MC Avengers (again) . Hopefully I'll be back with you soon. Thanks for your warm welcome and support.

Sussexoldspot So sorry to hear your news Look after yourself and hopefully you'll be back here very soon.

Sussex - so sorry to hear that. Hope that you are being looked after and will hopefully see you back here in the near future. Take care x.

hello ladies, may I join you? Got a BFP on Friday morning and still trying to get used to it all. And trying not to get too excited / happy just in case. Had a MMC back in March at 11.5 weeks, baby had died two weeks earlier. Truly think mc's are one of the worst things that can happen to someone. Guess its still looming large in my mind.

Should I do another preg test to be on the safe side? (Zero symptoms, except more CM and no appetite. I'm just 2 days overdue now). Last time I did about 5 tests... my wee stick line came up stronger this time but still scared its not a sticky one.

Not told anyone in RL yet - except DH of course, so nice to be 'real' for a bit with other people - ie you guys!

Still recovering from reading wheelybug's story re having knickers pulled down...!

hello everyone may I join please

I used to post here sometime last year, under my real MN name. then got pregnant and miscarried last December.

I am now nearly 6 wks and frankly finding it very hard to cope.

I have a 3yrs old dd and have had 4mc 3 pre dd.

this time I Knew straight away I was pg and felt nausea from 4-5 wks but not so much this week, it seems symptoms have deserted me.

I seem to just be waiting for the bleeding, have stopped exercising which actually keeps me relaxed and have become super emotional about it all

I expect most of you know exactly what I mean
thanks for reading

Thanks for the welcome everyone, and hello to Wheelybug, nauseous and missEdith.

MissEdith - I know exactly what you mean. I too felt nauseous right at the start, but it stopped at around 5.5 weeks. I'd completely convinced myself that as I didn't feel pg any more it was all over, and was expecting to get bad news at my scan on Friday. Much to my astonishment, all was well, and they confirmed I was 7.5 weeks. Since then, I've started to feel pg again (could it be all in the mind?!). Obviously it is still early days for me, and there is still plently of time for things to go wrong again, but it does go to show that disappearing symptoms doesn't necessarily mean bad news.....

YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY WHEELY and FLOSSIE so so so so pleased for you both - can't tell you how much I am grinning . ..
popsy dashes off to pull some party poppers and guzzle virtual champers on wheely and flossies behalf... (wasn't it beckle who said pink champers is as good as raspberry leaf )

Congrats to nauseous and MissEdith - am sure I know you in your old name but am unable to guess what with pregnancy brain having taken away all my faculties

Hi Gilly - hope you are okay and getting lots of help? Keep looking out for you - we'll be bugaboo ladies on upper street together one day I know it!!

Sussex Really sorry about your news - is so hard to know what to say except we all know how utterly shit it is - fingers and toes crossed that we see you back here soon!!!!

21 days to go...I am now counting in days not week YIIIIIKES and YAAAAAY. Have done the last of the shopping and packed my hospital bag so feeling much more ready (as I'll ever be IYKWIM?).

5 days left in the office - am finally able to see the light at the end of the tunnel - bring it on!!!

Have a good Sunday everyone

Great news Gilly - can't believe time has flown - still feel so connected to the early 07 MC gang - am thinking of you all the time. Glad you are on the list for IVF - you must be tearing your hair out? I still think about that year a lot and cannot believe I am now here - really thought would never be me and now look - swollen heffer waddling around with sausage fingers and bulbous nose . Didn't know you had a new job - did you leave the BM? Am sending virtual fertility-type dust to you and your DP (though with my record might not be as effective as I'd like ).
Loads of Love
pops xxxxxxx
p.s. let's hope you have same sods law as me and get PG right after starting new job (no maternity leave but I'd give it up again for a minipops anyday )

Forgot to say welcome and congratulations to Wheely and Flossie yesterday I remember both of you from the MC Avengers thread (and also the March 08 AN thread?) and I'm so pleased you're both here. Wishing you uneventful pregnancies from now on
Welcome also Nauseous and MissEdith. The early days really are difficult and it's a case of taking it one day at a time and not paying too much attention to any symptoms or lack of them. MissEdith Do you think an early scan would reassure you? If so can you get referred? I found it really helpful but I know not everybody does. As far as exercising is concerned (I'm a gym freak ) could you just do gentle exercise? Swimming or yoga? If it helps your state of mind and takes your mind off things for a bit then that will help. I can understand your fear though - I immediately changed my programme as soon as I found out I was pg as I wasn't going to take any chances. Didn't feel I could stop completely though because exercise really helps me to get rid of stress etc.
Nauseous I wouldn't do another pg test personally but it's up to you. A line is a line after all! Sending you lots of sticky bean thoughts. I also suffered a mmc and it sucks
Gillydaffodil I remember you from the MC Avengers thread too. Fingers crossed your treatment works - let us know how you get on.

hi all and many thanks for the welcome

it is comforting to know others understand how I feel and don't really mind my obsessing much

cricri about the early scan, last time my GP refused one until I started to bleed, I had booked an early one privately at 8wks but the bleeding started 3days prior
have no seen GP yet

as for exercise I run and I miss it and I know it is ok to do but but but but
not been since 4+5
maybe I should just get up early tomorrow and start with a brisk walk instead it is really doing my head in

Hello missEdith.

I feel like I'm in a similar position to you. We're both on the May 2009 thread but I haven't posted for a couple of days there.

I've got pg symptoms - sore boobs, tired, hormonal - but don't think I'll feel proper;y pg until I've seen a scan of a live baby as that's never happened for me before. I keep getting really tearful and am more than scared at the thought of something going wrong again. As for the thought of going for a scan... Well after 4 scans this year (none of which showed me what I wanted) I think I have a bit of a phobia about the ultrasound unit at my local hospital. The EPU have said they'll do me an early scan and the EPU is in a compeltely different part of the hospital to maternity and ultrasound so I think that will help. Am only 4+5 so have at least 2 weeks to wait before getting a scan. Don't know how I'm going to keep my emotions and sanity under control though...

Seahasapinkline Hi know what you mean was just saying to dh I will set the alarm in the morning grab my running shoes and go
if I don't run I will walk I just need headspace and exercise of some kind

I might call the gp sometime during the week and ask for a scan at 8wks if I get that far

am actually normally quite sane

Like to think I'm normally quite sane too! Not at the moment though!

Just had a friend phone me and tell me she's 12 weeks pg too! Am pleased for her but also a bot . She already has 1 dd. I really wanted to tell her I was pg too but just couldn't.

yes other people announcing pregnancies at this stage is hard to deal with

I had a call earlier from some newly weds and seriously I thought they had that kind of news, kept having this knot in my stomach

but not so far, am also spending Christmas around them and have cried at the thought of not being PG then as they announce the happy news
clearly allowing my mad side to take over, really must get a grip

Not at all - maybe we're having high expectations of ourselves. It's just so bizarre that I'm so scared of something that I really want.

dh is very optimistic and when I tell of my anxieties he just says 'my wife and her sunny outlook'
oh well must just get some rest I think

I suppose we do seem to expect to have it all under control emotionally but it is near impossible

just the thought of becoming a parent has its own difficulties and anxieties adding to that the trouble of pregnancy and it makes pretty potent/explosive mix

Hi - have not posted much for ages as have been but had to pop in to say huge congrats to wheely - I remember you from the Hut!

Congratulations and welcome to all other newbies too. I am in a much better mood these days as at 19 weeks I am feeling regular movements at last, so a little bit of my paranoia is dispersing.

New Thread Here

Not been posting too often here, sorry

I can see there are lots of new knocker checkers so am off to catch up.

31.5 weeks here . Nesting has kicked in and I'm on the final countdown.....roll on November

Hi, sorry i know there's a new thread so will come on over but just wanted to add to this one as Gilly so kindly posted. Have been AWOL as DH got admitted to hospital today with some bizarre infection in his leg.

Hi Gilly - long tim eno speak, thanks for the congrats - it means a lot. I so hope you are on this board soon - we conceived this little one almost exactly two years to the day that we conceived the baby we lost which has been pretty freaky. My due date is 2 days different so know a bit about the long wait. Also was slightly assisted although only clomid so I know I was lucky as was in the very back of the last chance saloon pre-ivf. Will be thinking of you (and checking up on you !) - thanks again for hte heartfelt congrats.

So sorry sussex. Take care !

Hi Popsy - I can't believe you are so almost there. How exciting. Hope you're taking care of yourself and minipops !! Will look forward to chatting to you again !

HI downbutnotout - 19 weeks great news !!

MissEdith (wonders if I 'know' you but understand need for anonymity) - I too gave up running as soon as I found out I was pg and definitely found it really hard in the early days as it was the thing that had kept me sane when I thought we were never going to ahve another one and wondered if I should run to keep me sane. But, I think I would have just worried that running would have been bad (which it isn't...). I also didn't actually feel up to running. I am now trying to get myself in to the idea of swimming as need to do something to try and keep BP on an even keel ! Good luck though - its a really really worrying trying time.

Gilly -also meant to add, interesting news re your change of job. Am pleased you got out of the BM if it was causing so much grief -sometimes these big organisations are a PITA. I did some work experience with the NT and it put me off working there !

thanks wheelybug my feelings exactly, I think I need to get back to Pilates walking and maybe an exercise video
congratulations and good luck to you

Hello, I hope you don't mind me interrupting. I'm new to Mumsnet and could really do with some advice, and you all seem so clued up... I had an evacuation (D&E) on September 11th following a missed miscarriage (I thought I was 10 wks but the baby had stopped growing at 6 wks.) My consultant is lovely but has given me very little follow-up information. I believe that there's no known increased risk of miscarriage if you happen to conceive again before completing a first 'proper' menstrual cycle, which was one of my concerns. But other things worry me: how long should you avoid exercise? Is it safe to swim again once the bleeding has stopped, as mine has, or should you wait a few weeks, and if so, how many? Are baths OK? I'd be so grateful for some answers. Sorry to barge in and thank you...

village mum this thread is finished as it has now reached the limit for posts

everyone is here

sorry for your loss. I had one of those once and I carried on as normal slowly as soon as I felt I could, I think it is personal choice really and being active is good anyway