Due 2 weeks before wedding!

[Colliedogwalker]

Hello,
I have just found out i am pregnant and due 2 weeks before my wedding. Unfortunately wedding insurance dose not help for this and alot has already been paid.
First time mother and needing to know really what its like the first two weeks after. I fully understand everyone is different but i want to be as prepared as possible.

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If you’re overdue you may not have even left hospital on that day. Can you really rearrange nothing?

What exactly will the wedding involve?

My baby was two weeks late, so I would have actually missed the wedding.

Two weeks after my baby due, I was not in a fit state to attend anything really, let alone my own wedding.

You are definitely going to need to rearrange.

My baby was 12 days late. I was discharged from hospital 2 days later. You might need to either bring your wedding forward or delay it by talking to the main suppliers very, very nicely. I'm sure people will be happy to help if they can.

You need to rearrange it. Good luck.

We are speaking with suppliers now to see if they can help but I am preparing for going ahead with things.
The wedding is hopefully a weekend chilled / relaxed event with accommodation onsite with no one else but us and some family staying onsite.

Will the wedding insurance pay out if you have the baby just before and doctor advises against the wedding? I was 14 days late so…

My babies were both early, and I recovered well. But 14 days after their due date… nope. Unless your wedding is literally a ‘turn up at the town hall and sign papers’ affair, rearrange.

I should add, I attended a training course (in person), a conference and a huge family party in the first few weeks after dd1 was born. But no way could I have had my own wedding. There's too much uncertainty about how you and baby will be. With dd2, I was back and forth to hospital several times in the early days, and then I was readmitted to hospital.

Honestly I think the idea of going ahead is utterly insane. As others have said, you might still be in hospital. I was home from hospital (baby born at 41+1) but sitting on a pillow, bleeding heavily, night sweats. Presumably it is still 7 or so months away? I'd be trying to change the date, even if I lost money.

Are you going to be happy to stay in a hotel when you're still bleeding lochia and your boobs are leaking (this will happen whether or not you're breastfeeding).

But there are other people to consider. People will have booked time off work, travel, the venue and suppliers will have got stuff in. It wouldn’t be on to let everyone else go ahead on the off chance that you might get insurance to pay out.

YABU.

Even if you make it there, you are unlikely to enjoy it.

What do you know about the days and weeks immediately post-partum?

No one will be able to tell, there are too many variables. But I think the most likely scenario is that you’ll might miss the wedding. Of course your baby might come a bit early and you might have an easy enough birth to be fit enough for a low key family thing 2-3 weeks after (I’d just have been ok for a very low key afternoon family event 3 weeks after birth) but I’m afraid it’s more likely that you’re still in hospital or just out of it and not ready for anything.

I don't know anything, this is why I am asking what is the reality of it, I will be a first time mum.

2 weeks after the straightforward and punctual birth of my son I was just managing to nip out on very short errands. Still bleeding and wearing big pads, milk squirting everywhere when feeding, battling with a bad latch, absolutely stank of BO because that's also normal, obviously sweating too.....complete emotional wreck with crazy rages (poor DH). Blood pressure up and down, mad from lack of sleep.

Attending a wedding wouldn't have been remotely possible, let alone being in my own.

You need to change plans OP!!!!

I was in an absolute state 2 weeks after my first baby's due date. I could barely leave the house let alone get married.

• There is a very high chance your baby will be born after your due date. You may then also spend a few days in hospital.
• You have no idea how the birth will be - what if you have a c-section? Forceps? A serious tear or episiotomy? You are 50/50 going to end up with one of the above
• After birth, recovery from the above can be slow. You will bleed for a long time, maybe several weeks. Your pelvic floor will have had a tough time, and walking and standing may be difficult due to stitches.
• Breastfeeding is not easy to get started, and it may take you a few weeks to feel confident.

How do you fancy having your wedding photos taken whilst wearing sweat pants and a baggy T shirt?

I had an emg c section and was still quite uncomfortable 2 weeks after! What if you go over by 10/14 days and THEN need a section!? God I can’t imagine I really hope you can move stuff!!

Cut your costs now - don’t throw good money after bad

It’s not something I would even consider as an option. It needs to be rescheduled

Please tell us your wedding dress isn’t white!

Honestly OP, this is a dreadful idea. Full on sunk cost fallacy.

Cut your losses.

I can’t see how this will be possible? The only thing I can think of is to have a planned section as then you will know your date. But it’s a terrible reason to choose one, I’m not sure most medical professionals would be on board with it, and I still felt awful two weeks after my section.

Besides this with a two week old baby I was uncomfortable and sore, very sleep deprived, still figuring out feeding etc, still bloated/carrying a lot of baby weight, upset and teary due to hormones and sleep deprivation. Basically I didn’t know which way was up for about 2 months!

If you've just found out you're pregnant then I'm assumig that you're due in early summer next year? I think notwithstanding wedding insurance, I suspect that a lot of suppliers etc, with this much notice, and for this reason, would be willing to rearrange the date. ie they won't pay you back any of your costs, but will agree to swap to a later or earlier date to accomodate this. You need to reach out asap because no, getting married two weeks after your due date is completely and totally unrealistic.