Due 2 weeks before wedding!

[Colliedogwalker]

Hello,
I have just found out i am pregnant and due 2 weeks before my wedding. Unfortunately wedding insurance dose not help for this and alot has already been paid.
First time mother and needing to know really what its like the first two weeks after. I fully understand everyone is different but i want to be as prepared as possible.

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The wedding is hopefully a weekend chilled / relaxed event

You can have a chilled / relaxed wedding, or you can be a first time mum to a very newborn. You cannot do both.

No chance, rearrange!

I had a third degree tear with my first born and couldn’t move comfortably for a long time, let alone the bleeding and trying to establish BF. She was also late.

My second born was a c section and although he was much more chilled, and sleepy than my first born recovery after a c section is tough.

I was an emotional, swollen and smelly mess with both.

If you want to enjoy your day then postpone.

I felt like a horse had kicked me in the vagina for 2 weeks after birth and experienced baby blues as many do. I would not go ahead in your shoes. Besides babies are expensive, so you will still save technically by not going ahead.

I was piping my baby out 2 weeks after my due date! I think you’re being silly still going ahead with that date. Either pull it forward, or delay it.

My SIL went into labour on the morning of her wedding.
So as someone who was involved in cancelling the wedding, taking all her beautiful flowers off tables, putting chairs away etc I would say reschedule and enjoy the wedding with your baby when you feel able

Okay, just to give an alternative, I was 3 weeks early with my first so in your shoes id have been 5 weeks PP. I actually attended a wedding less than 3 weeks PP (csection) and lasted until midnight. I was dancing, I just needed to sit down lots. Depending on your hospital trust they will have different policies, but I do know people who have asked for an induction at 40W if they havent gone into labour by then. Talk to your trust as they can advise on those policies. Unfortunately no 2 people will experience PP thr same so it isn't a lot of help.
But massive congratulations on both the wedding and the baby 😊

I’d do everything possible to rearrange and if not I think I’d be asking for a section so you at least know that baby would have arrived and be 2/3 weeks old!

I think it's really difficult to tell because everyone's experience is different. I can tell you after my 1st baby there's absolutely no way I'd have been able to have a wedding! I was still bleeding pretty heavily, had mastitis, fanny stitches that were very uncomfortable and was mainly in pj's crying and breastfeeding. I appreciate not everyone will have felt the same but I wasn't even going out, let alone getting dressed up for a wedding!

What if your baby ends up in NICU? I really hope this doesn't happen but this happened to me and my baby and we were in hospital for 10 days. You really need to change your wedding date. Good luck with it all

2 weeks post partum after my section i had a massive infection and was bed ridden. You wont even be signed off by doctor as fit until 6 weeks. And you cant have sex so no real wedding night try push it out or bring it forward a month.

O goodness! If I had read stories like these I never would have had a baby. First was late so I would have had to go to the wedding in the morning and have him in the afternoon! Other two were early. Yes I was a bit sore, bleeding and breast milk but on the whole I could do pretty much everything I wanted to do. I went to a wedding, a big one, when one was two weeks old, it was lovely. I would not have had any difficulty with a relaxed wedding of my own BUT in view of the fact baby may be late I think you need to bring forward or postpone. Enjoy your pregnancy and your wedding x

I found out I was pregnant after I'd booked our wedding but I was only about 14 weeks gone by the time it came around, plus we eloped so it didn't matter anyway. There's a lot of uncertainty when baby will show up! My dates got adjusted for my first and she ended up being a week early (although I'm adamant she was a week late). They said I could go home about 6 hours after having her, I didn't though, I went the next morning. I felt pretty good afterwards and I think I could have managed going out for the day after 2 weeks but not my own wedding unless someone else has sorted out everything and all I had to do was turn up! The other thing is you will be tired. Tiredness like you've never experienced before! Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

All 3 of my babies were early and I wouldn't have managed a wedding at 2 weeks past their due dates. Leaking milk, bleeding very heavily, difficulty even walking normally after the 2 c sections.

I'm currently 4 weeks post partum and still wouldn't want to do a wedding tbh. I'd do my best to rearrange. Congratulations though!

Bear in mind your due date may be changed at your first scan (it sounds as though you have self calculated if you have just found out?)

If it is still very early days, you may need to also think about the possibility of miscarriage, and how you would feel if this happens after you rearrange the wedding.

That being said, agree with others that a wedding so close to the due date just won’t work and will cause more stress than any money you are subject to lose. Even if you deliver on time and felt well after, you don’t know how baby will be on the day - they may be cluster feeding if you are breastfeeding or you may still be overwhelmed with feeding challenges. Even if bottle fed, your baby will be so precious and your hormones so out of whack that you might not want to be away from them for a single minute x

Omg no!! I was 4 days late with first (and late for next 3!) and my first was an emergency c-section. I think I stayed in for 5 days because it was under general anaesthetic and traumatic. My boobs were rock hard melons pretty much at that stage!! Blood everywhere, very little sleep, stitches that needed looking at by the health visitor every day for about a week. I would have looked liked I’d been run over by a truck! I am extremely relaxed as a person, went on holiday with 6 week old, took newborn to a wedding, got married when 5 months pregnant with my 4th, not a bloody chance you’d be ready even if you were bang on due date. Honestly you have to postpone!!

I was horseriding 3 weeks after giving birth and back working 6 weeks later, so it very much depends on your attitude. I had to deal with my horses and get on with it, stitches and all.

If you're pretty fit and maintain your fitness level through your pregnancy you have a better liklihood of being OK for it. However it could be an expensive error, so putting it off for a couple more weeks would be better.

But even then she has no way of knowing if she will have a placid sleepy new born that is happy to sleep for several hours between feeds or a colic-y perma screaming velcro baby that won't give her a moments peace to say her vows/ sign the register let alone get ready.

This is bonkers!

What's going to happen if you're busy giving birth at the time, you can't send a proxy in your place.

You need to rearrange. I wouldn’t have even gone to someone else’s wedding as a guest two weeks pp, not a chance in hell I’d have got married myself at that point.

I had an emergency section 4 days overdue. I was in hospital for a week and had a really unpleasant recovery. Boobs were leaking for everywhere and my stomach took weeks to go back down. I couldn’t wear anything but enormous granny pants and leggings three sizes too big.

I’m sorry but it is not ‘down to attitude’ and riding a horse three weeks after birth is for most women going to be a hazard to their recovery. Particularly if they have stitches…!

The fittest person I know ended up with her baby under lamps in hospital for days to counter his jaundice.

You really need to rearrange OP. It will be far easier the sooner you do it.

You need to speak to the venue and services you have and move it forward it back you may have to pay a bit more for a date change but it's more than doable

I’m sorry but I agree with everyone else you need to postpone. I had two micro preemies and not a chance would I have been willing to leave them for any reason even if physically able to - which I wasn’t. Childbirth is so unpredictable. Even one of my sil who and the fastest and most straightforward birth imaginable was still swollen, bleeding and leaking milk two weeks after delivering my niece.

Quite honestly you need to postpone. Even if your baby is on time and 2 weeks old at the wedding, you’re likely still going to be bleeding, stitches, working out how to breastfeed, very little sleep and baby will be on you all the time. If baby is late then you may even still be in hospital. Baby may be having checks (me and baby were checked daily for the first week we were home). If you’ve had a c section you will be in pain and recovering from surgery.