Due 2 weeks before wedding!

[Colliedogwalker]

Hello,
I have just found out i am pregnant and due 2 weeks before my wedding. Unfortunately wedding insurance dose not help for this and alot has already been paid.
First time mother and needing to know really what its like the first two weeks after. I fully understand everyone is different but i want to be as prepared as possible.

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There is around 25% change you will have had a c section. That is major surgery. If you do have a C section it is the only time people have major and then don’t rest afterwards.

Two week after my due date with DD1 was back in hospital with spesis.

How far away is this wedding? New borns are only supposed to be in a car seat for a max of 30 mins.

I can't believe you are even considering going ahead!

Cancel, now, unless you are so early in pregnancy that there is still a high chance of miscarrying, in which case wait until you are 12 weeks along unless you will have racked up even more costs by then.

There is no way you would be able to participate in, let alone enjoy, a full-on wedding when you will have just given birth.

Don't do it, even if you make it you'll not enjoy the day.

I'd personally try move it forward because I'd be more focused on baby once they arrive.

Honestly there is just no way of knowing, DC1 was 14 days overdue, so I would have missed the wedding BUT two weeks later I’d have been fine to spend the day at a wedding.

DC2 was four weeks early, but I was in hospital 7 days after (for me, rather than baby) and was pretty much house bound for another few weeks after that. Walking was painful, I was still having midwife checks every other day etc.

Move it. I cannot imagine getting married two weeks after giving birth. Going to someone else’s wedding 6 weeks later was enough!

Move it!
First babies are often late. Even if you have an amazing birth experience the first few weeks of parenthood are really difficult. I'd put it back by 6 months.

2 weeks after DS was born I shat myself in the middle of Lidl. So yeah not really wedding day vibes.

OP I do not have the words to express what a terrible idea this is. Even if your baby is born on the due date, you will be in no fit state to enjoy your wedding two weeks later. If your baby is late then you will be even more newly postpartum, or possibly still in hospital.

The date is no longer feasible, you need to talk to the venue and suppliers about either bringing it forward or postponing it by several months.

You do know that you could be giving birth that day ?

no one can tell exactly what will happen
you could have given birth 8 weeks earlier and still have baby in ICU , you could be giving birth at that exact time, you could be really ill and exhausted and recovering from surgery, you could be overawed seeing your new baby and just trying to get your head around this amusing new thing

what you won’t be doing is enjoying a chilled and relaxing wedding

on a similar note I thought i was getting big gushes of bleeding but was just unknowingly pissing my pants, luckily i was still in the mattress pads stage but still...

A lot of horror stories on here but the simple fact is that unless you are actively in labour or still in hospital, its possible. You would be able to attend the ceremony and get married but that would be about it. But bear in mind I went two weeks over exactly with three of mine and had to be induced with two of them. So that would be your wedding day.

I really do think you need to look at postponing. A lot of venues and suppliers will be ok with it as long as you are not cancelling but just changing the dates as they will still get their money from you. This happens quite often.

@Colliedogwalker as many have said it’s completely unrealistic. Just because you cannot predict what is going to happen. For example - they say generally first babies are supposed to be late… my first baby was early by almost 2 weeks, I was in labour for almost 40 hours. It was a complete chaos and ended up having a c section where I almost died. Would I have been in any position to then do a wedding? No - of course not. My sister in law for example her first baby was bang on time, labour was 7 hours and the next day she was pushing her pram up the high street. There is absolutely no way to predict how it will go for you. But surely you are just pregnant and therefore have enough time to ask them to rearrange the date?

Rearrange.

And this is first real thread I have ever read what it’s like after birth. Most women don’t mention it and as a first time mum you haven’t got a clue what to expect or what you may experience.

Two weeks after my birth, I was only just home from hospital having had to be readmitted for baby's jaundice and couldn't sit or walk for long due to episiotomy. Echoing others that it's a truly terrible idea to go ahead! Baby might be late, might need extra care, you might have bad tears or a c section scar to contend with. Even with the best of births you'll be knackered, bleeding heavily and sweating buckets, not too mention if you're breastfeeding it will take hours of your day. I would postpone and properly enjoy your day at a later date!

Oh I forgot to mention weeing myself and the pain of sitting down on stitches from tearing and whatever my son did to my tailbone/coccyx? on the way out.

Plus the general feeling of my insides hanging out if I dared be on my feet for too long.

These are all realities OP. I can't even class them as horror stories (obv apart from the nearly dying stories). Just fairly common postpartum stuff.

Even if this was your second or third child.... absolutely not a chance in hell.
You'll be bloated, sore in all the places, possibly still bleeding, sleep deprived and hormonal and that's assuming the Birth was on time /early and uncomplicated and you had a full 14 days of recovery.
I found childbirth easy, and my recovery simple, to the point I was hoovering the house and dog walking literally less than 30 hours after giving birth, yet I would not have been in any state 2 weeks post partum to attend my own wedding.

Oh the weeing stories have made me remember one detail - I had a catheter in for 2 weeks after DD1 was born, and walked around with a bag of wee attached to my leg. Occasionally the tube would detach and I’d leak wee unknowingly for a while.

I’m no snowflake, I went to China at 6 months pregnant and to Boston with a 7 week old. But this is insane.

You could be very unwell and still in hospital.
Itll need to be very chilled indeed’

This. I couldnt get out of bed, couldnt shower - nothing. Youll be recovering for either vaginal birth or c section! There is literally no other way for the baby to come
out.

Honestly you need to rearrange, either bring it forward by several months or push back a minimum of 6 months.
My first while 3 weeks early I suffered a 2nd degree tear and was still in some discomfort for a month or 2 after. Within a a week or so i had boobs to rival Jordan’s and they were so uncomfortable.
I was also suffering from lack of sleep, honestly you will likely be miserable and hormonal.
My dh is a wedding photographer and he would move a wedding if he was available at no extra cost. You are likely to have no issue changing date to November, January, February or March.

And yes you will need big maternity pads under your wedding dress!

Elective c section at 39 weeks?

My first baby was an emergency C-section at just before 40 weeks. At 2 weeks postpartum I was still struggling to stand up and sit down due to pain in the incision site, and I couldn't bear anything other than high waisted leggings over the stitches. My baby was feeding every two hours and my nipples were cracked and bleeding. Oh and my boobs were comedy sized.

My second baby was a straightforward VBAC at 40+2. I had a minor tear which needed stitches and I also got terrible postpartum haemorrhoids. Dealing with daily bowel movements with thrombosed haemorrhoids right next to my perineal stitches was an ordeal. For a few days postpartum it was too painful to sit down. By 2 weeks postpartum it was a little better but I had to have a shower after every poo because it was too painful to wipe properly.

Both times I was still bleeding quite heavily and wearing big pads at 2 weeks postpartum.

Getting married at that point in time would have been shit.

If what you mean by wedding is a small ceremony sitting down and lunch with 10 people from your close family... Then maybe... If you recover well and baby is on schedule.

I had a difficult birth and emergency C-section, I was out to the pub and a shortish walk after 2 weeks.

Anything bigger than that, no way. And if baby is late you might not even be out of hospital!