Due 2 weeks before wedding!

[Colliedogwalker]

Hello,
I have just found out i am pregnant and due 2 weeks before my wedding. Unfortunately wedding insurance dose not help for this and alot has already been paid.
First time mother and needing to know really what its like the first two weeks after. I fully understand everyone is different but i want to be as prepared as possible.

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It’s nothing to do with attitude or fitness.

Congratulations on your pregnancy 🙌🫶

I do agree with all the other comments that I would definitely try your best to rearrange.

If baby comes on time and no complications I think you could get to the wedding, say I do, sign the papers. You would probably feel up for popping in throughout the day, but I wouldn’t expect to fully be a part of the day. The wedding would be for your loved ones, I don’t think you would actually want to be there. You will still be physically healing and most likely sleep deprived. If your breastfeeding this takes time to get established with and you will probably feel like the baby is constantly feeding.

I think if it were me I would be stressing about all the people that would want to hold the unvaccinated baby! But I guess you could just tell them no. I would make sure you have a super comfy dress and a sling for the baby.

I guess the chances are at 2 weeks old the baby will probably still be fairly zonked and content just to be held by you all day so that part would probably be okay…

This. Don’t delude yourself. Either bring it forward 6 months or postpone it by at least 6. Wedding dresses and breastfeeding is pretty awkward too.

Regardless of exactly how old baby will be and how your birth is. What consideration has been given to protecting your newborn from the germs associated with big groups of people? I certainly didn’t restrict visitors but they were limited to those who I confirmed on the day were well. A cold could be really really bad for a newborn, and trust me if you have a section you do not want to be sneezing! You really do need to consider bringing the date forward, delaying will bring its own challenges:

I was 10 days late with my first and was in hospital for a week afterwards. Granted that isn't the norm but the possibility of it happening is a stress I wouldn't want while pregnant and leading up to my wedding.

Hahahah attitude
Really

What an utterly ridiculous comment

Exactly this happened to me! Covid meant I had to move my wedding, pregnant due a week before (he was two weeks early, so 3 weeks before) and moved house the day before he was born. When I look back now I think how on earth did I do it?!

but I did! And it was fun! I would advise you buy a maternity wedding dress ( I changed into mine on the night do, so much easier for feeding and my bones dress hurt), I was worried about underwear and any form on leaking and that didn’t happen. All the family got to meet him and we had the cutest photos! Xx it wasn’t a disaster, I didn’t feel like I looked my absolute best- but I felt so happy. It makes you realise what’s important and what really isn’t x ignore the doom and gloomers on here. I asked for some advice and was basically told I should LTB! Happily married 4 years later so glad I didn’t listen! X

anything is possible depends on the person really (and the birth) - 2 weeks after an emergency c section with twins I was driving and back in skinny jeans (Thankyou breastfeeding!)

oh dear god no!

you may be late, bleeding etc it will be an awful time

either do it before you are due (well before!) or a good 6 months after (ideally before!)

i was an absolute mess for 3ish weeks after birth on the first !

Even if baby arrives on time or is early, you will likely still be bleeding, you likely won't feel attractive, probably won't be able to have sex, may need to cluster feed all of your day, might decide to call off the wedding the days before, will likely running on little sleep, would you spend the night before seperate to your partner? I really wouldn't, both should be special times in your life, one of the life events will totally take the shine off the other.

There is no way of saying this kindly - it is IMPOSSIBLE to go ahead with what you have planned and I cannot stress to you a) how insane it would be and b) how much you would regret it. And that's assuming baby arrives on or close to your due date.

Congratulations on your pregnancy and your engagement 😊

I would move the wedding forward if possible - perhaps for when you will be 5/6 months pregnant xx

So 10 days after I had DS we went to a friend’s birthday party at the beach, 3 weeks after he was born I was back at Parkrun (walking!). So I’d likely have been fine in myself, BUT you may not even have had the baby two weeks after your due date, and the stress if you go over is too much. Bring it forward or push it back, whatever the cost.

2 weeks after my due date with my first, I had a four day old baby and still had stitches.

I was in this exact situation as you. We pulled the wedding forward and let everyone know asap.

Also, OP, you will have stress all through your pregnancy about dates. Will the baby be early? Will the baby be late? What if I have a C section? What if I tear?

If you change the wedding date, all that "date" stress will be gone.

I was 2 weeks overdue, even if you’re not your body’s in no way recovered in 14 days, you won’t feel or look your best. You won’t want pics taken let alone any wedding night action as you’ll probably still be sore or bleeding. Bad timing but you need to cut your losses. You won’t want a huge day like this days after giving birth especially first time when you’re finding your feet.

My first baby was 14 days overdue when I got induced, she ended up being born 18 days AFTER my due date. The recovery was horrific, very long and very slow. I was bleeding heavily for 6 weeks, in agony the whole time and barely had 2 hours straight sleep each day. My second was 10 days overdue, with a completely natural birth, but the recovery was similar.

I personally think you would have to be insane to try and get married as scheduled if you want to have this baby.

Neither you or the baby need a wedding at that time,The poor wee soul could be a day old and taken to a party! I think you under estimate how much your life is going to change.

I think it's a terrible idea as there are too many unknowns, but if you do go ahead I'd recommend a planned section at 39 weeks. That way you know you'll be 3w PP and no risk being in labour on your wedding day.

You've got recovery but I found it absolutely fine, as have most friends of mine that had electives. I obviously didn't get married 3 weeks after but I was happily going on day trips and back to normal physically. I even was back having sex. Some people find recovery harder though so it's a lottery. But you'd have 3 weeks at least.

Along with alllllll the equipment a baby comes with! Extra stress that isn’t needed

All 3 of mine were 42 weekers so I would have been in labour or in hospital for the day of your wedding.

you bring it forward by 6 months
or postpone it by 12 months

the one thing you are not doing 2 weeks after your due date is getting married.

I would not been in any state of mind and body two weeks pp and I had a prettt straight forwards birth. I went 10 days over with my first too. Still heavily bleeding two weeks after. Didn’t stop fully till 5-6 weeks. Exhausted and trying to figure out feeding with aching/blocked breasts. I’ve also been married and would not want the fuss of organisation and planning that comes in the lead up plus trying to prepare for a birth. I would 100% rearrange or make it just a town hall registrar type wedding with a meal for now if you can.

Firstly, congratulations!! What an exciting time for you.
Practically I would not recommend going ahead. My first baby was 14 days late l. The baby then to be re-admitted to hospital a few days later with an infection for 48hrs. Both really not uncommon scenarios at all, mums and babies can end up back in hospital for a multiple common reasons eg infections or jaundice…so you could actually be incapable of attending at all!
Even if things are super straight forward, and on time. I honestly felt jet lagged, sore and an emotional wreck two weeks (hell, two months even!) after my babies were born.
I hope the venue can accommodate a switch of date! You deserve to have a brilliant and calm post baby bubble and a brilliant wedding further down the line.

I was luckily and have very fast labours, they were stress free and almost painless and I didn't need any stitches. I also just had a normal period bleeding after the second day that lasted about 9/10 days. But I think it's different for everyone. I think I was quite luckily. I actually did a food shop 6 hours after birth on the way home.

I would be more worried about your stress levels leading up to the birth, then adjusting to being a new mum and then the wedding. It's a lot of stress to put yourself through while adjusting to being a new mum. You could also be a week or so late and have even less time.

Can you talk to the venue and see if you can bring it forward or postpone it? If not can you downsize and only have close friends and family? I moved house before my first baby and I believe the stress contributed towards me getting postnatal depression.

No way, either you’ll be sore and emotional with a baby or sore and emotional with a bump. Better to lose some cash and rebook and enjoy it all than save some cash but it be crap.