Due October 2025

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Hello! Thought I would start an October thread as technically my EDD is 2nd October. Ivf pregnancy so I know very early at 5dp5dt which is equivalent to 10dpo.

Anyone else know they are due in October yet?

Hi all! Was reluctant to join for a while as I’ve had 3 losses previously (2 miscarriages and a 18 week TFMR) so I’ve had to leave every birth group I’ve been in 😅 I’m approaching 18 weeks so feeling slightly more confident as it will nearly be the furthest I’ve made it so I thought I would finally say hello!

I’m due 16th October and a first time mum. Totally anxious, but I’m getting prodded and poked a lot more this pregnancy due to my history so getting slowly more reassured!

@squishousdelicious gender scan day for you today - me too! Eeek! Let us know how you get on 🩷🩵

Hi @fingerscrossedmumma

We have the same due date! I’m so sorry for all you’ve been through and hope everything goes well for you this time and you have a happy and healthy 9 months. I can imagine how worried you must have been this whole time and hopefully soon you will be able to relax and enjoy. When is your 20 week scan? I’m hoping once mine is done I’ll be able to relax a bit more. I’ll also have regular appointments and scans due to Low Papp-A. I’ve slowly been getting better every week but every so often I get these overwhelming surges of anxiety. My 16 week scan all looked ok though. Keep us updated! Xx

Aw thank you!! Yay due date buddies!! My 20 week scan is 28th May so a while to go and I’m very anxious for it as I’m not sure I can go through another TFMR! But we also had a good 16 week scan so feel more reassured!

we’ve decided to keep gender a surprise!!

Good luck both!! @CustardCream31 @squishousdelicious such an exciting day❤️ anymore boys to join mine yet???🤣

@fingerscrossedmumma what a difficult journey you've had! Shows just how strong you are - glad they're looking after you well and things are.looking up this time x

@CustardCream31 looking forward to hearing your news

We're having a girl!!!! So excited, we'll have one of each 🤗

I’d said I was having a boy…

I am leaving this thread but best of luck with your pregnancies :)

@squishousdeliciousOh yay! Congrats 🤩 girl here too 🥰🩷 I knew it! Good you’ve got another scan booked for 18 weeks too. I’ve asked for an additional one then too given the supposed higher risk from it, because at the moment it’s scheduled to happen the same day as my 20 week scan, but I really don’t want to wait and worry until then! Midwife has asked the consultant.

Thanks for the good luck wishes @RavensMom24
all looking good on scan, and vanishing twin sac is a lot smaller now which is good… I guess hence why the bleeds have eased now. Hope all good with you?

@fingerscrossedmummacongrats on your little one, and sorry to hear what you’ve been through - how awful…… glad you’re feeling more confident now ☺️ and good you’re being closely monitored.

So exciting!!! I had a feeling it was a girl, but I wasn't sure whether I was just getting overly hopeful, so told myself that I couldn't possibly know and not to get excited either way! I thought they weren't supposed to wait too long for the cervix scan, so it's good you're poking them to move it sooner.

I have a consultant appointment this week, which I've got no idea what'll be happening... but I'm hoping to mention that I'd like a c section!

@Feliciacat so good to see you here!!! How are things going for you? I'm still dealing with nausea and food aversions but generally feeling a bit brighter! Had a private reassurance scan this week and got to see baby girl (it's too long to wait until the big scan!!) Thankfully all looks well!

Hope you are keeping well 😊. X

@squishousdelicious your feeling was right 😁🩷 Hope the consultant meet goes well. Let us know. Deffo mention your preference for c section at this stage. I’m the opposite and hoping for a vbac this time, although am not going to hold my hopes I get it/it will go well lol.
Now to look more closely at girl names… the hardest!!!

@CustardCream31 effectively, I'm refusing to be induced again, but knowing how things went last time, I just feel like a vbac won't be successful and I don't want the worry of it again!

I have had a girl name picked out for decades! Luckily my husband agreed to it, so we're set on a name. I've had the most fun today telling loads of people it's a girl, so they're gunning to buy her new clothes. Can't believe we've still got 5 months to wait, it needs to fly by!!!

@squishousdelicious oh how lovely that you have a name picked 🥰🥰 that’s great. I reckon it will go quickly now for us…..?! I don’t know about you, but some days I’m still in shock that we are having a baby and it’s growing in there right now 🤣

I’m the same! Induction is an absolute no-go again as that’s partly why mine went so badly last time…. I’ve got an appt with the hospitals specialist midwife in Aug for the “birth debrief and choices” to discuss my last birth (which I’m a little worried will open a can of worms for emotions I’ve bottled up!!) and chat about the next one. Feels ages away though. Do you have similar in your area you could take advantage of?

Now i know she's a girl, I'm feeling so much more excited about it all! Before, I hadn't really let myself get attached due to the worry something would go wrong...

I wonder if i can ask for a debrief of my previous birth, as I don't really remember much of it after a certain point - the actual birth itself! But I'm fairly certain about a planned section this time! Since my birth, my sister-in-law has had a baby, and it seems that a refusal to be born with a c section would run in the family! Her baby wasn't even a big one like mine, so I'm just not going to risk it. I've heard elective sections are much easier to recover from than emergency ones, so given everything, I'm cutting out the middle man!

I’m a first time mum so feel like I don’t know anything! Anyone else pregnant with their first here?
I’ve been thinking of an elective C section too (my friends have horror stories about emergency ones) but I didn’t know if I could just ask for it from the NHS?

Pregnant with my second now, but I felt the exact same when I was pregnant with my first!!!

In terms of birth, it's a long way off so don't get too stressed about it. If there's no particular risk factors for you, then a vaginal birth is probably going to be okay!! I was pushed to be induced early or to have a c section, and i personally feel like i made the wrong choice, hence my decision this time. So if you'd rather have a vaginal birth, you should try for one. On the other hand, if there's reasons that you'd want a c section, you can ask for one! But don't listen to all the horror stories - for each one of them, there's multiple positive ones we never get to hear. Your friends should remember that pregnancy and birth is hard enough without being told the bad things that happen to one person. If the things they're talking about cause more anxiety, change the subject or tell them to stop!

@fingerscrossedmumma ftm here as well. I’m pushing for a spontaneous vaginal birth and I’ll do everything I can to prepare for it. I think a lot of women who have bad experiences don’t mentally prepare for it and just go into it blind with a mindset of go with the flow.
I think being prepared and understanding that it’s painful and might take very long as well as beings open to try many different positions to see what suits you is key to good experience.
I also want to labor at home for as long as possible and pray that the hospital team will be patient and understanding.
A bad experience can also come from a rushing midwife who doesn’t listen to you and want to get it over with as soon as possible.

Also first time mum. I asked the hospital about an elective c-section and they said they could put me down for it but would refer me to a "Birth Choices" appointment. So I'm going to that to discuss options (all NHS).

Why do you want an ECS?

FTM here too and I’m also hoping for a spontaneous vaginal birth, to labour at home as long as I can and like @emmatcc1 my plan is to be open to as many different positions, and pain relief options to get me through. I’m also going to try hypnobirthing too and the only thing I’m quite set on is the room feeling very calm and quiet - dimmed lights, hushed tones, music etc. Basically just want a balance between a supportive birth environment for my body to try naturally whilst also being completely open and realistic to the fact that it may not happen that way and take the advice of experts around me. My hospital call it a birth preference rather than a birth plan and I think that really helps to shift the narrative of what you’re actually doing when you discuss your birth options.
@fingerscrossedmumma I would really reccomend the book The Modern Midwife’s Guide to Pregnancy and Birth. It’s super informative and really helpful at discussing the stages of labour and what our bodies and babies do. As well as pain relief options and all that jazz. It’s been brilliant for me to get an understanding of what my body is capable of as well as the help on offer. Also discusses things you can do to help prepare your body for labour. Written by an NHS midwife and so I don’t feel like I’m getting conflicting advice either.
Due to my low Papp-A I’ll be getting regular growth scans and I’m aware if the baby isn’t growing they may push for an early induction or a C-Section. In which case I’ll likely elect for a C-Section. Xxx

Thank you everyone - it’s good to hear from people on both sides of the fence! I haven’t really thought about birth at all due to the previous losses and not quite believing we will ever get there. But I think I’m ready to start actually preparing etc.
it’s good to know as well that if i did want an elective C section then this could be offered to me - I was worried I would need a medical reason to ask for one!

there is just so much unknown about birth and I just want to minimise risk to me and baby as much as possible - both options actually really scare me!

I actually just bought this book and it’s arriving today! Thank you!

I don't know that I do for definite. I just want to understand my options in full. I am an IVF pregnancy and with IVF pregnancies they don't let you go past your due date (because timings are a lot more precise) so there's a good chance I would end up needing one anyway if induction etc didn't work.

I think anyone can elect for a c section if they want @BellaRosex but worth being aware that birth can go well for many, but also can end in emcs for many due to factors outside of anyone’s control. Mine was an emcs because the chord was round baby’s neck, but I wouldn’t say it was traumatic as the doctors are calm and knew what they were doing and I trusted them. As you say best to explore options and do what is best for you xx