Due October 2025

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Hello! Thought I would start an October thread as technically my EDD is 2nd October. Ivf pregnancy so I know very early at 5dp5dt which is equivalent to 10dpo.

Anyone else know they are due in October yet?

It is bonkers! The first trimester always drags as well, but all my NCT friends have said their second pregnancy has been flying by - I can only hope that applies to me from this point forwards!

Will it matter that my 16 week appointment is 2 weeks late?

It surprises me they didn't listen for a heartbeat - i remember having that at almost every single midwife appointment last time. Maybe different trusts do it differently.

I've got a consultant's appointment at 17 weeks, midwife at nearly 18 weeks, a cervical length scan at 19 weeks and then the 20 week scan 2 weeks after that... I don't feel short of appointments 😬

Because I'm on holiday my midwife said she would book my 16 week appointment for after I got back so I will be a minimum of 18 and 2 before I see her. NHS website says 16 week is to discuss blood results from 12 week, check blood pressure and urine. So I don't think it's that important of an appointment.
Hopefully after Monday I should hear about consultant appointment.

Seems it's a real post code lottery on how things are done.

Yes I was a little dissapointed that she didn't listen for a heartbeat but she said it can cause more worry if it's difficult to find. I have read that other people have had it done though at 16 weeks.
I suppose as long as you feel OK then it doesn't matter if its a couple of weeks later although I felt ok but my iron was 88 it's meant to be over 130 (I think) but then it took ages for me to actually get the iron tablets as my midwife didn't transfer this info to the doctor and I had to put in my own request - I thought that was the idea of badger notes to share info but I did get there in the end. I'm on my normal pregnancy vitamins and 2 x spartone a day but that wasn't enough to keep it high. I'm waiting for the bloods to come back to see what they are otherwise they have talked about an iron infusion. I'm also doing a smoothie everyday of iron rich foods which is tolerable ...Just!

I didn’t get a 16 week appointment but instead my next ultrasound is at 18 weeks and then the anomaly scan at 22 weeks.
I’ve had bloods checked once and urine never. Blood pressure also checked once and they don’t even track my weight just ask me where it’s at and believe I’m telling the truth.
Will probably switch gynecologist once this baby is born.

@emmatcc1 are you on the NHS? Sounds so different to how it is in my area! I had my 16 week appointment and 20 week scan through on the NHS app after my 12 week scan

@AutumnBump I’m not in UK
But from what I know our scans should still be at 16 and 20 weeks as well as blood, urine and blood pressure checked every appointment. My 12 week scan was also rushed so I feel like the office I’m at doesn’t do their work like they should. They also don’t like giving ultrasound pictures and the 2 pictures I got I had to pay for, apparently I only get 1 more picture at the growth scan I also have to pay for.

I’m agree - I don’t think it matters too much if your appointments are early/late. When they book it they don’t really know your gestation until you’ve had it confirmed at your 12 weeks scan.

I’m sort of wishing the days away because I missed the combined screening test so we’re having the quadruple blood test.

@emmatcc1 that's pretty shocking that they're not doing all that! Wish they'd take my word for my weight though - they always do it dressed with shoes on, which tips me over a BMI threshold, when my actual weight is just low enough to avoid the "complications" of the next BMI zone 🙄we have to pay for scan photos on the NHS, though I think they give you one for free each time, because we paid for 2 and got 3, and similar happened in my last pregnancy.

I won't worry about my appointment being "late" then. Only appointment I'm a bit annoyed about is the consultant one, because it's on the one day I have my 2 year old, and I really don't think he'll be a good person to take to see a consultant...

Can you change your app? I have the same as you one day with my dc1 who is 2 and they keep giving me appointments on that day 🤣 my trust has been really easy to change them though I’ve just emailed and they’ve moved the appointments to the day after. I know they all vary though

@squishousdelicious @CustardCream31 I realise that there's no guarantees when it comes to pregnancy/birth (my healthy diet plan went right out the window for a while thanks to pregnancy nausea! 😂) but for me the plan is more of a cheat sheet of what my preferences/definitely nots are and why, so my partner and I can refer to it during what I assume will be an overwhelming experience 😁

My playlist is already underway although it's hard to predict what kind of things I'll want to listen to. So far I've got a lot of calm/soothing songs and some ambient thunderstorm noise.

Water birth is probably the biggest thing I'm undecided on, it sounds lovely but I'm not sure our hot water system would manage to fill a pool quickly enough? 😅The joys of rural living! It's something I'll need to ask my midwife more about before we commit to borrowing one and having it take over the living room 😂

Food if I have to transfer is definitely going to be a pain for us, can I ask what foods you're planning to take?

@Superscientist my plan is definitely a "here's the basics and we'll go from there" and my aim is to be able to have something to hand to help make informed decisions as they come up. I don't know if I explained myself well before as my birth plan isn't a set in stone script, more of a guide to birth interventions and potential cascades e.g. types of fetal monitoring I'm open to/will decline and why. 😊

I'm fortunate to have a midwife that I feel really supported by, I thought I would have to argue my case for declining routine ultrasounds but she was totally on board. I realise not all health professionals are as open minded to womens' choices so I'd like to be able to direct them to the evidence base if I need to 😅

I definitely understand what you are saying about birth having so many moving parts that it's unlikely someone has their ideal birth on paper - my truest success criteria is that baby and I survive! I just feel that since I'm blessed with the time and access to information to learn about birth, I should use that to my advantage 😃

I'm in a somewhat similar situation to you in that driving to nearest obstetric unit would be over 1.5 hours, probably closer to 2 hours. I'm just glad it's not as bad as for the poor ladies of Caithness & Wick! Maybe I'm being a bit quicker than most to really consider my birth options because of that. 😊It's good you are getting a home birth kit just in case, rather than them assuming/requiring you to get to a hospital!

Nope - apparently the consultant only works on that day of the week...

My midwife said I could ask for them to phone me and do it that way as all it is conversation. My hospital is 40 minutes away so that's what I'm going to do.

Oh right!! That’s annoying for you

Has anyone got the Whatsapp group link?.

Just saying hello! I’m pregnant with my second baby, after a huge age gap so very much a surprise, and due on the 22nd October. After being in denial for weeks I was late to book so missed the first trimester screening by a few days, currently waiting on results from second trimester bloods.

Hi welcome!

I missed the screening too due to my midwife being newly qualified (she forgot to refer me for a scan)

Ive got my 16 week appointment this Friday, where I’ll have the quad blood test instead.

I am an older mum (35) so was a little worried I missed it but I’ve spoken to a few people and realised it’s not that important, if anything was wrong it would be picked up on later scans etc.

Hope everyone is coping in the heat today!

Hi ladies! Hope everyone is doing well in this heat!!

Just a quick one - I’m having my gender scan this afternoon so I will come back and update soon. I don’t think I posted a scan pic at the time so I’ve attached one now - we’re thinking boy but absolutely happy with either. So excited!!

@RavensMom24 definitely a little boy!

Update - @emmatcc1 you were absolutely right - we’re having a boy!!😊💙 He wasn’t shy about showing us either! 😂🙈

We already have our daughter who’s 13 months so we will be one of each, approx 19 months apart.

Should be fun and games for a few years🤣 but we’re looking forward to it! lol Now to think of a name lol! x

@RavensMom24 How exciting one of each!
I’ve still got 12 days until my scan I feel like I’ve been waiting ages.
I’m super lost on boy names and I think we’re also having a boy based on the 12 week scan.

Congratulations! Was this a private gender scan and if so how many weeks if you don’t mind me
asking please

@emmatcc1 I’m the same on boys names! I think there are less boys names and a lot have been taken by my friends kids already!

Thank you! @Givemethesun and yeah it was a private scan and I’m 15 weeks exactly.

And I’m exactly the same as you both @emmatcc1 re the boys names! I have a feeling my boy will still be baby no name for a while despite us knowing the gender so early🙈

How exciting! I was super pleased to find out we were having a boy last time, because he's the only boy for a very long time for my family!

Like you, we were really stuck for names though. Try looking through the ONS list of names - i think 2023 is the most recent one, not sure when they release them - but there's so many names on there for inspiration! (Not that that has helped us this time round - praying for a girl for this reason 😬)

Congratulations, how big is your gap? I have an 18, 16, 12 and 2 year-old! They all love their little brother so much and are excited another one is in the making although they have said they prefer the toddler stage (apart from my daughter who just loved holding him, very handy! )

Thank you, my son has just turned 15. That’s so good to know that they all love their little brother. I told my son after my scan and he took the news really well after he made sure he won’t be sharing a room!