Due October 2025

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Hello! Thought I would start an October thread as technically my EDD is 2nd October. Ivf pregnancy so I know very early at 5dp5dt which is equivalent to 10dpo.

Anyone else know they are due in October yet?

@Givemethesun cramps can be normal if no bleeding but understand it's scary

Thank you. I managed to get through to maternity unit finally and she has suggested paracetomol and to avoid a&e if possible due to long wait time as I’m not bleeding. Fingers crossed it’s nothing :)

@Givemethesun when I went to the EPU the midwife said only go to A&E if you have uncontrollable bleeding (soaking through pad every hour) and pain that cannot be managed via pain medication. Hopefully the paracetamol will help and the cramping is just stretching of the uterus. I was getting lower back pain on and off last week - like a small stabbing pain at the base of my spine but it’s not enough to make me want to take pain killers or really stop me from doing day to day stuff so I’m assuming it’s just things stretching. My womb is tilted so I feel it more in my back than my front.

That being said, I know how anxiety inducing any small pain can be or any change in symptom. I’m 11 weeks 4 days today and feel like my symptoms are starting to fade. They felt at their worst towards the end of week 10 but now the nausea has really reduced, I’m feeling slightly more energetic and generally not feeling super pregnant. I’m getting occasional headaches and still got sore boobs. Still need to wee a lot and recently found myself crying at silly things. But overall feel a lot better than I have been and I’m worrying. Everywhere I’ve read says it’s normal for symptoms to reduce as you reach the end of the first trimester but I find the symptoms reassuring so I want them to come back. Just praying everything is okay at my 12 week scan.

xxx

Thanks for your message. I’m about 11 plus 2/3/4 too! I know exactly how you feel about symptoms going! You want to be pleased you’re finally feeling more normal but at the same time it’s anxiety inducing. My symptoms basically disappeared early at 9 weeks and my husband encouraged me to go for a private scan for peace of mind. Turns out everything was fine (baby jumping everywhere) and I was measuring ahead of what I thought so made more sense my symptoms had gone. Fingers crossed it’s the same for you at the nhs scan. Nearly there :) xxx

@Givemethesun @pumpkinpatches22 I'm with you on symptoms. I'm 9ish weeks and feel like things have improved - not gone entirely but today was much more manageable than last week. Worrying as it seems early for them to be fading. It's horrible feeling so ill but equally you are right it's reassuring.

@Givemethesun I've been to a and E twice in pregnancy. In my experience they just check if anything needs urgent attention and then send you home.

I went once at 10 weeks with a threatened miscarriage and heavy bleeding. The checked my blood pressure, took blood to check my HCG and haemoglobin. They said if bloods show I was struggling with blood lose they could keep me in overnight but given my observation were normal tlhis was unlikely so they said I could go home and they'd call if they were unexpectedly poor. I was already booked for a scan at the epu the next morning so they said to speak to them.

The other time was after a bad accident on the motorway at 70mph. I was importantly 15 weeks and 5 days and neither the epu or maternity would see me as I wasn't in early pregnancy and the maternity triage wouldn't see women before 16 weeks. I was told to watch for bleeding and for movements that hadn't started stopping at that was it I had absolutely no checks for the pregnancy at all just advised to take paracetamol for the bruised and possibly broken ribs, bruised sternum and neck pain. They suggested checking in with my midwife after the weekend as the accident was on a Friday night. I had my 16 week appointment booked for the Tuesday and I had a very nervy wait for that appointment but she was able to hear the heartbeat and everything turned out ok.

That’s awful!!! Must have been so difficult for you the wait and the accident. Xxx

It was! I could have kissed the midwife when she moved the checking of the heartbeat to the first thing she did after hearing about the accident! She did say it was early and it wasn't a given that she would be able to detect it! But i heard the most beautiful heartbeat, much to mine and my partners relief!

@Givemethesun @Sunshine924 @pumpkinpatches22 My symptoms are also improving since week 9. I know baby is fine because I listen to the heartbeat at home and at 11 weeks baby grew a lot and moved higher up. My next scan is on Monday and I’m not that anxious for it now I know the heart is still beating.

@emmatcc1 that’s so good you’ve been able to reassure yourself at home. I did think
About a Doppler but my anxiety won’t let me because I’d be so scared I wouldn’t do it right and wouldn’t find a heartbeat and then send myself spiralling. Just need to get to the 12 week scan and hopefully all will be well and I can try and trust the process.

xx

@Givemethesun almost word for word what happened with me! Had a scan yesterday with epu after my symptoms reduced to the point of barely existing! Also saw a wriggling baby and measuring slightly ahead of what I thought! Xx

Need a bit of a hand hold today.

My bloods came back as high risk 1 in 31 for Edwards and Patau’s. Going in for the NIPT blood test today and generally spiralling/crying/terrified. After seeing the wriggly baby on the scan and finally relaxing a bit after the hematoma, it’s really breaking me.

I’m sure I can feel movements but I daren’t feel attached in case there’s something seriously wrong. Please keep your fingers crossed for me 🤞

When will your nipt come back? Hopefully it’s not long and you can get some certainty. The odds are still in your favour xxx 🤞🏼 completely understand that this must be really hard.

It’ll be back in 7-10 days but might be sooner.

It’s down to my age, my low PAPP-A (I had the same in my last pregnancy and he was fine), and HCG on the lower side.

Baby’s measurements are all perfect.

Rationally, I feel like the odds are in my favour but all the threads I see with similar numbers to mine seem to have tragic endings.

Absolutely full of dread.

Thank you for the support ❤️

Oh I'm so sorry @FenellaFurchester
I hope the nipt test comes back ok in the meantime take care of yourself. Try to avoid doom scrolling until you know one way or another. Lots of self care and just keep occupied and however you feel is ok. It is bound to bring up lots of conflicting emotions and that's ok. Best of luck!

As pp said try not to doom scroll. There will be lots of people with similar numbers who didn’t post anything as they probably had a positive outcome and then just didn’t post anything xx

Afternoon ladies. Feel like I’ve missed lots of chat!!

@emmatcc1 yes my uterus feels the same. Deffo showing much earlier than my first time. Very bloated still though to be fair!!

@RavensMom24great that you got seen at EPU and you have a little wriggler happy in there 🥰 how exciting.

@Givemethesuni hope your cramps have eased. I’d avoid A&E like the plague unless absolutely necessary for pregnancy stuff. I didn’t even go when I had massive bleed last Friday as I knew they literally couldn’t even scan there at that time of night… even EPU told me today only go there if lots and lots of bleeding and feeling unwell/dizzy. It’s so frustrating though that EPU units only seem to be open mornings Mon-Fri, and even then it’s hard to get through to them. hugs though and totally understand the worry.

@pumpkinpatches22glad you’re feeling more energetic now. Think we are approaching that magic time where we feel less shite 🤪 in theory!!

@Superscientist that must have been terrifying and also so so frustrating after that awful accident to not be able to get immediate support and reassurance for your baby. So sorry to hear. Glad all turned out ok though.

@FenellaFurchesterhand holds and gentle hugs… totally understand the worry with that. Mind goes into overdrive and panic. As hard as it is, try and hold on to the positive it’s a low percentage risk as others have pointed out. Hope the NIPT bloods are all good today. The wait is the hardest to hear back…

I had an appt at EPU again today after big bleed on Fri. Baby is measuring perfectly, and could see the little arms and legs kicking around 🥰 however, they did see the “substantial” bleed…. Which has scared me, as she also said that it’s very likely I’ll bleed again, and there is a small chance that it could take baby with it 😰😭 I’m just so worried because my luck is awful, and after the mmc last year it has me on edge. Feel like a ticking time bomb, having to wear a pad all the time and being extra extra careful. And being away next week for half term… knowing my luck it will happen then!! 😔 trying to hold onto hope that baby is looking strong.

Congratulations.
I am due 14th October. This is my second pregnancy my daughter is now 12 and I'm absolutely terrified. Everything feels so different now xx

Thanks for the support @Superscientist @CustardCream31 @Givemethesun ❤️

I managed to go for a big walk yesterday which helped my emotions. Today is different after a sleepless night with my poorly 5 year old - I can’t seem to summon the energy to discipline myself away from thinking it’s definitely going to be the worst news.

I said to my DH, when I went to discuss the NIPT the (very lovely and kind) midwife took me to a room with a sofa and flowers, I felt like I should leave hope at the door considering every other room has been so stark and functional 😂

How are you feeling now? I hope you and your five year old are both doing better. One day closer to finding out? Does that help? Xx

Congratulations on your pregnancy. What are you terrified of? Xxx

How are you today? Xx

Hi @Givemethesun I’m doing ok thanks. Glad to have finished work for a week now, but it won’t be restful 🤪 still feeling very on edge about another bleed…

how are you doing? Have the cramps eased/gone away?

12 week scan done and all was perfect! Measuring ahead again and now EDD is 16.10.25, can’t believe we’re now 5 days head of the original date we based on LMP when we first found out. Every scan we’ve had the date has got earlier and earlier. Saw a beautiful (very wriggly) baby kicking away, rolling around and generally not behaving very well 😂 so it took a while to get all the measurements plus the bed being tipped backwards, hip shaking, lying on my side and eventually 5 minutes of walking up and down the hill outside the clinic but we got there in the end. Absolutely amazing to see and just feeling beyond grateful. ❤️

I also just got done with my 12 week scan. All good and a very uncooperative baby measuring 4 days ahead. Saw baby in 4d as well. I did however have elevated blood sugar at my last appointment so I’ll probably need to be checking it everyday now.