Due October 2025

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Hello! Thought I would start an October thread as technically my EDD is 2nd October. Ivf pregnancy so I know very early at 5dp5dt which is equivalent to 10dpo.

Anyone else know they are due in October yet?

@Superscientist there's so many people out there with different stories of pregnancies and if they had the same or different sex each time, and i just can't bring myself to believe that there's a definitive answer or difference.

I tell myself I'll be happy with another boy. And truthfully, I know I will be happy and love this baby whatever they are. But I'm a bit worried about finding out it's a boy and feeling disappointed, because that's not how I want to feel... but out of 6 NCT members, 4 of us are all currently pregnant and a 5th had their second a few months ago. Out of the 5 new babies, two are definitely girls, one is suspected a girl but not confirmed, and the other two are too early to tell yet. But I'm dreading being the only person to have 2 boys while everyone else gets to have a boy and a girl. It's such a stupid worry 😅

My NCT group is
girl, girl boy
Boy girl
Girl boy
Boy boy
Boy boy
Boy
Girl

So pretty much every possible combination!
My family are quite girl heavy and I'd love another girl as I love my relationship with my sisters but I'd also love a boy as we have so many girls and a bit of variance would be nice too. I also see how lovely my partner and his mum's relationship is and is less fraught that the relationship between my mum and myself and my sisters. I know this is probably more down to the difference between my mum and my mil. I'll find out if possible in the anatomy scan mostly as I found it easier to imagine my daughter as an actual living baby once I knew she was a girl.

When I found out my daughter was a daughter there was a moment of disappointment and a moment of joy. I think it's natural for a touch of disappointment in the moment when possibilities change but for the vast majority it's fleeting and passes into the joy of what the reality will be

It's funny in our NCT group, we allhad boys, except there was a set of boy-girl twins. But I hate the idea that I'll be the only one without a girl - it comes from a deep-rooted insecurity of being excluded, I suppose.

My son is the first boy on my side of the family since my dad, so he was hugely exciting to my family! I have nieces, and so in some ways, another girl wouldn't necessarily be seen as "special" if I had one. But I'd love a girl, I never even considered that I'd have a boy - and now I want him to be my only little boy ever! I love him so much, I sort of feel like I need a girl so I don't have to choose between two boys.

I have a slight preference to a boy for the same reason as your little boy. He would be the first boy on my parents side since my dad and I have two nieces.

I haven’t announced to my parents yet but I did mention how I was worried a girl wouldn’t be as exciting because of my nieces and my mum reassured me that a girl would be just as exciting as a boy.

They will be the first grandchild on my husbands side so my inlaws will be super excited. I just can’t wait to know so that I can go shopping!

I was nervous about telling both families I was having a girl last time. My dad has been asking for a grandson jokingly since I was 16 and my mil was open about the fact she only wanted boys.
My dad's answer was "another girl we are good with girls" and I would say she hasn't been lost in a sea of girls but she's not a super girly girl and throws herself into everything. My mil was unsure if she knew was to do with a girl but she is utterly besotted!

Even though I knew I was expecting a girl I have always bought a lot of clothes in the "boys" section. I found a lot of the girl stuff quite one dimensional where as the boys stuff was more varied. I like the frugi girl stuff which has a lot of woodland creatures on and more whimsy and less pink and tutus! You can pick loads up on eBay in good condition for about the same price as buying new in the supermarkets.

I think it’s fine it feel however you feel when you find out if you’re having a boy or a girl. It’s a bit of a taboo topic but perfectly normal and any feelings you have are valid. Louise Thompson who has quite a large following posted on her Instagram yesteday about it x

This is exactly how it was for us!! He was the first grandchild on my husband's side of the family, so it was exciting there anyway, but to be the first grandson (and that's no small thing, as I am one of 5 daughters!), it was definitely really exciting.

I know no one else in either family will care if it's a boy or a girl, they'll be pleased either way. I just think it would be nice to experience both sides of parenting, good or bad 😆

I'm getting so fed up of feeling sick and rubbish. I've taken myself off work this week because I've not been able,to do anything without feeling dreadful for two weeks now. As long as I'm still and not doing anything, I feel just about okay, but it's so frustrating that even on medication I'm feeling horrid. Neither cyclizine nor metoclopramide have made a difference to it (though at least I'm not actually being sick most of the time).

Go back to the drs, you can take both cyclizine and metopramide together. I found the combination better than them individually. The best drug is xonvea, my sickness this time round wasn't too bad but the xonvea completely took it away. On the few occasions I forgot my morning dose I was throwing up by the afternoon.
Definitely take the time off, in my last pregnancy I found I was sick a lot less when I was just lay down not moving doing anything made it much worse.

I'll see how today goes and call tomorrow - it's one of those stupid, call at 8am or miss out systems 🙄 I don't really want to go onto metoclopramide again as it really upsets my digestive system and that's upset enough as it is already! None of them have ever mentioned xonvea, I'm guessing it's probably expensive 😆

It's quite new so probably does mean expensive but also that it's not widely known about!
This time around I spoke to a different GP asking for antiemetics ahead of needing them. She said there's a new drug that might be worth trying it's a long lasting medication so can take a few days to build up and you take it regularly rather than in response to sickness and nausea
I spoke to the GP I had seen in previous pregnancies to get a repeat and she hadn't heard of it.

It really helps to hear from others who have experienced similar, thanks for sharing. The nausea has come back over the last few days but not as debilitating as before. I have a scan this Thursday with the miscarriage clinic when I’ll be 10 weeks. I hope your 12 week scan comes round quickly

Hope the scan Thurs goes well :-)

Really hope your scan goes well Thursday!

I’m in a similar situation, 9 weeks today EDD 28/10 with my second. I had a little nausea last week but it’s basically none existent now. With my first I had debilitating HG from week 8 right up until delivery! Hospitalised a few times because of it and although it was treacherous, it was somehow comforting in the early weeks as indication baby was okay. I had suffered two b2b miscarriages prior so the reassurance was welcomed! This time I’m going crazy with worry!

Also considering booking a private scan but was told at my midwife appointment today that it’ll be 15th April for sure so exactly 3 weeks.

How are any of you other ladies doing that’s symptoms have subsided? I’m trying to just think I’m lucky this time around but in the back of my mind I’m scared the pregnancy has stopped.

Hi, we have the same EDD at the moment 👋

It's the other way round for me - symptoms have been increasing over the past 3 weeks to the point where I'm off work this week and considering getting signed off for next week too. But your post resonates with me: in spite of increasing symptoms, I'm terrified about losing this baby and wavering about going to get a private scan (which I'd have to do on my own because my husband is at work, which terrifies me because what if it is bad news?!?!) Plus, my scan is until I'm 14 weeks so it's ages to wait!

@RavensMom24 I have had hyperemesis in my previous 3 pregnancies 1 birth, 2 miscarriages. This time around there's been a bit of nausea and vomiting but way less than previous pregnancies. I'm now 13 weeks had saw a lovely heartbeat in my dating scan last week! It feels very odd to feel mostly normal but having had hyperemesis twice in the last 9 months I'm glad to have escaped it!

Oh heyy 👋 @squishousdelicious how lovely! I expected most would be earlier in the month tbh lol. I haven’t had my dating scan yet but I had a scan at 6 weeks and was tracking bang on so I can’t imagine I’ll be too much out. And I sympathise with you so much re the symptoms especially with sickness. I think it’s normal for us all to worry especially in these early stages but your symptoms are good reassurance at least!❤️ making you wait til week14 is cheeky though!! I’d be inclined to call them to see if they can move it forward😂 but I am a little pushy!

@Superscientist thank you so much for your message! I think I’m in a similar boat - I just need to relax a little because I know the HG coming back would be really difficult this time with a 12 month old! I had a scan at 6 weeks and saw heartbeat but I keep telling myself I had more symptoms then. I’ll see if I can hang on for 3 weeks 🤞

I'm with you all on feeling worried. I've had a very slight improvement in the nausea the past couple of days and even that's making me anxious (though it's still very much there). I think as others have said our minds will run away with us regardless of symptoms as it's all just so out of our control.
I'm desperate for another scan. Had one when I thought I was 7 weeks but said I was 6. So according to that I'm still only 8 weeks. I can't help being anxious that the early scans being off is a bad sign (at 6 weeks by lmp I measured 5+1; then at 7 weeks I measured 5+6 - so I'm fixating on that the growth wasn't a week despite week in between scans). My DH doesn't want to have one though as he thinks it's fuelling my worry?
His mindset is 'theres nothing to suggest anything is wrong at the moment' - its all so hard!

@RavensMom24 I had a scan at 6 weeks too and she said that baby was measuring exactly where she'd expect, so it seems like I'll be staying at the same date too. Though if I grow another big baby like last time, the date will move forward, which it did at his dating scan!

@Sunshine924 I hate how easy it is for men to not worry about this!

@RavensMom24 @squishousdelicious I was also measuring to the day at my last scan and got the estimated due date that the app calculated. I’ve got my nuchal translucency scan 2 week from today and I’m noticing it’s very common to measure ahead on that scan so maybe my EDD will change

Hi Ladies,
I am 11 weeks tomorrow, had my first midwife appointment at 10weeks and I feel like it’s taking a lifetime to get my scan date through the post (it’s been a week).

I haven’t had a single scan or taken a test since we found out… I’m going by the “if in no pain or no blood then it’s ok” theory but I’m losing my patience.

If anyone is the same weeks as me (EDD 16/10) have you had your scan date?

I feel like I’m stalking the mail man. I rush home each day just to check the mail.

Anyone else experiencing a weird smell in their house since being pregnant? I literally can’t stand the smell of our en suite the last week or so, and it actually made me vom the other night and heave every time I go in there. Husband can’t smell anything. We’ve cleaned it several times to no avail! It’s driving me crazy 🤢 it’s not a drain/yucky smell per se, it’s just odd… and gets stuck in my nose. Nowhere else in the house. So weird! I can’t describe the smell. It’s just horrible!

Hi @EEB1989 👋

I had my midwife appointment yesterday at 9 weeks and received my app today via their online portal! It’s not until 22nd April which I’m annoyed about as was promised one on 15th when I’m 12 weeks. But my EDD is 28/10 (I had a scan at 6 weeks).

Would have liked to have thought they’d have contacted you by now. I might consider chasing them at 11 weeks just to make sure they’ve got you down! Xx

@EEB1989 I had my first scan at 8 weeks and next one on april 7th at 12 weeks. I’m due October 18th. But I don’t live in UK

I haven't even had my booking in appointment yet and i already have both scan dates through - in fact, ove even managed to change date/times for them as far as possible!

Definitely call and chase them! The first scan doesn't have to be done until 14 weeks, but if you're 11 weeks and don't even know the date, I'd be concerned.