Due October 2025

[IVFlife]

Hello! Thought I would start an October thread as technically my EDD is 2nd October. Ivf pregnancy so I know very early at 5dp5dt which is equivalent to 10dpo.

Anyone else know they are due in October yet?

Oh gosh so many of us with this 😫😫 why is it so hard?!
Hope you feel better by tomorrow. Not nice at all on top of what you're going through!

@squishousdelicious anxiety inducing isn't it..... hope yours eases up. Seems really common... many hours panic googling (I know, not helpful!) seems to think it's 50/50 from what I've read. Well, if cramps are included which mine are...
arghhh. Takes all the joy of pregnancy away.
🤞🏻🤞🏻 for us all... kinda glad to have people who can understand the frustration and worry though... I don't know about you, but I don't feel as alone. 🥺

@Hope1986 I do have a child but this is my third pregnancy trying for number 2. I had a miscarriage at 9-10 weeks in August no early scans so I don't know when the pregnancy was lost I suspect earlier that 9 weeks.
I had another pregnancy in Nov/Dec and had 3 early scan which showed the pregnancy didn't get past 6 weeks gestation and there was a heartbeat at 7+4 weeks but measuring behind and no heartbeat 2 weeks later. I miscarried a week later.
Pregnant again without a period in between. The epu did some bloods to measure my HCG and it came back at over 100k! I had a scan the following week and I was 8+3! That was a week ago.
I had hyperemesis and time off sick with my two miscarriages and my pregnancy with my daughter but it's really not been too bad at all this time. I've had a couple of days where I have been sick. I'm on xonvea which gets rid of the nausea precautionary due to previous and that pretty much completely. I've started to get a little bump that I didn't have with my two miscarriages. It feels very surreal. I only found out I was pregnant 2 weeks ago and already over 9 weeks. Not knowing has helped with the early weeks anxiety!

A lot of us here seem to be having spotting/brown bleeds. I had no idea how common it was.

Mine had cleared up and I was hopeful the SCH had resolved itself, then I had quite a lot this morning (actually on the pad where it has been just on wiping or nothing at all for the last two weeks) so back to the anxiety.

Everything I’ve read says that brown blood is a good sign that it’s resolving but I’m exhausted with the worry now.

@Superscientist What a whirlwind it must have been to find out so late but then get such a reassuring scan! I can completely understand how surreal it must feel, especially after your losses. Seeing a bump and having an 8+3 scan with such strong HCG sounds like such positive signs.

It really gives me hope to hear experiences like yours. Not knowing about the pregnancy early on clearly spared you some of the anxiety—I can only imagine how different that must have felt. Wishing you nothing but smooth sailing from here, and thank you for sharing this. It really helps to hear positive outcomes!

@Hope1986 thank you. Pregnancy after loss is awful. The anxiety is something else. I keep getting feelings of hope but then push it down to try & keep realistic. It’s hard.

@CustardCream31 I’m glad you’re being seen by the EPU. I had bad news once at a private scan place and I found them really not helpful at all. I’ll always go to the EPU now. I hope it’s nothing though and you get some good news. My spotting stopped on Thursday, but then had a tiny bit yesterday. I have been having cramps/general tummy ache though. But also I now have nausea. So I don’t know what to think. Trying to be realistic based on previous losses & that I’m on progesterone so it might be masking things

@Sunshine924 will be thinking of you tomorrow. Really does seem to be a lot of us in similar positions

@squishousdelicious i’m sorry you too have had the brown discharge. I keep going to the toilet so often just to check what is going on, it’s so draining

@FenellaFurchester its so hard isn’t it. I’m sorry you’ve had more today. The anxiety of it is horrible

@Figtree11 The constant anxiety over going to the toilet is utterly horrendous. It's very faintly pink this evening and I'm so worried now. Feels like deja vu, although I have no cramping, and unlike the last miscarriage, no migraines. I'm about a similar stage to the last one, date wise, so clinging on to that tiny glimmer of hope while trying not to cry.

Hopefully it's pregnancy hormones making me teary. Cried whilst singing along to Under the Sea from the Little Mermaid earlier 😆

Good luck to everyone who has scans this coming week. Sorry you’re going through such a worrying time. Thinking of you all xxx

Thank you.
Yes good luck everyone 🤞🏻💫

Is anyone on Xonvea for nausea? It's getting unbearable for me at the moment and cyclizine doesn't work. It's also causing me anxiety because I can't go in to work and I've worked so hard to get to where I am in a very competitive male-dominated field. I know it's probably not a big deal in the grand scheme of things but I'm struggling. I have an GP appointment today and I might ask for Xonvea if possible.

Good luck to everyone with scans, sending strength

@fluffyprawn I'm on xonvea. In previous pregnancies I've tried cyclizine, prochlorpreazine and metoclopramide and cyclizine but had to have a lot of time off sick
I started on xonvea this time before the nausea escalated and most days I don't have any nausea or vomiting. I was thinking I just lucked out and it's not as bad this time but I forgot to take it yesterday morning and was throwing up in the afternoon. Today I feel more nauseous than I have been feeling but I'm functioning normally I'm chained to the sofa at this stage
The metoclopramide and cyclizine was loads better than just cyclizine. I had that combination in my last pregnancy and it allowed me to eat and drink much better although the nausea was still quite tricky. That's the second line of treatment I believe. I would ask for the xonvea first but this combination might also be helpful

Just back from my scan. Was a ball of nerves and got tearful as it made me so anxious to be there again after everything 😫 sac and yolk seen. Looks on track from my ovulation date. No fetal pole seen, but to be expected. The report seems to suggest the yolk sac is smaller than it should be on the centile chart thing. So that's something else for me to stress about 🥲 got to go back in 2 weeks for rescan. They have also prescribed me progesterone until 16 weeks (assuming I get that far 🤞🏻)
I'm so relieved it's in the right place... but I can't shake this absolute feeling of doom. I feel so sad. So silly.

Hope everyone is ok, and you have the sunshine where you are too ☀️

@CustardCream31 You’re not silly for feeling this way—what you’ve been through makes this experience so much more intense, and it’s completely understandable to feel anxious and overwhelmed.

Great news that the sac and yolk are in the right place and measuring on track with your ovulation dates—that’s such a positive. I know the mention of the yolk sac size has given you something else to stress over, but things can change so much in just a few days. The fact that they’ve prescribed progesterone is good news.

I completely understand the feeling of doom, because I feel exactly the same way, but please try to be gentle with yourself. You are doing everything you can. Hoping these next two weeks pass quickly and that your next scan brings even more reassurance. You’ve got this x

Thanks so much for your kind words and support. Appreciate it.
Hope everything goes well for your scan today. Let us know how you get on! 💫

Just had my scan. They said I'm only measuring 5 weeks 1 day they could see a sac and something which could be the start of a fetal pole. They said I have to go back in one week for another scan. I don't know whether to be reassured or not - they said only seeing that much at 5 weeks is normal but I thought I was 6 weeks (according to LMP). If I go on dates we DTD maybe it would be 5 weeks since then. Anyway guess it's just wait and see. It's hard as the scans this early increase the worry in some ways but with the bleeding it is the right thing to do.
@Hope1986 @CustardCream31
hope yours were all ok
@Figtree11

Sorry @CustardCream31 just saw your post that all sounds positive. Can totally understand the worries though! I'm the same

@Superscientist thank you - that's very reassuring to hear! I hope today gets better for you ☀️

@CustardCream31 I’m glad all is in the right place. Hopefully when you go back all will be fine. But I know how difficult it is waiting. How many weeks are you now?

@Sunshine924 I think dates can vary so much this early on. Hopefully it’s just a matter of time & you’ll see more next week

My scan is tomorrow afternoon. I’m petrified

Hey October ladies,
Just recently joined up to this sight as I got a bfp last week after my miscarriage last year.
My EDD IS 31/10 blooming Halloween lol.
I'm very anxious due my loss last year but I have a scan with my consultant this Friday to make sure baby is in right place etc, but I can feel this week going to drag.
I hope you all feeling ok xx

@CustardCream31
If you’re measuring on track that’s a very good thing. I’m sure in two weeks time the baby will be seen on the scan.

@Sunshine924 so early on the calculation can be off by a mm and it changes gestational age by days. Measuring smaller is also very common.

My scan is next Thursday and I’m absolutely terrified of it because of the mmc last year.
I’m being more positive since my tests have progressed fast and my symptoms are still strong at 7w3d unlike last time when they started going away by now. I’m also feeling more relaxed but last time I was full of anxiety and had a feeling something wasn’t right all along.
So annoying my partner isn’t allowed to be present at the scan. They only allow it 3 times through out the whole pregnancy.

@Sunshine924 I am in exactly the same position as you. LMP 18 January so should be 6 weeks. Can see a gestation sac and a yolk sac and what could be the start of a fetal pole but nothing beyond that x

How are you feeling? Did they seem to think it's normal to be a week behind? The nurse and sonographer were quite unclear just said you have to come back. I'm confused as dates we DTD would still put me at 6 weeks I think. I guess we just need to trust our bodies and the process.

@Sunshine924 its going to be a long two weeks… the dates could work though but it’s just disconcerting. As you say all we can do is trust the process and a yolk sac is a good sign it’s progressing as it should x

@Hope1986 @Sunshine924 I had an early scan for my bleeding at 6 weeks by LMP and there was only gestational sac visible, no yolk sac, even with transvaginal scan. Sonographer seemed quite negative.
After the longest week of my life, I had another scan at what was 7 weeks by LMP and I had yolk sac, fetal pole, baby, and heartbeat all there within a week. Measuring 6w1d. I was tracking ovulation so I know I didn’t ovulate until at least CD16 and it’s all so approximate when they’re trying to see and measure something so tiny.

Thanks @FenellaFurchester for sharing I guess there is some hope!