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16 weeks no heartbeat

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Pinkumberella · 08/12/2024 22:21

So today I went to what should have been an exciting gender reveal scan to find out blue/pink but instead ended in heart break.

i attended a private scan and after only having a scan 2 weeks ago to check for downs etc (which all came back low chance along with bloods) and everything was perfect, today the sonography struggled to locate the baby it was tucked down low, we couldn’t see much as all seemed blurry, he said baby was curled which didn’t look good, couldn’t locate a heart beat but kept saying I’m not sure if it’s a faint one - on the grey line they show - and then also said the head looked “lemon shaped” as a posed to round and would indicate a syndrome... Yet two weeks ago it was round and mo syndrome or abnormalities detected.

He advised to contact my midwife in the morning for an urgent referral and check of bloods and rescan. He said it looks as though the pregnancy has recently ended. I came away in tears. My 9 Year old LG was heartbroken and my 3 year old LB was bewildered.

i am 41 and this was a surprise baby but a very welcome surprise, i feel like i have just got my head round it now it’s being ripped AY.

has anyone has this happen and everything turned out okay and baby was just in a very awkward position?

I have had zero cramping or bleeding and also have a tilted womb. I had early scans due to previous early miscarriages and each scan up until today have been fine.

thanks for your time in reading and sorry for waffling my eyes and head hurt from crying ;(

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RubyRedBow · 08/12/2024 22:30

I’m so sorry to read this, it must have been very distressing for you all.

Make sure you call the hospital first thing in the morning. The private clinic should have given you a report to explain their findings and you may still be able to be seen at the early pregnancy until. Check your notes for the numbers.

I have heard similar stories from private clinics and personally I wouldn’t fully trust their judgment. Your baby could well have been tucked away and there were no abnormalities previously but it’s important you get checked asap.

Best wishes to you.

Foundaplan · 08/12/2024 22:31

I’m so sorry, I’ve no experience but I just wanted to say I really hope you’re ok.

Shoobidowhop · 08/12/2024 22:36

I'm so sorry, the most important thing is to get checked ASAP as there have been some awful stories regarding the competency of private scan clinics. I don't want to give false hope but of course hope for a positive outcome.

JenniferGreenHat · 08/12/2024 22:39

Best wishes OP, really hoping for good news for you.

Yoonimum · 08/12/2024 22:43

How awful for you all - I am keeping everything crossed for you.

MelainesLaugh · 08/12/2024 22:43

I really hope you get better news tomorrow. I have heard some worrying stories about some of these clinics

anonny55 · 08/12/2024 23:03

What an awful thing to go through OP you must be distraught. Please contact midwife first thing tomorrow..I hope they got it wrong!

YoureAMeanOneMrGrinch · 08/12/2024 23:16

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

I experienced similar last year, all well at the 12 week scan and then I had a private sexing scan booked for 15+5. I started bleeding that morning so I was at least mentally prepared for the worst, but they measured the baby and it measured 12+2 which was either the same day or the day after my first scan and it just blows my mind how everything was fine and a matter of hours layer it was all gone.

I truly hope you get a better outcome and your little one was just being silly for you.

Apollo365 · 08/12/2024 23:22

Oh OP. Just to say I hope you get an appt in the morning and all turns out well ❤️

Lulu89x · 08/12/2024 23:25

I am so sad reading this. Im sorry you’re going through this..I hope everything turns out ok for you tomorrow x

HolyStyleFailBatman · 08/12/2024 23:25

So sorry, that is just dreadful. I really hope you get better news tomorrow, and can get some kind of sleep tonight

TurquoiseDress · 08/12/2024 23:26

I hope everything turns out ok for you tomorrow Flowers

HolyStyleFailBatman · 08/12/2024 23:26

YoureAMeanOneMrGrinch · 08/12/2024 23:16

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

I experienced similar last year, all well at the 12 week scan and then I had a private sexing scan booked for 15+5. I started bleeding that morning so I was at least mentally prepared for the worst, but they measured the baby and it measured 12+2 which was either the same day or the day after my first scan and it just blows my mind how everything was fine and a matter of hours layer it was all gone.

I truly hope you get a better outcome and your little one was just being silly for you.

Sorry for your loss

sel2223 · 09/12/2024 00:04

This is absolutely heartbreaking, I'm so sorry OP

jellyfish2 · 09/12/2024 09:27

So sorry to read this. I hope you get seen quickly today and that it turns out the private clinic was wrong. 🩷

HVPRN · 09/12/2024 09:31

Thinking of you, sending hope Flowers

Pinkumberella · 09/12/2024 09:47

Thanks everyone for your support I am going in at 1pm today to the Assessment Unit and praying for a miracle… x

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landobroken · 09/12/2024 10:02

Best of luck to you OP xx

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 09/12/2024 10:04

So sorry to read this. I hope it all turns out ok x

Wen19 · 09/12/2024 10:41

sending lots of love and hope <3

Littlemiracles232504 · 09/12/2024 11:09

Sending you lots of love, I'm keeping everything crossed for a positive outcome
Massive hugs to you 💐

Lollystar15 · 09/12/2024 11:47

I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you get the answer you want today xx

violetcuriosity · 09/12/2024 11:56

I'm so sorry, sending you a hand hold xxxx

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 09/12/2024 11:58

What an emotional rollercoaster, OP.

I'm crossing everything that you just had an incompetent sonographer and that your scan today shows that your baby is OK.

PubicZirconia · 09/12/2024 11:59

Wish u all the best xx

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