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16 weeks no heartbeat

143 replies

Pinkumberella · 08/12/2024 22:21

So today I went to what should have been an exciting gender reveal scan to find out blue/pink but instead ended in heart break.

i attended a private scan and after only having a scan 2 weeks ago to check for downs etc (which all came back low chance along with bloods) and everything was perfect, today the sonography struggled to locate the baby it was tucked down low, we couldn’t see much as all seemed blurry, he said baby was curled which didn’t look good, couldn’t locate a heart beat but kept saying I’m not sure if it’s a faint one - on the grey line they show - and then also said the head looked “lemon shaped” as a posed to round and would indicate a syndrome... Yet two weeks ago it was round and mo syndrome or abnormalities detected.

He advised to contact my midwife in the morning for an urgent referral and check of bloods and rescan. He said it looks as though the pregnancy has recently ended. I came away in tears. My 9 Year old LG was heartbroken and my 3 year old LB was bewildered.

i am 41 and this was a surprise baby but a very welcome surprise, i feel like i have just got my head round it now it’s being ripped AY.

has anyone has this happen and everything turned out okay and baby was just in a very awkward position?

I have had zero cramping or bleeding and also have a tilted womb. I had early scans due to previous early miscarriages and each scan up until today have been fine.

thanks for your time in reading and sorry for waffling my eyes and head hurt from crying ;(

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Trallia · 09/12/2024 22:09

I'm sorry you've had such awful news, and keeping everything crossed your hospital scan found a heartbeat.

A missed miscarriage is always tough to discover, especially one that is rather late on. There us lots of useful information from this organisation https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/ and Tommy's https://www.tommys.org/about-us/our-people/tommys-midwives if you need information or anyone to talk to. I found that helpful after being there.

The Miscarriage Association:Pregnancy Loss Information & Support

Learn about the Miscarriage Association, how to cope, and support those experiencing pregnancy loss. Access vital resources and information.

https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk

PromoJoJo · 09/12/2024 22:11

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mcmooberry · 09/12/2024 22:13

Just seen this I hope you had better news at the appointment today, what a horrible unexpected shock after your previous scan being fine. x

CuriousQuestioningGal · 09/12/2024 22:13

I’m so sorry this has happened to you. I can sadly empathise as I’ve had 2 miscarriages. The first - the feeling of only getting your head around the fact something is there for it to be suddenly gone is a description I understand too well. Take time to grieve and heal. Send much love xx

Ihaveneedofwaternear · 09/12/2024 22:16

Thinking of you, OP x

Gawdimold · 09/12/2024 22:19

Hope you got better news today xx

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 09/12/2024 22:28

Heartbreaking. So sorry. Praying for a miracle too. x

teatoast8 · 09/12/2024 22:32

Hope you got better news x

Sarahhills · 09/12/2024 22:42

Just saw this OP, im so sorry, Im one of many posters who have experienced a miscarriage, mine was much earlier on but still devastating. I still think about my little one everyday but it does get easier. I was hoping there would be a positive update and will check back again.

littlemissprosseco · 09/12/2024 22:55

Sending love

Scutterbug · 09/12/2024 22:59

Much love, such a shock for you all.

2025willbemytime · 09/12/2024 23:02

I really hope you got better news today but I fear you didn't as you've not posted. Take the best care you can and rest as much as possible too.

Joystir59 · 09/12/2024 23:05

Wishing all the very best for you

Thehaberdasher · 09/12/2024 23:06

Really sorry to read this.
take care OP, you poor thing xxx

Candy24 · 09/12/2024 23:08

OP Im really sorry. Please don't take your children to the other scans and appointments. I had a loss at that stage and honestly it is hard. Be prepared as you will need to go through a labour and also it is confronting. Hugs and prayers for you and your family.

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 09/12/2024 23:11

So sorry OP

GiveMeAbitOfSugar · 09/12/2024 23:15

Hope you are ok OP

cannynotsay · 09/12/2024 23:19

Sorry 😔

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Zonder · 09/12/2024 23:26

Thinking of you OP.

Enough4me · 09/12/2024 23:31

Hi OP, I hope you've had better news but can't see a later message. I still remember my molar pregnancy from years ago. At the time, I wanted to pull the world apart it all felt unfair and sad. I may go against the grain here, but I think crying is good. Letting pain and stress out. Not just for you but for your wider family too. We hide grief away, but it's important to be open for ourselves and our DCs and needed to heal xx

Whattodowithelves · 09/12/2024 23:34

Oh op I'm so so sorry.

I've lost 2 at 8 weeks and 10 weeks and only found out like you at the scan where I was expecting things to be ok.

I can't even imagine being 16 weeks along and finding out, you must be devastated.

Please look after you and your little girl especially x

Incakewetrust · 09/12/2024 23:47

Thinking of you OP Flowers