Boyfriend doesn't want to have baby

[FirstTimeMummyxxx]

Hi, I am 23 and already have an 11 month old. My partner knew i wasn't on the pill and we have been having sex unprotected - lo and behold i done a test today and it was positive. He doesn't want to keep the baby, won't even sit down and talk about it just straight away said "do another test then we will google on what's the next steps to get rid" but i don't want to get rid. I have always wanted kids young and i am kind of against abortion... (please don't hate me for that). We have a house together but not sure what to do, leave him and keep the baby and get my own place and be a single mom or get rid like he wants?

I would be very surprised if there is anyone at all, even one solitary person, who is jealous of the situation you find yourself in im afraid op.

You would be better placed to assume no one is posting from a position of jealousy when they are offering the advice they have.

Otherwise you are at risk of dismissing all opinions which aren't what you want to hear, rendering your post and question pointless.

I'd be extremely surprised if anyone here was jealous of someone whose ended up in this situation. It's immature.

Wouldn't be immature if i was older though would it? you're ridiculous.

@FirstTimeMummyxxx even if you 40 and ended up pregnant without using contraception knowing your partner doesn't want another baby would be immature and stupid.

Read all my post before you come at me, my partner never said he didn't want a baby until i got a positive test. You silly woman.

That's not the point. The point is that the responsible thing is to use contraception unless you've said to your partner, "Do you want to have a baby?" and they have said, "Yes, I do!" and you've discussed how you will afford it.

@MissScarletInTheBallroom has it in one! You don't just not use anything and then discuss having another baby when your already pregnant that's not the way to do it.

Wouldn’t even bother updating the thread OP you’re not going to get any support here it seems

OP, a large contingent of posters here have decided that you are irresponsible, a burden on their taxes, and your children are doomed to a terrible life, you will have multiple partners and children for the rest of your life, and that you are lying. They somehow absolutely know it all about an anonymous thread. Don't waste your time responding to them. Do what you think is right, and move forward based on what your partner's view of his part in the child's future is going to be, and how you can handle it. Good luck.

You really do need to grow up

Your life is nothing to brag about

@Nanny0gg Hahahahahahahhahaha

With her current attitude it's not really surprising

@Nanny0gg I've now got attitude because you people are belittling me, if you're going to belittle me, do not comment. End of. 🩷

I think it should be your partner you are arguing with. Any decent man wouldn't need to spend time considering if he wants to parent the new baby. He would just do it and accept his part of the blame.

If you're having regular unprotected sex, then you are trying to get pregnant. That's how it works.

@premierleague We only had it once this month and i've caught lol... so 👍🏼

I don't see the relevance of this comment. It doesn't make any difference how many times you have sex as long as it happens at least once during your fertile window. If you do that, you're trying to get pregnant.

@MissScarletInTheBallroom Literally stop commenting, it's because she said "regular unprotected sex" literally had it once. Now listen, me and my partner have sorted this, so goodbye x

Has he decided to be a man and stay?

I am glad to read that you and your DP have gotten it worked out. I hope you are both happy with what has been worked out and wish you the very best with your decision.

And I can’t blame anyone for not offering support. OP’s last few replies have been undeniably immature. Unless everyone agrees that her situation is perfectly normal they are jealous according to the OP.

OP, you (and your boyfriend) are childish and irresponsible. You most certainly do not sound like you have your life together, nor someone that many people would be jealous of.

@BroomAdventures Blah blah blah 😑

I'm sorry you're in this situation OP. Your DP knew what he was doing and his job now is to be helpful and supportive. Unfortunately, his reaction is very disappointing. Make your decision assuming you will go at it alone. I'm sure you can do it, and it's your choice.

23 is a perfectly great age to have a child.

I do think that some posters are a bit nasty because, ideally, you should have discussed what will happen when you get pregnant etc. That's what a mature couple does. You obviously wanted another baby while he buried his head in the sand. No one is perfect and no one makes the best decision all the time. It's done now and this baby exists. So you need to just decide what YOU want and what YOU can cope with.

Bloody hell this thread is quite the rollercoaster!