September 2024 - Thread 11

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@PinkWatermelon88 I hope the send off went as well as it could. Such a horrible time for you all.
Baby being unsettled really isn't going to help. I hope it doesn't last! We have a couple of days like that at a time and it completely wipes me out

@PinkWatermelon88 it must be so tough right now, the colic hours are tough is hell as it is without anything else being thrown in. Can't begin to imagine. Make sure you take some time for yourself if you can, important for you to be able to grieve fully too.

Thanks friends. It’s a lot! And the 2yo doesn’t leave up for two minutes so the juggle is a lot. I asked a friend to give us her dock-a-tot/sleepyhead for tonight to see how we go. I know they’re not safe but neither is not sleeping at all!

@PinkWatermelon88 I bought one of the babymoov pillow things and seems to have made her settle much better. That and a swaddle x

Thanks pet! We’ll try these tonight and see how we go. Hands up swaddle or down? She’s kinda grown out of the newborn love to dream one- I must get the next size xx

Thank you for the kind words about the nipple change. I saw my GP today and he was really nice. Did a thorough exam and initially said it all seemed okay with the exception of the top of the nipple, and that could be explained by hormones and pumping. He was going to write to the breast clinic for advice on whether to refer me but when I got home he got in touch to say he’s given it more thought and that rather than wait for the breast clinic to reply, he’d rather just refer me anyway because that’s much safer if they just take a look in the next 2 weeks. He did say if he referred 100 women, 98 would be fine so hopefully I’m in the 98.

@WinsandSam and @HuggingAnIcePack887 glad I’m not alone on the haemorrhoids after a c-section! I genuinely thought avoiding them was a benefit of a c-section haha, but clearly it’s not. I think it’s the sitting down that’s done it for me!

@PinkWatermelon88 I have hands down now. Did use the love to dream but have preferred just using a blanket. Good luck for tonight!

@RosiePH that's hopefully reassuring for you. Hope there isn't much of a wait to see someone so they can put your mind at ease x

@RosiePH that's good that they will refer you, hopefully you will get a quick appointment so you can put your mind at rest.

I was thinking about Halloween and good costumes. A baby is actually a really good one. They are the most scariest things really? I've just been lying in bed for the last half hour contemplating whether it is worth going to the toilet and may disturb him or just lie here jiggling trying to hold it. Decided to go for it and as I went to move sure enough he started twisting and turning. Froze to the spot, afraid to breathe too loud, settled again so I continued, floorboard creaked so I had to freeze again, then just decided to run for it. He is now currently propped up on my shoulder because I kicked his crib by accident getting in to bed again.

@FuppinNora what a light sleeper! Poor you. Do they actually wake? Ruby would fumble et but not wake up. I have the tv on and even that doesn't wake the beast 😂

@HuggingAnIcePack887 with you on the not being able to fall back asleep in the morning! It was my turn for a lie in this morning & I tried to sleep for 20min before giving up and scrolling on my phone. Didn't help that the toddler was standing at the bottom of the stairs yelling "MUMMY" for a good 5 minutes. The postpartum rage I felt towards my husband for not trying to intervene sooner kept me awake far longer than the actual noise. 🫠

@RosiePH Great that they're being thorough in referring you! Hopefully they'll see you asap and you can get your mind fully put to ease.

@PinkWatermelon88 I hope the send off let you have time with your loved ones to celebrate her. 🩷 And that you got some rest last night - how did the dock a tot go?

@FuppinNora ahhhh that's the worst!! I remember seriously considering adult diapers on my first because his ears were super sonic towards any noise. 😂

@WinsAndSam @kc92 strangely he sleeps through tv, hoover etc during the day but come early morning a small click and the eyes ping open 😀 he went back immediately though once I picked him up.
I don't know how you do with a toddler also @kc92 I'm barely looking after my teen who can make his own snacks 😂

@kc92 my house was the same this morning, little 2yo running amock and my partner like a headless chicken running around after them. She had a bad temp overnight and we thought we’d be in for an awful night but thankfully she slept and is eating so he just turned a blind eye to her madness 😂. Sleep was awful friends… I actually don’t know what I’m going to do 😭 up from 2-6. She slept in the dockatot for 7 mins and on our chest since. Anyone have those tommee tippee swaddles? Think I’ll go get one today!

@kc92 oh God the rage. My baby took ages to go down for a nap, I managed to almost doze off. He woke up 5 minutes later. Then he fell asleep again. Then i dozed off. Then he woke up again. Woke me up. Then he fell asleep for TWO HOURS. But I couldn't fall asleep for the third time. I just couldn't. How could I?

So I threw a pair of sunglasses at the wall, yelled into a pillow and sobbed next to my sleeping little angel/terrorist.

Thoughts on coffee anyone? I'm scared to have more than 1 cup of coffee a day in case it affects the baby. I've always had low blood pressure (around 50/90 usually) and I survive on coffee since I was 18.

@FuppinNora TBH I'm pretty sure a toddler is easier than a teenager!! I have teenage nieces and nephews and they terrify me. 😂 Couldn't handle more hormones in the house right now.

@PinkWatermelon88 shite that sounds awful. 🙈 Would she settle for your partner if you got them to walk her around the house middle of the night? Not a long term solution but sounds like you really really need some shut eye. Did you have the dock a tot in the bed or the crib? My friend used to bring hers in to the middle of the bed and her refluxy baby slept like a dream there. They're all so different though it's like trying to find a winning lotto ticket trying to find a pattern that helps a baby sleep!

@HuggingAnIcePack887 aahhhhh and of course he slept through the breakdown next to him like a little dream. 😫 I genuinely think the more sleep we get the easier parenting is so it's just cruel when it doesn't happen!

For coffee, I've stuck to decaf so far as I wanted to avoid anxiety spikes after PND on my first postpartum journey. I used to be addicted though and would have at least 2 at home coffees first time. My baby was wired but I don't think the coffee impacted him. As long as it's under 300mg I think it's fine? There's roughly 150mg in a coffee pod for a Nespresso machine, brand dependent.

@HuggingAnIcePack887 at least you didn't throw the baby 😋 it's so infuriating when they sleep for a long period and you haven't taken advantage. Mine hasn't settled for more than 10 mins on his own, constant contact napping today and I'm all touched out. Not sure what is up as he is happy when not napping. Husband has him currently and I'm drinking a coffee and gorging on chocolate digestives. I'm dreading what's coming tonight.

@PinkWatermelon88 have you tried being in bed on your own and having her lie lengthways so her feet are near your tummy and putting your head on pillow near her - your kind of in a c shape. This works with ds for some reason - now we are literally nose to nose but at least not holding him.

@PinkWatermelon88 I use swaddle blankets and Ruby loves them. I put a blanket on her too and lie her on the babymoov. We've previously used a neat type thing and put it in the middle of our bed. She also slept on that well!

If the swaddle doesn't work would you consider bed sharing? I cuddle her to sleep in our bed and she sleeps well (if she won't go in her cot.)

@HuggingAnIcePack887 tiredness is honesty a killer. Especially when they trick you into thinking you can go to sleep.

She’s so cute @WinsandSam dhe looks so peaceful 😍 We’ve tried Co sleeping losds but she hates being on her back the last maybe 3 weeks?! Don’t know what changed. Up to that we were getting up to 4h a night in her cot, now it’s half hours on our chest 🙈 Yup @FuppinNora thats how I CS with my 2yo too and it was fab but this one isn’t a fab.

I had the nest in her next to me. I got himself to bring down my Bella moon nest from the attic tonight so I’ll try that in the bed and see how we go @kc92 …. I’d forgotten how tricky this newborn sleep was!

wishing us all HOURS of sleep tonight x

@PinkWatermelon88 bless her. Ruby can be the same with back sleeping, I think when she has a painful stomach. Chest sleeping is her favourite. Wouldn't it be great if they all just slept every night!

He ended up sleeping quite well in the end thank God! Hope you all got some sleep.

@PinkWatermelon88 When mine has cramps during night I sometimes use one of those microwaveable beanbag heat things and lay it on his tummy. Sometimes works sometimes doesn't!

@WinsAndSam Ruby is such a cutie, looks v cosy there.

she’s cute as pie @WinsandSam and oh so cosy! I’d sleep like that myself 😂

delighted you got sleep @FuppinNora nothing like it! Mine fell aslee after screaming for hours at 2, the second I put her down she woke. Tried on and off again till 4, again each time she went down she woke. She slept in my partners arms from 4-7 so I got sleep. Walking zombies today again.

Why is the sleep deprivation so hard with a newborn? I had on and off anxiety and insomnia pre-baby and had late nights working etc, basically I have done plenty of days' work with only 2-3 hours of sleep, for days in a row, but it was never this bad. It just feels like torture.

DH thinks I'm not getting deep quality sleep. My baby is sleeping longer than some of your babies now (he is 9 weeks to be fair so a tiny bit older) but still. I'm shattered. Maybe my attitude stinks. I should just get up and do stuff but I don't feel I can.

@HuggingAnIcePack887 i think the difference is not only are we sleep deprived but we also have a spanking new baby to mind, who depends on us for everything. A whole new level of really important responsibility. We’ll get there… I remember my 2yo didn’t sleep for the first 18m and I thought I’d never sleep again! But she just did one night and has slept 12h+ every night since. Turns out her sister is the very same as her 😂

@PinkWatermelon88 tbh when we bed share, she mostly sleeps on her side. I kind of wedge her with rolled up blankets so she can't go anywhere. Sure it's not advised but she sleeps comfortably

To those of you with toddlers/other children. You are bloody legends. No idea how you do it

@WinsandSam she is adorable!! 🥰 And baby #2 is a lot lot easier IMO. Much less of the "oh crap what am I doing" feeling.

Finally registered baby boys birth today! Thank you to this thread for reminding me I needed to do that.

Also trying desperately to stage off mastitis for the second time after leaving baba to go to the gym & shops this weekend. Apparently 7 weeks is too early for 3 hours to myself - though they were glorious before the clogged duct. 🙈
@TripleESept24 thought it might be thrush at first & thought of you - how are you & baby doing?

@PinkWatermelon88 how did you get your toddler to sleep through?? I will take any magic tips please! Ours did for exactly 3 months at 17 months, and we tricked ourselves into thinking it'd be forever and conceived #2. Right now the baby sleeps better than the toddler. 😅 Hoping when his last molars finish popping out well get some rest.