Due March 2025 thread 2

[Zuzu2020]

Hi guys just making a new thread as the old one is nearly full :)

Hi guys returning from the previous thread! Thanks OP.

i mentioned I’m an ivf patient but fell pregnant right before our 3rd round. I’m about 9 weeks now (according to LMP).
Have had 2 scans dating at 5w5d and 8weeks.

feeling super anxious still that something is wrong and baby is not developing. I have little to no symptoms also. Have a scan which should be 10 weeks next week!

Making my place on the new thread although I haven't been very active. I find it so hard to keep up and feel rude dropping in about my stuff without catching up with everything first.

I'm meant to be 7+5 today but measured a week behind when I had an early scan at EPAU last week after cramping and bleeding. I am worrying about this by trying not to think about it too much. They also diagnosed me with endometriosis and said my ovary on the left is stuck to the wall of my uterus and also has a cyst. I've been given progesterone pessaries - has anyone had any experience of anything like this or with the progesterone?

Joining as I had a heart beat at 7+3, next scan is 9+4 hoping heart beat is still as strong if not stronger x
Due around 15th March

I'm taking the pessarys, due to previous losses

@Patientlywaiting7 if it helps you feel any better all my symptoms have basically gone from 8 weeks and I'm also so anxious. Currently 10w2 and had a scan at 9w and 10w and baby's been fine both times xx

Had a scan at 8 weeks all looks fine so just taking everyday as it comes, also due March 15th x

Thanks for the new thread! Just place marking for now :)

@Ellsx6 thats amazing news. congratulations! The doctor scanning me last week mentioned that as you head towards the end of your trimester your symptoms ease (it didn’t answer my question at the time as I’ve had no symptoms at all)

but the overall gist is try not to panic - I think it’s a good sign that you had symptoms and they fade. really happy for you :)

how are you managing to keep your anxieties at bay? I’m a secondary school teacher and as great as the holidays are - I’m doing a lot of over thinking!

do you have any more scans with epu? Or is this your last one before your 11-14 week scan?

sending over tonnes of baby dust your way! ❤️

Thanks for the new thread! I'm currently having days of intense nausea(really knocking me mentally) and then more chill days just with little waves. I found out so early, and it's just made the waiting unbearable! Only 6w+3 so trying to just keep positive and wait patiently. I have booked an early scan for 8 weeks so I have something to work towards. This beginning stage is just a waiting game and I hate it!! Fingers crossed everything is progressing as it should be💖 xx

So I only actually had 1 scan at epu as I had signs of eptopic left sided pain and shoulder tip pains in the early days but thankfully it was okay. I've actually been getting weekly private scans because I'm so paranoid and it's took 4 years to conceive this baby so I think that's made me extra extra scared then no symptoms! It's actually about how your body reacts to hormones that produces symptoms or not so I just tell myself well my body must agree with pregnancy and it's all going to be fine! I have another scan tomorrow that I booked ages ago before the plans of weekly ones and I can't get the money back so I'm just going to it. I think it'll be my last though as my nhs one is at 12w4 so will have 2 weeks to wait

I'm super busy over the next couple of weeks with work, events and plans with friends so I think my anxiety will be okay not to have a scan in those 2 weeks.

I'm self employed so only really work 4 days a week from home so I'm in my own thoughts a lot which I find makes my anxiety worse.

Apart from picking up extra work to help stay busy I've been making plans with friends, going out and having a look at baby clothes (surprisingly it really actually helps to feel positive, taking myself on cinema dates and shopping trips..just really trying to keep busy. Do things you can control like stay active and eat things that are good for baby's development. Get the extra scan if you can afford to ect. I know some people don't find private scans reassuring but I do. Just try and stay positive until you're given a reason not to be. No symptoms isn't a reason to not be scared it's super common. My mum had a mmc and had symptoms for a whole 6 weeks before she found out so please try not to worry. Things can go wrong even with symptoms. You will get your baby💕💕 @Patientlywaiting7

Thanks for the new thread, just marking my place. I have my dating scan tomorrow and I think I'll actually be due in Feb, so a bit cheeky to be in this thread! I didn't realise how early I was when I found out I was pregnant 😳

Is anyone else considering having their tubes tied? My situation is very weird as we had IVF for DD, now I'm pregnant with a surprise that we did not think was possible. I am absolutely positive though that this will be our last baby, as pregnancies are awful all the way through for me (from sickness to pelvic pain and last time i had GD too). I'll be asking them to tie/remove my tubes during my c section - which I'll be insisting I have. I'm hoping they don't argue it, I've never been so sure about anything!

Thanks for the new thread. I've replied to the old thread but seeing this one.

Don't feel the need to catch up before offloading! You might be bringing up something that others are also struggling with but didn't feel able to say anything. I think we all feel the pressure of juggling life and pregnancy and it's not possible to keep on top of everything so if replying of here or to friends and family get missed or the housework isn't done or you get behind with work. Remember alongside living your growing a whole new person and that is very demanding and there is only so much energy a person has. Focus on spending energy of things that give you the biggest benefit to the day and life in general

If that is what you feel is right for you, absolutely do it. I would possibly bring it up early then when you get to the end they know that you have given it some careful consideration for the whole 9 months and not a knee jerk reaction to an awful pregnancy. Be clear and concise with your reasoning and would hope they would respect your wishes.
Good luck with your scan tomorrow! If you are at the end of Feb rather than the beginning of march you can be our guiding beacon as we navigate our pregnancy! I remember when I was expecting my daughter also reading the thread for the due date a month before so I had an idea of what was to come!

@Ellsx6 sounds like you’re doing a really great job and I’ll be taking a leaf out of your book with trying to get different things sorted to keep calm.

that is so coincidental! It’s also taken me 4 (and a bit) years! are you an ivf patient?

I did my first round of ivf in feb 22 - ended in chemical.
second round July 22 - landed me in hospital eith sepsis!

then did 2 frozen cycles in feb and summer last year. Both failed.

this is a natural pregnancy which is why I’m so shocked at myself and super nervous around symptoms. The epu have been somewhat helpful in that I’ve had 2 scans so far and they’ll give me a scan every two weeks up until the my 12 week ultrasound.

I'm happy to consider private but I’m also anxious as I’ve been told that they aren’t medically trained and make errors (which will cause me anxiety!) I think on the whole they’d make me feel more calm though if I’m honest. I’m based in London and there’s loads of good / high star rating on google for diff ultrasound places. They cost between 60-120£ (I think we’re able to do bundles though).

a bit of a side note but did my booking bloods yday and specifically told the midwife about my thyroid issues (which I take meds for) - and he didn’t check!

I mentioned it to my midwife at my booking in appointment so it's noted down. I thought exactly the same thing, if I'm consistent then they'll know I mean it. Two babies is 2 more than I thought we'd have and is 100% enough for us 🥰

My dad was told as a child he wouldn't be able to have children and my mum was told after having my sister (different father) that she couldn't have any more. They went on to have 2 children together although after the surprise second pregnancy my dad had the spin. You can be incredibly grateful for the children in your arms and still know that your arms have all the children they need x

@Patientlywaiting7

No this one's been conceived naturally! We did know that it could take a while as we didn't fall naturally and after 2 years my partner had a full fertility test done at a private hospital after always being fobbed of by the nhs saying it was likely the girl thats infertile not him..he'd been in a previous long term relationship before me and he also never was able to get his ex pregnant so he knew something was wrong. His fertility test came back as very low sperm count and the sperm he did have were very slow swimmers so we knew it could take ages and tbh was just over it and thought we'd never have kids (it was hurtful but so bloody draining trying every month tracking ovulation and always being negative!) we gave up and said we'd start saving for ivf and said when we're ready mentally we'll do it. Miraculously I got pregnant soon after we said we won't try anymore! I know we could've got nhs ivf but nhs is just on its knees as it is and we can afford private so we was planning for that.

I go to a private hospital for my scans that offer ultrasounds and have current nhs workers that are there part time so they are definitely trained and I trust them opposed to the places that are 70£ a scan chain places. It's a little more expensive but it's worth it to me.

I've never been pregnant in the past so was super scared this wouldn't work out as I see often most first time pregnancy's aren't successful but I think I'm getting closer to the 'safe zone at 12weeks' and all looks good so I'm just trying to trust my body and relax even though it's so hard!

It's good that the epu are keeping a close eye! But I know how hard that 2 week wait is, it feels like forever.

Apparently seeing a heartbeat at 9w is just as good as seeing it at 12w it's just that most don't get a private scan before then so the risk after the 12 week mark is the same as the risk at the 9w mark which has helped my anxiety.

Most common time to miscarry is between 6-8w and your past that! That's amazing!

'According to study's after an ultrasound confirms baby's heartbeat at 8 weeks, the risk of miscarriage is about 3%, better yet research published in obstetrics and gynaecology indicated that the rate is closer to 1.6% for women experiencing NO symptoms'

Out of 100 women who've seen a heartbeat at 8weeks, atleast 98.4 of those women will have a successful pregnancy.

The odds are so in our favour!🥰

@Ellsx6 completelu understand your choice around saving for private care. I was lucky enough to have 3 rounds as I lived in Camden (I think it’s the only place that offer 3 rounds)!

i know lots of people critique the nhs and I know they’re so underfunded but the wolfson fertility clinic (Hammersmith) was so so helpful - they treated everyone private or not the same! Even though it didn’t work out I feel super grateful to them.

all of your positive thinking has really warmed me so thank you! Yes - the odds are in our favour ❤️ we’ve got this!

im due around 11th March. When are you due?

baby dust to you all ❤️ xx

Placemarking. I am 7 weeks today and really really struggling with nausea and vomiting even on prochlorperazine.

Saw a heartbeat at 6 weeks but have had recurrent previous losses.

Does anyone have a super weird taste in their mouth that doesn’t go away and just feels awful all day?

Hi ladies,

thank you OP for the new thread. ❤️ I said this yesterday to @Ellsx6 but I definitely have a little baby bump at 9ws … don’t know if I’m elated or overwhelmed! 🤣 and thanks for those statistics @Ellsx6, very reassuring.

@Patientlywaiting7 congratulations on your pregnancy, what a time you have had. ❤️

I know women who have had seamless, faultless, easy experiences of conception and pregnancy and so when I fell pregnant the first time and miscarried I felt like “oh pregnancy is easy until it just isn’t anymore.” And I feel like we are justified in having as many early scans or whatever as we like - just to get us through - if that’s what it takes. Because we know it isn’t always easy.

Appetite isn't great still although less nausea, seems to be the smell of food cooking makes my stomach churn

I've been avoiding garlic as I sensed that wasn't helping the nausea

Chicken I'm struggling a bit with unless it's strongly flavoured?

One thing I'm really enjoying, and probably health conscious people will cringe, but dairylea dunkers 😂 having 2 packs at lunchtime with an apple and some crisps and they seem to go down nicely

So far only thrown up once - because the cat used the tray and it smelt, I gagged at the smell, usually I can stop gagging, erm not this time!

Bit worried others are so nauseas and I'm not getting it as much? Just reduced Appetite and only fancying certain foods. Trying to think of meals is really hard

Wanted to go abroad but my mum (only person aside DH I've told) worried me with the what if something happens that means you need the hospital etc, so looks like we will have to have a UK break

Got ny booking in appointment next week, on the call they said about moving the scan forward, as they think it'll be a bit late atm, but not heard anything about rearranging it yet

Is anyone else struggling for motivation? I'm off atm, and need to clean the house, but I just can't be bothered. I've been lazing around watching the Olympics

Just checking in again. Still the same - fatigued, larger and sorer boobs, peeing more often. Over 10 weeks now by LMP but as we tracked I think it is only 9 weeks.

No scans as of yet but as we had a MMC last time (our first time) the fear is there.

@PlumpHobbit

THIS. IS. ME. I’m currently on school six weeks holiday and I’m waking up every day at like 7 with 3 year old but not actually getting my arse in gear and having four cups of tea until about 12 midday 🙈🙈 so bad.

I remember feeling this unmotivated the first time though. Must be a first trimester thing. I’m actually thinking of hiring a cleaner 🙈 can’t afford it like 🤣

also is it totally nuts to be thinking of baby names? 😬

@Patientlywaiting7 the first 3 scans I had dated me to be due 2nd march but the last 2 have dates me to be due 3rd march ..so I'm assuming around that sort of time, I know it's hard for precise measurements due to position ect at this point.. I'm glad I've managed to make you feel more reassured! Just pop on and drop me a mention if you'd like some help and reassurance

I know how hard this is for all of us💕

@PlumpHobbit just enjoy not being sick trust me! Things can go wrong if you're sick or not sick so I'd just enjoy it. It was something I worried about a lot as it seems like everyone I know was sick and I'm just not. I've just got a headache and sooo tired. And I'm with you with feeling unmotivated.

I'm so lucky to have an amazing job I work from home I chose my own days and hours I do something I love everyday and meet with amazing women everyday but I just cannot be bothered these days which is unlike me. I'm a workaholic and used to do 13hr days 6 days a week I now work about 24hrs a week because I'm so unmotivated with everything but laying in bed in my pjs🤣

@HappyGoLucky31 I'm glad the statistics gave you some reassurance. I feel like people who have straight forwards pregnancy's don't really come onto the internet and talk about it as much as people who've had bad experiences. 2 of my cousins have both conceived in first month of trying and never had a mc and now have 2 beautiful children each and you'd never catch them on a forum like this because they just have nothing they feel to worry about !