Due March 2025 thread 2

[Zuzu2020]

Hi guys just making a new thread as the old one is nearly full :)

@Ellsx6 i went at 13 weeks and heart stopped at 12+4 baffles me how they know but apparently size and and the position baby laid in in womb not worrying you at all it’s just a thing that happened to me and definitely was t a text book pregnancy either love

@wildhay sorry lovely, I missed your post about your hematoma. (When I first typed that word, it changed it to gemstone! 🤣 I wish it was!)

it’s such a nuisance isn’t it? I haven’t been able to fully enjoy being pregnant at all either time - first with DS as I’d had a miscarriage prior and now this. Mine sounds a lot like yours - just brown discharge everyday and so fingers crossed for both of us 🤞🏻❤️❤️ sending you so much love, what happened to you sounds so scary.

I started another thread about my experience a few weeks ago and so many lovely mums told all their positive stories. Look up that thread or I’ll find it and link it :)

when is your next scan lovely? Mine isn’t until my 12w scan now on 29/08 but I really don’t think I can hold out that long 🤪

@wildhay https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/5130462-subchronic-hematoma-positive-stories?reply=137331568

and sorry - they didn’t specifically mention the size of it but they did measure it and on one measurement it’s actually bigger than baby 😬 x

Thank you, I wish it was a gemstone 🤣

I'm hoping the slow bleed is it going away!

Nest scan is this Thursday I'll be 8 weeks 1 day, I feel all is ok still with the pregnancy as I'm so nauseous and started being actively sick last night but similar to you I can't relax and enjoy being pregnant,it's like I'm detached from the reality of it,with the bleeding and worry

I'm just trying to muddle through until 12 weeks where the risk drops significantly with or without the hematoma 💗

Bit more distracted this time round as I've got my 3 year old but praying for the best outcome for us x

Morning all!

Sorry not been on much as having a full on week of family.

Told my DH's side of the family but leaving a smartly worded bottle of wine on the table. His dad read it and smiled and got confused when everyone started to act surprised and congratulated us. He couldn't read the text without his glasses 😆😆

Feeling rough here, sickness is down to one session per day but I've had an awful stomach since Thursday.

Food wise, I'm off the sweet stuff, actually off most foods.

Got my 12 week scan booked for the 28th August. Feels ages away!

Hi all! Has anyone got any secret miracle remedies for the nausea? Tried ginger and peppermint but doesn’t seem to help.

The only thing that seems to keep it at bay is constantly eating! I’m currently 9+5 and hoping it starts to subside soon!

Anyone else struggling?

@Patientlywaiting7 Ah I've been the same! Done absolutely nothing, though tbf I really tried to do a lot to set up for start of term in gained time at the end of summer so I should have easily tweakable lessons ready to go at least for the first half term. The fatigue is intense, isn't it! It feels a bit like a wasted holiday in some sense though we did manage to go away the first week (loved it but I had really bad nausea and some vomiting while abroad still), but in some sense it's nice to just chill and be ill at home and not have to worry about cover or struggling through!

Congratulations on making HOD! Hoped your team are fairly self-sufficient if some are SLT though I know they can disappear sometimes! I also want to stay as late as I can, my due date is actually 20 Feb as of last scan so I'm hoping to be able to start mat leave after the Feb half term.

@HappyGoLucky31 I teach MFL! How about you?

@ChristmasJumpers wow does it seem long! You poor thing with ARFID that must be so difficult. Thank you for the med recommendation! I'll look into it, I've basically said I want to see if it continues past my 12w (though more like 13w) scan on Wednesday and how badly. I feel guilty because my midwife and some family have been telling me only take it if it's "really bad" and I feel like I just need to tough it out because I know other women have it so much worse. But then a lot of the women I know who've been pregnant haven't had nausea that badly or not at all! That's good there's no known side effects to the baby.

@PeachMartin honestly don't get me started on the nausea 😂 it's so horrendous isn't it! I've tried ginger anti sickness tablets but I actually haven't tried biting into a fresh piece so that's something. The main thing I've found to work is eating a small plain snack every 2 hours or so even if I wasn't hungry (my DH was literally setting a timer to remind me) - I found if I left it much longer than this between eating the nausea would kick in or I was more likely to be sick. Also eating less at meal times so eating to less than 100% full as that could also make me want to throw up. I've bought anti nausea travel bracelets that haven't arrived yet but giving those a go. Someone recommended 'preggy pops'. I've found sparkling water and the odd Coke/7up help as well. And I've heard online vitamin B6 can help with nausea so planning to ask my midwife about it too. Also identifying triggers to an extent, we noticed a few of the times I've been sick the food was mild (supposed to be better) but had some cream base so I'm avoiding that now. Hope it gets better 💐 mine has been at its peak since about 8/9 weeks, at 12w+4 now.

It is the best! Had some more yesterday and managed some veg biryani a different bit of the day, I'm so happy to be able to eat a bit of tasty food! I might cry if I see another plate of chips 😂

Saw my little one for the first time today at 8w3d- s/he measured the exact same as my daughter at her first scan 😭 although she was a right chubby little thing who measured a whole week ahead (and now is below the first percentile and is ridiculously tiny !)

wiggling away , heart beating!

@veggiebuns I absolutely know what you mean about the isolation! It is so isolating, and such a relief finally telling people and being able to talk about what's going on, good and difficult bits. I actually find this thread a godsend because there's some kind of isolation even talking to friends that haven't been through it themselves.

I cannot believe your colleague! Tbh I'd definitely want to address it if it's possible to do in a mild way. Maybe in a non direct way eg "We finally feel comfortable telling people because that first trimester is so anxiety-inducing, and it was really compounded feeling like people were gossiping about me and how that would impact me if we had had a loss" or something. Does she have children? I feel like people must have either been incredibly lucky with their pregnancies or have forgotten what it's like to be so insensitive, especially going so far as to start telling other people about it. Definitely one to attempt only with a cool head though like you say! 😂

Oh actually @Patientlywaiting7 and @HappyGoLucky31 have you thought at all about using SPL to take mat leaves in 3 blocks? I've read about it being an advantage as we don't accrue holiday

@Ellsx6 oh wow I'm sorry the sickness is kicking in! That's so good your placenta had taken over though, I really want to see that at my scan on Wednesday, that's the main thing I'm worried about atm! I guess last one was 10+2 so hopefully it's happened in the meantime.

I totally agree as well, I'm keeping it off any social media. I wouldn't say I'm having major anxiety but the background worry hasn't gone away. I also feel like if people aren't in regular contact with us, do they need to know something so personal? We only started telling close friends and family after the 10w scan and it's a slow trickle effect as we're trying to see people in person and have a rough order in mind of who should find out first. And then I'm back to work in a couple of weeks so will tell my dept and see how long I can go before the kids notice. I'm thinking the bloat might be turning into a small bump atm at 12+4 but it looks more like a spare tyre than being visibly pregnant! So on the good side I can't be rumbled by anyone yet but I also feel a bit like I've eaten all the pies, especially with any trouser waistbands!

@ridl14 our 12w scan isn't until 12+4 so 10 day countdowns on. I'm not really suffering with major anxiety either but some days I have an overwhelming wave of emotion which I'm struggling with. Just trying to keep super busy! Back to work tomorrow I just hate working atm!! So demotivated and can't be bothered at all. I'm sure placenta would've taken over all fine and your scan will be amazing! X

@ridl14 oh also I'm 11+1 today and feel like I'm in the stage of belly looking bigger but don't look like I'm pregnant. Everything's tight I can't cope. Need to see if there's any decent high street shops with a maternity section..

I thought I was feeling a bit less sick (so far had only actually been sick once, due to the smell of cat poo making me gag)

Just shoved the bin aside to get the recycling bin to take to empty in the main one outside. Gagged at the smell of the bin few times. Thought I'd got it under control. Then went and emptied the recycling bin into the main one outside, touched the inside and it was greasy. That sent me over the edge and toilet run was required!! My beloved cat came up and was all distressed ❤️

Have booking in appointment Wednesday, this hateful heat is NOT helping

I'm another where colleague had I think guessed, and im sure asked the others, but I don't wany to tell anyone until I've had the first scan, as I want to be sure everything is OK. Only my mum has known since the start and it turns out DH told his parents. Fortunately on school holidays atm (not a teacher) so away from it for a bit, but scan a couple of weeks into the new term, although mid wife suggested it be brought forward as they think I'm a bit further along, it would be good to get back to work and just be able to say provided all ok. I don't even think I did anything particularly noticeable, bar popping out to take a couple of calls but that could have been anything!

@ridl14 What’s SPL??? Is that paternity leave?

haven’t looked into Mat pay at all!

Hey! How are you getting on? @Ellsx6 are you booking in any more scans? Mines on Thursday so a few more days to go. Feeling as anxious as ever. It’ll be 10 weeks for me!

@Patientlywaiting7 hey I'm okay been super busy over weekend but just so extra emotional I keep crying over barely anything haha hormones!! I'm not really terribly anxious (just a little in the back of my mind) at work for next 3 days and can't get no time off so if we do I think it'll be Friday or sat..we're not sure yet though. I'd like to last it out until 22nd for my nhs one but not sure I'll be able to 😅headaches and feeling sick on and off for past week sure the heats not helping😖

I'm sure your scan will be fine and it's normal to feel anxious. How are you feeling? X

It's shared parental leave I think https://www.teachersspl.co.uk/how-it-works

I've heard it's best to make 3 separate applications for the 3 blocks and looks like the pay might be slightly different. I only know one person who might have taken leave in this way so would love to talk to anyone who's done it or considering it!

@ridl14 not sure about this at all. I don’t know anyone that’s done this - well if I’m honest I’ve never really asked anyone! My husbands a teacher too and will be starting a new role as AHT in September so he’ll have his work cut out for him. I did mention he should take time off in July or September to have a full 8 weeks with me but he suggested extending Easter hols to make 4 weeks then get the 6 weeks of summer.

are you thinking about shared leave and coming back to work earlier?

@Ellsx6 im a bit of both. When I think about it I’m nervous but most of the time I carry on as normal. Even though I’ve had 2 scans (c.6 weeks and 8) I still don’t believe it’s happening - for this is partly because I have pretty much 0 symptoms as I said before.

I think it’s good that you’re trying to hold out a bit. Save the money for the scans later down the line - I think scan later down the line are a bit more pricey too? Not sure though as I can’t remember the list I looked at - pretty sure it was the one at St Thomas’!

keep busy and take care of yourself ❤️

@Patientlywaiting7 where we are it's actually cheaper the further along which is good haha. We've spent over £1k on private scans already and just reserved a plot for our new house to be built on so we really need to be responsible now and I think weekly is getting obsessive we need to atleast try with every 2 weeks. Then I think just one more weekly then I'll stop after my 12w scan but tbh I don't think my anxiety will go down after that either 😅

@Ellsx6 ive been quite tight on private scans! I just googled the nhs offer 2 scans (12 week and 18 week)

eeeeek!

@Patientlywaiting7 I'm high risk so should be offered a few extra scans on nhs. Have consultant appointment on 27th to determine the plan!

I can't believe some people only get 2 scans and that's it the whole time. I'm way to paranoid 🤣

@Patientlywaiting7 ah that's okay, it doesn't seem to be that well known! Though I've seen it on @nugget the IG page about mat leave as well. It's essentially taking mat leave in 3 blocks and "ending" it over the holidays where possible. So my DH wouldn't need to take any time off work, I'd still like to take a year, and SPL apparently doesn't require the other parent to be on leave from their job at the same time. But it would mean I'd be paid as normal over the Easter/summer holidays, as if I was still working normally - but without needing to actually come back in to work or WFH as you can't be asked to do any work that other colleagues aren't doing. And it wouldn't affect staffing or cover as I'd only be "back" during holidays so it would only affect pay

So something I want to look into and see how the pay works out, if it's something I could get approved as well.

Ah wow AHT and as a new role that is a lot for both of you! That would be amazing if he could take some time off with you around the holidays as well.