Due March 2025 thread 2

[Zuzu2020]

Hi guys just making a new thread as the old one is nearly full :)

@ridl14 hey hey! Nice to see another teacher! Yessss! I’ve done very very very little - the first two weeks were pretty much completely lounging on the sofa!

a bit anxious about going back - I’ve got a lot of work to be doing (I should’ve really been getting on with some during the summer but since finding out I’m pregnant I just thought sod it - need to relax) - I recently became a HOD and I have a fairly big team (although half of them are SLT) but it means I need to be on my A-game. If all goes well I’m hoping to stay as late as possible and begin Mat leave end of feb. what about you? How are you getting on? If you ever need anything just give me a shout ❤️ xx

Your list is quite long, although I am already a VERY fussy eater (I have ARFID) so this makes things worse!

My full list of food right now is:
Pains au chocolat
Crumpets with a tiny bit of butter on
Ice lollies
Bread and butter (sometimes jam)

I am SO bored 😭

If you are struggling with nausea I don't see the harm in taking medication to help you get through it. I'm on Xonvea now which is a specific pregnancy nausea drug. There are no known side effects to baby

@ridl14 Thank you! I think the isolation of these early weeks is what has been really getting me down. Just suffering 24/7 basically in silence really does take its toll! We haven't told many people, but I did tell my boss this week as I had reached the point a pretty much had to walk out the office and go home. Luckily he's so supportive, really happy for us and very understanding so hopefully that takes some of the pressure off at work.

One thing that has been driving me crazy, that I'd love to get other people's view on. Is people hinting/guessing you're pregnant? My colleague has picked up on a few things, and has been making jokes/remarks about me being pregnant. Which I've denied, I work closely with her but don't in any way have a close relationship with her, nor would I want her to know so early. And when I've been in my darkest days, really struggling mentally and physically having someone push the topic makes it so so much worse. I just always considered it to be common sense to keep those kind of suspicions to yourself, for so many reasons!! Right now I am planning to have a word with her when we do announce and explain A) all the reasons you shouldn't do that to someone, and B) all the ways she made an already difficult time, so much worse for me. My partner says I shouldn't and should just brush it off, but it causes me so much anger everytime I think about it!

What do you guys think? Would you say something? X

Also, worth noting she's been sharing her suspicions with her work friends so it's spreading 😡

I’m glad I’m not only one 😂

I am the exact same food wise.

I have absolutely minimal appetite and when I do eat it’s straight to the hoola hoops or walkers 🥲🥲🥲🥲 husband had the food chat with me today about eating for our baby - he said the first 1,000 days are the most crucial - so going to try and eat more greens and oily fish but I have no appetite unless it’s Nutella and peanut butter 🍩🍩🍩🍩

sorry to hear about the stresses around bleeding. Really wishing you well ❤️❤️

Yaaaasss gorlll. Daal and rice!!! Delishh! I’m gonna ask my mum to make me some now that you’ve mentioned it!

@ridl14 it’s a hard one isn’t it, I get where your comming from but she maybe one of those people that likes to think your closer more like friends in her mind or one of the ones that like to be proven right so she can go around and say see told you I was right, me personally I’d make a point of saying early pregnancy is so scary and until we knew everything was ok and we wanted our family and friends and all the people we love to be the first to officially know but that’s just cause. I hate confrontation I’d just keep putting few little jibes in you will be on maternity leave before you know it and everybody will more than likely not really like that individual anyway and more than likely be talking behind her back saying similar to what you feel some people irritate me fair enough have your opinion but have decency to wait to be told and don’t expect me to like you if your bullying it out of me hope all this makes sense

Yeah, I think rather than having a whole confrontation with her, I'll just go down a more relaxed route of "yes, you were right. Well done. However, there were so many reasons we hadn't told people at that point. And I think I would've really appreciated a little more respect from you in that time." I just need to make sure I have a cool head. My emotions are so heightened at the moment, these things really get under my skin - and so does she, which doesn't help haha!

@veggiebuns sorry lovely tagged wrong person, I get what you mean though I have noticed while pregnant I’m more to the point and air an opinion that’s annoyed me where as normally I’m quiet and keep it to myself other half says I’m snappy and asked me if it’s a symptom when really I’m just exhausted and can’t be bothered with trivial things taking my energy 😂😂 I don’t know about you but I can’t wait to tell people Iv already got a belly I know it’s bloat but especially in this weather I’m finding it hard to hide so I’m avoiding family like the plague just you guys on here and my other half that know we had a few losses so want to keep it just us but so hard

@ridl14 I've had no sickness at all. At my 10 week scan placenta had taken over and yolk sac gone. Another scan at 10+4 to confirm that. Funny enough only just now I'm starting to feel sick all the time now the placenta has taken over..weird right!! Thought I'd got away with it :(

I'm 11weeks in 11minutes haha. We've told close family and a couple of close friends/some of my close clients. This is my first ever pregnancy and I need the support more than ever and talking to people who've gone through pregnancy before makes me feel more relaxed. We just will not make a public/social media announcement as I feel like if anything went wrong even though it's so unlikely at this point I don't want the pressure of having to go back on a post or something in a way? I feel like I won't be so horrified to tell my close people that something went wrong and it's not something to be ashamed off. You definitely need the support if it goes well or bad it's such a hard and lonely time. Who I wouldn't tell is people that like to gossip as I just don't like the thought of people knowing and talking!

TW........ questions about hematoma and bleeding

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I'm sorry to hear you've got the hematoma and are bleeding,I'm 7 and a half weeks and had a huge gush of bright blood at 7+1 and 5 hours of extreme pain and cramping, epu scanned me the next day at 7+2 and said they expected it was a miscarriage and to prepare myself for the worst

Baby was fine, lovely heartbeat and measuring just a tiny bit behind

I was told that I'm now slightly higher risk for a miscarriage as they found a subchorionic hematoma and as it was largish they expected a bit more bleeding at least as it was quite large to be absorbed. I've got another scan coming up next Thursday when I'll be 8+1 so I'm praying

I hope you don't mind me asking but you mentioned the size,did they tell you the measurements of the bleeding area? I've been a tiny bit bleeding since the mad gush but it's brown old blood now which they said at the time is what to expect

I'm very worried but they did say although not normal, hematomas are the most common cause of first trimester bleeding and most do resolve themselves by 20 weeks

Hey ladies, I'm currently 7 weeks 1 day (due 29th March. I've been really nauseas (not physically sick) since 5 week. Anyone else really feeling it around the seven week mark? It's just constant all day every day I don't remember having that constant nauseous feeling this early last time.

7w+5 here, 4th pregnancy (not counting all the chemicals as never got to the point of symptoms with those) and I’ve had sickness with all of them; however, the constant nausea this time is something else - to the point where it’s limiting what I am able to do and I get up dreading the day ahead. I am also being sick a few times a day but this doesn’t bother me so much - just wish it ended the nausea for even a short period!

@Ellsx6 the only reason I haven’t is last few times seeing there disappointed faces n the look they give you n the actually telling them when all you wanna do is cry scared of telling people not this time agian if any of thatl makes sense x

@Beclou88 I completely respect your decision! I probably wouldn't think I'd like to tell anyone if I'd have a loss before either I can imagine the devastation of untelling and really feel for anyone who's gone through that..how are you feeling symptoms wise now? X

@Ellsx6 i have stomach ache today that’s all but I put it down to walking a fair bit today still really scared but trying to keep busy today keep telling myself this is it it’s going to be ok xx how you and everyone x

Scan tomorrow - the anxiety is literally awful! I wish I had a crystal ball right now!

@Beclou88 we reserved the plot for our new house that's being built today so quite a good day!! Had a cry this morning because I woke up feeling so awful and worried that the baby's not okay and my body telling me by making me feel awful. Sounds so bizarre but it's just the way my brain was thinking earlier. Also keep getting overwhelming fears of stillborn ect as I keep seeing things about it. It doesn't help that we don't have a scan booked now until 11 days time for our 12 week dating scan. We've been having weekly privates so worried about the wait and if something goes wrong between last scan at 10+4 and next scan at 12+4 we may just cave and do another private but I can't keep going on like this especially with a new house car and baby to fund I want to be responsible!! We will see what happens xx

@Ellsx6 thats amazing new baby new home all falls perfectly I’m same I had back ache and just had a little just this second gone to toilet and had a little bleed now I’m tempted to go private scan I dernt call hospital againiv had 2 scans at hospital and a private one so far it just cost a fortune doesn’t it I’m scared for my 12 week scan and Iv asked for it to be more like 13 week too now I regret that ! My last loss was 12+4 I’m so scared that it will be same that that I thought 13 week I’ll be happy that I passed that mile stone I had my son 6 years ago and that was smooth sailing but since my son it’s just been all losses

@Ellsx6 you will be fine love has all been good so far ?

Hi, im currently 11 weeks today! We had a scan at 7+5 and baby was measuring exactly with a heartbeat which was so nice to see.
We had a mmc in March this year and I just keep feeling that something has gone wrong in between our private scan and now, even though no symptoms to say so.
I feel nauseous all the time, metallic taste in my mouth and I'm exhausted. We also have a 2 year old so life is a lot harder this time around. We have our 12 week scan on the 19th. We haven't told anyone as I'm so worried to have to untell people if we get as news

@Beclou88 I've literally had the most text book pregnancy so far! No bleeding or severe cramps no abnormal symptoms or anything and baby's measured fine at every weekly scan we've done so I have no reasons to worry really but the fears still there. Sorry to hear about blood. I can imagine now scary that is :( did baby's heart stop at 12+4 or you just found out then? That's horrific I really feel for you xx

@hampshiremum88 due date twins!! I'm also 11 weeks today! X

Currently downing lactulose as I type this and I've felt bloody awfully sick all day!!😖

@Patientlywaiting7 haha same!

my diet today went as follows: full English from local cafe and then pizza for dinner 🙈 I’m actually usually pretty sensible and measured around food, lost weight between last summer and Christmas - completely gone out of the window now 😂😂 Thank you for your well wishes :) it’s just discharge everyday now, which is like dark brown and the doctors aren’t worried because they say it’s old blood. But it’s still there everyday and not lessening. I just have to remember I’ve seen baby a few times now and all has been well 🤞🏻❤️🙏🏻

also another secondary school teacher here @Patientlywaiting7 @ridl14 what do you guys teach?

@ridl14 i have a real problem with colleagues/people like that … I was 8 weeks pregnant with my son when Boris said in March 2020 pregnant woman should stay at home because the govt weren’t yet aware of the risks. My next door neighbour (who knew I’d had a miscarriage and was sensitive about the issue) noticed my car hadn’t left for work the next day and had put two and two together and messaged me. when I hadn’t responded 30 mins later, proceeded to bang on my front door - “just wanted to check you are okay, you haven’t gone to work” at which I felt I had to tell her. I wasn’t ready to but she stuck her beak in. Hate it when people do things like that. Let people say when they are ready, even if you have an inkling.

in a similar vein, my colleague was searching “midwife appointments” on her phone one lunchtime and I happened to see, promise not snooping. I didn’t bring it up, let her have her moment of glory when she told us all. People are clueless sometimes.