Midwife appointment

[Badassbreastfeeder85]

What happens if you don't attend your booking appointment or any of the subsequent ones?

No, they would advise calling an ambulance. Or they would invite you into the labour ward.

Without knowing anything about you, your pregnancy and risks, it would leave the midwives in a very vulnerable position attending a homebirth.

@Badassbreastfeeder85 Wasnt trying to be condescending at all, the opposite in fact. But if you choose to believe that then that’s your issue, and how combative and rude you are when people are concerned and offering suggestions goes some way in explaining why you are so isolated. Good luck with whatever you decide.

People have been calling me names and being very personal,I think that's far ruder than anything I've said, I can't help that my friends aren't local or that my mum lives 2 hours away, my son is happy in his school and I was happy in my job before going on maternity, my youngests dad lives 2 mins away hence staying in this area

@Badassbreastfeeder85 having now read through your other posts I can only hope that social services do get involved. Why you’re having another child with the same partner is questionable. You have no support system. You won’t ask for help. You refuse any helpful suggestions. You have no care available for your children if you get sick or die because you’re not arsed seeking standard medical care.

You ask questions like “can lube help you not get pregnant?” and can’t read a positive pregnancy test but think you’re well placed to assess your own medical status and don’t need to see a midwife. Jesus Christ.

I don’t care if you write off what I say as insulting - I’m not the one letting my unborn baby down by denying them medical care because I’m selfish and ignorant.

Your kids deserve better, they really do. Do better for them.

I have a will and I have life insurance and I have my step sister who lives an hour away as my guardian tor my children should anything happen so you've made a few incorrect assumptions there, when have I ever asked does lube help u not get pregnant? And I can't read a pregnancy test? Look at the conception board ppl are always looking for line eyes and confirmation of what they are seeing,I've already got a private scan booked in so I wouldn't say I'm denying medical care it's just private rather than nhs

I'm stepping away from this thread now,its just become a personal attack and not addressing my original question, some of you have been unnecessarily vile, thanks to those who answered my question r gave advice without calling me names or being hostile

To be honest if you’re brave enough to reach out to them, you’re in precisely the sort of situation that would really benefit from a midwife support/help/intervention!

If you are concerned about downs, and late termination then surely declining all care is not the answer?

If you don't have any antenatal care, then you would not be suitable for a home birth as no assessments have been made. And literal strangers will be in your hour in your most vulnerable of times. If you engage, they will not be strangers when the time comes.

Just think about what you're doing here, private scans are not the same as private antenatal care. If a private scan finds something wrong they will refer you to NHS unless you're willing to pay ££££ for private care and even then, it's only available in some areas.

In fact I just found this and outside of London, there is only one place for private maternity care in Solihull. Please do not replace proper maternity care with a single private scan at 8 weeks

Also private ultrasound places always state not to use them to replace routine NHS scans

So you'd expect a midwife to agent for a home birth but wouldn't allow them to visit to do your appointment because you feel people visiting is intrusive ..?

You just keep contradicting yourself. I hope social services do get involved, it sounds like a terrible environment to bring up another poor child.

You'll all be very happy to hear I've just started miscarrying

I’m really sorry to hear that OP.

I don’t think anyone would be happy to hear that OP.

I hope you have support around you, is your partner able to come home from work?

Take care of yourself 💐

Least it saves social services a job ay

I'm so sorry @Badassbreastfeeder85

So sorry to hear that, please take care of yourself.

OP, I saw your post about your boyfriend now wanting you to have an abortion. I really want to urge you to get in touch with your midwife so that you can get some support with your mental health and decision making. Take care.