Midwife appointment

[Badassbreastfeeder85]

What happens if you don't attend your booking appointment or any of the subsequent ones?

Phone and rebook the appointment. Explain about the childcare situation, they may have some leeway. I've never turned a woman away from an appointment because she's come with kids. It may just mean some sensitive questions are asked at a later date.

Declining all antenatal care because your first appointment is inconvenient seems a bit of an overreaction 🤷🏼‍♀️

Where I work the scan referral is made by the midwife at the booking appointment, that was the same in the last 2 hospitals I have worked in too.
However, you are much more likely to have your scan booked closer to 12 weeks than 14 weeks.

If you continue your not engage them most likely a referral to social services.

First appt at 10w and scan at 12 is absolutely standard. What are you in a strop about?

Absolutely not true, unless there are other red flags or pre-existing safeguarding concerns.

If you don’t engage and don’t attend appointments etc then yes, potentially this could happen. However, if you explain that you are declining antenatal care and the midwives are satisfied you are fully informed with this then they shouldn’t make any referral to SS.

Here your antenatal 12 week scan is cancelled if you don’t attend the booking appt.

So is your plan to have private maternity care if you don't need a termination (and unless you have reason to suppose there's an issue, it's most likely that you won't need to terminate)? If it is, then just contact the maternity service and tell them you've decided you're having private care instead and don't need any appointments. They aren't likely to follow up with you any further unless there's something else that raises any concerns.

You sound like you are massively over reacting.

All my pregnancies has booking appointments from around 9-10 weeks and a scan was booked for around the 12 week mark.

I know women who have had difficult/abnormal pregnancies or miscarriages are seen earlier to identify any potential issues early, but otherwise there's no reason to expect to be seen so early?

By all means go private though, I'm sure it will be no skin of the NHS nose 🤷🏼‍♀️

With my previous pregnancies the booking appt was 8 weeks and the scan was booked off the back of that and not separately or beforehand, if it's taken 5 weeks to get that appt then I don't see how I'll get a scan in less than 2 weeks,my child is 14 months i doubt she'll take any notice of a discussion about my medical history that Ive already answered on the online portal anyway,I'm not obese,I don't smoke,I'm not high risk

Obviously I was responding to your subsequent post. Others directly answered your question.

It's taken 5 weeks to get that appointment because they plan it to be at 10 weeks, not because there are no spaces for 5 weeks.

You'll get seen between 11 and 13 weeks for the chromosome abnormalities testing at the scan, usually as close to 12 weeks as possible barring a weekend.

You’re being an idiot.

the booking appointment won’t determine your scan. You’ll probably get that at 12w via letter anyway.

I was low risk, very healthy, young. My 36w midwife app flagged an issue and I almost died.

No need for name calling

Sorry but you sound pathetic and incredibly immature cancelling all antenatal care just because your booking appointment is at the very standard time of 10 weeks like the vast majority of pregnant ladies Cutting your nose off to spite your face. Ring and change the appointment if you can't make it, I've done it with a few antenatal appointments and never been an issue.

What are you on about it took 5 weeks after your booking appointment to get your scan.. obviously it was scheduled for when you were 12 weeks, it didn't take 5 weeks because they had no slots, that is just simply when they do them, hence why it's usually called a 12 week scan. I'm baffled as to how you've apparently already gone through this and are this clueless.

I'm not in a strop, my first 2 pregnancies the booking appt was 8 weeks, that's what triggers the booking appt for the 12 week scan if it's taking 5 weeks from me calling to get a booking apot how long till I get a scan?

I'm talking about the fact I'm 5 weeks now and I've got to wait 5 weeks to have my booking appt obviously, again no need for name calling and I am going on my previous experiences on my previous pregnancies as to timings of booking appt, even online the nhs states booking appt should be done before 10 weeks

Is that standard practice? Or local policy? Or only if there are other things at play?

I didn't have my first appointment until about 11 weeks and got booked in for a scan the next week as I wasn't sure whether I was already 12 weeks or not. They won't drag it out unless they have to. It doesn't always mean you will be waiting around for a scan.

If my scan isn't done before 14 weeks I won't get to have the combined screening test

I suggest change the date of the appointment to not clash with swimming and take the children.

The scan will be in the 12 week window. If it’s not then you can kick off about that at the time.

This is very premature panicking.

So why is private nipt ok but not private scan? The ones I've had in the past checked for development and abnormalities and the place I've got my reassurance scan booked at is run by a fetal medicine consultant who offers a nuchal translucency scan so don't see why it'd be worse than an NHS one? Also I'd be able to bring my toddler with me which the NHS don't allow

@Badassbreastfeeder85 totally normal time scale compared to Mine I had booking app this time around 10 weeks and scan at 12+6

That's not gow it's done here, at least not in my experience with my first 2 pregnancies my sister is currently pregnant and her scan wasn't booked separately either

Booking in at 10 weeks is normal. I had all 7 of mine between 9 and 14 weeks. Dating scan should be between 12-14 weeks. I would recommend you phone the midwife to reschedule your booking appointment and have a chat about taking your children to the appointment. You should be able to bring them, I brought my 1 and 3 year olds to the hospital when I gave birth to my youngest. It was fine and dh took them to meet up with their grandparents when we had seen the midwife and found out I wasn't about to have the baby imminently. The 3 year old had been to my feral medicine scan with the 1 year old the previous year. The consultant asked me if I minded a load of medical students there and I said fine as long as we can still get ds3 and his buggy in. There wasn't enough room so ds happily sat on one of the medical student's lap and chatted to him about octonauts!

If the midwife still says you can't take your children, maybe you could ask if you could have the booking in appointment on the telephone or online and then go to the gp for the urine, blood pressure and heartbeat checks.

Go along to the booking in appointment and if they can't give you the 12 week scan at a time you're happy with then book with your private place. If you don't have childcare you don't have childcare, just take the baby along - I doubt they'll turn you away.

You're stressing unnecessarily about things that probably won't happen. Did you ever hear the phrase "we'll cross that bridge when we get to it"? It makes life a lot less stressful to abide by that!