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Pregnancy after loss part 2

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LER2023 · 09/05/2024 08:51

After the lovely Hopingrae had created such a wonderful thread.

I wanted to carry this on, as many more women need that added extra support.

Previous thread: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/5016264-pregnancy-after-loss-support?page=1

Hope everyone can find some support on this thread x

Pregnancy after loss support | Mumsnet

Hi ladies, I've recently found out I'm pregnant again after 2 losses in a row. I'm very lucky to have a DS and I had another MC before I had him. So 3...

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Ella31 · 23/10/2024 07:43

ApplesNest · 22/10/2024 23:47

I’m 12+4 now and we had our 12 week scan on Thursday, followed by a check up with our obstetrician today. Baby was active and well, hoping that we continue to have another boring trimester. Thankfully we’ve got our 16 week scan and doppler checks booked in which offers some more reassurance. I’m on low dose aspirin too. I’m surprisingly not anxious as I thought I would be, perhaps that’s my coping mechanism right now.

Someone I’m close with is trying to conceive and I told her about my news recently. I felt about withholding until I was further along but didn’t feel quite right doing that. I don’t know if telling her now or later would have caused her more stress and upset. She’s not got back to me for a week and that’s understandable, she needs to protect herself first. I feel like we‘ve all been there ourselves and can relate to that.

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We've all been there. When my twins died in their first week of birth last year, everyone around me was pregnant. You can't escape it. She will have her time again, and there'll be people she knows who are struggling too. Right now you need to enjoy being pregnant because you deserve it. Xxx

Also delighted about your scan. Great news

rukky · 26/10/2024 09:10

Any current timers started feeling baby move yet and of you have at how many weeks...... I'm currently 19 weeks woth 3rd but still not feeling any movement yet wanted to know whe. Everyone else felt movement I can't remember with my 1st 2

OnNaturesCourse · 26/10/2024 10:16

@rukky I'm 32 weeks with my 4th, my 3rd was my loss at 16 weeks.

it differs baby to baby and can depend on placenta placement.

1st baby - anterior placenta, never got proper kicks until a few weeks before she was born. I just got rolls and swishes, occasionally a tickle inside sensation. Very hard to record/track movement and I often ended up in maternity triage getting monitored. In the end I was induced for movement at 37 odd weeks.**

2nd baby - low posterior placenta, could feel movement from mid second trimester and the kicks were enough to kick off the cups I used to balance on bump by 3rd trimester. There was no pattern to the movement though so I just had to pay attention to bump all the time to track it and had a app on my phone that had a button on my home screen I could push any time I felt a movement. At the end of the day I could review it all. Again, ended up at maternity but only once or twice this time when the app showed movement was less that day. The app would also buzz if no movement recorded in a hour during wake hours.

3rd baby - posterior placenta, swishes and rolls felt very gently from around 13 weeks. Again no pattern to them just random so I had to pay attention to them. Midwife asked at 16 week appointment if I felt any and I said yes but not much recently... she followed up with "it's too early to track them anyway". Baby was discovered to have passed 3 days later at a private scan.

4th - anterior high placenta, and this baby has been a gymnast since about 18 weeks. I had rolls and a bubble like sensation from around 8 weeks, really low in my pelvis like bubbles popping. Since about 30 weeks my whole bump moves and I get random lumps sticking out of me and moving around. Can't miss the movement with this one plus I have triggers this time round so I know baby always moves when I sit reclined back with my feet up, or when I lie on my right side...baby especially likes when I drink cold fizzy juice.

** Baby 1 - born assisted in distress with cord round neck twice and round body (which was why she was bouncing up and down, not actually managing to exit with my pushes) , likely to have been the cause of restricted movement at the end. It was so hard for me to monitor her movement because of the placenta and I think the issue would have been discovered earlier if movements were more obvious.

I hope this helps show all babies are different and there are so many factors to consider. Anything different for your baby I would get checked - sometimes babies just have a quiet day, don't we all, but sometimes it can show a issue.

rukky · 26/10/2024 18:42

@OnNaturesCourse thank you so much for the reply I can't moniter yet as hsvnt felt proper movement since it's 3rd I know what it feels like when they start moving consistently. I'm just getting anxious I think because have my 20 week big scan on Wednesday and keep thinking bad thoughts like il get bad news about baby when they scan me. If I felt movement I'd me more reassured bubbas fine.

OnNaturesCourse · 26/10/2024 20:25

Do you know where your placenta is? Or how your uterus lies?

That can effect feeling too.

rukky · 26/10/2024 23:24

@OnNaturesCourse nope they just said everything looks fine last scan and said baby was measuring 5 days bigger then estimated due weeks and days previous to successfully pregnancy I didn't know either if I am honest

OnNaturesCourse · 26/10/2024 23:35

@rukky I wouldn't worry then, I'm sure everything will be fine at your scan. Baby is likely just in a position where it's hard to tell the movement and/or patterns yet.

Nic2908 · 30/10/2024 19:21

Ladies…. I think I might have a bfp 🥲

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Traitors2024 · 30/10/2024 22:55

Nic2908 · 30/10/2024 19:21

Ladies…. I think I might have a bfp 🥲

Congratulations! the test picture brings back a flood of emotions for me... sending you positive vibes!!

SnookyPook · 31/10/2024 00:15

Nic2908 · 30/10/2024 19:21

Ladies…. I think I might have a bfp 🥲

Oh wow! Everything crossed for you lovely! When is AF due? It's a definite line! 💕

Nic2908 · 31/10/2024 06:35

I take it all back. Negative freer this morning 😢

Uguberry · 31/10/2024 08:03

@Nic2908 How early is it? Have you tried different brands?

Nic2908 · 31/10/2024 09:21

I’ve tried a couple different tests. All coming back negative. I’m due my period but I ovulated late this month also so I am about 11/12dpo I think. What a bloody rollercoaster.

SnookyPook · 31/10/2024 12:06

Nic2908 · 31/10/2024 06:35

I take it all back. Negative freer this morning 😢

Oh poo 😔 sorry to hear that. 💕

LER2023 · 31/10/2024 19:06

Nic2908 · 31/10/2024 06:35

I take it all back. Negative freer this morning 😢

It may still be a positive!
Its still early to find out, im due on tomorrow and still no signs of it.. so i dont know whats happening i took a CB early detection and it was negative and then took 2 pink dye tests which were negative that was wednesday night i believe.

But im tired and i have very sore nipples. Not boobs... nipples.

My other half thinks i am but these tests keep coming back negative i mean ive only taken 3 in one day🤣

So may have to test again if i dont come on, its weird because flo has literally got everything down to a T! It literally tells me when im due to come on and has been right for a few months so im hoping this month maybe our time!!!

You'll get there Nic, just give it some more time before you test again!❤️

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Uguberry · 01/11/2024 12:12

@Nic2908 I'm sorry. Like @LER2023 says there is still a chance. It's difficult not to obsess over the little signs, made harder when symptoms also relate to period coming. I couldn't put myself through the testing so would wait for my cycle (not easy when it's irregular) but on our lucky month I had my suspicions because the weird, vivid dreams had started! You know what's best for yourself mentally, to keep doing tests or try to wait. Keeping my fingers crossed for you both ✨

LER2023 · 02/11/2024 07:49

Day 2 of my period not ahowing up, going to take a test this morning with my morning urine! Fingers crossed!

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LER2023 · 02/11/2024 08:00

Well i guess im waiting for AF to show up now...😮‍💨😪

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Nic2908 · 02/11/2024 08:49

I’m on a rollercoaster. My tests have lines but they are not progressing very fast, and if anything they had a where they went lighter. Freer is just starting to look like it’s getting stronger but not where it should be. And on the simple one step strips there is a line but you can hardly see it. Digital is saying pregnant, but it takes forever to come up and even though you shouldn’t when I opened up the test there is only one line there not two. EPAU have said that they think it is going to be a likely chemical and to contact them in a week if my period hasn’t arrived. I feel like I am going insane. Late miss carriage, early miscarriage and the a chemical. Looks like I’m going to get the full t shirt doesn’t it 😢😢😢😢😢 you can even hear how neurotic I am through this post.

@LER2023 could you have ovulated later? I’m so sorry it was negative.

LER2023 · 02/11/2024 09:31

Nic2908 · 02/11/2024 08:49

I’m on a rollercoaster. My tests have lines but they are not progressing very fast, and if anything they had a where they went lighter. Freer is just starting to look like it’s getting stronger but not where it should be. And on the simple one step strips there is a line but you can hardly see it. Digital is saying pregnant, but it takes forever to come up and even though you shouldn’t when I opened up the test there is only one line there not two. EPAU have said that they think it is going to be a likely chemical and to contact them in a week if my period hasn’t arrived. I feel like I am going insane. Late miss carriage, early miscarriage and the a chemical. Looks like I’m going to get the full t shirt doesn’t it 😢😢😢😢😢 you can even hear how neurotic I am through this post.

@LER2023 could you have ovulated later? I’m so sorry it was negative.

I was just about to ask you the same question!! Im sure it should get darker its great that all your tests are coming up positive though! It may be that you ovulated later and your hgc doubles every 2 - 3 days! So it could be something. Ive got everything crossed for you!!! I honestly cant tell you whether ive ovulated later as i dont do ovulation tests unfortunately.

He keeps saying hes hoping its our time and then it makes me feel so bad when it comes back negative! In currently on CD 29.. it maybe possible that ive ovulated later. We try to dtd quite often roughly around 3-4 times a week, but with the change in my hours for the last 3 weeks due to my colleague being off its been like twice a week lmao so i dont know whether thats got anything to do with it.

We're on a health kick too, we're on a health kick and cutting down on the alcohol, we're not big drinkers by any means, but we'll have maybe 3 or 4 pints in the week, then have a blow out on a saturday. So we're cutting it down to none during the week and then maybe a few at the weekend, as we like to go to the pub and play pool🤣

Please keep us updated nic, hopefully this is your time❤️

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Nic2908 · 02/11/2024 10:32

@LER2023 i am on day 32 of my cycle and they are usually 28/29 days. I ovulated roughly around Monday 20th. And I know this because I had a repeat internal scan on the 21st and they could see a corpius lutium or what ever they are called.

have you ever tracked ovulation? I ironically have completely neglected myself. I look after everyone around me and then sit on the sofa eating a packet of biscuits at the end of the night, my weight has never been heavier.

ironically I would really love an update of all our new babies on the group @Traitors2024 @Hopingrae @SnookyPook surround me with Joy and hope. Xx

Traitors2024 · 02/11/2024 12:18

Miracles do happen @Nic2908! After 4 miscarriages incl 1 MMC at 11wks little Kai fought his way into this world and is now 7 weeks old... with 1 week to go till his due date he's still a sleepy newborn but he's feeding and sleeping well and I feel so blessed. Your miracle baby could be burrowing itself in right now - don't lose hope based on tests x

SnookyPook · 02/11/2024 18:16

@Nic2908 ah my love, it's so hard. What you describe does sound quite like what I had with my early loss. If it's any comfort, last year I got the full t-shirt with a MMC, CP and then an earlyish loss at 7wks (was also a pregnancy of unknown location)... And here I am, holding little Samuel 🥰 he will be 15 weeks on Monday (3 months corrected) - he's still tiny but is thriving and we get beautiful smiles and coos. Absolutely in love with my little guy. Sending healthy baby dust to all those of you still trying and awaiting progress etc. Your rainbow babies are on their way, even if it's not this month. Sending big hugs xxxx

LER2023 · 03/11/2024 10:18

Nic2908 · 02/11/2024 10:32

@LER2023 i am on day 32 of my cycle and they are usually 28/29 days. I ovulated roughly around Monday 20th. And I know this because I had a repeat internal scan on the 21st and they could see a corpius lutium or what ever they are called.

have you ever tracked ovulation? I ironically have completely neglected myself. I look after everyone around me and then sit on the sofa eating a packet of biscuits at the end of the night, my weight has never been heavier.

ironically I would really love an update of all our new babies on the group @Traitors2024 @Hopingrae @SnookyPook surround me with Joy and hope. Xx

No ive never tracked ovulation, ive just kinda left it because ive never really understood it as ive never had to all my pregnancies just happened without me tracking. Well im in my 3rd day of no show periods. Had a bit of brown discharge yesterday and nothing.

It will happen soon xx

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Hopingrae · 03/11/2024 16:06

@Nic2908 how are you doing today lovely? Have you done any more tests? Did you say you had your first appointment with the MC clinic coming up? Thinking of you, the waiting is so tough. Sorry I missed your last couple of messages, been a busy couple of weeks! We've named our little man Jack. He's just over 2 weeks old, it's going fast already! He also arrived after x3 miscarriages of different types. I still can't quite believe he is here. Your rainbow is waiting in the wings, I'm sure ❤

@LER2023 are you planning to test again? Hope you're doing ok too xx