Pregnancy after loss part 2

[LER2023]

After the lovely Hopingrae had created such a wonderful thread.

I wanted to carry this on, as many more women need that added extra support.

Previous thread: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/5016264-pregnancy-after-loss-support?page=1

Hope everyone can find some support on this thread x

@LER2023 I should get results next Tuesday / Wednesday. Gerald's getting brave 😆 I have my fingers crossed for you for this month. High sex drive around ovulation is a good sign. Are you tracking? I bet your partner thought all his Christmas' and birthdays came at once haha. Xx

Hi everyone, hope you're all doing well ❤️

I just needed a wee vent, no particular reason other than my nerves are now wrecked waiting on my 12 week scan (at 13 weeks 🙄)

We had scans at 7 and 9 weeks and saw the heartbeat which is lovely. But after a MMC I just keep telling myself that that means nothing, it could all be taken away very quickly. Which I know is a horrible way to think. I keep thinking about my 1st pregnancy with my daughter and how blissfully unaware I was of how bad things can go, that pregnancy was a dream.

Anyway there's no real point to this post, just a very hopeful, nervous mama counting down the next 2 weeks ❤️

@Sophamy just wanted to jump in because I have been right where you are and it’s rubbish. I think after a MMC the only way of getting through early pregnancy is just focusing on that next milestone. I had two MMCs and am now 26 weeks, and focusing on those small milestones really helped until I started feeling movements. That, and knowing that realistically the fate of my pregnancy was already set out and there was very little I could do to influence it. Sounds weird, but relieving myself of responsibility really helped. Hope these next two weeks pass quickly for you 🤞

Thanks so much.

You're completely right, I've no control over what will or won't happen. Just keep the faith eh ❤️

Thanks for taking the time to respond, I really appreciate it.

I know now you feel, I've had a very similar experience with a mmc at 11 weeks. I've only had scan @ 7+6 I'm getting another one this week, but it's only reassuring for a short while. I'm just willing the time to go by fast the next few weeks. Statically the odds are in your favour after having a positive 9 week scan and I know it didn't work like that for us the last time but I try to think that, it's such an anxious time hugs

I'm so sorry for your loss, so heartbreaking. Ours stopped growing at 9 weeks last time but we didn't find out until 11 weeks. I would've been due on 19th September. So these next few weeks will be an emotional roller coaster 😌

I hope time flies for you and you have a positive scan this week 💗 enjoy seeing your little bub 🥰

@Sophamy i know exactly how you feel! My first pregnancy was a MMC which was discovered at 9 weeks through private scan, after seeing cardiac pulsations at 6 weeks. This pregnancy I ended up having a scan with EPU at 9 weeks due to some pink bleeding and all was well, I cried through the whole thing and couldn’t believe we’d reached that stage! Heartbeat was really strong apparently, measuring 1 day ahead and could see little one having a wriggle. But that reassurance is oh so temporary.

I’m now 10+3, NHS 12 week scan is 9th September and I’m so worried about it. I still have tender boobs and fatigue but my nausea and vomiting started to fade about a week ago and I’ve been absolutely fine since Friday. I even managed to eat an actual meal yesterday! So the fact that has subsided has worried me somewhat but I’m hoping and praying all is well.

I completely get the whole worrying about symptoms disappearing! Mines are coming and going as well although I am unbelievably tired 100% of the time so there's that. Hope all goes well for you 🙏

It's so bittersweet having people who completely understand. It's lovely to have but I also hate that other people have had to endure the heartbreak 💔 xo

Hi all, I found this thread from @Ella31’s TTC thread. I’m 5+5 with my current pregnancy and getting increasingly anxious. My first pregnancy ended in a loss at 22 weeks, nearly a year ago. I’m coming up to the anniversary of our pregnancy loss very soon.

I hope you don’t mind me offloading here. I didn’t get sleep last night because I was overthinking the scenario of history repeating itself again (I know everyone here knows this too well). I also made the mistake of logging into a certain social pregnancy app. I looked at profiles of ladies that I spoke with prior to the news of our last pregnancy - they have all gone on to have their babies. While I’m relieved they have had safe arrivals, it makes me really sad that we weren’t graced with a similar outcome.

I think this growing anxiety has been amplified by the fact that I’m currently waiting for our booking appointment. All the scans, tests and appointments somehow felt they had been booked very quickly last year (I found out I was 11 weeks pregnant so things accelerated quickly). Going to try distracting myself by taking up a small hobby or personal project.

Hi @ApplesNest you poor thing. I completely get it. Im 7 weeks and I'm terrified too ill lose this baby. I can't even get excited. Last time I had a scan in November just gone, they told me my baby was dead and his brother was slipping. Only to lose him 4 days later too as he passed in my arms.

I'll be with you every step of this way but I get it, it's so scary. You never recover after losing a baby , you just cope. Rant away to me if you need anything

Morning lovely mamma’s.

i hope you’re all doing as well as you can, considering what type of thread this is🙄

I’ve woken up this morning, 10dpo.

Am I just imagining there’s a line or is there a line? (Morrisons own shitty brand tests which I’ve used them both now. Bit of an arsehole the first one just didn’t do anything)

I am going to retest in a couple of days!

Hello lovely people...
I've been on this thread before💔

I had my last miscarriage in April at 7weeks. Previous on Xmas day at 7weeks. Previous in November which was chemical. And the very first was June 2022 at 11 weeks but baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks.

I had Covid the first time too! Funny enough I started testing last week as I felt off and it turned out to be Covid again!!!
I tested this morning as I still hadn't come on and I got a faint positive 🤞🏼

I'm waiting for my appointment with miscarriage clinic as they've done tests but it's not until October.

Not sure what to do with myself here. Should I leave it as I'll probably lose it anyway? Make an attempt to bring my appointment up?

Guess I'm just kind of feeling lonely at this point.

Keeping my fingers crossed for the rest of you!

I can definitely see something brewing there 🥰🥰

I'm sorry that you feel that way, you can always talk to us on here. We all.understand your worries. I have everything crossed that you have a sticky bean growing in there. Xx

@MisssMarion @Ella31 @onthedouble123 @thelastrolo20 how are you all?

@LER2023 definitely see a line there! Great one for 10dpo too 😊

@LER2023 that does definitely look like a faint line. Leaving it a couple of days to do another test sounds like a good plan, will keep everything crossed for you 🙏🙏

@92rainbows tentative congratulations on your new pregnancy. We all totally get the mixed bag of feelings this comes with. It might be worth letting the recurrent MC clinic know, as they may be able to offer you some early intervention treatments (maybe things like asprin, progesterone etc or other appropriate things). I'd hope they wouldn't just discharge you. I've read a few stories where clinics have been helpful for ladies who have conceived whilst waiting. Wishing you well with this little bean x

Hope you don’t mind me jumping on the thread. It’s nice to have some support from people who understand your position.
currently 13+2 with my 9th pregnancy.
my history 12 weeks loss. 8 week loss 8 week loss 2 beautiful babies born healthy on due dates.
empty sac discovered at 6 weeks continues till 12 weeks. Loss at 18 weeks after my waters broke at 14 weeks, loss at 9 weeks after bleeding from 5 weeks.
Then this one.
after my waters broke at 14 weeks with a previous I was promised a stitch and monitoring from 10 weeks, was seen at EPAU at 6 weeks due to pain and started on 2 x proestrogen 400mg. Fast forward to my 10 week consultant. She did an abdominal scan saw the heart beat and refused to discuss or examine for the stitch told me it’s all in my head that I was suffering the same pains as the last time. Reduced my proestrogen and discharged me.
1 week later I lost what I think is my mucus plug mentioned this to my midwife and got completely ignored and told I would be seen by pre term Labour after my 12 week scan which is booked 2 days before I turn 14 weeks as there so busy then will have to wait for the pre term clinic after this. That Thursday I had horrific cramping and woke to a gush of blood. Seen by gyne emergnacy who again scanned baby and said it has a heart beat so it’s ok. Bleeding settled till the next day when I had another gush of blood followed by water discharge. Seen Sunday again scanned baby fine and swab taken still waiting for the results. Seen again Monday as it continued and I was so upset to basically be made to feel like I was wasting there time, refused to check for cervix incompetence which is what they think caused the last one as he stated only 3 doctors in the hospital can do it and to wait for pre term. I pointed out this is past when my waters broke last time and was told he would email and ask them to hurry up. He then scanned and said baby has a heart beat so is not
fussed. Asked about the discharge and I said I’m still waiting for the swab results. He said nothing else but the scan and pic clearly show my waters have broken again. I’m now left in limbo waiting till Friday for the usual 12 week scan knowing there is no fluid around baby but he wouldn't
comment. I just feel like they keep ignoring me and once again my healthy baby will die because they won’t listen and didn’t stick to the plan.
I am so grateful for the boys I have they are my everthing I just wish the doctors would listen and not fin off or tell me it’s in my head when the evidence is clearly there.

sorry for the rant

Aww @Mumof2and5angels - I'm so sorry for all you've been through already.

I'm currently at 30wks with pregnancy number 6 (first was an uncomplicated healthy pregnancy resulting in my DD). I've had bleeding and waters broke at 20/21wks with no explanation except that recurrent miscarriage is a risk factor.

I've had a lot of time in hospital with this pregnancy so have met women in similar situations to you - incompetent cervix is such a tricky one.

You're doing all the right things by advocating for yourself and your baby, don't be afraid to complain and pester the hospital - their staffing issues aren't your problem. Is there any way you could seek help from another health board?

Try and stay positive, there's lots of positive PPROM stories on the Little Heartbeats website.

@Mumof2and5angels wow, what a terrible experience! I am in a bit of disbelief that you aren't getting more help currently. I've only had one loss and had progesterone and extra help in the first 16 weeks. I've also had my cervix checked by a midwife. Is there a option for you move your care to under a different hospital?

My latest question for everyone... is anyone else feeling super gassy? Like upper gas, I can not stop burping especially after my dinner. Even my DH has mentioned it lol After my evening meal I end up in discomfort in my upper stomach too, it doesn't go away until I've had a sleep then I wake up farting away instead. The gas isn't bothering me but the stomach pain is starting too... I'm already on omeprazole so I doubt it's heartburn (plus I don't have a burning feeling in chest, it's all stomach so maybe a different form indigestion?)

@Traitors2024 I’ve put in a complaint already but last time they genuinely tried to deny I had even gone to them with issues prior to my waters breaking it had to go to the Ombusman was just lucky I had the scan picture from the times I had gone in as evidence. The issue is once waters have gone they won’t treat the cervix issue and currently the pain is unreal.

@OnNaturesCourse im not sure if I can move. They shut our local hospital so the one im
under is 45 mins away. There was one in
the next town over but I believe they closed there maternity service when this super hospital opened which is just crazy over busy. When they gave me my appointment for the 12 week scan I asked to move it as it’s at 8.20 which means I have to get someone to watch the kids and take them to school and was told the only other was a month later. Possibly why there not as helpful they just don’t have the time.

@Traitors2024 how are you? Did you manage to get back home post 28 weeks?

I've not been updating here much. Hope everyone is ok.

I am 23 weeks today. Still battling the anxiety and see my consultant for the first time tomorrow. Was in hospital for high blood pressure last week, am now medicated and having monitoring at the day unit twice a week, which is a double edged sword! It's great they are taking it seriously but also creates a bit extra anxiety. At least the hospital is only 5 mins away...

Thank you so much for your reply.

I took another test this morning and had the same. It's hardly there and I have a feeling it might be an evaporation line💔

Apart of me is okay with this as I know I don't have to go through it again. And maybe next month after my appointment things will work out.
Best of luck to you all!