Pregnancy after loss part 2

[LER2023]

After the lovely Hopingrae had created such a wonderful thread.

I wanted to carry this on, as many more women need that added extra support.

Previous thread: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/5016264-pregnancy-after-loss-support?page=1

Hope everyone can find some support on this thread x

Hello all, joining too, I recognise a few names, I'm 6+3 had a mmc at 10 week in December, I am so anxious I go between trying to have good thoughts, not thinking about it or expecting the worse, I don't even want to know my due date pregnancy after loss is so tough, I want an early scan but I'm also at the same time too scared.

@Onthedouble123 I can't wait to start feeling rough 😆😆 bring it on

Welcome on here @Gracie1825 @Onthedouble123 😊

@DonnaWhat I have to remind myself constantly that I wanted to feel rough and to be grateful for it 🙈 xx

That is fantastic. Delighted for you xxx

Hey everyone!! I’ve been so behind with everything on MN😩
so glad to be catching up again!
massive hi and welcome to all the new ladies, I’m sending you all well wishes and super sticky baby dust!

as for anxiety on one of the posts (I’m so late to the party I’m so sorry!!) it’s so hard when you’ve had a loss, I’d definitely say everyone is different, it all depends on what pass time you have that will take your mind away from the pain that you’ve had previously, I always stuck my nose in my books or played my games.

came on my period on Monday… CD22!😩

was really hoping this month was ours, bit of a pain in the arse really. We went to Morrisons for our weekly shop and I had to look into the baby section and saw the CUTEST little outfits even my DP was like yeah they’re adorable. I went ahhh I think I’m looking at them more since we’re trying and he said ‘well we’re not actively trying we’re saying if it happens, it happens. It took 6 months for you to get pregnant last time’ which hit me that I’m really not actively trying, I’m just enjoying the time with him, if we get pregnant perfect, if not we’ll just keep going. He says ‘your body probably isn’t back to how it should be to hold a pregnancy. Like yep.. yep ok, but seeing a negative on the test kills me deep inside which he knows anyway.

had to be rushed into a dentist due to an abscess, which I’m sure I’ve mentioned over my teeth during my last pregnancy, well it got worse and now I’m recovering from a tooth extraction and a healing abscess🤣

but I’m now on some kind of health kick as my weight has now ballooned up to 111kg!! Or in stone 17st +… so definitely needed to do something.

we’ve started walking more (not for pleasure for exercise😩😩 I usually love walking but not for exercise haha!)
and eating less, well cutting portions down a hell of a lot. He says I’ve lost some weight which can be seen which is nice!

any tips and advice for getting healthier? I want to be more healthy for when we have a baby so I’m not just sat down watching my child play, i can actively play with them, I’ve seen myself getting involved with my nieces play less and less and now I have a new born nephew! He’s 6 weeks old and is absolutely beautiful. He’s called Albert🥰

so I need to try and make sure I can play with my niece when she wants, I mean I’m 27 and can’t go on a trampoline without weeing a little so that’s out of the question, but to play football and dolls and stuff with my niece would be nice, then when Albert grows up, I can play football with him, but at the moment I just can’t seem to get my arse off the chair because I just can’t be bothered or I don’t have the energy.

anything about health and well-being from you lovely ladies would be fantastic!

also another life update from me before I go back into the shadows, I’ve accidentally got a pet… it’s a squirrel who comes to our door for nuts every day🤣🤣

i think I usually take the time away from MN because I’m jealous of all you ladies who have had babies or are having babies😳

not to sound bitter, im just jealous and I don’t have any advice for anything over 6 weeks pregnancy🤣

so I think that’s why I’ve been pretty quiet lately. But still my inbox is open for anyone who needs a chat!

sending you ladies all of my love (with a hint of jealousy😉🤣) xox

Ladies 12dpo is this looking OK? After losing my twins at 30 weeks. I am terrified

Looks perfect to me. Congratulations xxx

Feeling so anxious. Had a MMC in April at 11 weeks but confirmed baby had died at 8w2d.

I will be 8w2d tomorrow. We had a scan last week because I’m under the recurrent MC clinic and baby was there with a heartbeat and measuring 7 weeks. I have another scan next Tuesday when I will hopefully be 9 weeks.

We saw the previous baby’s heartbeat at 6w4d and then didn’t have a scan until 11 weeks and it had all gone wrong 😞

I’m feeling very nauseous which I’m grateful for (I know that sounds daft) and my thyroid levels are much lower and stable this time round. I’ve just had some bloods back from last week and they are really stable. I have hashimotos and my last pregnancy it just spun out of control quite quickly.

Not sure what I’m even posting for but I suppose, you ladies understand the anxiety and the feeling of looking for blood at every single wipe of a wee.

Love to all xx

@LER2023 Oh no! Would normally recommend ice cream for your poorly mouth but that's not a useful suggestion when you are trying to eat healthy! Maybe a little sorbet wouldn't be so bad? I'd 100% recommended trying out yoga. I only got into it in the last 10 months and it makes me feel so much better physically and mentally. It was one of the only things after miscarriage that helped with how low my body confidence was. Plus, it might really come in handy if you will be spending time on the floor playing with little nieces and nephews 🥰 My favourite instructor on YouTube is Charlie Follows. Great sequences for all abilities, clearly explained and absolutely no pressure to match what she is doing or push yourself too much. It should be challenging yes, but kept to your personal level depending on body type and proportions, and what feels good.

I still have jealousy of everyone who can hold their babies already, it's so hard to shake. I know it's not easy and I appreciate you still checking in here and enjoy seeing your updates 😊 Would love a photo of your new squirrel friend 🐿️ (I think that's a chipmunk, can't find a squirrel!)

I totally get it. I lost my twin boys 8 months at 30 weeks. Every twinge and toliet break I'm convinced it's blood. All I can say is , this is a new pregnancy, new hope

I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot even imagine the pain.

You’re so right, definitely new hope xx

@Ella31 this is looking really good to me!

@Uguberry hard relate to the jealousy. I just want to be put into an induced coma until the baby is here 😂

@Ella31 the loo terror is real, it's so draining. That looks like good progression from the last test you posted though x

@Jellybelly888 my MMC timing was super similar to yours. This time I had had 4 private scans before the NHS one. I just didn't want to not know for weeks again. It's very hard!

Lol I literally said to dh tha same thing. Knock me out and wake me up when the baby arrives

20 week scan is at 8am tomorrow, I am beside myself tbh 😭

Just seen you have your 20 week scan tomorrow, keeping everything crossed for you ❤️

I think I’ll be similar to you and have a good few before the 12 week one. Scan anxiety is dreadful, I often think it wonder what it feels like to just skip into scans knowing it will be fine and it be such a wonderful experience?!

@Ella31 @Gracie1825 so so lovely to see your names on this thread, I remember your names and stories from last year when I was in the same thread! Sending you both positive vibes for sticky beans ❤ welcome other new ladies too, sending positive vibes your way.

@Mamaxo I'm so sorry you're experiencing difficult feelings, it's so hard. I was referred to perinatal mental health for anxiety, now under talking therapies and it is really helping. Maybe therapy alongside antidepressants might help? I know it's so personal though. Don't be afraid to reach out to midwife team or GP to ask for extra support. You should be prioritised due to pregnancy xx

Hi @Hopingrae good to see you here. Positive vibes for us all. How are you? Xxx

@Orlahoping I hope all is well on your scan today. Will you be finding out the gender? Xx

Morning ladies, still on cloud 9! I really feel ppsitive about this pregnancy. Nervous as he'll but positive. Only 12 dpo and super early but line progression isn't a squinter now but is still faint. Lone progression all the same. So relieved. I didn't even get past this line darkness with my chemical. Just need to get to that 6 week stage and I can breathe a little. Sorry for the rant.

@DonnaWhat it was at 8am and all ok. I am at higher risk of restricted growth but no sign of that yet - in 78th percentile.

Confirmed a little boy 🥹

@Orlahoping Excellent news 💙

@DonnaWhat Congratulations and lovely to hear you're feeling positive 🤗

@Orlahoping awww a little boy. I have 3 girls, I'd live a little boy although I'm genuinely happy to just have a baby on my arms. Good to see everything was OK with the scan. Will you be having any more scans?