Pregnancy after loss part 2

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After the lovely Hopingrae had created such a wonderful thread.

I wanted to carry this on, as many more women need that added extra support.

Previous thread: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/5016264-pregnancy-after-loss-support?page=1

Hope everyone can find some support on this thread x

Aw wow congratulations @SnookyPook ! So pleased for you. Glad you are both doing well x

Congratulations @SnookyPook 🥰

Hi ladies, I’ve been awful at keeping up with this thread 🙈

I had my 12 week scan today and everything is looking perfect 🥰 I’m so relieved and feel like I can start to enjoy and relax into this pregnancy. Baby bean is officially due 31st Jan!

Hope everyone else is doing well x

Congratulations @SnookyPook

Guys anyone get really yellow wee during early pregnancy I'm 5 weeks and it's really yellow I get a heart drop every time I wipe n look because my eyes feel like maybe it's blood mixed making it yellow but I been 3+ weeks consistently on clearblue even with wee like this so it must just be yellow like really yellow. Is this normal

@rukky my prenatals give me neon yellow wee?

Massive congrats @SnookyPook. Over the moon for you 💞

@SnookyPook what incredible news to wake up too this morning. CONGRATULATIONS, wow just wow xxx

Congratulations @SnookyPook 🥰

Hi everyone, just looking to see if anyone has been in a similar situation. So I went to A and E last night due to spotting and cramping. I had a scan and it turns out there are two gestational sacs, although nothing to be seen inside them. Now I know I am 6 weeks, I am certain on my dates. But one is measuring 6w and one 8w. The sonographer told me that they will scan me again in one week and it's very possible we will see something in both. But I just feel like this couldn't be true especially in the case of the bigger one, surely if this one is measuring 8w I would see something? Or is it possible its just bigger even though I am 6 weeks? I'm holding out hope anyway for the little guy at least. But would be over the moon if both pulled through although I don't think it's likely 🥹 I have an erosion on my cervix which they think is the source of bleeding but also said they can't rule out miscarraige. I'm so confused.

@Sophamy I hope everything turns out well for you next week!! I had one isolated episode of pink discharge on Sunday evening, I was absolutely beside myself as I had a MMC in May. Told myself I’d call my Dr if it continued but I’ve had absolutely nothing since. I know I have cervical erosions as I was told at my last smear so I’m hoping it’s that. I have my first midwife app next Wednesday, praying nothing happens before then.

@SnookyPook huge congrats to you!! 🥰

Aw wow @SnookyPook such a lovely lovely post to read, so many congratulations on your little rainbow! Enjoy newborn cuddles 🥰

Congrats congrats congrats.
hope you and baby boy are doing well
so happy for you!!! 💙💙💙

When I went for my last pregnancy, they told me that my sac was measuring 9 weeks which maybe a week off what we was expecting and said they couldn’t see much, just a little embryo inside that was measuring 6 weeks and 2 days, so the pregnancy wouldn’t continue as the sac was just far too big, no other baby or anything inside just 1 embryo.

it may be possible to see something in another week, but I’m shocked one is showing 8 weeks with nothing!x

@SnookyPook this is such amazing news! So glad he's arrived safely!! And sounds like you've got a beautiful name lined up 🥰 enjoy those new born cuddles, how long you've waited for those xxx

@mamataylor that's brilliant news about your 12 week scan! Congratulations, that must have been such a relief! Something wonderful to look forward to in the new year ❤ xxx

Hey everyone

Me and hubby have decided to go for the nipt private test after a week of contemplating what to do we think it’s the best route for us. I’m just so scared because again it involves a scan a scan I don’t want to have a scan I am absolutely petrified of having to ensure that baby is still alive and is ok. It’s just so traumatic. I keep telling myself this time you haven’t had any hick ups (yet) and there is no reason for baby to of passed away but then there are so many women who go for their 12 week scan with no symptoms of loss and find out that news it’s horrendous.

they’ve advised me not to have another scan before my dating scan which is a week ok Wednesday at the early pregnancy unit unless I need too for medical reasons etc, but the scan place has said they need to check baby’s dating far gone enough and it’s hearts still beating. I am contemplating what to do as my dating scan will be a week on Monday but she did say my dating scan won’t take very long if all comes back clear from these tests as won’t need to have the process done again.

im scared, in fact I am petrified, but after 3 losses already I really want a healthy viable pregnancy and would rather know at 11 weeks than 14-17 weeks if something wasn’t right with the baby. I am scared to talk about it because I’m scared that baby might not even be alive. It’s mental what my brain is doing to me I just can’t control these emotions and thoughts. All I keep thinking is it won’t happen for me I don’t ever have any luck.

any way, I am waffling but even if no one reads my waffle it’s helped me in some way writing it down.

sending you all lots of love

@Rockyslife I totally get the scanxiety and I think everything you’re feeling, though it’s awful, is quite normal for those of us who’ve had previous losses. I took the view that nothing was guaranteed but also that the fate of the baby is already set out, so better to find out earlier than later. When would your NIPT scan take place? If it’s helpful, I’ve always found it useful to tell people how I’m feeling and ask if they can confirm a heartbeat ASAP on a scan, and that’s been helpful. Sending love x

Handhold needed 😔

Was at our anomaly scan today at 19w, we had a bad marker for the cerebellum part of baby's brain, its measuring in 5th centile. Everything else fine which I'm hoping is good news. Referred to fetal medicine urgently, absolutely devastated. Just cant stop welling up a out it 😢 I'm praying it's just an incorrect measurement 🤞

@Wise0wl thank you, I have to keep remembering that the baby was made weeks ago and already knew it’s destiny, there’s nothing I can do to change that. That helps it really does. So I have my nipt booked in this Friday and then my dating scan is Monday the 5th so only 10 days later. Xx

@DogMom62 God it's so frightening isn't it, especially with a history of miscarraige. And I find that hospital staff always say "but are you bleeding heavy?" I'd rather not bleed at all thanks 🙉

I hope all goes well for you too, and congratulations.

Hope you're not left waiting too long for a follow up appointment. Sorry there's nothing more I can say, pregnancy is a crappy rollercoaster and we're all here with you.

Bit late to the party, sorry! Such fabulous news. Many congratulations SnookyPook. Such wonderful news. May you have much happiness with your baby boy xx

Thanks all for the congratulations! He's so adorable and feeding like a champ! Hopefully he will soon go up the centiles now that he's out. We also had the full genetic micro-array back today and he's officially had the all clear 🥰

On that note... @T2024 I'm so sorry you've had this scare. Hopefully you can take some comfort from my story although I know it won't be much until you know more about your own. We had femur scanned as below 5th centile at 20wk scan, followed by HC and AC also at foetal medicine scan a month later. Constant growth scans followed and the eventual amniocentesis.... Lots of stress and worry... Baby boy was born 3 days ago, small but absolutely perfect. Sometimes these things happen and the scans are by no means an exact science or always correct in what they highlight. I very much hope it was just some quirk or weird angle etc that set things off. The margins of error are still quite large and mere mm can make a massive difference to estimates. Try to keep positive whilst you have no reason not to. Sending hugs 💗

(Apologies tagged you by mistake @Traitors2024and now can't un-tag!)

It’s alright then suggesting not to have a scan but it’s for your own sanity. It’s so hard being a woman going through losses.

i think personally you’ll see a little baby moving around on your scan. I do understand the anxiety of scans. We’ve said we wouldn’t go private again because we’ve gone private for them all and lost them all.
we didn’t even see the midwife the third time because we thought she was the problem.
so we was going to get to so many weeks, go for a scan and then book in to the midwife and lie saying we didn’t know we was pregnant.
of course didn’t get there. There’s so many things that can cause anxiety. I’m hoping posting that message on here has given you some relief x

Thanks so much @Traitors2024, hopefully will get an appointment in next few weeks and get good news🤞

@SnookyPook congratulations on your baby boy, I'm sure you're over the moon ❤ And thank you for your kind words and story, that helps so much. I'm hoping it was because he was in a breech awkward position yesterday and it'll be OK at FM app. Going to try not to worry until I have info to go on x

Hey Ladies!

I’ve got my first midwife appointment next Wednesday and will be 6 weeks 5 days, around the same gestation as when baby stopped developing in my last pregnancy.
Were most of you offered reassurance scans after 1 previous MC/MMC?

Got to be honest, I’ll be a nervous wreck if they do offer me one. The scanxiety is real 😬