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September 2024 - Thread 6! 🐣🧡💛❤️

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Lillers · 07/04/2024 17:24

New thread seeing as the other one is full! I’ll try to tag as many people as I can seeing as the other one is full so I can’t post a link…

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SC126 · 25/04/2024 10:41

20 weeks scan this morning. Definitely still a boy. All good with measurements however my placenta is low lying so will need to go for another scan at 32 weeks to check whether it's moved!

September 2024 - Thread 6! 🐣🧡💛❤️
Lillers · 25/04/2024 12:15

Just had an emotional outburst at work in which I shouted at my Line Manager and told him to leave me alone in front of a load of people. I’ve always been super professional so genuinely can’t believe myself.

Long story short, I mentor a new member of staff but this has been really poor while I’ve been off so much and so it was agreed that she should have a new mentor. Absolutely great, I’ve been feeling so guilty about letting her down so much so it was a real weight off. To allow another team member to have the capacity to mentor, I was going to pick up a something easy that she does. Fab, all ready to go, everyone on board, everyone knows what’s happening.

Except my line manager has now decided it would be better for me to keep mentoring. I told him I can’t, I’m doing a terrible job and it isn’t fair on the trainee. I already drew a line under it in my head and I don’t want to go back to it. So I was annoyed and asked him to leave me be for a bit. He went away, and then came back just a few minutes later when I was still annoyed and lessons were starting so the corridor was full of kids and staff, and said to me in the corridor that he really thinks it’s the best plan, so I kept telling him I am not ok with this plan, I need to get out of the corridor because it’s full of kids, and I need to just get on with my lessons today. He just kept trying to say why the other plan wouldn’t work and I was getting more and more angry, so in the end shouted at him to just leave me alone.

Kids heard, other teachers heard. I know I won’t get in trouble because they know this is so out of character for me, but honestly I am so pissed off that this happened and he just kept pushing.

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MudandMoet · 25/04/2024 13:23

@Honeyandsunshine1 wow that's brilliant to hear, so now I need to just Google organic coconut oil and then find a you tube clip on how to do this perennial massage. I'm wondering if there's a link or anything as knowing me I'll end up with some cooking product being rubbed in down there 🤪 when is best to start these massages too please?

@BeautyAndTheBump1 😂😂 noted...I'm gonna tell him I've read this thread and everyone recommends it 3 times a week at least from 37 weeks, you watch I'll not feel like it at all at that stage!

@tryingfortwo2 ordered - thanks for the link 🥰

@SC126 lovely pic - pleased all measurements okay x

fleur89 · 25/04/2024 14:55

Has anyone here been classed as high risk at their 20 week scan due to elevated resistance in blood flow? Means I'm elevated risk of developing pre eclampsia (1 in 4) and fetal growth restriction so now need to have a bunch of extra scans. My reading was only just out of range, hopefully all will be okay. My Papp-a reading at 12 weeks was normal. Feeling nervous as this is a triple rainbow baby and I'd just been discharged from the recurrent miscarriage unit on Monday to find out that I'm high risk again today 😞

fleur89 · 25/04/2024 14:56

*in blood flow moving from placenta to fetus

Fik88 · 25/04/2024 15:04

Sorry not been on for a while, not much to update really, had my 20 week scan this afternoon and all looks good with the baby and definitely still a boy 😂 also had my whooping cough vaccine. Still hardly felt any movement though and 20 weeks 1 day today, hoping he starts kicking stronger soon

Honeyandsunshine1 · 25/04/2024 15:17

BeautyAndTheBump1 · 25/04/2024 09:38

@MudandMoet I'm sure that DTD will help! I spent my entire pregnancy avoiding my DH last time and then when it came to 37 weeks I was like right we need to have sex now all the time to get this baby out of me lmao!

@Cat2022 oh really! I had 1 stitch last time so guess i wouldn't have been able to use it either - i'm still tempted to buy some though!

@Xur that's really interesting I've never heard of that before - how do you get it? Do you drink it? What does it taste like? I've heard lots about drinking rasberry leaf tea in the 30s!

@ForeverHopeful67 I'm gonna get some you've persuaded me! And omg the bleeding. I'm going to try the adult nappies this time around and see how I get on with them before I move onto maternity pads

@Honeyandsunshine1 you've persuaded me...I literally kept holding my wee in for hours and hours just because I didnt want to go to the toilet that much cus it hurt so badly lol and OMG the coconut oil..i've had some coconut oil in my drawer and i've always thought what on earth have I got that for...that's what I used last time you've just jogged my memory lmao!

@tryingfortwo2 I have seen those - great to know they work! I'm going to get one - I stole my measuring jug out the kitchen cupboard last time and used to fill that with warm water and drown my bits in it as I peed lmao!

Hahaha, amazing! I’m glad to have been of service 🤣 at least you don’t have to fork out for it again! What a touch. I’ve been using the coconut oil this time around for the bump and also as a chemical free moisturiser. It’s been a game changer

Xur · 25/04/2024 16:09

@MudandMoet

https://myexpertmidwife.com/blogs/my-expert-midwife/why-you-should-do-perineal-massage-and-how-to-do-it
I literally just sent this to my partner and told him to read the instruction 😂

@Lillers I’m afraid it’s normal.😭
last weekend I nearly threw my partner out of the house because he was pestering me too much about his work agenda (work agenda that he was trying to get me involved in but I wasn’t going to and kept telling him to leave me out of his business). I was so pissed off I was ready to be a single parent and move out I swear. These hormones are something else.

How To Do Perineal Massage To Prevent Perineum Tearing

85% of women will sustain perineal trauma during vaginal birth. This guide will teach you how to do perineal massage to help reduce the risk of tearing.

https://myexpertmidwife.com/blogs/my-expert-midwife/why-you-should-do-perineal-massage-and-how-to-do-it

Honeyandsunshine1 · 25/04/2024 16:11

MudandMoet · 25/04/2024 13:23

@Honeyandsunshine1 wow that's brilliant to hear, so now I need to just Google organic coconut oil and then find a you tube clip on how to do this perennial massage. I'm wondering if there's a link or anything as knowing me I'll end up with some cooking product being rubbed in down there 🤪 when is best to start these massages too please?

@BeautyAndTheBump1 😂😂 noted...I'm gonna tell him I've read this thread and everyone recommends it 3 times a week at least from 37 weeks, you watch I'll not feel like it at all at that stage!

@tryingfortwo2 ordered - thanks for the link 🥰

@SC126 lovely pic - pleased all measurements okay x

It is a bit of a task. I had to do mine while in the shower 😂 perching a leg up on the side of the bath. They do say you can rope in your partners to help but I thought, you’ve done enough pal, I’ll see to it myself 😂 most of the diagrams show people using 2 hands but I only ever managed one. You basically just want to use your (well oiled) fingers to apply pressure around the around of the opening, if that makes sense? There’s some handy videos online if that helps!

Honeyandsunshine1 · 25/04/2024 16:12

Ladies,

Honeyandsunshine1 · 25/04/2024 16:13

Oops, accidentally pressed post! But what I was going to say was “thebirthuprising” on instagram have a free hypnobirthing session tonight at 7:30pm. If you click their link in their bio, you can sign up to it. Their content is really good and I find their approach really empowering. Just thought I’d share for those who are interested in hypnobirthing this time around, if you wanted to dip your toe in a taster session

Honeyandsunshine1 · 25/04/2024 16:16

Honeyandsunshine1 · 25/04/2024 16:11

It is a bit of a task. I had to do mine while in the shower 😂 perching a leg up on the side of the bath. They do say you can rope in your partners to help but I thought, you’ve done enough pal, I’ll see to it myself 😂 most of the diagrams show people using 2 hands but I only ever managed one. You basically just want to use your (well oiled) fingers to apply pressure around the around of the opening, if that makes sense? There’s some handy videos online if that helps!

Sorry, just following on to this. I had my leg perched up on the side, and used the opppsite hand to the leg that was up. I used my thumb and basically just pushed it all around the edge of the vagina opening, but putting my thumb in a few inches too. Manageable circles but applying firm pressure where I could feel it was actually doing something. I did this from about 36 weeks. Hope that helps?

Xur · 25/04/2024 16:17

@Honeyandsunshine1 🙏 thank you!!! Gonna check that out.

I think my partner may be weirded out by a massage that supposed to be stretching my cooch 😂

rupertbear91 · 25/04/2024 17:06

We got given a leaflet from the consultant about perineal massage apparently as a horse rider it's essential as we are all super tight so likely to tear badly 🤦🏽‍♀️ my partner said he draws the line at helping me but offered to shave my legs if I struggle in exchange 😂😂

Just overheard my partner telling colleagues on a call about his baby being due in September. I don't know why I found it so strange hearing him say that I genuinely think I see it as my baby only currently seeing as though I'm doing all the hard work!

Honeyandsunshine1 · 25/04/2024 17:30

Xur · 25/04/2024 16:17

@Honeyandsunshine1 🙏 thank you!!! Gonna check that out.

I think my partner may be weirded out by a massage that supposed to be stretching my cooch 😂

😂😂😂 I mean, it is the LEAST they could do. But I feel like somehow they’d not do it properly. “If you want something done properly, do it yourself” so, just continue to get me snacks and I’ll cover our bases on the perineal front 😂

Honeyandsunshine1 · 25/04/2024 17:33

rupertbear91 · 25/04/2024 17:06

We got given a leaflet from the consultant about perineal massage apparently as a horse rider it's essential as we are all super tight so likely to tear badly 🤦🏽‍♀️ my partner said he draws the line at helping me but offered to shave my legs if I struggle in exchange 😂😂

Just overheard my partner telling colleagues on a call about his baby being due in September. I don't know why I found it so strange hearing him say that I genuinely think I see it as my baby only currently seeing as though I'm doing all the hard work!

Really?! That’s so interesting! I used to ride before my first but didn’t know the activity heightens the risk of tearing. Forever learning. Although, I sometimes wonder, do I just have a giant gaping cave vagina to miraculously evade tearing in both births, or was it the perineal massages I did?

I mean, I like to tell myself it’s the latter but who knows 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Xur · 25/04/2024 17:43

@Honeyandsunshine1 mines small and I know it and that’s why I’m ready for massages, blessings, trinkets, miracles and jujus and holy spirits up there cos I’m affraid my minnie is gonna fall off after this 😭😭😭😭

Lillers · 25/04/2024 17:51

Honeyandsunshine1 · 25/04/2024 16:11

It is a bit of a task. I had to do mine while in the shower 😂 perching a leg up on the side of the bath. They do say you can rope in your partners to help but I thought, you’ve done enough pal, I’ll see to it myself 😂 most of the diagrams show people using 2 hands but I only ever managed one. You basically just want to use your (well oiled) fingers to apply pressure around the around of the opening, if that makes sense? There’s some handy videos online if that helps!

I was reading this post on the train and didn’t notice the big picture on my screen until I looked down at it - wonder what on earth the people around me thought I was reading! 😂

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BeautyAndTheBump1 · 25/04/2024 18:31

@SC126 Lovely scan pic! I've got a low lying placenta too so we are in the same boat!

@fleur89 oh bless you! Do you need to take baby aspirin now?

BeautyAndTheBump1 · 25/04/2024 18:34

@Xur Honestly I was petrified with my first as I'm small too, it always hurts when hubs puts it in for agessss (still does tbf even after birthing a child 😂) and I genuinely thought I was gonna tear arse to elbow and I had 1 tiny tear that they just put 1 stitch in and that was it! That's why I swear by the peri massage now 😂

@Honeyandsunshine1 thanks for the hynobirthing link! I used the breathing techniques with my first and it helped me soooo much through the contractions!!

Xur · 25/04/2024 18:38

@BeautyAndTheBump1 thank you I need happy stories like yours! 💖

TripleESept24 · 25/04/2024 19:19

Honeyandsunshine1 · 25/04/2024 16:11

It is a bit of a task. I had to do mine while in the shower 😂 perching a leg up on the side of the bath. They do say you can rope in your partners to help but I thought, you’ve done enough pal, I’ll see to it myself 😂 most of the diagrams show people using 2 hands but I only ever managed one. You basically just want to use your (well oiled) fingers to apply pressure around the around of the opening, if that makes sense? There’s some handy videos online if that helps!

What on earth is this 😭

HRP1990 · 25/04/2024 22:04

omg girls I’m in the back of a taxi after a work event sniggering quietly at this chat. I’m such a child 😂 however I can say I had an episiotomy last time.. so I will be “stretching my cooch” to avoid further tears 😂

MudandMoet · 25/04/2024 22:06

Thanks for the links girls! Im going to try and stretch the f*ck out of mine, really don't fancy a tear but guess what will be will be. It'll end up like the open end of a carrier bag before baby arrives if DH got involved, he's so heavy handed . He didn't seem over keen on the idea of helping stretch down there either though @Xur when I've just mentioned it 🤣

I'm gutted I missed the insta hypno birthing session - I'll follow them and then if they have another hopefully I'll catch that.

Still rolling at the "giant gaping cave" comment 😂

BadLobster · 25/04/2024 22:37

I mentioned perineal massage to my DH earlier after reading this thread and he volunteered to help before I’d even finished talking, the weirdo.

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