Due September - Thread 5! 🐣❤️🧡💛

[Lillers]

New thread! Can’t believe we’re on 5 already.

First time round I didn’t buy anything until after the 20 week scan, this time I’ll be the same, won’t have any big purchases to make anyway as still have everything from my son

Does anyone have the link to the Facebook group? I tried one in a previous thread but it’s expired / not working! I was waiting until I knew everything was ok before I joined

@Xur On the one hand I’d really want to tell him to get over himself because you don’t have a choice, so nor should he, but I’ve also heard stories of midwives throwing out men who can’t cope with blood because they don’t want to have to deal with them fainting etc when they need to focus on the mother. I just hate that you’re having to go through all the physical and mental challenges of pregnancy and then potentially having to do the birth bit alone.

It is worth looking to see if he could have any therapy or anything to deal with it because one day, he might be in charge of your little one and they might have an accident which includes blood, and he will have no choice but to deal with it because it’s his child and they could be in danger.

@Xur I'd get someone else to come with me and leave him home entirely. If he's that much of a wuss, trying to deal with it with him during labour is just extra stress. You'll get stressed just KNOWING that he'll wuss out at some point and leave you hanging. You won't be the first woman to have someone other than your husband there! My own mum would love to push my DP out of the way and come with!

That being said, a baby has a lot of smells and bodily fluids, how is he proposing to deal with that?

Is anybody else experiencing wild emotions in the second trimester? I didn’t feel any pregnancy hormones at all until now - 15 weeks, but the last few days were wild. Today at lunch I screamed and tears came when my poor mum, who had invited me for lunch, tried to take my plate to reheat it, because I was about to start eating and hungry. I also get absolutely irritated at everything, I can’t deal being around anyone. And for the first time I feel I might want to divorce DH. I hope this is not my life for the rest of this pregnancy or DH will divorce me before I have a chance to divorce him.

@Cinai it's somewhat normal to feel a bit off form but I would mention this to your midwife/gp at your next appointment. If you feel like this most of the time....
It's probably mostly hormone related but if it's affecting your everyday life then it's good to talk to someone. These intense feelings don't always go away when the baby arrives so it's good to have some coping tools now.

Hi all
I'm at the 14 weeks and apart from the odd cramp, just feel fat 😅

I haven't purchased anything and won't be until around 25 weeks when a pregnancy is viable. I'm a pretty realistic/practical person (must be the nurse in me.) I know people keep wanting me to but I'm not ready yet.

Sorry to hear some of you are so poorly and in hospital. You must feel rotten! Hopefully it doesn't last much longer for you all

I also can't stop eating this week! Feel like I'm due on my period and nothing satisfies my hunger

@SantasRubiksCube yes I agree with trying hypnobirthing. I did bump to baby chapter last time and it was great. I also do pregnancy yoga weekly and that has the breathing element. I felt prepared for most outcomes.

@Xur that sounds tough, maybe you could do a birth course together so he can learn a bit more as we all see the dramatised versions on tv etc but in reality it’s quite different. Midwives are also great at quickly cleaning up any blood etc so he might not see much/ could stay at your head end.

If I go into labour suddenly and it’s as fast as last time il be giving birth alone due to childcare and I feel totally okay with that.

@Xur my DH is a total wuss around bloods and stuff too. You wouldn't think he was a hardy farmer sometimes! He is known to faint at his regular blood tests (pre diabetic and high BP) but... I have told him in no uncertain terms that he needs to get his shit together for the birth as I would be so fucking annoyed if he left the room if I needed him and shoving a potential 7-8-9lb human out my vag! Even if he stays head end he's staying in that room!

Girls can we talk Sex Drugs and Rock n Roll??

Sex: We're strangely down to every ten ish days. Can't think why, I don't look different hardly yet and doubt that would bother DH (he's a big chap himself) we're still very cuddly in bed etc but it's just not happening all that often 🤷🏼‍♀️ anyone else?

Drugs: I'm full of cold and currently taking Anadin paracetamol every 4-5 hours to relieve the headache and sinus pain. I've noticed others have written they've tried to avoid even paracetamol but honestly I couldn't cope without it and now worrying! I also agree the forehead stick does help for mild headaches.

Rock N Roll: or not so much of, I'm 18 week tomorrow and haven't felt a thing going on in my tum. I'm strangely not worried but know my placenta isn't at the back so was hoping for a few flutters by now.

My sympathies are with you that are suffering with sickness, I can't imagine how much that must be taking it out of you. Hope it stops or at the least steadies right off soon for you 🫶🏻

@MudandMoet we haven't been having much sex either, not sure why.
I have also had cold symptoms for weeks now but no proper cold which is annoying, I just take Paracetamol when i have a bad headache. I also haven't felt anything either, i am just over 16 weeks but its my 3rd baby.
I have my midwife appointment tomorrow and hoping i get to hear babys heatbeat to try and stop me worrying until I can feel baby move

@MudandMoet No sex at all here - I’ve just been so sick that the thought of it is horrendous. I do feel bad for DH, but he understands. Whenever I think I might be able to have a go, something happens that massively puts me off, eg this weekend I thought, “Right, just go for it”, but as soon as he went near my nipples they started burning in pain! Literally, he barely touched them and it felt like razor blades. Poor guy.

@MudandMoet sex, what sex 😅 there is none of that going on here! I'm knackered, bloated, working full time and just want to relax...

@MudandMoet well done on every 10 days I’d say!
im another one for no sex here whatsoever. And tbh neither of us are arsed 😂 I spent the first trimester and more feeling sick. It’s finally eased touch wood but I’m exhausted. I’m barely keeping my eyes open past 8:30pm. My 5 year old still wakes in the night alongside the dog. My son also likes to wake for the day at 5am which isn’t new since he’s done this for years now but by time I’ve done a full day at work I just want to get in bed frankly.

Ladies,
all of the points are fair and he is very much aware of his uselessness and he knows it’s not fair so for that reason he has offered to pay for a C section at a private hospital of my choice but I’m just not sure about the recovery. I had a large tattoo removed from the abdominal area and that was the most painful thing I had to endure so far and the recovery was also painful. I couldn’t bend over. My spouse had to dress my tights, socks, shoes. I don’t enjoy being so helpless. It’s not in my character to be so reliant on people’s help.
It doesn’t make any sense that he is in such a way because he doesn’t look like a wimp. He’s a crunchy cookie with a soft filling…

@MudandMoet my Coo has gone to hibernation I’m not interested in sex more often than once in 2 or 3 weeks. We are doing it just to not upset him right now. I don’t even care about cuddles. 😒 poor hubby.

@MudandMoet No sex over here either! You've done well with every 10 days! I've been so tired and bloated it's the last thing on my mind. I also spent years trying for this baby, multiple rounds of IVF and a previous loss and although I know that sex is absolutely fine when pregnant, I can't help but worry that having sex may cause something bad to happen. Completely ridiculous I know but I can't seem to shake the fear! Glad to know I'm not the only one with no interest in it. I feel sorry for my partner but he seems to be understanding.

@Cinai wild emotions here too! Very very depressed at times, absolutely raging with anger other times, and also absolutely fine and in a good mood sometimes. All in an afternon...

I'm a bit emotional usually when I get my period so i know i am sensitive to hormones, but this pregnancy rollercoaster is wild.

Hi everyone I am new here and new to Mumsnet! But I am pregnant with my first baby, due 10th September 😊 just thought I'd say hello. I have my 16 week midwife appointment tomorrow x

These are making me chuckle! I've also been so sick it's also dried up over here which is a huge change from 7 times during ovulation window. And on schedule for the 2.5 years of trying!!

Tried the other day but I ended up struggling to breathe 😅😅 not a good look...

I have also been a slave to paracetamol taking max dose also got recommended a throat spray by pharmacist and then panicked after a day of use as it said only use if told to by doc/pharmacist... Obviously I was but I have resisted since and cried. hormones. 😅

@Fik88 pleased I'm not alone! Hope your cold keeps at bay and doesn't present properly 🤞🏼let us know how you get on with MW tomorrow

Hi @Maisiee good luck at the MW tomorrow too. Welcome to the club x

@Lillers I'm the same with the nipples! I can't stand them being touched, anything booby has been off the cards since around week 3. Even the shower water makes me wince!

@WinsandSam @SC126 fair play I say. I can't even imagine doing this pregnancy thing with a dependant and working full
time. My hat is off to you that do.

@Xur @Babyplease23 if you don't feel like it that's fair enough. I'm waiting for my sex drive to dissipate- I'm sure it will soon and if not then when baby arrives!

Hello everyone, I'm also new to mumsnet and first time pregnant :) Due 2nd September, excited to join this thread

@Cinai and @TTCSoManyQuestions88 - totally same here. I'm 17weeks now, but found 16th week the hardest emotionally of it all so far. Also I find all emotions are amplified - so stressors stress me out way more than normal, being alone a bit too much massively makes me feel depressed - so it's a sense of feeling alot less resilient than usual. I've decided that I need to have some connection (people) and some peace (something to calm nervous system down) every day or it all builds up...

My worst week emotionally was week 15. I am fine now, but I was struggling as I was taking things to heart (which I normally wouldn’t). I had two cases of people just feeling overwhelmed with themselves and starting to scream at me for questioning their work (I have to, that is part of my job). I pulled it together there and then but I felt at that time like I will never forgive either of these people for this, as it was uncalled for. I went home and cried, really cried. I’m not a cryer. I was just so overwhelmed with how dare they.

Omg I'm so happy to read that I'm not the only one not having sex 🤣 the last time we had sex was on the 2nd of Jan at the end of my fertile week 💀 I can barely roll over in bed without needing to be sick nevermind being rocked around the bedroom 😂

@rupertbear91

Oooh that's good that ondansetron and xonvea can be combined - hopefully this combination will help you then! And yes you're almost 15 now so you may not have long left at all of this hell!

Hope today is a better day for you