Due September - Thread 5! 🐣❤️🧡💛

[Lillers]

New thread! Can’t believe we’re on 5 already.

I am jealous of everyone back to normal now 🤣 I am grateful I had a breezy first start but now I can't stomach food after 4pm
Only want plain or random foods?!

Hate the smell of the fridge again and the bin forget it.... I must be a joy to live with. Yet the only thing I want for lunch is egg mayo sandwich...

I'm jealous of everyone starting to feel good too @longingtobe23 I have 'tough wood' finally found some tablets to curb the vomiting of HG in the last 2 days but still have hardly got the strength to get out of bed. I'm 13 weeks tomorrow maybe the pregnancy glow will hit soon 😬

Woohoo, 13 weeks today - second trimester! 🎉🎉
As much as I would love to be springing into the second trimester, the fact that I threw up so forcefully last night that it came out my nose tells me that I’m probably not out of the woods yet 😂

Definitely no pregnancy glow here despite being 15 weeks tomorrow. Touch wood I've not been sick since last Tuesday and I'm hoping it means the sickness is finally coming to the end! I'm exhausted though and back at work. I'm falling asleep at 8pm each night. Also the hormones does the opposite to constipation for me and I'm getting bored of the daily dash to a toilet.

Is anyone else feeling weird about telling friends?

I told my closest friends and family really early like, 6 weeks because I needed the support. But for other people I'm feeling a bit uncomfortable. I know i should tell them as otherwise it'll be awkward the next time they see me and my little bump. But for example I have a couple of friends going through fertility struggles which I'll need to handle delicately, and others who are strongly child free and I feel like its bound to change our relationship? Does anyone else feel the same or am I over thinking things?

@Kofifi I get it. Like you I told the people closest to me early, but I haven’t told my wider circle yet. The group that I’m a bit worried about is my group of friends from school - there are 6 of us including me. 3 of them already have two children each so I’m a bit worried that it’ll be a bit “old news” to them. I was the last to get married and they were a bit underwhelmed about that. One of the others has been struggling to adopt (he’s a gay man so not able to conceive naturally with his husband) and surrogacy plans aren’t going very well either. The final one is proudly child free and we were always on a similar page about that. That’s the other thing I’m anticipating, lots of questions about why - I wasn’t always certain about wanting children, and I’m a bit older as well, so I never said I wanted them and as far as they’re all concerned, I’m not that bothered. Obviously between me and DH we were certain we wanted to try, I just didn’t want to advertise it to everyone. So I am a bit apprehensive that instead of celebrating my news, my friends will be querying it.

I’m not telling them for a while anyway - dh still hasn’t told his dad and wider family, so have to wait until he’s done that, which he’s insisting on doing on his dad’s birthday at the very end of March.

Hello everyone & happy Sunday! 🫶

I have recently been inactive and haven’t posted anything. This is because I’ve not had any time to focus on me and the pregnancy, I worked 12 days straight and today is my first weekend off.
I had been reading the thread and I have seen all the lovely scans. I’m so happy for all the little babies and the positive scans! 💟 Please accept my apologies for I have not tagged you as you are so many! 🥹

I had nausea two weeks ago on a random Thursday, then the following week I had it on a Wednesday and last week I had no nausea that’s worth remembering at this point. I am 15 weeks today, I feel normal (apart from being more emotional than usual, which is honestly getting on my nerves). I’ve still been wanting to eat non meat protein, but I’ve also started with the sweets a bit, specifically chocolate. I had constantly been having black chocolate with marzipan since week 6 as the marzipan was an ongoing craving. Yesterday though I bought the Easter chocolate bunnies, that are in a paper frame you can tear off and write a name on it and give it to people, so I brought those home and started eating them by myself. 🙈 Yesterday I decided I wanted to make beetroot soup so I did just that. Beetroot is apparently a common craving, there’s nutrients in beetroot that a beneficial for the placenta and the baby, so makes sense.

I have seen some stuff online that I was wondering if any of you have seen/tried before?
First thing is the TWEETO cot/bed. I know it’s a bit pricey but it’s several in one, as it can be changed. Most people go through two beds between newborn and toddler, this one can be changed from newborn bed/bedside cot and later to a larger bed. I was thinking maybe it’s worth investing into one like this instead of eventually spending same amount of money for two separate beds?

Second thing I have my eyes on is the BUMPSUIT clothing. It’s quite expensive (£100.00+ for a stretch romper??) surely they have to be absolutely perfect if they specialise in maternity products and leggings? Has anyone tried it or know anyone who’s purchased?

@Kofifi I gave two old friends with whom I keep in touch but we’ve not met for years now, we all live in different countries now. Both of them are single and one lives a typical life and the other one leads an artists lifestyle (as in being in 30s, but still renting rooms, working freelance art projects and enjoys to focus on the uncertainty rather than stability, travels between countries and friends week on week) so even though we keep in touch I have no intention to tell her, such news will bring absolutely nothing to this friendship as we normally talk about art and such stuff. I don’t feel obliged and I know she wouldn’t care either. I told my other friend though. Not because she was going to see me, but because there was no reason to refrain.

SORRY FOR LONG POST! 🍩

@Honeyandsunshine1 aww congrats on adding a little girl to your crew!
It went well despite him initially shouting out boy when he opened the present 🤦‍♀️ The little romper outfit has a lot of blue in it although it's obviously a girls outfit, the blue threw him off 🤣 Anyway he was so happy when he looked at it properly.
Probably should have gone for pink in hindsight.

Yeah I've found it weird telling everyone too. I'm the last of my close friends to have a baby and they are all really excited for me. They were easy but telling people in work was a bit different. It felt strange just dropping it in conversation. Especially since I'm 16 weeks and know what I'm having. They were literally gobsmacked 😆
It's difficult when you know others are struggling or have had losses.

Update on the non alcoholic espresso martinis - not good.
I quite liked the Nozeco though.

@Honeyandsunshine1 aww congratulations on your girl! 💗 maybe there is something to the nub theory then ! I sent mine to a few Facebook groups for fun and they have all said girl like you did too! We are an all boy family with barely any girls so would be pleasantly surprised if mine did end up a girl :)

Question about baby baths for those who already have kids. Is it more practical to have something like the shnuggle rather than a stand/seat in the bath?
I was looking at the angelcare but realise I would have to fill the actual bath for that. A shnuggle type bath just needs itself filled.
I'm not buying these things yet but have been researching everything and trying to narrow down my "to get" list.

@Wanderlust86 we preferred the shnuggle bath with my son and I will be getting it again. He always cried in the bath seat type one we had and the shnuggle was easier on my back too.

@Kofifi Totally get feeling weird. We’ve not told anyone at all yet (aside from a depute at my school when I had to call in when I was bleeding) but fluctuating between being excited about it and really nervous. I’m also in the same boat as you, @Lillers , previously quite sure I wasn’t going to have children and being a bit older. Can’t be bothered with the questions! I don’t tolerate baby chat well at the best of times. Not sure how I’ll cope when I’m the one with the baby! 😆

Glad but also sad I’m in the same boat - just had another gagging / heaving session before I scoffed my toast 😂
the glamour - happy Sunday ladies can’t believe it’s a week since Mother’s Day… time is going quickly now (wishful thinking)

I got the shnuggle bath, much easier and quicker to just fill that, esp if they have a poonami etc!

Though my friend got a partition for her standard bath where it just fills up to where the partition is which I thought was clever

@BeautyAndTheBump1 @SC126 Great thanks, I will go for the shnuggle. I thought it looked more practical although hadn't even considered poonamis in the bath! What a thought 🤣

we also used the shnuggle bath and loved it :)

I'm telling my mum today! She will be the first person we've told and I'm just over 12 weeks. I'm in my late 20s but feel like a 16 year old that is scared to tell their parents that are pregnant hahaha 🤣

I know we’re fairly early on but had anyone got any stretch marks yet? I’m starting to get them on my lower belly and hips, despite none with my daughter.. I can’t help but be a little sad.

I know I won’t care later down the line when babies here and it’ll tell a story, but I can’t help but morn my old body? That probably sounds very selfish doesn’t it? Anyway, they’re just so itchy and dry it’s hard to not think about them 🙈

Edited to say, I know it goes without saying that I feel super grateful to be pregnant and have a low risk pregnancy etc. It was just on my mind this morning while slapping on the bio oil!

I've just signed up for Boots parenting club (Ireland but presume UK too!). There is great few freebies on there - Mam bottle and soother, aveeno wash and breast pads. As oregnancy goes on there will be more. Every bit counts!

@HRP1990 ah so sorry it is tricky any stage to get them
my sis just had her final 3rd baby - escaped lots but did get the odd few - she was like oh I guess that’s it
Well he’s two weeks old and her tummy’s shrunk and she’s got them!! They can come up at anytime unexpectedly 🫣

totally okay for us to still mourn and miss our old body even though they’re doing something miraculous ♥️

@Kofifi @Lillers
Like you guys, I've never been sure I wanted children. For about 10 years I really didn't. I don't like children very much 🤣 much prefer dogs.
But, we decided we may regret our decision and tried for a couple of years.
Some of our friends have been SHOCKED!! Saying wtf, never knew you wanted them. Funny really. They didn't know we'd been trying as also didn't post it to the world.
We're very happy to be fortunate enough to be pregnant, especially at the age of 40! Very old as I keep being reminded of 😅

@HRP1990 my friend who had a baby in February said she had new stretch marks appearing on her bum a month after the baby was out and they were coming blue!!!
I already started using the stretch mark cream, I put it everywhere-on the belly, the back (lower back), sides, tighs and my bum.

We did some gardening today, I chose to mainly weed so that I could “shoot two rabbits with one bullet”. I know that the toilet squat or also called the Indian squat is mega healthy for pregnant women to strengthen the pelvic floor so I weeded for 3 hours in it, it was hard, but felt worth it.

@Kofifi @Lillers i never told people we are trying for a baby, we are mid 30s, travel lots and career focused, turns out everyone assumed we'd not want kids despite me never saying that! Our parents were shocked!! I've told everyone I know, and most people have been lovely but I've had some strange reactions too.

One of my closest friends is going through a rough patch with her partner and my news caused her to just go on and on about her frustrations with life, her partner, her job etc it was one of the most draining 90 minutes of my life. I of course comforted her and listened and was very very understanding but she has now stopped inviting me to socials, it's been 4 weeks!

I have 2 friends struggling with infertility and they are SO excited for me, I told them over text and was sensitive, and their response has been overwhelmingly supportive and they have already bought us some baby presents, asking me lots about how I'm feeling etc.

My friends who have said they don't want kids have also been lovely and are excited to be aunties/uncles.

So you never know, I'd say most people are great and will be excited for you.

Evening all, hope everyone had a good weekend 😁 I'm just over 15 weeks and have felt really bloated and uncomfortable today and with a weird feeling in my back/ around my front, it's kind of hard to describe but sort of feels like a mix of digestive discomfort and slight period cramps 🤷 I don't really remember feeling this way until much further along in my other pregnancies (although the last one was over 4 years ago) so maybe just things stretching? I'm sure I've felt baby move too, little flutters/thuds just below belly button, I did wonder if it was gas at first but as it's my fourth I'm pretty sure and usually if it's gas I feel it then have to pass wind shortly after (sorry tmi) trying to enjoy this pregnancy as it will be my last but Im just not one who blooms, more like balloons to an uncomfortable girth 😂

First day back at work tomorrow - going to have a meeting with HR first thing to raise my concerns about being phoned 4 times by senior staff to ask me things about work, and was also messaged over WhatsApp by 3 different members of my team to ask me questions too, all while signed off with sickness and stress.

I’m a secondary school teacher and wondering what to say to the kids about why I haven’t been in because I know they’ll ask. It feels weird to tell them I’m pregnant before my FIL even knows, but it’s getting harder to hide and teenagers aren’t stupid. Maybe I’ll just tell them to mind their own business 😂