Anyone due in April part 4

[XenaTheWarriorPrincess]

Hey guys, new thread for the April due dates.

Looks like the other thread maxed out before someone could make a new one, so I'll tag a few people and then if they could tag a few and they tag a few and so on, so we can try and get everyone in.

There's no way I can get everyone tagged myself, it's a nightmare on mobile.

@Ek21 I've used the huckleberry app and I found it a little misleading. My son doesn't nap more than 25 mins usually but once he had a 10 min nap and put his wake window at 2 hours which was the same length if he had a 2 hour nap (which he did about 3 times ever 🙈) I think it also assumes nap length and is not quite accurate for all babies. Today my boy had a 25 min nap but then needed another nap an hour later 🤷‍♀️

@Pinkstuffs my son did the same with the cot, arms and legs hanging out and getting stuck. I just recently bought a breathable bumper from Amazon. It's really good, and I tested it and really is breathable lol

If anyone has any tips for a sleep deprived mum whose son is still waking every two hours please send them my way! 😴

My baby girl is 6 months next week and 16lb! She was 7lb13 born but I think she still seems so small compared to the other babies her age at our baby groups! She’s rolling all over the place, sitting, pulling herself around her mat with her arms and has mastered the art of the backward bum scoot which is cute but terrifying! She’s so quick I cannot take my eyes of her for a second!

We started her with some baby porridge this week and she’s loving it! Going to try BLW in a couple of weeks but I’m so scared she’ll choke.

No advice on sleeping, my girl is still up multiple times through the night and every single nap is a contact nap😂

Baby boy is 5.5 months now and sitting up. Tried a bit of carrot purée a week ago but he just spat it up so waiting until 6m to try again. We’ve had 6 months of no routine to speak of and mostly contact naps but just beginning to try and get a bit of routine now with bedtimes and getting up times and hoping that might start to give us a bit more of a schedule. He actually does go quite happily in his cot for a nap if I can ever predict when he might fall asleep but 90 percent of the time he naps after a feed and ends up in my arms for it 😂 also tends to co-sleep every night as he’s waking multiple times and it’s just so much quicker to have him next to me.

We were quite strict with routine with our first and definetly chilled out with the second!

Has anyone got tips on how to encourage sitting up? I put DS between my knees and he will sit up leaning forward to grab toys but he ends up just pulling himself into his tummy!

Have you tried sitting toys so that when he is reaching for toys they encourage him to stay in a seated position? So like our play mat flipped into a sitting toy, we have an activity triangle and an activity cube thing which are both sitting toys, so rather than toys that he has to reach to the ground to grab like a rattle try a toy that keeps his attention while encouraging him to stay in a seated position?

Also try crossing your legs and sitting him between them while he learns how to balance as well!

Or find a game he likes watching/playing while sitting. We have those stacking cups (were meant to be a Christmas present but have been opened now) and my girl loves sitting watching me stack them up and then she knocks them over and giggles away at herself😂

@Cora24601 same here i basically take the nap times with a pinch of salt now and just use it for tracking.my baby still wakes 2-3 times a night, but this week as she is teething it has been way more.

@Pinkstuffs i just sat my little one between my legs, she started leaning forward all the time but if you dangle a toy above their heads they sit up to look and it helps their little muscles. If you watch Emma Hubbard on youtube, she gives lots of great advice on helping babies sit, crawl, walk etc! But basically my little one was the same as yours and then just got it and now sits independently!

Anyone elses little one pulling to stand already. My girl just turned 6 months and she pulls up on my clothes, my fingers and now the side of her cot to stand. Surely this is too young. Send help!

@Ttcmumma my DS who is 6 months Monday has tried to pull himself up in the next to me, we’ve had to put the side right up.

We’ve had an awful week, I thought DS was teething but he’s actually got tonsillitis. We were away on holiday and he was irritable all week with a temperature on and off. We’ve got antibiotics which he hates! We were going to start weaning and put him in his own room but I’ll have to delay it until he’s better, I feel so sorry for him.

@Pinkstuffs oh poor thing, tonsillitis is awfully painful. I hope he gets better soon

Sorry to hear that. Must be a tough time!

Hello, how’s everyone ?

my baby started crawling , which is good to see. I m returning to work on Monday, I m pretty anxious. I know some of you have already return to work, how’s it? Particularly about the routine? Both husband and I are 9-5 job.

besides, my relationship with my husband has been worsen . All due to petty argument and like he is not pulling his weight. We are not on the same wavelength most of the time, I feel unnecessary tiring just arguing with him. Becoz his mates said post natal counselling was useful, he has been asking me to go counselling without reflecting on himself. Most of the time it’s him being lazy and did not do what he said he do. I don’t see the point of ME go to counselling.

not only my emotion but also our relationship is like a roller coaster every other day we argue and I cried. We back recociled and he just lazy again and the cycle continued but it’s more often now.

anyone else have a challenging relationship too?

@MumDaisy1980 I'm really sorry you are going through a tough time in your relationship. My husband and I have had some rocky patches since the baby was born I have to admit. Mostly because everything to do with the baby is down to me and because I'm breastfeeding and he's fed to sleep there's the old 'well I can't feed him or put him to sleep so there's nothing I can do' the last month has been really hard with sleep deprivation and my mood which hasn't helped. I know what you mean about the cycle of bad habits just creeping in again. I think we have only just made some ground on my husband realising he needs to pull his weight more for me to keep my mental health in check so I don't have any advice but more solidarity with you that you aren't the only mum to find this (and from chatting to other mums out and about it seems common) and eventually I have found it does get better but I had to be really clear with my husband and almost do him a list of jobs that he needed to do. In fairness to him, when I ask he does it but he does need to be asked.

Regarding work, we both work from home and granny is watching my son while we work at ours so we are really easing into it before nursery in January but I cried all evening after the first day of the new routine. I felt awful! It gets better though!
For me I accept the lions share of the parenting will sit with me and mostly I'm ok with that but there are certain things I expect from my husband to make things easier if that makes sense. Now my boy is on solids he will feed him dinner, bath & get ready for bed (this has only been happening the last couple of weeks and has in total given my son 3 baths) and it seems to be helping their relationship as well.
I hope things get better for you. Parenting is hard in ways you don't even imagine before you have the baby! X

Thank you @Cora24601 . Thank you for sharing your experience. We’ve done the talk about him pulling his weight. Because he had seen me emotional and mental breakdown. He did step up short term so really not helping. Days later back to normal self. I am exhausted from saying same thing again and again. As you said the husband needs to be told what to do, but even I told he is not doing it right away and by the time i said twice then he got upset I chasing him. He then said he is not doing it so just make the whole situation worse. Just my situation not as straightforward as simply I could list everything and my husband would take them off right away (or at the expected time). We just not there yet to perform like a dream team. Perhaps as you said things will just get better eventually. When in the situation is really hear to bear. :/ Thanks again.

I’m really sorry you’re struggling @MumDaisy1980 that sounds honestly so hard.

I do feel quite lucky my husband really is an equal parent and partner we haven’t had any issues but I do know my best friend struggled with this when they had their baby a couple of years ago and they really were in a bad place for awhile. They ended up going for a few sessions of couples counselling because the same as you the issue wasn’t really her mental health, or even the arrival of the baby although that was adding stress, it was the fact they couldn’t communicate without it turning into an argument and he wasn’t following through on things he said he would do. Couples counselling helped her express that clearly and helped him hear and understand what she was saying and she did say it really helped them so it might be worth a go for you if you’d be open to that?

@Mrsttcno1 thank you so much for your message. At the moment I just go with my gut feeling and it is simply not talk to him. I just don’t want another unnecessary strain of my energy and things go by my timeline. I feel physically tiring but at least mentally I am in my own zone.

Yes very logical suggestion abaht couple counselling, I’ve already suggested a while back and he clearly said he has no problem. He said I am the one with problem. Ha well.

something positive to share in the group is that I think I see sign of two little teeth erupting from my baby 🤩. But then I yet to catch up on the new routine on brushing baby teeth?! Some people told me just use finger? Or a cloth or in supermarket some toothbrush. Anyone’s baby teeth are out? My baby is 7month now.

Anyone else having issues with sleep these past few weeks? Baby is 8 months old and this week alone, she is wide awake anytime she chooses from 3am-5am. She has 2 naps during the day and goes to bed at 9pm. She isn't overtired. Prior to this, her day time daytime naps were absolutely horrendous where she would be wide awake after 30 mins and cue a miserable 1.5 hour until she went back to sleep for her next nap. She dropped her cat nap a couple of months ago so these random waking ups are not related. Since her daytime naps duration went longer from 30 mins to 1.5/2 hours, her nighttime sleep generally went down hill where she wakes up every 2 hours again when her day time naps were short, she would wake up once or twice. She isn't teething, she isn't ill.

@babyhiding I'm sat here shushing a very wide awake baby so yes we are in the same boat! 8 months is typically the point of a big sleep regression so I'm hoping we just ride it out over a few weeks.

Similar here @babyhiding ! We do 2 naps and bed at half 7 but now she can wake up everywhere from 1am to 8am😂 I do think there is a sleep regression at this age so fingers crossed it doesn’t last too long for all of us!

I hope you managed to get some sleep after 5am. My lo didn't sleep till 5:20am and then I got up after that. I'm knackered. They couldn't have timed it better don't you think, just before Xmas 😭

My little one is also having a bit of trouble with sleep. 8 months, never had issues with sleep before. Generally sleeps 8pm-8:30am with a couple of very quick wakes for a feed and straight back to sleep. Sometimes waking every 30 mins or 6 times a night and today got up at 6am. Think we may have hit our first regression!

@babyhiding Yep same, my DS finally went down at 5:30 but it seemed pointless me trying to go back to sleep by that point when his big sister normally gets up at 6:30. Hope you sleep better tonight!

It certainly sounds like the first wave. Wishing you patience 🙏

This has happened every single day since last week. She chooses any time between 3am-5am to wake up and doesn't fall back asleep for over an hour and then by the time she settles, I need to be up to get dc1 ready for school or there's no point going back to sleep for another hour as I need to be up at 6:30 😭

My DS is almost 8 months now and his sleep has been awful lately. Hes started properly crawling and pulling himself up so I think it’s all the new skills. I also think he’s got chicken pox!

My little boy must have heard me complaining as he slept 7:30-7:30 without so much as stirring all night. He's never slept so long in his life! Now to try to replicate the day and see if we can ever manage it again 🤣