Due September 2024 PART 2 💛🧡💚💙💜

[HoneyandSunshine]

I couldn’t see a part 2?? So I’ve created one. Hope its not a duplicate 🥲😂

@Decaffe i had this with my best friend first time around. Our DC are a few weeks apart and it is the loveliest bond between us and them!

@HRP1990 i was thinking about double prams when I had my first. I got the icandy peach as its easy to adapt for the second. I'm not even 5w so definitely ahead of myself. Mine would have a 20month gap

Hey! Checking into the new page. However, anyone getting pains in their side / back? I’m only 4 weeks +2/3 days nausea has started to kick in too.

@hol92 we can see lines and that’s what’s important. I agree - this testing isn’t helping me either. I would say let’s agree to not test until Saturday at least but I have some FRER on their way 🙈

I'm 6w today and terrified. I've been cramping and had some nausea but now nothing. We've booked a private scan for the weekend. Fingers crossed all is OK.

Opinions needed. I've been unwell since Saturday, started with sore throat, awful by Sunday night. Monday I covid tested positive. I'm due my scan at epau tomorrow. I'm feeling better but not great (don't know how much is pregnancy related) do I attend or not. Everywhere says stay home For 5 days. Ahhh. X

@MrsM89 I would call and ask.

@Sydney1988 that's reassuring thank you! I definitely wouldn't say they're painful cramps ( most the time I don't need pain relief) it's just more that it's gives me such anxiety!

I’m really surprised by this advice from a GP? Surely it’s better to have as much support as possible if something goes wrong. It sort of feeds nto the narrative that miscarriages should be kept quiet and dealt with secretly?I don’t agree with that at all! Definitely tell your family whenever you’re ready ❤️

I got my ultrasound booked for Wednesday next week and I gotta be there between 7-8 am. I’m not sure how I’m gonna manage the nausea especially when I can’t eat anything before the appointment.

@HoneyandSunshine @TTCSoManyQuestions88 Yes this advice is total bullsh*t IMO. I’m telling those who I know will support me if things go wrong xx

Told my managers today and they were really pleased for me. They can now change my rota at work so I don't have to do certain tasks which will be good.

Oh lawd I'm hormonal today.

Just bawled my eyes out watching a clip on insta of a woman on a cooking competition programme struggling to open a jar of sauce and she ran over to her dad and he opened it for her lollll

Absolutely! I think it’s pretty shit to hear that from a GP too?? I’m not telling close family or anyone yet purely because I can’t be bothered with the fuss yet 😂 I’m too tired and my body feels like it’s in hibernation mode 🫠🫠 I don’t feel like I want everyone to suffocate me with the messages etc. I’m enjoying the peace and secrecy right now xx

@HoneyandSunshine this is exactly my take on it, I'm shit at fuss and attention so I'll be keeping our little secret for as long as possible, I'm thinking around 15/16 weeks if at all possible! I've never told a soul about my previous pregnancies and miscarriages because I can't stand pity either. It's just how you are as a person and how you deal with things or not.

Totally all free to decide and choose what suits our individual personalities, the GP in question definitely shouldn't have said that xx

@MudandMoet im not telling family until 12 weeks either. I'm really close to my parents though so I'm sure they will suspect when I look unwell but I told them in a previous pregnancy and they got super excited and then when that ended in a MMC it felt like an extra bit of baggage having to tell them the bad news knowing they will be sad.

@SC126 thats exactly why I'm holding out too. I can't deal with that after the loss of my mum. I'm finding it very hard though and I've got 7 weeks!

I’m naturally someone who seeks a lot of support from friends and family so have really struggled not sharing the news, but have decided not to share as I know it’s really early and if something does happen I’d have to manage with sharing the news and I think there is a lot of pressure that comes with that.

But agree with the previous poster, it’s a personal choice and really depends on how you are and the situation. No real wrong or right answer from what I can see. I’m the first expecting daughter for my elderly parents so this could be their first grandchild so it just really depends and also I am the first amongst my friends (I believe) to be pregnant, so I’m sure they’d be also be really excited but that could lead to more pressure in future on me if there’s any bad news.

Exactly that girls! See my family are really fussing (it's probs why I'm the other way as they're so OTT it drives me nuts) they would honestly be ringing and messaging alllll the time checking in. I could not deal with it and then if it ends like previously, oh my days they would want to be coming around and so sad and I just don't want it so until I absolutely have to tell them I'm keeping it a secret. It's kind of nice just me and DH know in a way xx

I really agree with you @MudandMoet I’m enjoying the secrecy a bit. We’ve had so many opportunities to share but I’m just not ready for the fuss. With my last pregnancy, I shared at about 6 weeks because that’s what felt right for us at the time so yeah I agree with everyone; it’s all on your own accord. Everyone is different and has different personalities/wants/needs from this stage so whoever feels comfortable sharing now, go for it 🥹 for those wanting to hold onto the news for as long as possible, I’m with you too 🩷🩷

We told my parents and my husbands parents and I told a few of my close friends last time, but this time we are waiting out until 12 weeks, it actually works out I will be 12 weeks the week before my sons 1st birthday :) so we are trying to hold out until then, saying that if I'm sick like last time I'll probably have to tell my mum haha x

Just had to put travel sickness bands on, feeling soooo nauseous this afternoon 😔 I really struggle with feeling sick and DH is away with work until tomorrow afternoon.
Send help for the nursery run in 20 mins 😵

That’s lovely @hol92 seems like perfect timing to let everyone know! Also how close in age they’ll be, your 2 will have such a lovely bond 🥹 x

@HoneyandSunshine we always wanted a close age gap but never thought I would get pregnant very quickly after the first time! It all feels so perfect so I have everything crossed it will all work out ❤️

@hol92 my first two, the age gap is 22 months and they are SO close. They even sleep in the same bed, despite having bunk beds 😂 so I always wonder how much closer they’d be if we didn’t wait! So I reckon you’ll have a great time with your 2 🥹