If my partner has kids with social involvement will they be involved with mine ?

[ConnieC2001]

just that really . Partner is in a custody battle and socials are involved with him and his kids mum. I just found out I’m pregnant again (first with my current partner , I have one from previous relationship) no socials were involved with me, but because they’re involved with his other kids will socials be involved with this new baby ?

I’ve literally just found out I’m pregnant

But you also have a newborn?

It all sounds like a big mess. Will your mother support you and two small babies?

My baby is 8 weeks , she was premature , my mum is really supportive so I’m not worried about that !

OP as others are saying your baby is a few weeks old, did you have a negative test before this positive one? Many women still have pregnancy hormones in their body for weeks after the birth so are you 100% sure this is a new pregnancy?

Cross post on the 8 weeks old thing. I was assuming 4-5 weeks with people saying ‘a few weeks’

Completely agree. If the relationship is early days and has this mess to deal with then I think you should think long and hard about how this pregnancy and relationship will affect you and your current child.

She said abortion is illegal where she is so this isn’t helpful.

You should be having time to enjoy your newborn with out all of this.
Child Services likely to be involved anyway if you have an 8 week old, a new boyfriend and are pregnant again.
That's just for your situation, nevermind his.

And? Did I mention abortion? No.

Don’t be stupid. Social services would not get involved because someone is pregnant soon after having a baby. Even by different dads.

However I'm assuming Ireland by the posts.

You quoted someone who was saying she should get an abortion and said you completely agree and she should think long and hard about this pregnancy. Doesn’t take a rocket scientist to work out your suggestion.

Oh OP, This is not good. You got pregnant, by a new boyfriend, while you have an 8 week old? I mean, most doctors recommend waiting 6 weeks before having sex at all after childbirth.

I don't know how you got into this situation but it really does not sound healthy. I think you really need to take a step back here.

Errr.... They would. I've seen it happen.

Where did you meet him? I'm amazed you've had the energy and money to go out with a newborn.

Sure you have.

Correct.

I had an uncomplicated birth , one stitch and stopped bleeding after 2 weeks. Me and my child’s dad broke up when I was 6 weeks pregnant , so I’ve been dating my current partner since around 4 months pregnant .
again I was on the pill , so I didn’t expect a pregnancy !

It depends why they are involved
If his children are on a CIN plan due to SEN or mothers illness then probably not, but if he is considered a risk to them, and that is the reason for the custody battle then it's more likely
That's IF he's telling you the truth
I have had SS involvement because of my disability and MH for example

So where are you? That will affect any help or advice anyone is able to offer.

I'm a grandmother darling. Granddaughters Mum has my son's and another on the way by a different father. I'm actively involved with them.

So stop with calling me stupid, and your 'sure you haves'. I'm living it. It's not easy, at all.

You can't have been on the pill while you were pregnant.

So how soon after your very recent delivery did you start taking the pill?

It can be prescribed at three weeks if you're not breastfeeding. Did you get pregnant before you started taking it?

Yes they’ll be involved.

My ex SIL had the involvement and my brother had them involved with him.

He didn’t have another child but they was in contact with him and would go to his home and they said that if he did have another child they would need to be told, even though it was his ex that was the problem not him.

When was your last period?

This is such a mess!
You shouldn’t be starting a relationship so soon after just having a baby and breaking up with the last guy.

You said in your initial post you don’t know much about the social services involvement so I wouldn’t take it for granted that this man you haven’t known for very long has given you an accurate account. I’d personally be prepared for the midwife to tell you she’s going to at least talk to social services, as she’ll ask you if you or the father have involvement with social services and when you say yes she’ll have to at least call them.