'Pregnancy after Miscarriage - Latest support thread'

[tulipsunday]

Hi all new thread as the other one is about to max out.

For all those going through pregnancy after miscarriage/s. Come share your worries and celebrate your milestones with people who can relate to what you are going through 🥰

😂 What is your actual due date @Brokenpancreas94 I remember you saying you expect to be early

All the best for tomorrow @Hoping4amiracle

Anyone got any tips on how to relieve hip pain from sleeping on your side all night? Didn't get much sleep last night, couldn't get comfy.

@SparkleFly One leg raised on a pregnancy pillow was what worked for me last time.

@tulipsunday 26th January, but they won't let me go to 40 weeks regardless, 39 weeks the latest...so I might still be pregnant on 4th January but I can't see it 🤣
Discovered I've chipped a tooth, so dentist tomorrow...bloody hate the dentist 😫🤣

@SparkleFly no advice because mine is absolutely killing me, pillows don't help etc...the only thing that does help slightly is a hot water bottle on my hip for 10 mins x

Thanks @tulipsunday , scan actually went well, we measured bang on date wise and there was a heartbeat so it’s as good as we could have hoped for at this stage. Trying not to get ahead of ourselves as it’s still fragile but will take the small win!

@Hoping4amiracle That's great news :)

@SparkleFly I've got the cushions, one under bump and one between legs. Then I start on one side and rotate like a very slow rotisserie chicken to the other over the course of the night and back again, my hips still are achy come the morning, but it's better than it could be! Look up hip/pelvis exercises for pregnancy on you tube and start them, cos getting later on and then trying to fix it is worse 😂 if I hadn't paid for the chiropractor I'd be in a lot of pain right now I'm sure! And it's costing me a fortune!! Heat/hot water bottle if it's painful is also a good one, along with a bath or shower

@Brokenpancreas94 haha I did the dentist a few weeks back, luckily wasn't needing anything apart from them trying to say I needed a £850 mouth guard for sleeping (no thanks!!)

@Hoping4amiracle that's great news, like you say that's the best you can get at this stage, every little stage is the next step, fingers crossed for you! 🤞

@Hoping4amiracle so glad scan was positive! Everything crossed for you!

@suz2285 Jesus £850!! What was it made from gold???

Midwife has just done my maternity certificate so got that ready for tomorrow now!

@Brokenpancreas94 right? He's like oh you're slightly grinding your teeth have you noticed? And I'm like nope?! And he says we'd recommend this mouth guard, and I thought here we go 😂 I'd never wear it anyway!

When I googled it the cost can be anywhere from £250 to over £1000 depending where you live and what dentist but yeah, £850 not a chance! Even £250 nope 😂😂

@suz2285 ha the rotisserie chicken comment made me chuckle.

@SparkleFly I also have the hip pain at night and haven't really found a solution. The physio did recommend laying on a duvet/soft mattress protector to give the hips a bit of cushioning.

@Hoping4amiracle brilliant news. A great first hurdle to get through.

@suz2285 that's crazy! They gave me one about 3/4 years ago as they thought I had TMJ that was £90, and it turned out the pain was my wisdom teeth 🤣so that was a waste!

@tulipsunday we have a softish mattress, it's memory foam but I find it makes it worse! Can't win!

@Brokenpancreas94 hope you get the tooth sorted. Yeh I am not convinced the softer layer/mattress does much really 😂

Also struggling with the hip pain here. I sleep on my left side with a pregnancy pillow between my legs but not convinced it helps, so I just have to swap sides to relieve the pain. Also been up since 03.30am because of hip pain and also caught cold and conjunctivitis from my toddler, so I've had to ring in sick for work and if it's not cleared up by tomorrow I'll be off tomorrow which is my last day at work before mat leave so I won't get to say goodbye to anyone 😭

@tulipsunday luckily I've got no pain, but noticed last night when flossing and thought best get checked!

@WhiteHorse92 oh no, hopefully you get to go in! Do you have any eyedrops?

@Brokenpancreas94 it's a Christmas Miracle! My eyes seem to have completely cleared up and haven't had gunk in them since this morning, seems to be the most short lived bout of conjunctivitis I've ever had 😅. I might make my last day at work after all, unless this cold/sore throat gets any worse 😅

Hey everyone, I’m new here, just looking for a bit of solace and advice from other people who ‘get it’…

I’m 14+5, third pregnancy, both previous missed miscarriages. Latest one was 13+6 when we found out and took me ‘til 21 weeks to miscarry in the end…

Had been so happy to get past the milestone of the nuchal but really struggling at the moment as I’ve had a few symptoms (sorry if TMI, but greenish-yellow discharge which is not normal for me). I had exactly the same symptoms with my other miscarriages. MAC are not at all interested - I said how would I know if I had had another missed miscarriage before our anomaly scan at end Jan, they just said ‘you wouldn’t’.

Anyhow, feeling like a bit of a fraud asking for support but also so worried and teary. Has anyone got any good advice how to cope with this really difficult period before you feel the baby move, and has anyone experienced the same thing? X

@WhiteHorse92 did you manage to go in?? i've got one week left, busy weeks though... just finishing off this busy week. Exam day today and i'm all swollen now... hands are like sausage fingers.

@february23stars That seems like really bad service from MAC, if it was me i'd be calling my midwife and booking a private scan. I'd want to know. However I know you said that this was how the previous MMC was but also it could just be normal or a small infection, i'd want my midwife to check that out! Do you see the midwife at 16 weeks? I had a private scan at 16 weeks as it was a good mid point between the 12-20 week scan and i couldn't wait till the 20 weeks not knowing what was going on.

I started to feel flutters around 16-17 weeks but not consistent enough to make me not worry!

@february23stars welcome. Totally normal to find the stretch between 12 and 20wks challenging. It got a lot easier I found once you can start feeling movements. I think @suz2285 makes a good point about seeing if they can check for any signs of infection.

@WhiteHorse92 happy last day at work. Hopefully you made it in?

Having some v unglamorous last stretch of pregnancy symptoms (hello constipation🙈 etc) just making a lentil Dahl 😂 all the fibre!

@suz2285 nope! Eyes were gunky again when I woke up and also had another bad night's sleep, don't feel great with the sore throat and cold either! Luckily toddler has been at nursery all day so I went back to sleep until 11am and have been resting on the sofa 😅 I'm going past work next week anyway and need to drop something off that I was supposed to today so I can at least pop my head in and say bye to everyone 😅. Still feels weird that I'm officially off work until February 2025 now!

@february23stars I also had a private scan at 16 weeks and it felt reassuring between the 12 and 20 week scan, especially when you can't feel baby move at that point. I mainly did it to find out the sex of the baby as I'm impatient but I also had a small bleed at 14 weeks so was a relief to know everything was okay.

@WhiteHorse92 so nice of you to reply when you’re feeling rotten - hope you improve soon!

@tulipsunday @suz2285 Thanks for the affirmation, that really helps to know everyone finds this but tough - the call with MAC just left me feeling like a right dope for worrying!

Really helped to know I’m not mad asking for help. I’ve booked a private scan and also got my GP to do a swab so hopefully between them we can put our minds at rest or know what’s going on!

Hope it’s ok for me to pop in…
I also hope it’s ok I be here… I’m not pregnant at this time.
I’ve been reading through this thread and it’s been a balm for my heart. I found out 2 weeks ago that I was pregnant, but it turned out to be a chemical and I lost it last week at 4+3. It was my 4th loss this year. 1st was in March and a MMC. I found out at my 10 wk scan- there was a yolk sac but nothing else. Lost it naturally at 13 weeks. Fell pregnant again in June, lost it at 4+6. Immediately fell pregnant again in July, lost it at 5+3. Intentionally took 3 months off to rest and heal.
I’ve been getting lots of different blood tests and taking all sorts of vitamins/supplements to help with egg quality. I stopped eating gluten and started seeing an acupuncturist every week. I have a healthy 19 month old son, whom I conceived without any issue, so I know I’m capable of carrying and giving birth to a healthy baby.
I wanted to ask this thread how many months did you wait after an MC before trying again? Did you take time to rest and heal or did you try right away? With all the efforts I’m making to improve my chances, I’m getting frustrated and impatient 😅

@WhiteHorse92 ah that sucks, it's my last day next Friday but no real plans as such, hardly anyone is in the office on a Friday anyway; I can't wait to be done now; the last 2 weeks have been manic and I'm swollen and tired!

@february23stars you're def not mad asking for help, it's just frustrating that you're not being listened to, story of modern medicine I think you really have to be strong and keep advocating for yourself even when it feels impossible... hope the swab gives you some answers

A bit TMI but on the discharge side of things, everything I've read says it should be clear/white but mine is def more yellow during this pregnancy! And quite thick compared to normal, so hopefully yours will just be something that's normal for you, fingers crossed for you 🤞

@RainbowMoonstone welcome! Sorry to hear about the issues so far. Course you're welcome to join us. Everyone is different I guess; we didn't take a break before trying again, but we're old so I felt like we just had to keep going! It sounds like you're doing everything you can, I'd def recommend the vitamins etc, and I started low dose 75mg aspirin which I think helped me, but you never know what helps! But I saw it recommended on several papers about recurrent miscarriage

I assume Q10 is one of your egg quality vitamins? I also took this for a few months, I do think that's one that is recommended too, and is your partner taking multivits? I tried to get mine to but he's a bit of a pain taking things 😂

Are you under the care of any team for the recurrent losses you've had? I think sometimes with 4-8 week loses we don't mention them to anyone and therefore they don't 'count' as a loss to the professionals, but you should be able to get some basic tests after 2 losses now, so it might be worth asking

Hey @RainbowMoonstone, so sorry to hear about your journey, that sounds so tough! I don’t know if there is a ‘wrong’ or ‘right’ time to go back to trying. I think only you know how you feel and I’m sure you’re doing the right thing. What I would say is that after my first loss (missed found at 13+6) I think I rushed back to trying too soon (after my first period) and only later on I realised I wasn’t getting pregnant for about a year and a half as I was just so stressed and miserable and putting pressure on myself (fertility tests showed no issues). As soon as we stopped ‘trying’ and I relaxed - bingo. Sadly we lost that one too but I think I learnt a lot and this time around it took us 3 months but I think I was kinder to myself if that makes sense. We didn’t use contraception but I also didn’t track ovulation etc. Hoping this one’s the one but I also think that the babies we never met taught us a lot of tough but important lessons as parents, you know? In that way they’re always with us and they’re important. Definitely agree with @suz2285 - I’m taking aspirin this time around and also the recurrent miscarriage clinic should definitely see you and might investigate you for other causes such as low progesterone or anti phospholipid syndrome, which they can treat. Wishing you all the love and luck, and hoping that helps a bit. The stress of waiting on those blue lines after a loss is the hardest thing, really feel you xx

Hey @RainbowMoonstone , so sorry you are going through this - it’s a heartbreaking journey.

Similar to other posters in that other than to have tests run we didn’t take a break from trying. I’m 37 so age isn’t on my side unfortunately.

Im very early in pregnancy so can’t really give advice, but I’d have a read of It Starts with an Egg - lots of good advice on vitamins and more importantly dosage. Although as others have said - months and months of strict diet and exercise regime and it was the cycle I binged on leftover halloween candy and took a cocktail making class that’s got me furthest. 🙄

@Hoping4amiracle interesting you say that cos my diet when we conceived wasn't great and I'd say it's probably the most stressed I've ever been at work the month that we had a successful conception! 😂 just shows you!

I do follow a girl on insta who is an ivf coach and her philosophy is basically it's miserable enough going through things and you don't need to give up all the things!

But I know how it feels when you just want to try everything!