Pregnant and homeless pls help

[Queenxxx]

Hey guys, so basically, my husband, daughter and I live with my mum currently, and I just became pregnant again with my second baby. My mum is not happy at all about this, because I had agreed with her to not get pregnant again until I move out, (because it's so hard for her right now keeping all of us in her house as well as my other siblings.) so she basically doesn't accept my pregnancy and is kicking me out. She has given me two days to leave the house. So I will be pregnant and homeless with my 19 month old and husband😭what shall I do? Me and my husband can't afford to private rent otherwise we wouldn't even be living with my mum right now. I don't work and receive universal credit and carers allowance because I am my mom's carer. My husband does work but only gets minimum wage. And my biggest problem is that my husband is from abroad. And when applying for his visa, the home office asked where he would live after arriving in the UK. We said he would live with my mum, and she was required to give written confirmation of that, which she did. She literally wrote in the letter that he can live in her house. We even had to have a property inspection to make sure there will be enough space for my husband, my baby and I as well as my mom and siblings. So basically, he wouldn't have even got the visa if my mother had not consented to him living here. And now, 6 months after he's arrived, this has happened...she wants us out of her house...will this effect his immigration status or anything? Will they blame us for this? Will they help us? Someone please help I'm so so so so upset and stressed, and I feel like such a bad mom to my babies😭

I know, but will they help my partner too?

Is your DH the father of your first child?

Practically, you need to present yourself as homeless to the council who will, if they have anything available, house you in one room/ hostel for a long while.

Other options include increasing your income (get a job!), your DH getting another or a 2nd job so you can afford to rent or moving to your husbands country so his family can help support you.

What were your longer term plans (with or without another child)?

I personally think if you've been your mum's carer it's a bit ungrateful of her to kick you out now you're vulnerable.

Does your partner work? You only mentioned your own income. Is there any way he can increase his hours etc so you can afford a cheap room somewhere?

I know, I understand. She's just fed up and tired at this point. I don't want be a burden on anyone, I am ready to go to the council but I just don't know what to do after that. I don't want to be separated from my husband because I don't want to go through pregnancy alone

Gosh. Some people are harsh!

can you get to a citizens advice bureau? They will be able to advise the best I think, they have all the access to the information and can signpost you to where you need.

also just talk to the council. They will give you what help they can. Good luck x

OP why don't you have a job? I'm not sure if you are new to MN but it can be quite harsh on this one though. Your thread is ridiculous I mean what the hell. Your own mother has had to tell you not to get pregnant in ger house!

I went back to work when mu baby was just over 1 years old. Needs must.

Yes he works but it's really hard for him to get more work because he's from abroad. I tried to work myself but I have hyperemesis gravidarom and I just couldn't even make it through my first day at work😭

Would moving to your partners country not be an option? Maybe his family will take you guys in while you regroup.
The other option I can think of is moving to a cheaper area (assuming that where you are is more expensive than average)?

Fed up or not, giving your pregnant daughter, who has been your carer, only 2 days to find a new place or be homeless is shockingly unreasonable and cruel. She is not mother of the year regardless of the backstory

Does your partner have no recourse to public funds? What kind of visa is he on if he is bringing in minimum wage? There is usually an earnings threshold.

@Queenxxx how far along are you?

This sounds like a complicated matter and I very strongly advise you to call the charity Shelter. They were amazing when the bank repossessed our home and their advice was invaluable. I would also google your local council housing team. Give them a ring and ask to speak to the duty team( or there will be a recorded msg if its out of hours eith thr duty teams phone number). As long as you will be homeless within 35 days, they will help you, but it will just be temp accomodation.

Guys my husband works 12 hours a day, but it's still not enough for us to afford private rent right now. I am severely ill right now with HG. I can't go even 10 mins without vomiting, I have tried to work but I physically couldn't do it I was literally vomiting the whole time. I'm just at a really really hard point in my life right now.

8 weeks

I will do definitely, thank you

He is on spouse visa and can't get public funds

I know, it's just so frustrating

Did you miss how over crowded OPs mum is?? OP was warned to be fair I'd be utterly livid if it was my DD in this situation. There is a housing crisis and many people need re housing. OP should be working, not being her mums carer. She can get carers if that's what her mum needs they are services. Why do you expect OP mother to put her up along side her husband, baby and another one on the way? OPs taking liberties!

What type of visa is your partner on? and could you go to his home country?

Visa conditions are there to ensure there are no burdens on the state and there is a housing crisis scouncils don't have stock of empty homes so likely to be temporary accomdation. Some areas are worse than others...would you be prepared to move to an area where housing is maybe more available?

I think previous posters are encouraging you to take some responsibility for yourself and children. If you ar raising 2 children then you have to consider how you will do that so that you become self sufficient.

No because there is literally no healthcare there, it's not safe for me right now as I'm already so ill. Also I wouldn't want to risk taking my daughter there because there wouldn't be good healthcare/education for her

Did you not have HG in your first pregnancy??

I have HG and I work a fulltime job and I have a toddler.

Get to the doctor and get anti sickness medication.

You had your first child and you were in the same situation.

Take some responsibility of your life.

It isn't horrible to ask how you actually plan on providing for a child when you can't even house your existing child.

No one is saying you have to have an abortion. But is living in a 1 bed hostel for the foreseeable what you want for your child? Without a permanent address can your partner even stay here?

It really depends on where they can house you. If it's a b&b type thing there may be no issues, but if it's a hostel it might be no adult males. And homeless accomodation for single men isn't plentiful, great or easy to access

You need to talk to your Mom and beg an extension.

PP should not be advising OP that she will be definitely be placed in temporary accommodation by Housing Needs. There are specific criteria that they work by. Anyway, these temporary placements are very expensive to fund if a person is working, often hundreds of pounds a week in rent which is more expensive than private rent. And if the partner is here on a working visa then he needs to work or he will invalidate his right to remain

You need guidance from someone like shelter or possibly also a law centre if there is a risk your spouse will be breaking his visa conditions.