@krissy12 I had a 3B tear and was told the same (although I didn't recover as well). I've always been given the option, they haven't forced c-section on me so it'll be the same for you. You'll just be informed of the risks.
I will be opting for a c-section (I really don't want one either 😅) because if it happens again, it'll be a lot worse and the main concern is what happens during menopause. That being said, the risks are so low and plenty of women go on to have wonderful births after a third-degree year. My recovery has been awful so all of my loved ones are pushing for c-section and I get it 🤣🙈