Due December 2023 part 2

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New thread. Will tag people shortly. Tag anyone from the first

@HannahLouD im also quite anxious. I have PCOS so was always told I’d struggle to conceive so none of this feels real. I always thought pregnancy was something that happens to ‘other people’ but not me. For some reason I’m finding it hard to believe it’s all going to be fine.

I think I’ll get an early scan but there’s not much else to do I don’t think. I saw on another thread that you can be excited or anxious right now. Neither change the outcome, and if I avoid getting excited I won’t be any less sad if the worst happens. So trying to keep that in mind and stay positive.

Hi all
just place marking on this thread.
im 6+6 from LMP but 5+6 from ovulation today
feeling a bit queasy in the mornings before I’ve eaten
I’ve been on holiday this week so am not looking forward to being back at work week

Has anyone else got no symptoms at all? I’m only 5 weeks so still super early days but it’s making me anxious. It’s my first pregnancy as well so I’m totally clueless about everything which doesn’t help!

Hi ladies, 😁
Just adding myself back onto the thread 🧵😀.

My symptoms are needing power naps throughout the day, dry lips, and bloating.
Got my booking appointment next Friday, not got my 12 week scan date through yet, looking forward to it tho 😊

Going by my LMP I am 7+1.

I had a MC before I fell pregnant with my 🌈 ds and I was an anxious wreck throughout my pregnancy with him. This time (3.5 years later) I feel so calm and really enjoying everyday 😊

@HannahLouD Google can be great or terribly anxiety inducing because it makes you think about the what ifs. I am 39, overweight, and this baby was an unexpected surprise. According to Google, I'm high risk because I'm "old" and overweight, and apparently unplanned children are not as smart as planned pregnancies... Lol 😆.
My last pregnancy was high risk because I was "old" and overweight but all went really well.

Also according to Google the chances of me actually getting pregnant are miniscule.. because of my age, weight. In fact I fell pregnant after DP and I had 1 night of unprotected sex on the second to last day of my period which again Google says is highly unlikely to happen.

We are all unique, Google is full of individual stories and health professionals average out data. And when it comes to averages, usually the average doesn't really exist... It's just a guideline... not a hardened fact ☺️

Hi ladies, 😁
Just adding myself back onto the thread 🧵😀.

My symptoms are needing power naps throughout the day, dry lips, and bloating.
Got my booking appointment next Friday, not got my 12 week scan date through yet, looking forward to it tho 😊

Going by my LMP I am 7+1.

I had a MC before I fell pregnant with my 🌈 ds and I was an anxious wreck throughout my pregnancy with him. This time (3.5 years later) I feel so calm and really enjoying everyday 😊

@HannahLouD Google can be great or terribly anxiety inducing because it makes you think about the what ifs. I am 39, overweight, and this baby was an unexpected surprise. According to Google, I'm high risk because I'm "old" and overweight, and apparently unplanned children are not as smart as planned pregnancies... Lol 😆.
My last pregnancy was high risk because I was "old" and overweight but all went really well.

Also according to Google the chances of me actually getting pregnant are miniscule.. because of my age, weight. In fact I fell pregnant after DP and I had 1 night of unprotected sex on the second to last day of my period which again Google says is highly unlikely to happen.

We are all unique, Google is full of individual stories and health professionals average out data. And when it comes to averages, usually the average doesn't really exist... It's just a guideline... not a hardened fact ☺️

@HannahLouD I had a MMC in November, foetus stopped developing at 7 weeks but I didn't find out until the 12 week scan.
I'm so, so scared of it happening again but there's not much I can do to prevent it. It was probably a chromosomal abnormality incompatible with life (majority are) so literally nothing I can change.
I'm trying not to think too much about symptoms and getting a scan at 8 weeks. Otherwise just living with the fear!

Adding myself if thats OK. I had a weak positive on Thursday, have retested this morning and is much stronger. I'm 4 weeks 3 days from lmp. Due the 28th December from the nhs calculator..I have a DD who will be 3 in May! Been getting lower stomach cramps and feel very nauseous this morning. Husband is working this morning so I'm with our ddthen working till 1030 pm myself.

@HannahLouD oh same lovely absolutely.
I lost 2 at 7 weeks and had a CP last June and although my symptoms are a million times worse this time I'm terrified I will go have my 8 week scan and they will find nothing.
I am 42 and we were basically told IVF was only way of getting a baby so this was unplanned. I'm relatively healthy and not overweight but still odds are against me etc I can't shake that it's not happening until I see the scan.
Just be assured your little one was beating away in there.

@HannahLouD im with you! I’m so scared. Trying not to get too emotionally attached to this pregnancy as I had a MMC last November. I had an early scan at 6 weeks and seen the heart beat then went for another scan at 10 weeks and the baby had stopped growing at 9+1.. last time my partner and I had looked at prams, discussed names etc. this time we hardly speak about it unless im saying how anxious I am! My symptoms seem a bit stronger this time (from what I remember) but last time I still had symptoms even after it had stopped growing. It’s such a mindf! Haven’t decided when to have an early scan this time. I’m not waiting until 12 weeks incase there’s nothing there or something. Couldn’t bear that.

also seems like a lot of others have had losses in this thread too ☹️ it’s good that we can all appreciate how eachother feels!

Hey all,

Thanks so much for your replies and I'm sorry to hear so many of us are feeling so anxious! I'm also so sorry to hear of so many losses and so many mmcs! 🤍 They are made out to be so rare but I'm starting to think they really aren't that rare after all, which gives me no comfort what so ever 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️
I feel like although seeing the heartbeat at 6+2 was good, literally anything can happen in the next few weeks. I also woke up with my symptoms gone again, and I think my symptoms are much less than with my daughter, which also makes me worry.

I really hope we all have happy, healthy pregnancies and all have sticky babies this time round! 🌈❤️ At least we have this thread and eachother to rant to and talk to... It's a lifeline for sure so thank you!

I'm thinking about asking if I can postpone by booking appointment... It's on Tuesday and I'll only be 7+2. Seems so early to be talking about everything when things could still go wrong... x

Can’t believe we’re on our 2nd thread already.
Feel horrible this morning. My ribs hurt, my stomach hurts ( I think because I’m bloated), I woke up at 4 and couldn’t get back to sleep but I’m so tired.
Hoping the ribs and stomach are just normal pains and not any sort of bad omen!

@HannahLouD I feel like I'm waiting for things to go downhill every day. Especially after my last chemical pregnancy. Constantly worrying my lines aren't dark enough, overthinking about my cramps. I've been doing daily ovulation tests in addition to mommed test strips and whilst that does make me so anxious, I can see that there is progression in both so that helps for a few hours!
I try to imagine life with a baby, and browse nice baby clothes etc online (not buying anything yet or course!) And I find that gives me some moments of positivity! I think it's important to look forward even though there's still a likelihood things might not go to plan.
I'm glad we have this thread as I think everyone is feeling the same ❤️ x

Got my 2-3 weeks today! I didn't get this far with my last chemical pregnancy so it's a nice reassurance for now! I'm 4+3 today

@HannahLouD I had 2 MMC last year and honestly I never lost my symptoms so losing symptoms isn't really an indication of anything. I can't say I'm actually that anxious about this pregnancy I really feel like this one will be ok so that's what I'm holding onto and if it isn't meant to be then going through them was hard but I I know I can get through it I've done it before. My EPU have monitored me from my positive test this time with blood tests and scanning which actually I think is really helpful because you can see the progress happening

@bringmearainbow can I ask why you're being monitored? I want an early scan but not sure I fit the criteria and don't know if I should be under different care

I feel really down today, just feeling like the same thing is happening all over again. Also feel like my symptoms have disappeared. It's just rubbish. The midwife rang me to book an appointment as suggested I speak to EPU to see if they'd give me an early scan because of my history. I think this has made me feel worse - like she thinks it's highly likely it will happen again 😭 I'll ring and see what they say Monday.

@HannahLouD Having seen the heartbeat is a very for good thing for you though and the likelihood for everything progressing for you is very high so hold onto that! Completely get it though. It's such an anxious time.

@DaisyMay25 sadly it varies from trust to trust from what I've read on here. After my second loss the EPU said to me that although they can't do any testing until you've had 3 they can offer me monitoring with our next pregnancy and if needed talk to the doctor about aspirin or progesterone. although the monitoring won't change any outcome really I think there has been some studies that show monitoring after loss can reduce stress, anxiety and mental health issue relating to pregnancy loss. I have to say it really has helped me I feel really supported by them. I have hardly done any line progression tests because I've had blood tests and I've only had one scan so far but was too early to see anything. Gotta say it was lovely not panicking over pregnancy test lines. You could ring your EPU and as you've had 2 losses see if they can offer you anything for some reassurance

@bringmearainbow thank you, I might wait til I'm six weeks anyway as nothing can be seen before that anyway and I might talk to a doctor at work and see what they suggest. I was under the perinatal mental health team with me LB so I might contact them too.
I'm glad it's giving you some reassurance though, how many weeks are you now?

@DaisyMay25 I'm 5+6 from LMP but only 5+1 from peak opk which is why I knew they wouldn't see anything. It was nice to see the sac in the right place though

I also had a MMC in January- found out at 12 week scan the baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks. We saw the heartbeat at 6 weeks and really thought it would be plain sailing. I’m much more nervous this time, trying not to get ahead of myself
I have a scan booked for 7+1 and will see if I can arrange another through EPU at 10 weeks as I think that will put my mind at ease
so sad to see how common these losses are but lovely to see everyone is pregnant again and fingers crossed we all have happy, healthy pregnancies x

Oh my goodness... Sounds like literally everyone has had a MMC 😶 I'm so so sorry to everyone who has been through this. 😞🤍
I need to take myself off the internet because I'm having an actual breakdown. I'm so convinced it's going to happen to me. I felt some reasurrance after seeing the heartbeat but now I feel none at all. This is torture x

Place marking! New thread already!

@SighthoundLover I’m 6 weeks 4 days and have no symptoms at all. I didn’t with my first pregnancy either and had a healthy boy so hoping I’ll be lucky again. Had a stomach bug this week and that was awful so I’m very very glad not to be feeling like that 24/7, I honestly don’t know how I would cope!

I had exactly the same last February. My early scan showed same as yours then had the awful 2 week wait to see if it had progressed or not. Fingers crossed for you this time! ❤️

I'm also really in 2 minds about an early scan- I'll be 6 weeks on Monday so thinking maybe 7/8 week mark but terrified of the outcome been bad again.

Hope your all coping with the symptoms okay! Mine seem to come and go but I've lost my sweet tooth atm which is mad as I normally can't go a day with out something sweet haha!

@rankin21 a part of me just wants to wait until 12 weeks so that I'm hopeful a little longer as stupid as that sounds 🤦🏼‍♀️

My symptoms come and go too, the nausea seems to come in waves but if far worse in the morning for sure!

@SMG1992 That's really awful 😢

Fingers crossed this is lots of people's 🌈 It does make you wonder how the population grows when it seems so hard to have one! 🤣 It must happen though and let's hope this is our time! x