Pregnant after miscarriage

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Hi all, hope you are all well🥰

I have just found out that I am pregnant again after a loss in December at 5+2 (very early!). I’m only 4 weeks going by last period so it really is so early again. I am so happy but also know i’m going to struggle with the waiting. I know I just have to play the waiting game and hope for the best. Anyone been in similar position with positive outcome? Really hope this is our time🤞🌈

It's nice to talk to people who understand exactly what you're going through isn't it 🥰

It's going to be a long week indeed @calipoppy so try to take your mind off it and keep yourself occupied if you can, that way it should soon come round. Fingers crossed that all is fine and well next week, I'm sure it will be.

I'm waiting for my gp to ring me with a telephone app regarding the progesterone. I'm feeling pretty much the same I think, still getting the odd crampy feeling but nothing major to report.

@calipoppy thats good that they’re having you back in, hoepfully you can get through the week okay! 💕

@Sb86 hopefully you get someone nice who sympathises! Nothing worse than when they’re so dismissive🙄

@calipoppy I've been thinking a lot lately of what advice I'd give to girls who are going through similar journeys to us or will go through in the future.
What I've thought of is try and focus on the positives rather than things you didn't/can't see, take one day as it comes and have hope because until you're told it's over, there's still a chance everything will be ok...

You can't have a pregnancy without that gestational sac so see it as you're through the first hurdle 🤗 it's perfectly normal to not see anything else at this stage as 5 weeks is incredibly early but hopefully your little bean will be there for you next week 🥰 have everything crossed for you. I hope it goes fast for the both of us!

We're all here if you need a chat as you know ❤️ all the best x

Thanks @Sb86 , we're actually wondering even if we get a cheap Airbnb for Saturday night somewhere just to pass the weekend quicker! Did you manage to speak to the GP?

@Charliexo that's really good advice, I think we are so ready for a bad outcome after our past experiences that it's hard not to assume the worst.

I also think in a way if it hasn't developed next week at least we will have caught it early rather than keeping hope possibly for weeks and having an MMC. I know that's not very positive thinking but I'm sure you know what I mean! Better to get bad news out of the way if I have to hear it x

@calipoppy of course, everyone's path is different and you've had a very difficult history so it's understandable to feel like that.

Hopefully this time next week, we will both be sharing good news ❤️❤️ x

Hello! Been following for a while but first time posting.

Currently 8+1 so due somewhere around 17 October. I had an early loss at 6/7 weeks back in November and am feeling very anxious this time. We had an early scan at 7+1 and everything is looking good - heartbeat, measuring just right and so on. It was super reassuring for a few days, but am now spinning out a bit again! We have our 12 week scan booked for 3 April but I'm tempted to book another private scan for next week for reassurance.

Cons: expensive, reassurance might not last from that one either.
Pros: if it's good news I do think I will find it quite reassuring as a heartbeat at 9 weeks is (as I understand it) a very good sign!

Looking for views on whether I am being daft. My partner's preference is to wait until 12 week scan - I think he's quite good at forgetting what's going on most of the time and a scan feels like it adds anxiety, whereas I'm thinking about it constantly anyway!

@grapecat I had a private scan at 9 weeks as had the same thoughts as you about it being a great sign at that stage. I didn’t have one before that though. I think I would only have one scan before the 12 weeks one as does get expensive. I had 2 early losses before this pregnancy. Im now 15+4 and having another private scan at 17+1 to find out the sex but I’m mostly wanting it to check things are still ok in there as I don’t feel at all pregnant now (I did in the first trimester) and don’t have a bump really or anything to suggest I’m pregnant. I’m sure it’s all fine but when you’ve had previous losses pregnancy is an extremely anxious experience

@Charliexo that's really good advice 🥰

@calipoppy gp finally rang back and said they can't even prescribe it! I said well I got told yesterday by epu to ring you and ask for it! So they rang epu and got back to me, after my 6week scan epu will discuss progesterone so hopefully all is well up to the scan! I was off with had basically said it wasn't fair that they played god and decided who gets it and who doesn't, shouldn't have to endure 3 losses to automatically get it. The heartache and stress endured isn't fair, I said I've now got to wait 2 weeks scared every time I go to the toilet in case I lose our baby! It's disgusting how they do it. Fingers crossed I will be prescribed it in 2 weeks, the anxiety is awful...I wake in the night and struggle to get back to sleep thinking about it all and then I start googling because I can't sleep which isn't helpful for anxiety! It's cruel 😢

@grapecat If it makes you feel better definitely have one! I don’t really see the harm in it, if I’d of had my first scan at 7 weeks I would probably of had another before 12 xxx

@Sb86 I'm so sorry, that's so frustrating and very similar to my experience! I really hope you manage to make it to the 6 week scan. If I end up with another loss this time I'm going to try and get progesterone from post ovulation I think, either via nhs or private if I have to. It's mad that there's evidence of it helping and yet it's so hard to access.

@grapecat welcome! And Congratulations!
Personally, I would try and hold out and wait for the 12 week scan, and put the money towards the baby fund instead, unless I had bleeding.
Private scans are expensive and it will probably give you reassurance for a week before wanting another one.
Of course it's personal choice and if you think it will give your reassurance until your 12 weeks then go for it.
All the best X

@Sb86 following your story, it feels like you're trying to get blood from a stone. I can imagine how frustrated you feel. You'd think they would be watching you closely and giving you anything that would prevent history repeating itself.
I've lost track at where everyone is in their pregnancy, how far are you from your 6 weeks scan?x

@Sb86 I got told the same thing after my 2 early miscarriages and only got some with this pregnancy when I had some bleeding at 13 and a half weeks! If you’ve had miscarriages (even if only one) they are meant to give you progesterone if you have a bleed though as per the guidelines. It’s on the Tommy’s website and the consultant said the same thing to me after my bleeding. I’m not sure if it has to be after 6 weeks to follow that guideline though.

@allgoodthings84 I quoted the 'Nice' info on the Tommy's website. I'm telling you now if it were a man going through it physically I mean they would be different guidelines I'm sure!

@Sb86 that sucks! The consultant who saw me said they are supposed to follow it. I didn’t even ask for it at that point as thought it would be too late at that stage but she said to take it from that point until 16 weeks so only 2.5 weeks as a precaution. She didn’t even think I needed it (neither did I to be honest as think if it was a progesterone issue I would have lost baby before the placenta took over not after) but she said it’s guidelines and they will do whatever they can to stop it from being a third loss for me

@Sb86 bany is fine as far as I’m aware. I’m now 15+4 weeks. They checked the heartbeat on a scan and my cervix while I was there and all was good so it was unexplained bleeding and stopped the next day.

@allgoodthings84 yes it's strange and very scary isn't it how there can be a bleed for no apparent reason. Glad baby is doing well, I hope we can all get to that point and beyond 🙏🏼 🥰

@Sb86 I hope everyone here gets through this and has their rainbow babies. It’s a terrifying time after losses but will be worth it in the end 💕

@Charliexo I'll be 6 weeks 2 weeks from tomorrow, they did say at epu that if the spotting gets worse to ring them up and they will get me in. Obviously hoping it doesn't but this 2 weeks is going to a long stretch.

@calipoppy it's not going to end in a loss...positive vibes ok 👌🏼

@grapecat congratulations 🎊 I think if you can afford to have another scan then why not but I would be tempted to hold out for the 12 week scan.

@allgoodthings84 here here 🙏🏼🌈💕

Hi ladies, I just wanted to check in. I’m struggling to follow the thread as it’s moving so quickly but just wanted you all to know I’m reading all your updates and keeping everything crossed. Those of you waiting for repeat scans will be in my thoughts and really hoping we all have positive outcomes. 5+4 over here and have managed to get past where I got to last time. Have a 7 week scan booked on 20th March where I’ll be 7+2. Feel like it’s going to drag so much but feeling hopeful🤞❤️

@TTCX2 Less than 2 weeks to go, hopefully it doesn’t drag too much for you! 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@TTCX it really does move fast doesn't it! Glad you are doing well and so happy you've made it past that dreaded milestone 🥰 try and keep yourself occupied the best you can and your scan will be here before you know it xx

@TTCX2 I'm so happy you've reached that milestone that you were hoping for 🥰 yes, the wait is going to feel like forever but I hope it comes round quick for you and you get reach another milestone 🥰 glad you're doing well xx

How are you ladies doing? I’m trying not to spiral as I did a weeks indicator today which was 2-3. It was 2-3 exactly this time last week. I’ll be 6 weeks tomorrow. Trying to remind myself these aren’t an amazing fact science and lots of factors could be at play.. but I was really expecting to see 3+. Thankfully it hasn’t gone back to 1-2 which is what happened last time.. so that’s something at least! 🫣

That’s meant to say these aren’t an exact science haha *